Ryan Raymer

March 11, 1976 - November 27, 2016

Apex

Ryan Raymer was killed in a single car auto accident early Sunday morning. In an instant he was removed from this world and transformed in the spirit to join his late brother Carson in the presence of their Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. He leaves behind his son, Kaden, parents David and Sharon, his older brother Chris and younger brother David and wife Lauren and children.

Ryan was deeply spiritual, fiercely loyal, a defender of his faith, a poet, a musician, chef, author and philosopher. He was a member of the Raleigh Boychoir, Apex Baptist Church choirs and musical performances, Apex Middle School show choir, and numerous bands that brought his family and community hours of entertainment and joy. He was a graduate of UNC Wilmington, UNC and Panthers fan, and loved watching his brother David play baseball for LSU. But he was also plagued by depression and other psychological disorders that made it increasingly difficult for him. Looking back, we saw the signs of this, but figured it was Ryan being himself. Our regret is that we didn't address it and seek counsel earlier. Would've, could've, should've. Our comfort is that now he's at peace.

The family will receive friends at Apex Funeral Home on Thursday, December 1, 2016 from 6:00 to 8:00 PM. A funeral service will be held the following day, Friday, December 2, 2016, at 11:00 AM at Apex Funeral Home with a private graveside service to follow.

Condolences may be sent to ApexFuneral.com

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Published by The News and Observer on Nov. 30, 2016.

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December 1, 2016

I am so sad for the loss of your son, Ryan. God bless you and keep you close during this difficult time.

Jeanette Hamm

Teresa VonCannon

November 30, 2016

Our deepest sympathy to your family.
You are in our prayers.
Love,
Teresa & Tom VonCannon

Maurice Evans

November 30, 2016

David, I am very sorry to hear of the passing of your son Ryan. Thoughts and prayers are with you and the entire Raymer family. Maurice and Pat Evans

Marisa Benton

November 30, 2016

There are few people I can honestly say that I only remember nice things about, and Ryan was most definitely one of them. Like many others, I have only seen Ryan a few times since High School... It just makes you want to force yourself to maximize life since you never know. His family is in my prayers.

Phyllis Wagner

November 30, 2016

Dear Raymer Family,
My heart aches for your great loss. With so many others I add my prayers asking our Heavenly Father to comfort you and bring you His Peace and healing for your broken hearts.

Brian Legassie

November 30, 2016

May the good lord hold the Raymer family in the palm of his hands during their time of need and sorrow. Rest in peace old friend!

November 30, 2016

Dear Ones,
Lank and I wish all of you peace and love, knowing that Ryan is now resting in peace with G-d and Carson. We love you all.

Love,
Lank and Genie

Brian Lowry

November 30, 2016

To the Raymer family and to Ryan's friends and loved ones...

I cannot fully express how sorry I was to learn of Ryan's passing. When I did find out, my own grief was assuaged by my memories of Ryan, and there wasn't a single negative memory for me there.

From our time together in the Raleigh Boychoir to our year at Apex High School, Ryan's smile and good humor were contagious in the best possible way.

We lost touch after high school, but the handful of times we crossed paths over the years always resulted in us stopping what we were doing at the moment, talking and laughing the way that old friends do.

RIP Ryan, you will be missed.

November 30, 2016

David and Sharon - I was so deeply sorry to learn of your son's death. He was surely a talented and wonderful person, and his passing must be so very hard for all your family. Please know that all of us from David's Apex dance family are keeping you in our hearts and thoughts. Mary Lee Blatchford

Josh Whitfill

November 29, 2016

Raymers,

My heart aches right now. I'm so sorry for your loss and I pray for your strength to find peace with Ryan's passing. Though I've been absent from most of the adult memories made with Ryan, I look back on the numerous childhood ones our families shared. Among them the Arkansas road trip, numerous dirt bike adventures at your house, and youth group retreats at Apex Baptist Church. I feel great regret for not keeping in touch as Ryan and I got older, but I'm at peace knowing that we are all connected through our faith in Jesus Christ and that right now he is walking side by side with Carson, eternally at peace. From all the Whitfill's I want you to know that we love you, and we're praying for you.

Amy (Council) Long

November 29, 2016

Dearest Raymer Family,

So sorry to learn of Ryan's death. I haven't seen Ryan since we graduated over 20 Years ago but that doesn't make his loss any easier to process. Prayers of peace and comfort for those he left behind.

PATRICE HELTON

November 29, 2016

Sharon, David, and family,
I remember carpooling and taking my Jason and your boys to Boychoir practices. Their voices sounded so angelic then, but now Ryan has gotten his forever angel voice. I know your hearts are heavy. We all hold your family up in prayer for peace in knowing that he is with Jesus and reunited with Carson. May God bless you with the wonderful memories of his precious life.

Judith Gilbert

November 29, 2016

Sharon, David, Chris, and David and family, my heart aches for you at the loss of your beloved son and brother Ryan. When I think of the losses you have suffered, I remember Mother Teresa once said, "I know God will not give me anything I can't handle. I just wish that He didn't trust me so much." I know Ryan is at peace. Just know there are so many people who love you and grieve with you and are here for you.

Kelly Hobbs

November 29, 2016

Our hearts go out to you. Lifting up prayers. Bo and Kelly Hobbs

Joey Quilio

November 29, 2016

Hello Mr. Dave, Mrs. Sharon, Dave, and Chris. We are so sorry to hear of Ryan's passing. Please know that we are thinking and praying for you during this time and that you are surrounded by family and friends who love and care for you. - The Quilio family

November 29, 2016

David I am so very sorry for your loss, my heart breaks for you and your family. Please know that you will all be in our prayers.

Frances Strickland and family

Dana Bass

November 29, 2016

Dear Raymer family,
I am so sorry for your loss and will be continually praying for you all. Ryan will be missed, but we will always hold him in our hearts and remember the great memories.

Anne Marie Livolsi

November 29, 2016

Sharon,David,Lauren and David, my heart goes out to all of you. Losing someone so young is tragic. The faith displayed in the obituary is amazing! I continue to pray for your strength. Anne Marie Livolsi

Patricia Godwin

November 29, 2016

Sharon, David and Family...My heart truly aches for your loss of Ryan. I know you find solace in that he is now at peace and is with Carson and his Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I am holding all of you close in my heart. Please know that I am thinking of you all and saying prayers for comfort and peace during this most difficult time. Love to you all.

Patricia Godwin

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