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Ruth Rainer Obituary

Ruth Janice Rainer, 97, of West Chester, Pennsylvania passed away on December 14, 2022 after a short illness. Beloved by family and friends around the world, Ruth left a lasting impact and will be deeply missed. Born to George and Florence Holland in Upper Lehigh, Pennsylvania on October 28, 1925, Ruth attended a one-room schoolhouse through eighth grade and then went on to high school before earning her nursing degree from the University of Pennsylvania, where she met her first husband, Francis J. Rainer. They married in 1947 and had six children. After their divorce in 1972, Ruth obtained degrees from the University of Delaware and the University of Hartford before beginning her career as a clinical psychologist, working as a front-line care provider and private therapist, often with vulnerable communities, which she continued well into her 90s. Ruth married Dietmar Schmidtke in 1989. They were married until his death in 1994. Ruth had many passions, including travel, gardening, religion, swimming, taking classes, reading and writing, among others, all of which she actively pursued throughout her life. She traveled to many different parts of the world, spending time in a number of countries, including Italy, Japan and India, touching many lives with her curiosity and love of learning, and building lasting friendships, particularly in Venice, which was her home away from home. One major highlight was a trip around the world on the Queen Elizabeth II and the Queen Mary to celebrate her 80th birthday. Ruth instilled her love of international travel in her family, taking her children and grandchildren on memorable trips and sharing travelogs that opened up her world experiences to loved ones. She was also a trusted confidante to many, always ready to discuss life's big questions in a compassionate way, leaning on her faith and life experience to offer her views while keeping an open mind. Ruth was preceded in death by her oldest son, Brad. She is survived by her sister, Midge Dittbrenner, her remaining five children, Dick, Diane, Janice, Nancy and Doug, their spouses, ten grandchildren and eight great-grandchildren. There will be a visitation with the family on Tuesday, January 3, in the chapel at St. Mary of Providence Center (227 Isabella Road, Elverson, PA 19520) beginning at 9:30am, followed by a memorial service at 11am. After the service, family and friends will gather for a reception. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations to be made in her name to St. Mark's Episcopal Church (1040 Chestnut Tree Rd, Honey Brook, PA 19344), where she was an active and beloved member.

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Published by Main Line Media News from Dec. 20, 2022 to Jan. 22, 2023.

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Bodo Schmidtke

July 13, 2024

I just happened to be thinking of Ruth and came across the news of her passing. I will always remember Ruth as a kind and gentle soul. I've known Ruth since I was a child and I only wish we had stayed in touch over the years. I too loved Venice, Italy and have been there many times. I lived and worked in Italy for 2 years and was only an hour away from Venice. I don't even know if Ruth knew that. In any case, the last time I saw Ruth, was in 1994. It was a somber occasion as it was the passing of her Husband and my brother, Dietmar Schmidtke. Ruth will always be my Sister in law and a very gentle soul. God Bless you and may you Rest in peace "Sis". Love, Bodo "Bo" Schmidtke

Linda (Kraft) Walk

January 3, 2023

Ruth's friendship was a treasure. We met at the Univ of Delaware where our close knit group of friends stayed together through college and beyond. A Christmas ornament that she gave me back then still hangs on my tree. We roomed together during a college January term abroad and explored Geneva Switzerland, Zermatt, Munich, Salzburg, and Paris together. I often met up with her while I visited relatives in PA and I last saw her for lunch on July 20, 2022 near her West Chester apartment. I know her family will miss her, and I will, too.

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Deborah Grant Diehl

January 2, 2023

Diane, Janice, Dick, Nancy and Douglas,
I know it has been a long time but you are all in my thoughts today. I had the pleasure of running into Ruth about a dozen times in the last 10 years and it amazes me how vibrant and alive she was! It´s funny, Mary and I were remembering her today and agreed, she really set the bar for living life to it´s fullest. No small feat! What a beautiful legacy! Sending our love and wonderful Aunt Ruth memories,
Big Hugs,
Deb and Mary Grant

Jonathan Coleman

December 29, 2022

I had the great good fortune of meeting Ruth over Zoom on more than one occasion. She was a student in the class Jerry Lakoff offered through Immaculata, a class that provoked you to think about this complicated country of ours in all different ways. Ruth would sit and listen intently to what everyone else was saying and then, when she was ready, and only when she was ready, she would offer the deepest and best insights among all of us. I thought of her as the class "cleanup hitter," the only one who merited a long, no-cut contract. I let her know how I felt about her contributions--in more than one email. Had we had been closer in age, I am sure I would have courted her. Speaking of which, I will require three different pieces of proof--of hard evidence--to convince me she was 97. What a beacon of light, what a radiant figure. May her memory be a blessing to all those who loved and cared about her, of whom there must be far too many to count. So long, Ruth. I will miss you so. And please forgive me for not coming down to Philadelphia to have lunch with you and Jerry. The fault is entirely mine, and the loss of that opportunity.

Jerry Lakoff

December 29, 2022

Ruth Rainer set the bar for judicious commentary. Attending several of my classes, she always held the long view of things and encouraged critical thinking. She also lent a psychological aspect to matters both political and ethical.
There is a vast mutual admiration society, here and in Venice, who are shedding tears for their lovely "mentor."
Thank you, dear Ruth.

Kerstin Norton

December 27, 2022

I loved Ruth´s zest for life and how she lived it to the fullest every day. Although I hadn´t seen her in some time, that´s how I will remember her. What an amazing woman! With love and deepest sympathies to the entire family.

Warmest Regards,
Kerstin Norton

Jim "Sport" Foster

December 24, 2022

Ruth is a treasured memory. She was part of our close-knit group of friends at the U of D and, despite an age difference, fit in perfectly with all of us. She was a beautiful spirit.

David Townsend

December 23, 2022

I have wonderful memories of Ruth, who I first met at the University of Delaware and continued as a dear friend, along with my late wife, Lynn, for many years. She was inspiring and a truly special lady.

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