Thomas Xavier GRASSO

1940 - 2022

Thomas Xavier GRASSO obituary, 1940-2022, Buffalo, NY

Thomas Xavier GRASSO

1940 - 2022

Thomas GRASSO Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jun. 12, 2022.
GRASSO - Thomas Xavier
February 9, 1940 - June 6, 2022
Beloved and devoted husband of Carola (Smith-Grasso), Thomas X. Grasso, 82, of Pittsford, NY, peacefully entered into rest at home. Thomas was the honored father of Thomas Jr. (Kim) Grasso and Julianne (Michael) Robinson; and stepfather to Alexa and Bianka Smith. Cherished grandfather of Alyssa, Thomas III, and Anthony Grasso, Lindsey Robinson, Desiré Giddens (Smith), and Aliyah Narvaez. From a family of six children, Thomas was the dear brother of Joanna (Swiercz) and Lawrence Grasso; and brother-in-law to Marion (Horst) Wagner. Thomas was predeceased by his treasured brothers, Michael (June), Anthony (Rosemarie), Robert (Carol); brothers-in-law William Swiercz and William Clar; his father, Anthony; and mother, Mary (Pacillo). Coming from a large Italian family, Thomas was an uncle to many nieces and nephews and had numerous cousins.
Thomas was born and raised in Lackawanna and achieved his BS, Geology and Geography, from SUNY Buffalo and his MS , Paleontology and Stratigraphy, from Cornell University. Although his first professional career post-graduation involved utilizing his education and skills with the oil industry in New Orleans, this was not his true calling. While in New Orleans, Thomas was offered and enthusiastically accepted a professorial position at Monroe Community College (MCC). There he initiated the development of their Geosciences Department in 1969 and remained with MCC until his 1999 retirement. During his tenure at MCC, he published many papers on New York State geology, paleontology, and his passion, New York State Canals. Thomas joined the Canal Society of New York State in 1966, served as President from 1979 through 2016, and was granted the title of President Emeritus shortly thereafter. He was instrumental in bringing the Port Byron Old Erie Canal Heritage Park to fruition and to honor his devotion and effort toward the history and continued revitalization of the New York State canals, Monroe County dedicated a new park lodge in the Greece Canal Park, the Thomas X. Grasso Erie Canal Lodge. Thomas' love of canal systems did not end in New York State as he was a member of the Inland Waterways International (IWI) where he was President from 2002-2010. In this capacity, Thomas led 6 international tours in Europe and authored guidebooks to accompany each.
Thomas and Carola enjoyed travel throughout Europe and admired the beauty, culture, food, and wine of European cities. An avid lover of good food and wine, Thomas served impeccable meals with Carola in their Pittsford home for their friends and family. Thomas had many friends through his professional career, canal activities, the C.I.A.O. Italian Heritage Club, and those he forged in his youth. Thomas will be deeply missed, but the memories created with his loved ones will endure. A Celebration of Life will be held in Thomas' honor at a later date. In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be considered for the Canal Society of New York State, 7308 Jamesville Rd., Manlius, NY 13104 or the Wilmot Cancer Center, (585) 276-4717.

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September 24, 2022

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September 24, 2022

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September 6, 2022

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Alicia L. Mongillo

September 24, 2022

Tom was the professor for my first college class at MCC, I was 27 years old, a single mother and unsure if college was the right place for me. Tom was my friend, not just my professor. At the time my son was 3 years old, a friend of mine was taking care of him while I was in Tom's class. It was a few days before mother's day and my friend brought my son to Tom's class and my son had flowers for me. My son ran into the classroom (disrupting Tom's lecture) and yelled happy mother's day. My face turned red but my son was so happy. He was wearing a tweed suit jacket with elbow patches. After the hellos my son walked up to Tom and said hi Mr. Gwrasso. Tom picked him up and explained that he needed to finish class. They both had the elbow patches and tweed jackets on. Tom proceeded to finish the lecture with my son on his hip. Tom had a way of making all people feel important and respected. He changed the trajectory of my life. Fortunately a few years ago we had lunch and I was able to tell him. I eventually went on to get a Master Degree at Nazareth. Both of my sons also have college degrees. Tom has impacted more people positively than anyone knows. I will miss him and just found out today that he passed. Rest in peace dear friend, thank you for your compassion, insight, intelligence, kindness, and improving the quality of my life, my children's lives and all the people I work with, I will miss you always. Love and prayers to Tom's family, he spoke of you often and loved you all deeply.

Vincent Lynch

September 6, 2022

I had intended to become a high school history teacher...until I took Tom Grasso's historical geology course at MCC. He inspired me to become an earth science teacher. A beloved professor to so many of us. I remember him with great appreciation. A life well lived.

David Simmons

June 30, 2022

It has been 33 years, but I still recall Prof. Grasso as one of my favorite college professors of all time. I was always eager to attend his Geology class and he made it fun. I went from MCC to the University of Dayton and have since moved away from Rochester, but I'll always have good memories of him.

Tom and Paula Blanchard

June 15, 2022

We are so sad to lose Tom ... not only as a dear friend but as a champion of all things related to canals in general and the Erie Canal in particular. Our warmest condolences to Carola and all Tom's family members. We'll look forward to attending the celebration of life when it is scheduled.
Tom and Paula
xoxoxo

Timothy Madigan

June 12, 2022

Very saddened to learn of the death of my fellow canal enthusiast Tom. I will lift a glass of Stella in his honor.

Tim Madigan

Diane Young

June 12, 2022

Do not stand at my grave and weep..I am not there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glints on snow, I am the gentle Autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning hush, I am the swift uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand and my grave and cry, I am not there, I did not die!
Peace and Angel wings as you glide through the Heavens Mr. Grasso.
My sympathies to your family for they will miss you!

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