Alex May Obituary
With broken hearts, we share the unexpected passing of Alex May on February 12th, 2026 at the age of 54. Alex was the rock of our family - a devoted husband, loving father, and the heart of our home. He was our safe place - the one who made everything feel steady and secure. He was the center of our world - the heart of everything that mattered most to us.
He was the one who held our family together. Everything he did, he did for his girls.
He leaves behind his beloved wife of 24 years, Deanna (Drummond) May. Children - Madeline and Madison, and his faithful dog, Mason. He also leaves behind mother, Susan Nelson; brother Ryan May, sister-in-law Bonnie May, and children Evan and Lauren; mother-in-law Rosemary Drummond; sisters-in-law Teresa, Laura, Monica, Valerie, Dawn, and Julia; brothers-in-law John and Dan; nieces and nephews Samantha, Nicholas, Jacob, Cailin, Emma, Jack, Luke, Samuel, Olivia, Avery, Noah, and Eli; and many loving aunts, uncles, and cousins.
Preceded in death by father Laurence May, stepfather Donn Nelson and father-in-law John W. Drummond
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