Milly Decker

Mildred J Decker, known by all as Milly, was called home to be with Jesus on April 27th 2023.
Milly was born in Yonkers, NY on October 16th, 1944, to Winifred and George McSpedon. Growing up as the only girl in a family with four brothers, she quickly gained a reputation as the toughest chick on the block. In high school, she said a Novena hoping she would find a date for a dance, and met the love of her lifetime, Buddy Decker. Milly and Buddy went on to marry, and lived around the country as an Air Force family before settling in Mahopac in 1973. They remained there and enjoyed a beautiful marriage for 52 years until Buddy's death in 2018. Together they raised 6 children and then had 12 grandchildren, which she said was God's reward for raising all of those kids. To Milly, there was no such thing as close friends or in-laws, everyone was treated as part of the Decker Family.
Throughout her life as a domestic engineer, Milly cultivated a home filled with love and laughter. The door was always open, and anyone who popped in could count on a warm hug and a meal from her. She always loved and never judged. Her greatest joy was hosting Sunday dinners and just being with each of her grandkids. And also a cold Pepsi, an episode of Gunsmoke, and a smoke, of course.
She is survived by her daughter-in-love Judy Decker, children Louise Decker (Diane Yvars), Daniel Decker, Theresa Waters (Peter), Leah Decker (Mike McLaughlin) and Ellen Groenwald (Matt), and grandchildren Emily, Erin, Molly, Caitlin, Cameron, Julia, Riley, Austin, Bo, Allie, Ben, and Kacey. Milly is also survived by her McSpedon brothers and sisters-in-love- Richie and Anne, Joe and Virginia, Barbara, and Shelby. She was welcomed to Heaven by her loving husband Buddy, her beloved son Jimmy, her brothers Timmy and George, her parents, and Eddie, LouAnne, and Paul Rogan, among others.
To know Milly was to love her, and everyone who encountered her was left feeling special and loved. Milly lived and died on her own terms, and assured us that she would be waiting to welcome us whenever it's our time to join her.
All are welcome to attend a visitation on Monday, May 1st from 4-8 PM at the Joseph J. Smith Funeral Home in Mahopac, NY. A Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated on Tuesday, May 2nd at 11:30 AM at St. John The Evangelist Church, also in Mahopac. Interment will follow at Rose Hills Memorial Park in Putnam Valley.
In lieu of flowers, please make memorial contributions in Milly's name to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital.