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Michael Schexnayder Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers from Nov. 9 to Nov. 8, 2008.

How do you describe Michael, or more commonly referred to as "Schex" ?? I would describe my oldest son as an avid tarheel fan, a beach lover, a heluva good bartendar, a UNC Chapel Hill Kenan-Flagler Business School alumni, a Charleston School of Law student, a fantastic son, a great brother, a wonderful friend. The list could go on indefinitely. We each had a special relationship with Michael that will be cherished forever. Take a moment and share yours . . .

Born: Apr 22, 1984

Died: Nov 09, 2008 in Charleston, South Carolina

About: University of North Carolina Chapel Hill - Kenan-Flagler Business School Alumni ('06) Charleston School of Law - Second Year Student Eagle Scout - BSA St. John Neumann Catholic School, Lilburn, Georgia ('98) Bishop McGuinness Catholic High School ('02) Annual participant of the Coopers Bridge Run; Peachtree RoadRace (at least once) Connemara & Westridge Valley neighborhoods Older brother to John Paul & Adam Schexnayder

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A Mass of Christian Burial was held on Wednesday evening, November 12 at 7:00pm at St. Gabriel Catholic Church, 3016 Providence Road, Charlotte, North Carolina. A gathering of friends and family followed immediately after the service in the Fellowship Hall. Graveside burial took place on Thursday, November 13, at 11am at Forest Lawn East Cemetery in Weddington/Matthews.

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Michael Streich

January 29, 2025

Michael, you were one of my favorite students. I still recall your coming with us to Boston Harvard Model as a student chaperon. Your class projects were fun and interesting like when, in a video, you dressed up like a Zulu warrior. I was so happy to know of your success at UNC. You were one of the "three Musketeers." You had a special gift of writing sarcastically like the essay you wrote about going to hear Madeline Albright in Greensboro.
And I still recall you on the tennis team. I was coerced into helping Ms Eads and you kept me busy as we practices. I was so winded afterwards! But it was all fun. That last Economics class was the best, when I assigned Atlas Shrugged and everyone groaned. Will miss you
I'm getting older everey door and knocking on heaven's door so I expect to see you soon! Love you, Michael
Mike Streich

Meg Schexnayder

March 20, 2014

Whenever 'March Madness' rolls around I always think of you and smile . . . forever in my heart, momma meg

Meg Schexnayder

November 10, 2008

My firstborn, my sunshine . . . my tears can't seem to stop. I love you and forever will reach to you in the heavens for comfort and support, Mom

John Schexnayder

September 26, 2022

Hey bro! I just watched an inspirational tiktok from a mausoleum worker. He speaks in kind words of how after you pass the world moves on and people stop thinking about you. His message was live for yourself and not for other people. I wanted to share that I still think about you on a nearly daily basis. I still love you from the bottom of my heart. AND I still feel your love with me as I journey through life with my now Wife, love of my life, Rebecca. I now look forward to all of new adventures that we get to share with you. Love you enternally!

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John Schexnayder

April 22, 2021

Happy Birthday bro! A few updates. I just got engaged to an amazing woman named Rebecca Kirby who you would love too. I really wish you could have met her and be with us as the best man at our wedding. Missing you a lot bro! Crazy world we live in now a days. Would love to hear your takes. You'll always be with me in spirit bro! Love you eternal!

John Schexnayder

November 9, 2020

Thinking of you today. Missing you today. Thinking and missing you all the time. Crazy crazy year. Really wish you were still here so we could get through it together. Still in my heart like always! Love you eternally bro!

John Schexnayder

April 21, 2020

Happy early birthday bro! Miss you so much all the time. Crazy world we are living in now with Covid 19. Wish you were here to battle it with us! Miss you more then I knew possible.

Matt Corbin

November 2, 2019

Bro, I still think about you every day and especially this time of year. I can't believe it has been 11 years since our last walk down the battery talking about life, future plans, and mostly dumb stuff that young guys talk about. You wouldn't believe some of the stuff that has happened over the last eleven years, I guess I'm going to have to wait a while to tell you about it all....Hopefully I remember by then. Just remember that even though people have stopped posting, we all miss you.

John Schexnayder

April 22, 2016

Happy Birthday Bro! Miss you and love you eternally.
-JP

JP Schexnayder

May 31, 2015

So much has happened since I have wrote to you last. I finally graduated and I moved to Denver Colorado. It was amazing until I broke around your anniversary last year and your birthday this year. My scab of you being a secret FBI agent watching over us in the distance was ripped off and the grief wound underneath was severely infected. I am so sorry I almost followed in your steps like usual. But not this time.
I have sought help multiple times so that I wouldn't because I fully understand how that action can effect others. I have felt like I failed you when I lost hope. But maybe it is you that help me reach for that phone.
The pain of your loss and what happened destroys me now that I know how it feels to be that low and hopeless. I am so sorry I didn't see it. I would have done anything for you bro but your brain told you there was nothing anyone could do to help you. It is a lie but I get it and it breaks my heart that you felt it too.
I miss you so much it hurts is the under statement of my life.
I am trying my best to hold onto that hope and move forward. I am trying so hard but it is the hardest thing I will ever have to do. I just want to see you, talk to you.
You were in my dream last night again. This time you were captured in south Africa and somehow Russia was involved. Crazy dream but my mind was in so much pain again it created a false reality where you could still be here again. But I woke up and it hurt.
I don't believe in God, you know this. But I don't know everything and do not know what happens when we die. If you can bro please help me. We had a special relationship and understood each other more then anyone else. Help me keep moving my feet forward. I believe!
Now I am rambling. I can't change the past. I unwillingly accept that you are no longer here. And I will survive this. Miss you eternally!
-JP

Claire DelFavero

January 4, 2015

Just wanted to tell you we still think about you - no ones forgotten you down here.

John Paul Schexnayder

March 20, 2014

I miss your face. I miss your smile. I miss my big brother that always had my back. It is strange I am currently three years older then you when you passed away yet I still see you as my wiser big brother. I still reach for a my phone a lot to try to call you about something. I just don't reach quite as far anymore. It is so strange how your passing can seem like forever ago and yesterday at the same time.

So I recently learned I might not be able to intake wheat anymore. Celiac disease they are thinking, I'm gluten sensitive. How about that. I am sure you would have had a couple good jokes to lighten the mood once I told you. Probably something about me never being able to handle my beer anyways. haha good one bro. It's really not a big deal though. But for some reason I wanted to tell you. I don't know why. Maybe I just wanted to hear you tell me it was going to be alright. I know it will be, I just wanted to give you an update I guess.

Miss you eternally bro. Words will never be able to express that enough.

Mathew Corbin

April 23, 2013

I still think about you buddy, miss you dearly happy birthday. (day late sorry)

John Schexnayder

January 17, 2013

You created hole in my heart so big it still hurts when the wind blows through it. The hole is getting smaller but it will always be there. Miss you eternally bro!

John Schexnayder

July 5, 2012

I was listening to one of your old cd's today.

"If we could build a ladder that tall, to come up and see you, we would, because we're down here, and we miss you!"

I would give away everything to be able to build that ladder bro! Not a day goes by where i don't miss you!!!!!!!!!!

Landon Allen

November 8, 2011

I still think about you all the time. I miss you buddy.

Paul Schexnayder

August 23, 2011

I will always remember you. You are my first child. My first son. You are always in my heart.

Love,
Dad

John Paul Schexnayder

June 8, 2011

"And when I'm gone, just carry on, don't mourn
Rejoice every time you hear the sound of my voice
Just know that I'm looking down on you smiling
And I didn't feel a thing, So baby don't feel my pain
Just smile back"
- Eminem

I'm doing my best to smile back everyday bro!

Bob, Carmine, Diane and Gina Santoianni

March 28, 2011

We recently heard of Michael's passing. Words can't describe the shock and sadness for your loss. Even though it was long ago, we think back to the boy scout days from time to time and appreciate the positive influence the Schexnayder family had on our lives.

November 10, 2010

Mike was a fun loving guy, who put other's interests before his own. I am so sorry for the loss. I can only imagine how you feel. Yet, be remembered that "there will be a resurrection" in a beautiful paradise here on Earth (Acts 24: 15; Psalm 37: 10, 11). May this hope comfort you during this difficult moment in your life.

Thuy Pham

November 8, 2010

Schex,
I just wanted to tell you that I still miss you dearly and think of you always. We celebrated Lori's bachelorette party this past weekend, and you would have been so proud of her for doing it big! Miss you so much--love ya dude.

Claire

November 6, 2010

"Don't judge". People make fun of me for saying that all of the time, but I got it from you. Thanks for teaching me how to be a better person and helping me through so much this year. Miss you

Landon Allen

September 28, 2010

Schex,

I just wanted to let you know that Lori and I are getting married in January. I know that you will be smiling down on us from above. I miss you and I think about you all the time. Love you man

Thuy Pham

September 27, 2010

Hey dude,

thanks for letting Steph and I come hang out and talk to you for a little yesterday. We miss you and love you always.

Corbin

August 28, 2010

Still miss you jackass

Grant

December 25, 2009

Merry Christmas man. The Pistol and I went to see the heels play in the new Cowboys stadium in Dallas. You would have loved it. Miss you.

Lori McArthur

November 8, 2009

We miss you. We had your lovely Pritchard street girls, your boys, and some of your other favorites over at our apartment last night. We toasted to you... and of course it was with a jager bomb.

Landon Allen

September 18, 2009

Hey man,
The UNC vs. ECU football game is tomorrow. I am getting pumped. There should be a lot of people there. You would be proud of the way our defense is playing. I think this years team should be pretty good. I also thought that you might like to know that I am an assistant coach for the Farmville Central football team. You always told me that I should do that, and well, here I am. It's a lot of fun. I wish that you were here to see it. I know that you are watching down from above though. I miss you buddy.

LA

Sharon Frapwell

April 22, 2009

Happy Birthday Michael!
The Frapwell girls think of you and your family often. This year's celebration of the day you were born must be very different but it makes us to happy to think that you are enjoying the best cake and ice cream ever!!! Your memory always brings a smile to our faces.

Love you and miss you -
The Frapwell girls

Andy Harley

April 22, 2009

Happy Birthday Bro! I know your celebrating Schex style up in Heaven. I am sure you loved that sweet Carolina victory earlier in the month. When I saw the game it reminded me of 2005 when all of us were out on Franklin Street when Carolina beat Illinois. I miss you alot and think about you all the time. You and your family are constantly in my prayers.

-Andy

Deborah Kosciolek

April 22, 2009

Happy Birthday Michael!
Miss you much! You and your family are a constant reminder of what was wonderful in Connemara!
Your charm and warm smile are dearly missed! But we're comforted knowing your award winning smile is looking down upon us. Always, in our hearts and prayers.

The Kosciolek Family

Grant Steadman

April 8, 2009

Hey man,
Watched the game at Topo with Pete and Landon. Of course we decided it would be a good idea to camp outside starting at 5am to get a spot. You would have loved it. It was a perfect night but it still wasn't the same without you. I know you're happy the heels pulled it through. Miss you man.

Jen

April 5, 2009

Hey buddy! Carolina made it back to the national championship! I know you would be so excited. We had the whole crew down in Charleston this weekend for the bridge run and the game. JP stepped up and brought the Jaeger, just like a little Schex should ;) Without your vote, I actually convinced the group to hang out in Mt. Pleasant one night. It was a blast and you would have loved it, but there def was something missing. I miss you so much; everyday. I think I have a memory with you everyone in Charleston...good and bad thing. Anyway, I just wanted to tell you how much we missed you this weekend and how much I miss you everyday.

Landon Allen

April 1, 2009

Schex,
How bout them Heels! We are in the Final Four again man. The team has been playing really well. I hope we can win it all this year. By the way, your boy Ty Lawson is playing rediculously well. I know you will be pulling hard for the Heels up in heaven. It just hasn't been the same without you buddy. I really miss you.

Steve Wrege, Jr. CSC

February 13, 2009

Schex,

Man, life's been in the way for me for a long time now. I'm sorry that I let it get in between me and my friends. Especially those from Bishop that I've lost touch with. I hate to say it, but in the past six years or so, you and David are the only people that I've had the pleasure of speaking with. Unfortunately, as well, today was the day that I heard, two and a half months late. I didn't want to believe it until I saw it with my own eyes. I spoke with you merely a few months before, and now... I'm gonna miss you, buddy. Just like I miss everyone from back in those days. The facts are that I chose this life for myself, and I gotta push on. I'll never forget, and I'm sorry. I'll always have those memories, though, and those I'll keep with me until I see you again.

-Chef

December 30, 2008

So I'm FINALLY in St. Kitts Schex! When I told you I got into vet school, I asked you if you would visit. You said "I already bought the ticket babe!" So, now I'm here, the island is beautiful (you would love it), and I can't wait to start classes! I know you'll help me every step of the way. I've asked everyone to visit and think they really will...including JP and Patrick! I've been thinking about you alot lately and just wanted to let you know how things are going. Oh, and one more thing...I found a running buddy so hopefully I'll soon be on my way to training for that 1/2 marathon I've so desperately been wanting to do! I miss you and love you and when times get hard in vet school, I'll look to you for support! Miss you!

Krystal Hooper

December 24, 2008

Merry Christmas Schmichael!!

Krystal Hooper

December 15, 2008

Hey Michael,

I missed you so much at my birthday party this weekend! I had a good time, went to eat tacos and then to Highland Tap with the crew. You've been there. I would have loved for you to join us again...this year sans crying. You remember how much fun you had last year going to the Moxie party, waiting for the cab forever, and then coming to my party? You and Kelli brought the party when you showed up. And then, thanks to one too many shots on my part, you spent 20 minutes outside consoling me and reassuring me that I did in fact, have plenty of friends. And you took care of organizing everyone and made it out to Hole in the Wall with me. Thank you so much for that, you have no idea how much it meant. And you will always be my favorite person to go to Hole in the Wall with - right from the very first time we went Senior year and sweated our butts off dancing! I miss you.

Alex

December 14, 2008

Wow, there are so many things we didn't get to talk about, it has been a long time since we talked, I guess. I think the last time I randomly ran into you was at least 3 years ago. So, here are some confessions. Don't worry, nothing inapropriate!

You, Michael Schexnayder, were the first guy I ever liked. And it goes without saying that I felt so cool freshman year when the hottest, kindest, friendliest, coolest guy in the junior class asked me out. There is no way I will ever forget it (Chad did facilitate a bit). There are SO many things I thought we would be able to talk about when we were older. So many things I was too embarrassed to say at 14, even at 19, even still now! I was sure I would randomly run into you in Greensboro again and I could say, remember when we went to that school dance! Haha, I guess we'll have some secrets forever. You took to me to one of my first high school parties; You really taught me a lot, and introduced me to a lot during your short life. Even though its been a long, long time since we've seen each other I know you are happy, because you gave me (and everyone that crossed your path) so much happiness in life. I will never ever, ever forget you.

Emily Clapp

December 11, 2008

Schex,
I remember about a year and half ago when you told me that you signed up for the Kiawah 1/2 marathon taking place in December 2007. I was excited for you, shocked, and impressed all at the same time. You were going to start training and in the end be able to run the full 13 miles...something that I have never done.

This year, when I called you and told you, I was going to run in my own 1/2 marathon, you immediately said to me, "Clapp, that's awesome! I wish I could run 13 miles!" I responded, "Schex, didn't you sign up for a 1/2 marathon about a year ago?" You said, "That's right, I did sign up for one of those, didn't I??!!" In your excitement and support for me, you had forgotten about your determination to do same just a year before.

I wanted to let you know that Joe and I are running a 1/2 marathon this weekend in your honor. I have been training for months, but it was not until your death that I decided this marathon had to be run. We had T-shirts made with your name and picture on the front and your senior quote on the back...and of course they are Carolina blue!

I know you will be with us on Saturday cheering from the sidelines with all of our friends, pushing us along as our legs want to give out, and be the first to give us great big hugs as we finally cross the finish line.

I miss you Schex and I'll always remember, "Keep peddling, we're not there yet!"

Thuy Pham

December 10, 2008

Schex,
how about the awesome Panther win on Monday Night against Tampa Bay dude...probably one of the best Monday night football games ever--our running game has definitely stepped it up since the Foster/Davis era. Daniel and I were 6 rows back from the 30 yard line--you would have been so proud--definitely rocked the jerseys too dude. Now the Panthers are number one in the NFC South with three games left, (one at home against Denver, and then one at the meadowlands against the Giants, and then one at New Orleans). There was a fan poll on ESPN that asked who was the best 10-win team in the NFC...and the Panthers had the most votes with 29% over the Giants who had 25%. Can you believe that...over the Giants, reigning Super Bowl champs? I know you were stoked about that. Tough remaining schedule, but I think they can do it! I know you're cheering hard for them! We miss you Schex, love ya dude.

Grant Steadman

December 5, 2008

A lot of these pictures are bringing back good memories and are making me laugh. I can´t really think of any particular memory that stands out as the best, because we lived it up man. I think Jen said it best when she said that she credits you for all of the best times over the past few years. You had a way of making everyone around you have a good time whether we were just laying around the apartment, hanging out at the beach, nearly drowning in Bluffton, or wandering around Vegas or Los Angeles. There have been so many things over the last few weeks that I wish I could tell you. Barney published the bro code-really, I bought it. The Carolina football team laid an egg, but I guess that wasn´t altogether unexpected. But I know you knew the basketball team would take care of business. I was thinking about how we named all of our fish (even the lobster and starfish) after Carolina basketball players. You made sure jawad was the coolest and lived the longest. Pretty typical. Thanks for being one of the best friends anyone could ask for. I don´t know what else to say except I miss you everyday man.

Sean McGrath

November 30, 2008

Schex,

Hearing this unfortunate news, I'm so glad we reconnected in fall '05 after I lost touch with several from BMHS. I will never forget the good times we had when I visited UNC and really appreciated your warm welcome & introduction to all of your friends. You made me feel a part of the group the minute I arrived. You are greatly missed & my condolences to you and your family.

Sean McGrath
Austin, TX

Neil Williams

November 28, 2008

Hey Schex,

I remember football, Harvard Model Congress, hanging out in The Pit during basketball games and Senior year english class. I know in the time we got to know each other there were much more memories (too many to list here) but just recalling the few mentioned above, I can't help but smile. You were always inviting, funny, welcoming and a pleasure to be around. You walked the halls with a certain style of warmth, humility and bravado that was always refreshing.

You and your family will continue to be in my prayers.

McGee

November 26, 2008

Well Schex, its another Thanksgiving and I'm home. I missed your call on my birthday and I cant and wont accept that I will never hear you wishing me another happy birthday again followed up with a when we going to catch a movie or a drink baby girl. I'm finally back in town and you're not here. I feel a little, a lot, lost. I miss you and i can't stop hearing that stupid song that I always use to call you out for back in the day. Its killin me. Its not the same being back home without you down the road to go to get away from my house. See you when I see you my Schex.

Tom Flaherty

November 26, 2008

It only took the first couple days I met Mike to tell how warm-hearted and genuine he was. I remember laughing everytime I was around him and miss how he could make everyone smile. I feel honored to call him my friend and so grateful for the time I got to spend with him. I miss you buddy God bless.

Alyse

November 25, 2008

Mike. You always had a piece of my heart. Keep it...as I will forever keep yours and remember and cherish the great times we had.

Joni McClusky

November 18, 2008

I know Thanksgiving will be hard for all of Michael's family, as will all the holidays. In all the hard times in my life, as I was praying, I would simply say, "Jesus be with me." I'd say that phrase over and over. I will pray for you all, and simply say , "Jesus be with them."

Justin Tapp

November 17, 2008

Schex, you were one of the first friends I made in law school. We had some great times together, goin out, playing tennis, chillin on the beach, and that time I tried to teach you how to surf. You almost had it man. You're one of the best guys I've ever known. Charleston's just not the same without you. I really miss you buddy.

Roger Bell

November 16, 2008

Meg & Paul,
Words can't express the sorrow Debi and I feel for you and your family. Please know that you are in our prayers.

Lauren Evans

November 14, 2008

Michael, my family, my friend,

I never thoguht this is how I would be communicating with you-writing to you final words. You have left me with 24 years of wonderful memories. I will always cherish the time we spent together in Charleston- staying up all night at your bar, me not having to pay for drinks there because I was "Shex's cousin", and when you took me out for my 23rd birthday because you said I shouldn't be without family that day. Although we lived in seperate states our whole lives, miles never seemed to seperate us. I always felt a special connection to you and will forever remember holiday's, bar hopping, the Olympics and Charleston together.

I do not think I will ever fully understand this, but understand that you are the picture of everything beautiful and wonderful in this world. I will always love and miss you.

Patrick Scully

November 14, 2008

Michael, my cousin my friend, I am sitting on the couch that you originally helped me move in, and next to me is the statue of the man holding his head which you have one, and we bought them together. there are alot of things in my life that will keep you alive in my heart. the last few days, with meeting more of your awesome friends and hearing the stories, has helped me remember all the great stories in my life that we shared. your dad is my godfather, and my mom your godmother, not to metion your mom, my aunt meg and second mom always with a toothbrush for me, and we have always been closer than cousins and friends. All your friends are awesome, and i have really enjoyed making them my friends and hearing their stories about you. I always knew that you would be the third man after my brothers and next to your brother for my groomsmen one day. we went to the olympics together in 96, and fate would have it, i bought you shot glasses in italy 10 years ago for your collection which we took shots out of last summer, i would travel to greensboro all through highschool and stop by for dinner, play video games with you guys, and visit before heading back home, and i would move to greensboro for school, lucky you right, someone to buy you your alcohol till you turned 21, so many handles of bacardi limone captain morgans and jagermeister, and helped cover your ass when you went a little far at some of your house parties. i will never forget the party you threw that was busted by the cops, you werent even home when the cops came, and freaking out when your dad yelled at you about the home being secure with the front door being broken, smart one andy right. you sure knew how to have a good time, all the poker games, and you cant forget our mini keg of red oak on the beach in charleston before my cousins wedding last summer, made me man up, and ruined me before the free alcohol at the wedding. it is still hard to believe you are gone, and wont be calling to stop by and drink a beer, catch up, and chat about our family. i love you man, i know that grandpa and grandma are taking care of you, and the family has a new guardian angel to watch over us all, go carolina! go braves! go john paul! go adam! go paul! go meg! so much love, it is hard to bare! i know i will see you again in heaven one day buddy, save me a spot

Matt Corbin

November 14, 2008

Went to see quantum of solace last night. We had been planning to see that for about 5 months now, i wish you were there. It wasn't bad, kind of a bare bones Bond. I know that i would have told you it was ok and you would have said "I don't know man, i really liked it". I miss you, i can't stop crying. I know you would tell me to stop being a bitch and have a good time. I am gonna try my best. I wanted to thank you for introducing me to so many fun people, we had a great time at the bar and actually the bartenders weren't bad but still, not as good as us.I am never gonna forget you buddy, and i want to wish you good luck in your journey. Some day we will meet again and talk about the good times. I love you buddy.

Mary Salami

November 13, 2008

I have been sitting here crying my eyes out trying to figure out what's this all about. My son Josef was a good friend; listening to the song and looking at all the pics with my son included in them is more than I can comprehend. I cannot even imagine what the family is going through. My visit to St. Benedict's Church in Greensboro on Sunday was offered for Michael. God bless the Schexnayder family.

Matthew Cohen

November 14, 2008

Hey buddy,

I think you would have been proud of your send off Wednesday night, 70 of your friends (most of whome hadn't seen each other in far too long) all coming together to toast your memory.

I'd like to personaly thank you for never making me drink that god awful sweet tea vodka before.

The one thing I couldn't ignore was the fact that you never would have missed such a gathering of our friends. You always brought us together, in life and in death... There will be no replacing you ever, we miss you buddy.

Adriane Fredette

November 13, 2008

Schex,
I'm soo thankful to have been there to witness the whole Club emerge. I remember checking you into 421 your first day in Granville. I was the one telling you to keep it down at 4am in room 421 as your RA. Getting to know you and your friends was a great part of my life. The Club has lost a member, but the memories will live forever. You'll be missed.

Chris Dreher

November 13, 2008

Schex,
It seems like the other day me and John Paul were beatin up on you in front of the Schrack's house. Of course we always ended up on top. I will never forget the endless games of kick the can and "touch" football. Oh how Connemara treatin us well. You were an amazing big brother and an excellent man. We will all miss you. Your family is in all of our prayers.

Thuy Pham

November 13, 2008

Sexy Schexy,

It has taken me a couple of times to actually be able to sit down and write to you. I've gotten on here plenty of times, but then I'd cry uncontrollably and I wouldn't be able to finish. I think I just didn't want to believe that I'm not going to see you at the next UNC football game or at New Year's. Memorial Day Weekends will not be the same without you. Like so many loved ones have expressed, life will not be the same without you. I did not get to experience your profound love for Jawad Williams like others did, but you'd be proud to know that he made the Cleveland Cavs' roster this year. I've known you since sophomore year of college and it wasn't until these past two years that I got to hang out with you more. I will always remember you as such a loving person with such a big and captivating personality. There wasn't a phone conversation or a text message that we had where you didn't ask how Daniel was doing or you asked me to tell him hello. You were always thoughtful of others and knew how to make each person that you spoke to feel so special. I will truly miss taking pictures with and of you Schex. As much as you loved the camera, it loved you back times two. You would always ask to see my camera after a night out and we'd hear "damn, that's a balla pic of me babygirl...that's gonna be my next facebook profile pic." Schex, it was truly my honor to be able to share and capture so many great moments with you. You will be forever missed. We love you.

To the Schexnayders,

I cannot find words to express how sorry I am for your loss. Michael touched us in so many ways and everyone that knew Schex, regardless of how long they knew him, knew he was such an awesome young man. I got the privilege of getting to know John Paul a little more over the last two days, and it is so delightful to see so much of Schex in John Paul. May you be comforted to know that a little bit of Schex will live through us all. May the Lord wrap his arms around you and your family and give you strength and comfort during this time.

Vicki Mackler

November 13, 2008

Schex,
I never had the pleasure of meeting you; you were a friend of my daughter, Amanda, who knew you when she lived in Charleston. She loved you alot and has been distraught since the news. You had so many people that loved you; my heart, tears and sympathy go to you and your loving family. It will take them a very long time to live without you. We all wish you had reached out; all of your friends would have been there for you. You will be forever missed.

Deacon Gary & Sharron Womack

November 13, 2008

Meg and Paul --- our deepest sympathies and condolences to all your family. Sharron and I could not imagine the pain you must be going through at this time.

May our ever-loving God have mercy on his soul and the souls of all His faithful departed and may His Holy Spirit descend upon your family at this time.

Richard G. Joyce

November 13, 2008

schex,
we had some great times and our memories will live on forever. you will be missed bro!

Judi La Rue

November 12, 2008

I don't know the right words to say to tell you how sorry I am to hear about your precious Michael. I remember when he & Lauren were just toddlers rolling in the leaves at Gram's house in Monroe. Please know that you are all in my heart and in my prayers.

Love,
Judi

Jennifer Tryon

November 12, 2008

Schex,

It's so sad that we only recognize how much someone has touched our life after they are gone, but the last couple days I have done just that. In a lot of ways you helped put me on the path to where I am now. When I thought I wouldn't get into Kenan-Flagler as a transfer you convinced me to apply, and when I got in all you had to say was, "Told you baby girl." I also inherited the Deep End bartending job from you. As you and I both know, East End is changes your life... just a little bit.

There are so many memories in my life that involve you. High school music class, Chapel Hill Halloween, Kenan-Flagler Operations Management, East End late night... the list goes on and on. Some I remember more distinctly than others, but I will hold on to them all forever. Your smile, your laugh, and most of all you hugs could change my day in a second. I'm sorry I haven't had more of those in the last few years. Thank you for everything you have been to me and to the rest of the world. Love you always Schex!

Pat Curtis

November 12, 2008

Dear Meg, Paul, John Paul, and Adam:

Our hearfelt feelings and prayers are with you these days, and all the days to come, as you learn to regroup and live with the wonderful memories of Michael. We do have such fond remembrances of Micheal, particularly in Scouts. I remember driving all the Scout carpools with Rob, Michael, and Eric Buergler, and how we would laugh and solve all the world's problems. St. John Neumann and Scouts seemed to draw our families together. Rob always looked up to Michael as he was paving the path to Eagle Scout. We know how much you miss him, and our thoughts and prayers are with you each and every day. May the Lord watch over all of you and soothe you with His gentle love.

Lovongly,
Dick, Pat, Rob, and Chris Curtis

cathy koon

November 12, 2008

Dear Meg, Paul, John Paul and Adam,
I can not express my sorrow. I loved Michael but surely nothing like your love for him. John Paul, I remember you as such a wonderful young man. I am sure it has not changed. I picture you in forth grade talking with the class and how kids did things on the play ground that they shouldn't do to one another. Paul, I see you in the Scout Uniform always being the best dad. Meg at school both as an aide and a parent. But my favorite thought is you preparing the candy box at Valentine Day with the pacifers in it to tell Paul you were carrying Adam. Of course Adam, we didn't know it was you at that time. Your family was one of the pillars of SJN.It was a real loss to the community when you left
I know you must have been very proud of Michael and all of his accomplishments. There is nothing crueler than someone's life ending early, let alone at their own hands.
I really know his pain must have overtaken his senses.
Please know you were great parents. Be there for one another. Sometimes you can not prevent things from occuring. I know Michael must have brought a lot of joy to his friends. Please know I am thinking of you, praying for you, but mostly wanting to hug you.

Megan Dean

November 12, 2008

Mike and I worked together at the Rooftop. Before he was a bartender, he would work the downstairs door, and I would stand and talk to him all night about everything from law school to life in general. He was and will now forever be one of my most favorite people that worked there. He had the most wonderful smile; he gave the best hugs, and just to be around him was a comfort. He is greatly missed by more people than he could have ever imagined. The tears that have been shed in last few days could start a river. With love to his family, you are in our thoughts and prayers.

Josh Bogard

November 12, 2008

Schex,

I don't really know what to say. We pretty much fell off as friends after I transferred high schools (for the 3rd time) from bishop to mount tabor at the beginning of senior year. I realize that this doesn't really fall to any one person's fault, but I will take the blame for this one.

We definitely had a great couple of years at bishop. Remember new year's, I think it was jr. year, at my house? And I definitely remember the parties beth is talking about at your house when you parents were out of town. Not to mention we even got to chill over halloween freshman year of college when I came up to chapel hill. And then again when I came back to chapel hill and you had just started bartending(I can't remember the place's name but I think martini bar?). And God only knows what kind of crazy times could have occurred had I moved down to Charleston.

I definitely wish we could have kept up as friends better but will always cherish the good times we shared. One last thing I will say is that I have read through most of the entries on here and everyone has one common thread...we all know how great of a person you were. You will never be replaced buddy.

Jaclyn Schexnayder

November 11, 2008

Michael, my cousin. I miss you. I have been waiting for you all week to just walk in the door late like always saying you got last again. I do not know what we will do without. No holiday will ever be the same without one of your great big bear hugs. I truely looked up to you and in the later years not only saw an older cousin but a friend.
I will never forget you coming to visit ECU my freshman year when Jen and ROb were in town. I made you guys go to an aweful freshman bar but no one complained. You all just stayed to be with me. I had so much fun haning out with you.
YOu have always been a brother, a son, a cousin, a friend, a protecter... now you will be our angel!!
Love you with all my heart!

Jon Hilliard

November 11, 2008

Dear Schex,

I'm sitting here after midnight trying to think of the most appropriate thing to say and there are so many things. I'd like to start by thanking you for something seemingly insignificant but thank you for making sure I made it to class every day after I got back into school your senior year. That was one of the first huge steps towards me graduating and I won't ever be able to thank you enough. I'd also like to thank you for being one of the only 9 Jawad Williams fans for sticking with my main man all the way through. That definitely took devotion and I know you felt vindicated in 2005. Thank you for being a die-hard Braves fan. Even though I was a Yankees fan, you weren't one of those Braves fans who liked to cheer for the Red Sox after the Braves didn't make it deep into the playoffs. I can always respect a man for that. Thank you for having a Keg-erator. That was one of the single greatest things I saw in college and I'll never forget the smile on your face and the shock on mine when you poured me a beer from the refrigerator in your living room. Thank you for always having a smile and a laugh. Thanks for being a part of my life. I'll never forget you and I can't wait to see you in heaven. I know you'll be on a futon watching Friends and I'll pay you that money I owe you for betting on playoff baseball. Your family can take solace in the fact that you positively affected so many people. God bless you and thank you again for being a good man and a great friend.

Hilliard

Blair Killinger

November 11, 2008

Schex,

I haven't kept up much since college but I remember you being one of the first guys I met at UNC and immediately you were welcoming into your group of friends. You were so fun, friendly and had such a great sense of humor and added so much to UNC and touched so many people. You will be missed by many. My prayers are with you and your family and God bless you.

Love, Blair

Chrissy Blaisdell

November 11, 2008

I can honestly say that it was truly a joy to have known Schex. He was always fun, friendly and welcoming, and never hesitated to offer an undeniably warm greeting. I am a firm believer in the words of Billy Joel, "only the good die young," and Schex is no exception. Everyone should hope to have even a fraction of the impact that Schex did on others.
The Braves, Hawks, and UNC sports won´t be quite the same without him. Who will I tease about Snellville and take-out boxes, share spider rolls with when Peter has given up fried food for lent, and dissect every episode of Lost with? Our tireless efforts to convert Peter into a fan were completely lost, slight pun intended.
I will never forget the phenom that was Michael Schexnayder. He will be missed fiercely. God bless and I´ll look forward to cheers-ing him again one day with that big Jaeger bomb in the sky. My thoughts, prayers, and sincerest condolences are with the Schexnayder family as they endure this utterly difficult loss.

Courtney Mikola Penley

November 11, 2008

Michael came into my life in the 4th grade in Lawrenceville, GA at good old SJN. We were friends immediately and luckily he lived one house away from my best friend at the time, Marianne. We always hung out, went trick or treating, played kick ball or anything else we could think of to pass the time. We were all heart broken when we learned that after 8th grade he would be moving to NC and would not continue our journey to St Pius X for high school in Atlanta. I thought that would be the last time I would get the honor of being friends with Michael. Two years later my parents decided to move to NC and low and behold we ran into Michael (now called Schex) while touring BMHS. I thought the school was terrible and I was going to hate NC until I saw his smiling face, he just has that ability to make any situation a better and more enjoyable one. I cannot imagine growing up without Schex and his family, you are all in my thoughts and prayers and I will never forget any of you.

Ryan O'Laughlin

November 11, 2008

Michael lived to please everyone. I know that anytime I wanted to go to Chapel Hill or Charleston I knew I would always have a place to stay. Michael embraced these friendships and worked hard to keep the ties and bonds he acquired along his life.

I remember two summers ago when Bishop Alum came to visit Schex in Charleston and Peter was sleeping on the couch and Schex thought it would be hilarious to draw him tears on his face with a Sharpie. He then would say, "Aw, he's crying." in his Luigi voice. No matter what the situation was Michael was always the center of attention and everyone just seemed to gravitate towards him. Whether it be running up and down the beach with a boom-box on his shoulder singing Ace of Base "The Sign" or singing Blink 182 at the top of his lungs at party's.

Schex has affected so many peoples lives in such a positive way and that is why he will never be forgotten. I have always looked up to him and he honestly made me a better person because I have known him.

Schexnayder family, you have all been a family away from home. You are all in my prayers and I am here for you and your family.

Robert Coon

November 11, 2008

Meg, Paul, Adam & John Paul:

Words can't express the sorry we feel for your loss. Although we only knew Michael through you, he was well loved. Paul was always bragging about how proud he was of all his boys. Our thoughts and prays are with you.

Robert, Therese, Sarah & Ben

Katie Tang

November 11, 2008

Meg, Paul, John Paul and Adam,
While I did not personally know Michael, I know his spirit lives on in all of you. From what i have read here, he was such an amazing person. Please now that I am praying for all of you and thinking of you often. We miss you here at OLG :)

Greer Benge

November 11, 2008

Michael, you were a wonderful friend to all who knew you. From the days when we first moved to Charleston and you were so welcoming to the city and to our little Peninsula enclave, through all the times we spent together watching the Tar Heels or hosting late night parties, you were always one of the most genuine, fun, and amazing people to be around. Your loss will be deeply felt by all those who knew you, but I know that when you got to where you were going, someone let you cut right to the front of the line like you always did for us. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers today and forever.

Jennifer Healy

November 11, 2008

It's hard to put into words the feelings that are so overwhelming. All I know is that Michael will always be my happy cousin. The one that came into a room with a smile, a story, and an everlasting hug. He was more than a family member, he was a true and lifelong friend. The memories we shared were so many, it's hard to pinpoint just one. I only wish I could have been there more, talked more. I will cherish his spirit and I will live my life to continue it each day in his honor. Thank you Michael for touching my heart. Because we have such a big family as cousins, we had our groups. There were the elders, the middles, and the babies. A part of our elder group is missing and it makes me feel empty. I know that all of us will take his missing piece and make it a part of us forever. I want to share my senior quote with you, Michael. "When you hug someone, let them be the first to let go." I promise to never let you go. I love you, Jennifer

Jamie Cook

November 11, 2008

I have nothing but fond memories of Michael. We went to different high schools, but got to know each other through my best friend Susan. I'm sure many others would agree that it only took one converstation with Schex and you had an instant friend. You could go a year without contact and it would simply take bumping into him on the sidewalk to spark the friendship again. Then he would proceed to talk to you like it was yesterday. He had a smile that was contageous and a wonderful personalty. He was genuine and thoughtful. Every time he would come back to town Susan and I would get a phone call, even if we hadn't spoken in months. He always wanted everyone to be included whether it was his best friend, or just a good acquaintance. Looking back I found this to be one of his most admirabe traits. I think that everyone that had the pleasure of knowing Michael should consider themselves lucky. I reget not being able to share more memories with him, but I will continue to be inspired by his loyalty and tremendous heart.

Sean Kearney

November 11, 2008

Shex,
I remember meeting you through my friends Justin and Pennink. Over the years we spent several nights hanging out in Chapel Hill, Fayetteville and most recently Charleston - seeing you at the roof top bar at my friend's bachelor party. You were always a great guy and fun to be around. You always made it a point say hello and see how things were going with me. I have read throughout the countless stories from the people closest to you and wish we could have had more of our own.

To Michael's Family,

I am sorry for your loss and hope that you know that Shex will be missed by his closest friends as well as those, like me, who only spent some time with him. You should be proud to know that so many cared for him and that he obviously touched so many.

You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
-Sean

Tom Luburic

November 11, 2008

I'll never forget when you started working at the Roof Top. You never complained, worked hard, and always showed that smile. I remember that smile when you found out we shared the same birthday. I miss you Mike.

LeAnna Stapleton

November 11, 2008

Schex and I started working at the Rooftop just a few weeks apart. I remember whenever a new schedule would come out, I would check mine against his, hoping we'd be working together. I always knew those nights would be the best. Every time I'd walk into the bar, he'd wrap me up in the best hug and flash that beautiful smile of his. He was definitely a friend you could always count on, and I have nothing but amazing memories of him.

I'll miss you so much, and I am thinking about you always.

Theresa Corsig

November 11, 2008

Michael,
I always enjoyed the stories that Peter would share with me when you were involved. My heart is breaking that these stories will only be of the past now. You were always so grateful when I delivered your supply of "runts" to you at UNC. Peter told me that you always had a drawer full of candy. However, you did not need candy to be the sweet young man that you were.
Michael, thanks for being such a great friend to Peter and to everyone who knew you. Please send them the strength to live on without you. Love, Theresa Corsig

Theresa Corsig

November 11, 2008

Patrick Murphy

November 11, 2008

Schex was one of those guys that you liked instantly the moment you met him. I will always remember the great times we had working togther at the rooftop and hilarious laughs we shared. He was by far one of the smartest and funniest guys I knew, not to mention he was simply outstanding in everyway you could ask a friend to be.

When he came to visit me in Savannah, I remember watching him get out of the car and thinking, "Nice. Schex is in the house." But what I was really feeling was honored. With the amount of friends he had, he could have been anywhere having a good time, but he cared enough to come down for a night and hang out anyway, because that was the kind of guy he was. And, of course, it was a great time.

I just respected and liked Mike so much, all of us did, and I feel so incredibly priviledged to have been his co-worker and to call myself his friend. I will always miss him and remember him for the laughs he brought into my life. If we were to measure our friendships with Mike by how much we all cared for him, than his would truly be a life time in the making. God bless you Mike, I'll always miss you.

Matt Scully

November 11, 2008

Michael is my cousin. I say he is my cousin because he still is. I don't know how this world works or why. Sometimes it really sucks for no good reason and then sometimes things like this happen that are completely wrong in every way.
You are all wonderful friends and I have enjoyed reading your memories, although I have been crying the entire time.
Michael was a wonderful man. He loved to have a good time. Every time I saw him he would smile and give me a hug. I have always admired him. I always thought that he and April were the two cousins who really had thier shit together. He was handsome, fit, funny, and comepletely likeable in every way. I have all kinds of memories. Trips to Kure Beach, Schexnayder Christmas, Easter Egg hunts. I am very glad that my brother Patrick moved to Greensboro because sometimes I was lucky enough to see Michael and John over at Pat's appartment. My mom is Michael's godmother and I can remember knowing that when I was little and thinking that sorta made us brothers. We have a tight family, not always peaceful or quiet, but always filled with love. Our family gatherings will always have an empty spot.
Michael I can't believe you are gone. I am going to miss you. I am sorry I didn't make more of an effort to spend time with you.
To Michael's friends and to our family, take care of each other. With God all things are possible and good can come from the greatest of evils, even from death. I pray that we will all be drawn closer together as we celebrate Michael's life. God's love is bigger and wider and deeper than we can hope to imagine and I know that God has welcome Michael home.
Peace my Cousin, until we meet again.
Matt
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Lauren Southern

November 11, 2008

Schex, you were Greer and I's first friend in charleston. We were two new college grads moving to a new city where we knew no one, but our carolina connection led us to you. I remember the day we called you to get advice on where to live in charleston and you offered to give us a tour of your place, little did you know we would end up being your neighbors. And a wonderful thing that turned out to be. Whenever you, greer, grant, and I all got together it was always a great time. From prebar dance parties, to intense carolina basketball games, beach trips, to late night swims, the 4 of us lived it up in our lil peninsula neighborhood. You had a smile that would light up a room and a laugh that filled it. Im gonna miss those giant bear hugs and hearing "hey baby girl". The world is missing a wonderful friend, tarheel fan, and all around great guy. Thanks for the memories, please know how much you are loved and missed. Love, Lauren

Lori McArthur

November 11, 2008

I remember first meeting Michael and Landon´s other suitemate and hallmates. I had such a hard time remembering all of their interesting names - Schex, Swaggs, Pennink, Barbs. I thought, why can´t they all just be "John." Schex´s lighthearted friendly demeanor won me over immediately, so I think I learned his name first, although sometimes it came out as "Chex." Schex had this genuine charm; his classic, "What´s up, babygirl" combined with that sly grin and one of his big, protective hugs always made me feel like I had a big brother. Oh, and I´m sure you all would agree that he had the best laugh out of all of us- it was so contagious that even if I had no idea what he was laughing about I would find myself cracking up too. Schex and I bonded through our love of Jawad Williams-we avidly defended him against the haters during basketball season. Then there were the fun random cosmic runs, and visits to Charleston. I always chuckled when I visited 421 to find Schex asleep on that old futon- he worked hard and played hard... and when he wasn´t doing either of those, he slept hard.

To the Schexnayder family- thank you for giving us the privilege of knowing your son. Whether we knew him for a few months or many years, in passing or as closest friends, Schex impacted us all, and we are grateful to him and you for sharing his life with us. You are in my prayers always. I love you Schex.

Claire Davis

November 11, 2008

I guess I have known Michael for about 8 years, indirectly at first. He was one of those really cool seniors when we were freshmen at Bishop and I only knew him as JP's older brother. As highschool went on I got to know Michael better through JP and we always thought we were so cool for being able to hang out with him and his friends.
As we got older and I came to UNC I loved running into Michael on campus, at games or at the gym. I always got his infamous greeting "whats up baby girl". Michael had a way of making everyone feel special, like he was always glad to see you, even if I was just his little brother's friend.
The past two years we stopped to see Michael in Charleston during our spring break and he more than graciously let us stay with him. He showed us downtown and of course made sure everyone was having an amazing time. Michael was like everyone's older brother and he treated us like family.
I saw Michael at a football game this year. He has season tickets, but he was sitting in the student section probably cheering louder than the majority of the students. I don't know how to articulate how great of a person Michael was, but I do know he will be greatly missed by so many people. My thoughts and prayers are continuously with your family.

Shirley Kinlaw

November 11, 2008

Meg, Paul, John Paul and Adam,

Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this tragic time in your lives. Though Michael was never a member of our school community, we know that he must have been similar to his brothers in intelligence and personality. Our hearts are heavy here at Our Lady of Grace School, and we just wanted to let you know that we will be thinking of you often in the weeks and months ahead. We know that your Michael will live on in each of you as a reflection of all of the good and beautiful things he contributed to our world. May God bless each of you and keep you close in the palm of His hand.
Shirley Kinlaw

Spencer Letchworth

November 11, 2008

When I think of Schex, one story comes to mind. I had met him a few times but I remember one of the first times we ever "hung out". I was going up to the 'Hill to meet up with one of his roommates (Landon). We were suppose to go to a football game, well something came up and LA couldn't go. So LA gives me Schex's # and not only does Schex give me directions to where they were, he (and Barbs) also made it feel like we have been friends from way back.

Rob & Betsy Frazer

November 11, 2008

Grief is meant by God to be shared--not shunned. Paul commands Christian disciples to share one another's pain the best they can, because all are brothers and sisters in Christ and all are one body.

"...Weep with those who weep." --Romans 12:15
"So if one of the members suffers, all the members suffer with it..." --I Cor. 12:26

Through our son Bob and his fiancee, April, and Tom and Ginger - we will share your grief, shed tears of sorry, and be one of the body parts of healing for your family through Christ.

Jayne Byrne

November 11, 2008

Your family was so welcoming to us when we moved to Greensboro, and I will never forget that. Meg, you have been kind and helpful to me so many times. While I know that there is nothing that I can say to ease your pain, please know that my heart aches for your family. We miss you.

Genna Gaddy

November 11, 2008

I first met Michael two years ago when he came to visit Atlanta and stayed with my friends at Woodmere. When I introduced myself, he said, "Hey baby girl, I´m Michael," and gave me a huge hug. That´s the Michael you´re all talking about. The happy, sweet, lovable teddy bear who brought the party with him wherever he went. I had so much fun staying with him in Charleston, laughing with him on the couch at Mason Mill, and fist pumping with him when the Braves won. These stories and messages are such a testament to how many lives he touched and how we´ll all miss him so much. I only knew Michael for a short time, and I haven´t been able to stop thinking about him. I´m praying that you´ll all heal and find peace in the coming months and years. I know Michael already has that peace and is looking down on all of us - and I can´t imagine a better guardian angel.

Colin Barbaro

November 11, 2008

I distinctly remember the first time I ever heard about you man. Justin had been off at college and he began talking of a new good friend by the name of Schex...I thought with a name like that there must be something to this kid. I didn't even know the half of it man. Your interesting nickname didn't nearly do justice to your infectious personality. The first time I met you I was a junior in high school and I had come up to college on Halloween to visit my big brother and his "college friends." I was excited and nervous, but all the same you adopted me as if I had been your friend forever. You made me feel comfortable, and part of the group. You were always, always, always dedicated to having a good time. After that weekend I went back to home thinking I have to go to Carolina and have an experience like my brother is having. I was lucky enough to go to UNC and then you became not just my brother's friend, but a friend of my own. You showed me the ropes of Carolina...let me tag along every weekend to party with the boys at the bars, and never had a complaint. Hell, you even let me bring your ID to Vegas when I was 18, and God knows I looked nothing like you...haha...you didn't think twice. I genuinely don't ever remember you complaining man. And like Mike referenced, you also were apart of the best vacation of my life. That trip for spring break remains as the best week of vacation I have ever had, and I am sure that won't change. Without you that never would have been the same.
I guess I want to finish this entry with some gratitude. Thank you so much man. Thank you for giving your everything to your friends. Thank you for all the great times, thank you for all the laughter, and most of all thank you for all the love. I am a better person for having known you, and hopefully I will become a better friend as well. You're the man....I love you buddy.

Beth Tara

November 11, 2008

Dear Schex,

Last night I drove from Chicago to Detroit for work. It takes 4.5 hours and I didn't want to be alone with my thoughts about you and this tragedy, so I talked on the phone to Claire... Emily.... my dad.... this took about 4 hours. All we talked about was you, but I didn't cry- I thought I was strong. Then, with a half hour to get to my hotel (I thought I was home free!), Green Day's "Time of your life" came on the radio- it's like someone knew. I instantly began to sob .... the kind of crying where you can't breathe and you have to double inhale to get any air. So I pulled over on the side of the highway and cried for a long time. Until I felt like I got it all out... then I realized a state trooper had pulled over behind me to "see what the problem was"! He was so uncomfortable as I spilled my guts to this poor stranger and he kind of backed away real slow from me, the crying mess. After he left, I started laughing because I knew you would laugh at this story.

I also wanted you to know that last Friday, I was in D.C. and I was telling my friend about Firefly (sweet tea vodka) and how awesome it is and how my bartender friend introduced me to this nectar... then I turned around and there were BOTTLES of Firefly staring me in the face. I called you to tell you it made it's way up to the Yankees, how I can't wait for it to be in Chicago....

My older memories are from high school when we would party at your parents house when they were out of town (sorry Mr. and Mrs. S) and you would block off the "off-limits" rooms with dining room chairs... and we would have to park WAY far from the house so the neighbors wouldn't be suspicious.

Then there was Charleston this past summer... when you had great people mixed into a great place with good drinks, of course it's was a great time. I remember when we were all on the beach and you grabbed your boombox, threw it on your shoulder, and proceeded to dance/ sing/ and hit on random girls. We all laughed so hard... THAT is how I will remember you. Not for this tragedy... but as a fun-loving, smart, handsome man dancing on the beach with the ocean as his backdrop without a care in this world.

I hope you've found peace my friend... I hope you're looking down on us all and you are happy. I'm sorry I can't make it to your memorial on Wednesday: please know I'll be mourning in my own way. I'll remember you for the good times... because that's what you would have wanted. I miss you.

Love, Beth

Paul Schexnayder

November 11, 2008

My son. I will miss you and never forget you. The happiest day of my life was the day you were born. You made my happiness complete. I am always proud of you and honored to have been your father. My heart will always have hole for the loss of you. I will treasure you in my heart forever. God please take care of Michael and Mary please hold my little boy and kiss him for me. Please let him know our prayers for him. Mickael I will always love you.

Emily Clapp

November 11, 2008

Schex, I was lucky to have known you for ten years. I am always going to cherish Charleston '07 when you, Claire,and I hung out on the beach Friday reminiscing about high school, college, and how old we are, the party your threw for my 21st birthday, our Carolina basketball conversations, the little boy story on the first day of high school in Mrs. Flemming's religion class (you told that story so well), our Sunday phone conversations recapping our weeks ( oh how they could get interesting), and when you randomly stopped in Charlotte on that Tuesday en route to Charleston, so we could grab a beer. Everytime I pass a Bed, Bath, and Beyond or get one of their coupons in the mail, it will remind me of you. I think Linens and Things is now going out of business :) Thank you so much for everything. I now have another angel that I can look to for support and comfort. I miss you and love you. Emily

Mary Grace Hicks

November 11, 2008

I lived with Michael the summer before his senior year, capping off 4 years in Chapel Hill with a summer I will always remember as my favorite time there. I later learned they were a little wary about having a girl in 421, but I knew we´d made it when Michael stopped sneaking to his room to watch the OC and set up camp in the living room instead. Finishing two complete seasons in a matter of weeks was no small feat, but when Michael loved something, it was with 100% of himself. And if you were "in" with Michael, you were "in" everywhere he went. For me, that meant feeling like one of the original group in 421, one of the Schexnayder family on their annual Sunset Beach trip, and always feeling like a VIP at East End or Vendue. "Home"coming in Chapel Hill isn´t complete until I´m having one of his famous hugs, feeling like the exact person he wants to see at that moment and I´m exactly where I belong.

It´s unthinkable to imagine the extent of this loss to all the people Michael touched and my thoughts and prayers are with you all. To the Schexnayders, you raised a beautiful human being who was a light to us all. As we look to each other for comfort in this time, it will be relying on friendships that he cultivated and made stronger.

Ted Sullivan

November 11, 2008

Sexy Schexy! I will truly miss you. I am so thankful for the time we spent bartending, socializing and traveling together. Not only did I like you as a friend, but I also respected you as a person for your hard work ethic and good morals. I will never forget the weekend we spent at my parent's house for the Kentucky Derby. No one could have made that trip as much fun as you did! When I think of you I will always picture you smiling.

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