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Daniel Liang
May 14, 2020
Dr. Steven Mayer was the founding principal of my school, Thomas R. Grover Middle School. Although I had never known him, his legacy on my school has lived on. His most famous words, "Make someone's day today," became one of our school slogans. There is even an award called the Steven J. Mayer Award, awarded to students who are the most like him and are a role model. May he rest in peace and my thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Let us never forget the loss of a great man for even though he may be gone, his legacy and his impact, will never be gone.
Traci Lynn Hammond
February 2, 2019
Rest in everlasting peace, Steve......
Donna Pew
May 14, 2016
Dear Mayer Family,
Please know my thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Ryan was in my third grade class many years ago. It was always such a pleasure working with him and your family...a family so warm, supportive, and caring. While in third grade, Ryan became instrumental in helping our class deal with the difficult times of 9/11. Even back then Ryan was such a positive force in our classroom and a natural leader...definitely character traits inherited/learned from his dad.
I did not know Steve very well, but my memories of him are his ever-present smile, his warm friendly ways, and his exuberance. Even though I was retired when he became superintendent, I only heard wonderful comments about everything he did. He made such a positive impact on the district, the faculty, and the students.
He will be missed!
Nancy Munn
April 26, 2016
Our hearts go out to you Donna and boys. May it comfort you to know how much Steve was loved and the impact he had on so many. Our son was one of them. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
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Diane Gaynor
April 26, 2016
Our hearts go out to the Mayer family. We will keep you in our thoughts and prayers. May time, family and friends help you in healing.
Our deepest condolences.
The Gaynor Family
Joe, Diane, Eryn, Lauren and Joseph
Manisha Bhattacharya
April 25, 2016
To the Mayer family;
I was part of the second class to graduate from Grover Middle School, in 2001. Mr. Mayer was always one of my favorite parts of being part of that school community. I recall being so impacted by my experiences at Grover that I wrote him a long letter about it right before graduation. It remains one of my proud and humble moments that he first of all, read it, and secondly, actually quoted that letter in his graduation speech, a kind act that still inspires me to share my thoughts with others. I hope to continue working and eventually leading in his example as so beautifully said by your family: to spread the fruits of a strong education to serve the world and help others. My heart breaks for your family, and all of us who were touched by his life will always be sending you strength.
Sincerely, Manisha
Jenna Shelmet
April 25, 2016
I was in the presence of Dr. Mayer only one time, at a Board of Education meeting. I swear that even to this day and upon hearing the news of his passing, I feel as if I had really known him personally. I believe that truly shows the kind of man that he was. Just hearing him speak for a few minutes, I was in awe of his generosity, his humor, and his obvious compassion for what he did. Clearly he had a tremendous impact on so many lives. To the Mayer family, I can not imagine what you are going through and I wish you strength and peace in the coming days.
Michael Kaplan
April 24, 2016
It is sad to hear of the tragic accident that took Steve's life. I replaced Steven as Principal at JMI in Edison and know what a great relationship he had with his staff and students. My memories of him are quite great as we worked together as administrative colleagues.. My thoughts and prayers are with Donna and the children during this terrible time.
Mike Kaplan
Former principal of James Madison Intermediate School in Edison
Jennifer Y
April 24, 2016
I had Mr. Mayer as my principal at Grover Middle School. My parents still remember him as the principal who would clean cafeteria tables along janitors and direct traffic on busy days. I remember he once gathered all of us 8th graders together to ask us not to kick lockers in a firm, but funny way- he used the word 'gnarly' at one point :) After graduation, I had the privilege of talking to him. I was very shy but he had this way of making me and my immigrant family feel at ease. My parents and I were so sorry to hear about the news of his passing. We will keep him and his family in our prayers.
Jim and Michelle Kenny
April 23, 2016
Donna,
We were so sorry to hear about Steve. Please know that we are praying for you and your family. We will remember his smile and his love for the Lord.
JoAnn Pica
April 23, 2016
I had the opportunity know of your husband through my education career, as it spanned Monroe, as well as having colleagues in WWP and Robbinsville, (though I taught in Princeton for more than half of career in education.
Being a sister in faith, I know your husband, Steve, and to the boys, your dad, is at home with our Lord, and although everyone takes comfort in that, it does not make it any easier, this life you now have with the person who was your rock.
The outpouring of love is a testament that "well done, good and faithful servant" and the Lord is well pleased. He has passed on the torch...
I keep you all, wife, Donna, and sons in my daily prayers that the Lord wraps his arms of comfort around you to give you peace in the midst of this unexplainable tragedy.
God bless you all.
JoAnn
paula bublewicz
April 23, 2016
Thoughts and prayers go out to Donna and the boys. Steve's Memorial Service was beautiful. He was an extraordinary man! We wish you strength and peace!
Shannon Frazette
April 23, 2016
I have been thinking about all of you and your immense pain since hearing of this unimaginable tragedy. There are no words or reasons to pen to paper. I can only offer my deepest thoughts and prayers, my heart hurts so. As humans we all share a bond of loss. May your memories comfort you forever.
Karen Iannetta
April 23, 2016
Dear Donna, Ryan, Shaun and Kyle,
I didn't know your husband and father. But from the day he went into the Lords arms I couldn't stop reading about him and what everyone was saying about him. I watched the memorial twice once at work so I missed some of it and then when I got home I watched it in its entirety . I felt the love that Dr. Mayer had for the Lord and his family!
Afterwards I thanked God for Dr. Mayer and asked God to help me to be kind, loving and forgiving. At 56 I still struggle with what gifts I have to offer but after watching and reading Dr. Mayer's story I am going to pray harder that God helps me to know them.
Besides my daily prayers and rosary I asked God to help me to continue to walk in faith and everything else will fall into place.
My Deepest condolences to you and your family ❤
Jim Fraunberger
April 22, 2016
I worked with Steve at Grover Middle School. It was my first year as an Instructional Assistant and Steve was supportive and helpful. He was a compassionate Administrator and truly cared about his staff and students as well as the parents and the entire school community. He will truly be missed and I am glad to have had the opportunity to know him.He is truly a saint and Gods messenger. He has touched the hearts of so many and will live on in our hearts until we all meet again in Gods kingdom. May the lord bless you and keep you in his arms during this difficult time. We have lost an icon and a great man but heaven has gained a new and special angel. I know he will be watching over us.
Brenda Porchetta
April 22, 2016
God Bless the Mayer family. To a truly Great man who was so good to the students in Robbinsville , a great role model for a father , son ,husband.
Yingchao Zhang
April 22, 2016
Dear Steve,
We never met, but I heard great things about you from your days serving in my WW-P school district as middle school principal, and then assistant superintendent. We have three things in common: 1) same age. 2) three boys. 3) passion for education. Wish I knew you before, and wish you well in heaven. And I'm sure you'll bless your families from above to live their fullest lives that will make you happy. RIP
Paul Thompson
April 22, 2016
Donna. Mary and I are deeply saddened by the news of Steve's passing. We cannot know the depth of your grief. We watched the service online - wonderful celebration and such deep pain at the same time.
I remember painting houses with Steve, small group meetings at your condo, and worshipping together at Princeton. What a great man, friend, and disciple of Jesus. Praying for you and your kids.
Christi C.
April 22, 2016
Words cannot express the sorrow I feel for the Mayer family. I never knew him but have been so moved by his generous heart and acts of kindness towards humanity. This world certainly needs more people like him. RIP And God Bless the family.
Christi C.
April 22, 2016
Words cannot express the sorrow I feel for the MYer family. I never knew him but have been so moved by his generous heart and acts of kindness towards humanity. This world certainly needs more people like him. RIP And God Bless the family.
Beth Feehan
April 22, 2016
To the Mayer family, thank you for sharing your husband, father, son and brother with the larger community he touched. You will always be in our prayers.
Pamela McClure
April 22, 2016
My heart breaks for the Mayer family and all those affected by this horrendous tragedy. While I didn't know Steve Mayer, I was shocked and saddened by his untimely death. I watched his memorial service online - I really don't know why I was so affected by the death of someone I never met and never even heard of until this past Tuesday. Perhaps it was our shared love of the Lord. Learning more about his life, his love of family and his love of God and neighbor inspires me. I pray for his wife and sons and all those who knew this spiritual man. May God give you peace and may your memories comfort you. Be assured of my prayers.
Danny McKiernan
April 22, 2016
Thank you for being such a huge aspiration in my life, you will forever be my role model and friend. RIP.
Mona Cohen
April 22, 2016
A man who touched so many lives, touched ours at a difficult time. He was understanding, compassionate and helpful. He took the time to do whatever was needed for us. I am forever grateful. I wish for him everlasting peace and for his family comfort and prayers.
Lori McKiernan
April 22, 2016
Our condolences to the family of a man who touched so many lives. May he rest in peace.
Ilene Hoffman
April 22, 2016
Our deepest condolences to the entire Mayer family. Dr Mayer was truly an inspiring individual who made everyone around him better for knowing him. He will be forever missed but never forgotten.
Valerie Korbar
April 22, 2016
Steve was a wonderful man who always had a smile and a happy greeting. He will be missed terribly. I am proud to have known him and my children are lucky to have had such a remarkable man to admire throughout their education here in Robbinsville.
Jeanae Ayala
April 22, 2016
Steve was and will always be a mentor to so many. When he spoke you listened and when he smiled you felt his warmness and genuine soul. My heart aches for his family and our community. Steve will be deeply missed but never forgotten.
Geetha Roberts
April 22, 2016
Steve was an amazing person. His life of faith impacted many middle school and high school kids life. We will miss his smiling face at church. Praise God for his wonderful life and a role model to many. Our prayers to Donna and kids. It's a great loss to his family and to the community. May the Prince of peace comfort everyone especially his loved ones.
Bev Tanner
April 21, 2016
May the peace of Jesus be with you and your family. My thoughts and prayers will continue as you go through this journey. Love to each.
Cory Radisch
April 21, 2016
Thank you for being a role model for me. Not just in leadership, but as a father and husband.
Lisa King
April 21, 2016
Our thoughts and prayers go out to the Mayer family at this difficult time. Steve will be missed. May God bless your family and give you peace.
Joann Pilla
April 21, 2016
We are so sorry for your loss. We wish you peace in knowing Steve will be remembered as the wonderful man he was.
Clara R.
April 21, 2016
I am deeply saddened by the news of your loss. I pray that God will grant you the strength. My most sincere condolences. Our community and schools have lost an amazing person and leader.
Evelyn Sardoni
April 21, 2016
May you and your family find peace during this difficult time...Our prayers are with you all.
Sardoni Family
Evelyn
Patrick
Chelsea
Natalie Klobuchar (Paolantonio)
April 21, 2016
Mr. Mayer was my 6th grade teacher at Griebling (1988-1989). I credit him for sparking my interest in science. He encouraged an 11 year old girl to believe she could grow up to be a scientist and I did. I graduated college with a degree in chemical engineering. Countless times throughout my school years and my career I have thought of him and the profound impact he had on me. I can't even begin to imagine how many of his students, like me, were forever changed by him. My thoughts and prayers are with his entire family.
Tina Davidoff
April 21, 2016
Donna and family, with my deepest condolences for the loss of Steve. He was an amazing human being. I will miss seeing in the yard everytime I drive or walk past your home. Always playing with the boys and the dogs. Seeing him at school functions and involved with the community. He was a great role model and leader. I am praying for comfort and peace for you.
Charles Flores
April 21, 2016
I do not know you personally, Dr. Mayer, but I thank you for your example of living like Jesus and loving like Him. Until our King returns, the world desperately needs more men like you. Us believers know you are safe in the Lord's arms rejoicing!
Sue & Steve Hornberger
April 21, 2016
Our thoughts and prayers are with your family during this difficult time.
Serafino Family
April 21, 2016
We will miss seeing Steve's friendly smile, seeing him dressed as Santa at Pond Road School and his dedication to the children of Robbinsville. Our deepest sympathy to Donna, Ryan, Shaun and Kyle.
Donna Price
April 21, 2016
My thoughts and prayers are with all of you during this time of great sorrow. May you feel Gods loving arms around you. I didn't have the chance to meet you but somehow I feel so connected. I grew up in Robbinsville and went through school in Robbinsville. May you all be able to find peace in knowing that he is resting with God. Until you meet again someday
John Cesard
April 21, 2016
The world has lost a great man, Steve was an inspirational teacher, who had a wealth of knowledge, knew the Word better than most. He was fond of the following quote "Attempt something so great for God that's it's doomed to fail unless God's in it." Great leader, Father, husband, teacher. He has louched many in his life and will be deeply missed. I want to extend my deepest condolences to the entire Mayer family. I was glad to have known Steve as a member of Princeton Alliance church. Will be donating in lieu of flowers to the Steven J. Mayer foundation.
Melissa Conklin
April 21, 2016
My heartfelt sympathy goes out to the family and friends of Steve. I had a chance to work with him for many years in West Windsor Plainsboro. He was very kind hearted man who truley had a passion for the students and life itself. RIP Steve...you will never be forgotten!
Kathleen Dullea,shcj
April 21, 2016
Steve touched many lives including mine. I feel so blessed to have known and worked with such a remarkable man.
Robyn Bridges
April 21, 2016
This man. A dear, living soul. A brother from another mother in more ways than one. My deepest sympathies to Donna and the young men who will bear their father's 'image' and memory well in life. My prayers are for you all to know the Lord's abundant grace and true comfort as you grieve. We know Comfort in knowing that Steve ran his race well and is present with the Lord. My love and prayers are with you ALL.... Love, Robyn(Borleis) Bridges
Edie & John Gardner
April 21, 2016
Our sympathy to Dr. Mayer's family on his passing. May God Bless you.
Rich Marasco
April 21, 2016
The world has lost one of the best people God ever put on earth. I once said to Steve, he could be what ever he wanted to be in life (said that to others about Steve, as well). This can only mean that that God has some other great plan in mind for him. Very few people touched so many in such a profound way as Steve did in his short life. He was someone who truly made a difference.
The Updegraff Family
April 21, 2016
Many prayers for Mrs. Mayer, who taught my son Shawn, and her children during this incredibly difficult time. Steve's smile was infectious and will always be remembered, along with his dedication to the students of Robbinsville. Rest in peace.
Prohammer Family
April 21, 2016
Steve Mayer was a kind hearted soul and well loved by our community. He will be dearly missed. The Mayer family is in our thoughts and prayers. May the peace which comes from the memories of love shared, comfort you now and in the days ahead.
The Giesler Family
April 21, 2016
All of our thoughts and prayers go out to the entire family. He is in God's loving arms. We hope you will find peace.
Samuel Liu
April 21, 2016
Thinking and praying for all of you during this difficult time. Matthew 11: 28-30, "Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light."
Geoffrey and Lisa Schmitt
April 21, 2016
We remember Steve Mayer fondly. He was an active member at Princeton Alliance Church. In the mid-to late 1990's, there was a men's softball team of which both Geoff Schmitt, and Steve Mayer were members. They played with other participating men's softball leagues at churches in the local Mercer, Somerset and Middlesex counties.
Steve was very passionate about his favorite cause, Hope Unlimited, which helps street kids in Campinos, Brazil to be able to be trained for a vocation and be productive members of their society.
Julie Scatena
April 21, 2016
Our heartfelt sympathies to Donna and her sons. Steve was an amazing gentleman. He will be so missed
Art Weinfeld
April 21, 2016
I was so sorry to hear of the tragic accident that took Steve's life. He was a very special person who touched all who knew him. My memories of him are so strong even though almost twenty years have passed since I've been in his presence. My thoughts and prayers are with Donna and the children during this terrible time.
Art Weinfeld
Former principal of James Madison Intermediate School in Edison
Michelle Baltazar
April 21, 2016
So very sorry for the loss of a great man. May God put his arms around his family to comfort them and watch over them. May you rest in peace Dr. Mayer.
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