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i thought this could be one of his jazz album photos
December 3, 2013
December 3, 2013
I miss you AJ! I think about you each and every day as I continue to make progress as officer in AS Public Safety Commission, helping students have access to productive knowledge of dangers here in IV. You are gone, but certainly not forgotten. You have been a true inspiration for me, and I could never thank you enough :)
Jeannette Torchon
July 31, 2013
It's been 8 months since our beloved Alec (AJ) was lost to us forever. I'm not even sure anyone will even see this message I'm writing. I just felt compelled to acknowledge all the beautiful, heartfelt words written by those who knew Alec, but especially those that didn't and wrote giving us support and prayers. We don't feel courageous but we thank you for all your kind words. I wanted to share my experience regarding the information I requested to be in his obituary. When telling the person on the phone what I wanted to say regarding his cause of death, the person taking the information, tried to discourage me adding those details. She said things like that were "usually" done by writing a "letter to the editor". I asked her if she was telling me I couldn't do it? She said I could if I really wanted to. I did! We felt it was important and it was hard enough writing my son's obituary, I certainly wasn't sure I'd have the emotional fortitude at that time to then write to the editor. It's important for people to know how a healthy, happy, beautiful young man lost his life. We understand a lot of people want to keep these things private. But we felt, and still feel compelled, to do whatever we can so that no other families have to endure this kind of agony and loss. I want to encourage people to support families that are just trying to get, and keep, the word out there. This can happen, and does, all too often. Again, as Alec's mom, I want to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for all of your kind words and heartfelt support.
Ron Cuff
December 14, 2012
No one can conceive of the pain you must be enduring. Your courage exhibited by being transparent about the cause of your son's death can save thousands of young people from possible addiction or death. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Charlene Morgan
December 13, 2012
Dear Ric & Family I just learned of your loss - I am so sorry - please know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Donna Meyer
December 13, 2012
I didn't know AJ, but my heart breaks for his loss and all of his friends and family loss, such a sad loss of a young man
Jackson looking up adoringly to his older brother
December 12, 2012
in his room playing guitar (quiter then when he was playing drums!)
December 12, 2012
Wally Hofmann
December 12, 2012
My son came very close to dying from a similar situation at CalPoly SLO several years ago. I'm so sorry you lost AJ, my heart aches for your loss of a beautiful young man.
I hope your story and passion for shedding a light on the senselessness of underage drinking. I hope your passion and the effects will not fade.
In addition to a donation to the Foundation, please let me know how I can support your cause with my time.
Janet Rowse
December 12, 2012
My heart breaks for your loss, and I am grateful for your honesty in sharing the cause of your son's death. The lives that may be saved by your courage ensure that he did not die in vain.
With sincere condolences,
Janet Rowse
SafeLaunch.org
The Savelli Family
December 12, 2012
Mr. and Mrs. Torchon,
There are no words to express the my truly heart-felt sympathy for the loss of you precious boy. Your strength and compassion for others is remarkable' at a time that you could be rightfully only thinking about yourselves and Jason, you have chosen to think of what you can do for others and I am in awe. I have 3 teens, one soon to go to college and I will hold every word of what you have said and written in my heart for years to come. I hope your work gives you a tiny bit of peace and i hope with some time that your pain can become sweet memories of Alec. Take good care of yourselves and each other as you journey forward.
Dorothy
December 11, 2012
I am so sorry for your loss and appreciate your honesty and helpfulness to others during this terrible time. I have passed his obituary on to my teen age grandchildren. Again, my heart is with you.
December 8, 2012
There are no words to express how sorry I feel for your family.
I lost my brother in a similar way, but he was older and should have been wiser! I know how I feel about losing him, I cannot imagine your pain! How unbelievably special you all must be to think of others during this nightmare. You are amazing, and although I am so sad for you, AJ 's memory will be kept alive in many other families because of your unselfishness and honesty!
I thank you with all my heart!, I will pray your pain will lessen knowing others are also sending prayers. I hope all of our thoughts and prayers give you some strength during this time.
Try and always remember, he was a great son and obviously had GREAT parents! Take care of each other and take as much time as YOU need. You will go on, but you will never get "over" it!
You have your own angel, always remember he is with you!!!!
A Marin Family
December 8, 2012
Our sincere sympathies on your loss. Our total appreciation for the beautiful obituary you wrote and certainly hope that it will have the desired effect on any and all young people. Thank you.
December 8, 2012
My daughter is a Freshman at MSA. Thank you for sharing your story. My daughter and I talked about what happened. AJ has touched our hearts even though we didn't know him. His story could save a life. Our hearts go out to you all. MSA Family
December 7, 2012
We are so sorry for your loss of your son. We are heartbroken and sadden for your loss. Your famuly are in our thoughts and prayers. Jeff, Diane, Megan and Lindsey Martino. Megan is a friend of Jackson.
Mike Rusoo
December 7, 2012
Ric and Jeannette,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss. As a family we send our condolences. The girls are especially saddened having babysat for all those years. Tara was remembering the first time she met him, he came right up to her, held out his hand and said "Hi, I'm A.J." I think she loved him right from that first moment. We all did. He was a great kid and we are so sorry that he was taken at such a young age. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Mike and family.
A Novato family
December 6, 2012
i never met your AJ,or have met your family,but we do have a son who went to school with him.It is with a heavy heart i write this,i send you strength in what is the most devatasting nightmare a parent can endure. I so appreciate your courage.I just wanted you to know there are people out there that you dont know who have your family in there thoughts.
Cara
December 6, 2012
Alec was such a special child and young man. You are wonderful parents who are doing a beautiful job of honoring his life while spreading awareness of the tragic consequences of unfortunately common risky behaviors. Alec's story is touching everyone and he is living on in all of us who knew and loved him.
December 6, 2012
With sadness, I have forwarded AJ's obituary to my 17 and 22 year old children to read because I want them to stop and think before it happens to someone else. Thank you and I am so sorry for your loss.
gail
December 6, 2012
to aj's family ~ as i read about aj and the circumstances of his passing, i was overcome with sadness ... i did not know aj but have children and can only imagine how immense the grief must be ... i appreciate your willingness to share details of his passing so others might be saved from a similar situation ... my heart grieves with yours
December 6, 2012
I did not know your precious AJ, but have children of my own. I admire your honesty in sharing his story in your pain so that others might live and learn from it.
May your memories of him keep him alive in your hearts forever.
Laura K
December 6, 2012
Ric, I used to commute to the city with you and I remember you talking so fondly about AJ as well as your other son. I am deeply saddened to hear about this devastating loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
December 6, 2012
I am so sorry about the loss of your handsome son. I cut out his obituary and will show it to my children and their friends. Thank you for sharing his story so that others may learn from his experience.
Jack, Jennifer and Clint
December 6, 2012
Our deepest sympathies are with you and your family. We too are so saddened by AJ's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
The Family of AJ's classmate Jack Thompson
Mark W
December 6, 2012
I'm so sorry. I have boys with beautiful smiles like that who've done foolish things. Thank you for sharing - this touches me deeply.
December 6, 2012
Please, accept our condolences on the loss of your son. Also, please, accept our appreciation for the beautiful and revealing obituary. I hope it will be of influence to other young people. Thank you.
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