Thomas Joseph Carey

Thomas Joseph Carey passed away peacefully on June 5, 2025. He was born on September 12, 1936, in Brooklyn, New York, where he attended Bishop Loughlin High School. He later moved to North Bergen, New Jersey, and graduated as the valedictorian of St. Michael's High School in 1954. He lived in Middletown before settling in Colts Neck in 1983.
Thomas is survived by his beloved wife of 63 years, Mary Jane (née Massari). He was a devoted father to his five sons, each of whom he cherished: the late Thomas (Janice) of Shark River Hills, Timothy (Kim) of Rumson, Anthony of Colts Neck, Charles (Sarah) of Allentown, and John (Kara) of Centennial, Colorado. He was a proud grandfather to Thomas John, Charles Daniel Jr, Julia Rose, Jack Andrew, Megan Kathleen, MiaCharlotte, and Sophia Rose.
He was predeceased by his brothers Edward, Robert, George, and James, and is survived by his sisters Maureen Murphy and Denise Runne. A lifelong fan of the Brooklyn Dodgers and St. Peter's Basketball Peacocks, Thomas was a cum laude graduate of St. Peter's College in Jersey City. He served his sons' alma mater, Christian Brothers Academy in Lincroft, as Vice Chair of the Board of Trustees.
Thomas honorably served as a First Lieutenant in the U.S. Army Finance Corps at Governors Island, New York. During his time at St. Peter's College, he was a finance officer for the Pershing Rifles Unit in the ROTC program.
A certified public accountant, Thomas was President of the New Jersey State Society of CPAs in 1993. He retired as a partner at Deloitte (formerly Haskins & Sells) and later worked as CFO for the Home News in New Brunswick and Driver-Harris Co. in Kearny and Waterford, Ireland. He also served as a Director at ATS Money Systems in Englewood, Lead Independent Director at Crown Bank in Elizabeth, Director of Finance at St. Rose High School in Belmar, and technical advisor to Meyler & Co., CPAs in Middletown. He concluded his accounting career as a Special Envoy to Boyle, CPA, LLC in Bayville.
Proud of his Irish heritage from County Tipperary, Ireland,Thomas was President and Trustee Emeritus of the Friendly Sons of St. Patrick of the Jersey Shore. He was honored as Irishman of the Year in 1996.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Brother Peter Manion Scholarship Fund at Christian Brothers Academy.
Services:
Visitation will be held on Monday, June 9, from 3:00 PM to 7:00 PM at Holmdel Funeral Home, 26 S. Holmdel Road. A Mass of Christian Burial will be offered on Tuesday, June 10, at 10:30 AM at The Parish of St. Mary, 1 Phalanx Road, Colts Neck. Entombment will follow at St. Gabriel Cemetery & Mausoleum in Marlboro.
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