Name: Celebration of Life for Peter Alexander Helldoerfer
Start: 2019-06-07T23:00:00.000Z
End: 2019-06-08T02:30:00.000Z
Location: Valley Memorial Park, Cemetery, Funeral Home, Crematory & Reception Center

Peter Alexander Helldoerfer (Alex) Passed away peacefully at Marin General Hospital on Saturday June 1st. Alex was hit by a drunk driver on Thursday evening on Diablo Blvd in Novato. Alex was an amazing young man - talented and creative in music and writing, passionate about politics, humanity and the inequities in the world. He loved poetry, film and was a defender of people from all walks of life. And a great lover of dogs. He was an original thinker and a free spirit. Alex lived in Novato his entire life with the exception of the years he spent in San Francisco at the University of San Francisco. Alex is survived by his mother Kathleen Freitag and father Peter Helldoerfer, both of Novato, and his many aunts, uncles and cousins from his large extended family. A celebration of Alex's life will be held on Friday, June 7th from 4:00 p.m. - 7:30 p.m. at Valley Memorial Park Cemetery and Funeral Home, 650 Bugeia Lane, Novato, CA. Donations in Alex's memory may be made to Homeward Bound in Novato.

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Published by Marin Independent Journal on Jun. 5, 2019.

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Pam Bing

May 30, 2025

Dear Kathleen, I think of you and your family every time I drive by the site in Novato. I say a little prayer to continue to heal your heart and to feel peace and comfort. We have since moved to Rohnert Park but I still think of you. This void will never be filled in a mother's heart but I hope with time you are healing and can feel happiness in your life. Take care. Pam Bing

Kathleen Freitag

June 21, 2019

To my beautiful son Alex,
I miss you & love you every day and always.
Mom

Charles and Cristina Rivasplata

June 13, 2019

Dear Peter and Kathleen,

Please receive our heartfelt condolences at the loss of Alex.

We only had the chance to visit with Alex four or five times over the past three years, but we always noted a very special presence that he had--he was always very aware of his surroundings and appeared to have a very wide variety of interests in life. His wit, style and luminous spirit will forever remain with us.

Warm regards.

Judy Ross

June 9, 2019

Dearest Kathleen and Peter,

My heartfelt prayers to you in the most profound grief a parent must carry. It was an honor to minister to Alex during those precious elementary school years in Faith Formation at St. Anthony. I remember his cute smile and endearing, sometimes teasing, twinkle in his eye. May that same faith and prayer support be always with you.

With much affection,
Judy Ross

Victoria Harvey

June 8, 2019

Kathleen and family, we are very saddened to hear of the passing of Alex. We have fond memories of him in grade school. He was sensitive, gentle, and creative. You are in our thoughts. Take care.
The Carter/Harvey family

Lia

June 7, 2019

I went to SRJC with Alex. We would sometimes hang out after school and the weekends. He was a cool and fun person to be around. I was shocked and saddened to hear of his passing. My heart goes out to his family.

Stuart & Janet Lirette

June 7, 2019

Kathleen and Peter, Janet and I were so saddened to read about your loss. Your family is in our prayers.

Robert Harvey

June 6, 2019

Kathleen
I'm so sad and so sorry to hear of the loss of your son. My heartfelt sympathies to you and your family. You are in my thoughts.

June 6, 2019

So terribly sorry for your loss. I know you have the strength, praying you find solace in knowing his kind spirit continues.

Love;
The Degans

Eternal Affection Arrangement- BASKET INCLUDED

a loved one

Sent Flowers

Marcie Burley

June 6, 2019

I only know Alex from The Book Place where he was a regular buyer of VHS tapes. It's hard to believe we won't be seeing his great smile at our door again. Just a sweet, sweet man and we will all miss him.

Kathleen Freitag

June 6, 2019

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Bill and Dale Faust

June 6, 2019

So sorry for your loss. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family at this time. May Alex rest in peace.

Pam Bing

June 6, 2019

Kathleen and Peter, I haven't see Alex since high school, however, i
remember his bright smile, quiet and polite presence and thoughtful spirit. I am hoping all the love and heartfelt messages and kindnesses begin to heal your heart and that peace replaces a bit of your sadness. I am praying for you and your family. Just know how many people care for you all.

Risa Meyer

June 6, 2019

I'm so sorry for your loss Kathleen. Hopefully your beautiful, loving memories of your son will soon be able to bring you some peace.
May your memories be a blessing.

Lisa Pennning

June 5, 2019

What a beautiful smile, a bright light gone too soon. Kathleen may you and your family be comforted by the warm memories of your beautiful boy.

Alyse Cori

June 5, 2019

I remember Alex from elementary school years and hearing about him as a young adult while in college. He was always polite and very respectful. My heart goes out to you and your family

June 5, 2019

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. I know there are no words of comfort I can offer to you. I hope you have some solace in the knowing that Alex lives on in the people he helped. May you find peace and joy in the many memories you have of your beautiful son.

Cindy Hall

Jeannine Schiebold

June 5, 2019

May the love of your family and friends bring you comfort in the days ahead. My deepest sympathies to you and your family. Love, Jeannine Schiebold

Allison Mayer

June 5, 2019

I did not know you well, but you are blood. When I met you at Grandma ,I did not know you well, but you are blood. When I met you at Grandma

Michael Driskill

Sent Flowers

June 5, 2019

an angel too soon . . .

love and hugs to the Helldoerfer & Freitag families

Elena Keating

June 5, 2019

Kathleen and Peter,
My heart aches for you. I'm so deeply sorry you are facing this unfathomable, tragic loss. Your community is sending so much love and support. I hope you can feel it. You're in my prayers.

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