Nov
20
Nov
20
1:00 p.m.
Middle Tennessee State Veterans Cemetery
7931 McCrory Ln, Nashville, TN 37221
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Bernard (Bernie) Paul Palmer died at home on Saturday, November 8, with his family by his side. He was born in rural western Pennsylvania, the second son of Bernard Palmer and Christine Williams Palmer. At the age of 17 he joined the United States Army seeking a way to help his family and a better life for himself.
While in the Army Bernie finished high school, served honorably in the enlisted ranks, graduated from Embry Riddle, and OCS, and served honorably as an officer. He completed a tour in Europe, two combat tours in Vietnam as a helicopter pilot, and a 4-year tour in South Korea. He was sent to Nashville in 1981 as a recruiter where he met the love of his life, Cynthia. He retired as Major Bernard Paul Palmer after 23 years in the military. He and Cynthia established their home here in Nashville.
He later pursued a second career in corrections. He worked in both the public and private sectors, always insisting on recognizing humanity in all people. He worked on improving prison conditions and helped settle several riots within the country.
But it was his life as a husband and father that brought him the most joy. He was devoted to his wife Cynthia. He cherished his two older children Paul (Niki) Palmer and Shannon (Don) Bost that he brought with him into his marriage with Cynthia and treasured his two younger children Lily Palmer and Nick (Ellie) Palmer that he had with Cynthia. He also loved his grandchildren Travis (Madison) Lahr, Emil Palmer, Lindsey Palmer, and Birdie Palmer, so very much. He was in awe of his great grandchildren Kaison Lahr and Addie Kate Lahr. He is survived by them all.
He was happiest being Boy Scout leader, riding instructor, golf coach, soft ball coach, baseball coach, basketball coach, school volunteer, gymnastic parent, children’s Sunday school teacher, and just chillin’ with his kids. As they became adults he really loved and appreciated the continued chillin’!!
The family is profoundly grateful for the care provided by Vanderbilt hospital doctors and staff. We also thank the staff at West Meade Place, the Vanderbilt Home Health providers, and Alive Hospice for their support as he fought his final battle.
Service and burial will be at the Middle Tennessee State Veterans Cemetery, 7931 McCrory Lane, Nashville, Tn. on Thursday, November 20, at 1:00p.m. A wake will follow at the Alley Pub, 7040 Hwy 70 S. Nashville, Tn., from 2:00 until 4:00.
Memorial gifts may be made to Hillwood Presbyterian Church, 6220 Hickory Valley Drive, 37205, where Bernie worshipped and found peace, comfort, friendship, and meaning.
9090 Highway 100, Nashville, TN 37221
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20
Nov
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1:00 p.m.
Middle Tennessee State Veterans Cemetery
7931 McCrory Ln, Nashville, TN 37221
Send FlowersServices provided by
Harpeth Hills Memory Gardens, Funeral Home & Cremation Center - NashvilleOnly 4 days left for delivery to next service.