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Patrick Palmer Obituary
March 18, 1969-November 7, 2020
Raleigh
Patrick Lane Palmer, 51, of Raleigh passed away peacefully with his family at his side on November 7, 2020, at Transitions LifeCare Hospice Home in Raleigh after a lengthy illness. Patrick was born at Watts Hospital in Durham in 1969. His early childhood was spent in Louisburg, NC, and his family moved to Raleigh in 1974. He was the son of Michael Palmer of Durham and Patricia Palmer of Raleigh, who survive.
Other survivors include his brother Mike Palmer (Meredith) of Raleigh, nephews Zach Palmer of Charlotte, Brooks Palmer of Austin, TX, Tyler Palmer of Chapel Hill, and niece Grace Palmer of Chapel Hill. Also surviving are his aunts Martha Cabaniss of Shelby and Carole C. Palmer of Lenoir.
He was predeceased by an infant brother Jonathan, his grandparents, Lawrence and Faye Palmer of Lenoir and Erman and Roslyn Greene of Shelby, and his stepfather, Dan Livingstone of Raleigh. He was also predeceased by uncles L. N. Palmer Jr, William C. (Bill) Palmer, and aunts Marjorie O'Neill, Shirley Rader, and Edith Laws.
He attended Broughton High School, Cape Fear Community College, and NC State University.
Patrick loved Rock and Roll music, especially British Rock music, and on one of his several trips to England he traveled to numerous music landmarks, including Abbey Road in London, the Cavern Club in Liverpool, and Brian Jones' birthplace in Cheltenham, and Cotchford Farm in Hartfield. He and a friend traveled to Sun Studio and Graceland in Memphis and through the heart of blues country in Alabama, Mississippi, and Louisiana. In Mississippi, they visited the Crossroads in Clarksdale, where blues great Robert Johnson supposedly sold his soul in return for his unique musical talent.
One of his passions was attending concerts, and he saw the Rolling Stones, the Who, and Oasis perform numerous times. He also traveled to New York to see the rock opera "Tommy" on Broadway.
Patrick was a fan of "Jeopardy" and enjoyed acing questions in history, geography, and music. A voracious reader, he amassed quite a library of Blues and Rock and Roll Music History as well as American History and World War II History.
He loved all sports, especially golf and basketball. Attending the Ryder Cup in Ireland was one of his favorite trips. He was passionate about UNC Tar Heel sports, and a highlight for him was seeing all three nephews play for UNC's JV basketball team.
His remains will be interred at Cleveland Memorial Park in Shelby beside his infant brother Jonathan. Because of Covid 19, a memorial service will be held at a later date as social norms permit.
"Peace. Peace! He is not dead, he doth not sleep - He hath awakened from the dream of life." ---Percy Bysshe Shelley, "Adonais"
The family would like to thank Dr. Kerry Whitt, the staff at Transitions LifeCare, Deborah Williams, and Lamin Dabor for their compassionate care.
Memorials may be made to NAMI of Wake County, 309 W Millbrook Rd, Raleigh, 27609, Transitions LifeCare Hospice 250 Hospice Cir, Raleigh, 27607 or a charity of one's choice.
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Stephanie whaley
March 18, 2021
I am so sad to hear about the loss of my dear friend. We would see each other during most holidays and birthdays but last year was not a normal year.
As today is his birthday, ive been trying to reach out but discovering this news and sending my utmost condolences to his family.
I met pat (palmy aka palmtree) when I was 19 years old in Wilmington. We have been good friends ever since. Through the years, the upper bleachers at rolling stones concerts, several feet away from the who and Joan jett at pnc arena, earlier concerts of pink floyd at carter finley we shared the passion of rock and roll and good times.
I have so many fond memories of jam sessions at his condo with heather serling with mike schwerin on cowbell. Patrick was a fantastic guitar player and shared my love for music trivia, seinfeld and anything related to Larry David.
He was eccentric, quirky, funny and will always have a special place in my heart.
Rest in peace, one of my dearest friends! Hate i could not say goodbye. Happy st Patty's day and I'll be listening to some stones in your honor.
Love you, palmer!
Stephanie aka welch wonder and Tom jones enthusiast
Heather Serling
March 17, 2021
I live in another state now and have not been in touch with Pat in over a year. I just found out today and feel so shocked and saddened. He was such an amazing friend. As a big rock n roll music fan myself I was always impressed by his encyclopedic knowledge of music from the 60's-70's. I have so many good memories of him playing guitar and making up songs off the top of his head--many of them about me and my friends and always intentionally hilarious as hell. The last time I saw him he didn't look well, but I will always remember him playing guitar, singing, and telling me stories about the Stones. He will be truly missed. RIP Palmie
Patricia Palmer
November 23, 2020
Life will never be the same without Patrick. He was a considerate and kind and helpful son. I learned a lot about music and history from him.
We often watched Jeopardy together and I was amazed at the breadth of the categories of questions he knew regularly answering before the contestants or me. I’ll miss these times together.
Rest In Peace my sweet Patrick. I’ll see you on the other side.
Love, Mom
Derek DeBank
November 17, 2020
I am extremely saddened about the death of my good friend, Patrick Palmer. We became fast friends in our early teens, and had many great times hanging out over the years. I always enjoyed his company, discussing history, music, and a wide range of worldly topics. He was very smart and quite the musicologist!
Although we drifted apart, not seeing each other in several years, I thought of him often and it always made me smile. Patrick was truly a kind soul and I will miss him very much. My thoughts are with him and his family.
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Caleb Smith
November 15, 2020
I had not seen Pat for many years but remember him well. I spent many interesting evenings with him discussing music and current events. He was a smart and thoughtful person. Peace be with his friends and family
Martha Cabaniss
November 15, 2020
My family and I are heartbroken! Patrick was a sweet compassionate person. His cousins CeCe, Kelly, and Leslie and I will remember the times we shared with Patrick. My husband Hal and I enjoyed our cookouts with him when we were in Raleigh! So we won’t say goodbye but will see you again one day !
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