Frederick A. Wheeler Jr.

Frederick A. Wheeler Jr. obituary, New Castle, DE

Frederick A. Wheeler Jr.

Frederick Wheeler Obituary

Obituary published on Legacy.com by Spicer-Mullikin Funeral Homes & Crematory - New Castle on Jan. 31, 2026.
Frederick A. Wheeler Jr.

Frederick A. Wheeler Jr., age 86, of New Castle, DE, passed away peacefully on Friday, January 23, 2026. Born in Wilmington, he was the son of the late Frederick A. Wheeler Sr. and Mary Novak Wheeler. Fred was a graduate of William Penn High School and was employed as an instrument technician with Occidental Petroleum in Delaware City (formerly Diamond Shamrock Chemical Company).

In addition to his parents, Fred was predeceased by his beloved wife of 33 years, Barbara A. Wheeler, in 2006; a son, Jeffrey McKee, in 1989; and his sister, Frances Johnson.

Fred leaves to honor his memory his brother, Tom Wheeler and wife Cheryl; his children, Kenneth McKee and wife Theresa, Sharon Conomon and husband Michael, Kathy Barge and husband Bill, and Scott Wheeler and wife Leanne; 10 grandchildren, Thomas McDonough, Amanda McKee, Gheorghe Conomon, Jennifer McKee Donahue, Bryen Foraker, Christopher Foraker, Julianna Conomon Blair, Jordan McBride, Olivia Wheeler, and Alexa Wheeler; and 10 great-grandchildren, Natalie McDonough, Bryen Foraker, Braden Foraker, Lincoln McDonough, Bailey Foraker, Alexander William Donahue, Elizabeth Faye Donahue, Savannah McDonough, Harmony Conomon, and James Blair. He is also survived by many nieces, nephews, and close friends who will miss him dearly.

Fred proudly served in the United States Army during the Korean War. He enjoyed traveling with his wife, Barbara, and remained active in his community as a member of the Weston Senior Center, where he especially loved playing pool and spending time with friends. During the summer months, Fred could often be found on his porch smoking cigars, watching the world go by, and tending to his vegetable garden. He had a deep love for his late dog, Boopers, and was known as a wonderful neighbor and a loyal friend. Fred also enjoyed politics and, as he liked to say, "solving the world's problems."

A visitation for family and friends will be held from 10:00 a.m. until 11:00 a.m. on Friday, February 6, 2026, at Spicer-Mullikin Funeral Home, 1000 North DuPont Parkway, New Castle, DE, where a funeral service will begin at 11:00 a.m. A committal service will be held at 1:00 p.m. on Friday, February 20, 2026, in the chapel of Delaware Veterans Memorial Cemetery, 2465 Chesapeake City Road, Bear, DE.

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