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Carl Dunham Obituary
80, farmer, owner of Candlelight Farms
Carl Miles Dunham Jr., 80, a lifetime resident of New Milford, died peacefully July 10, 2024, at Danbury Hospital. He was the beloved husband of Nancy Saggese.
Carl was a farmer, a real estate agent with his firm, Candlelight Farms Realty, an attorney, and the owner and operator of Candlelight Farms in New Milford, and The Inn at Richmond in Massachusetts.
He was born Aug. 29, 1943, in New Milford, a son of the late Carl M. Sr. and Jessica (Scott) Dunham. He was raised at Candlelight Farms.
Carl had a passion for working on the farm and took pride in being a steward of the land. He was an active and caring citizen in the town he loved.
In addition to his loving wife, Nancy, and her cherished son, Christopher Saggese, and his family, Carl is survived by many other treasured family members and friends, including Chris Setzler.
In lieu of flowers, contributions can be made to the John Pettibone Memorial Scholarship Fund, P.O. Box 944, New Milford, CT 06776, or to the Ostomy Foundation, 14 Elm St., New Milford, CT 06776.
A tribute to Carl is posted at www.candlelightfarmsinn.com .
Lillis Funeral Home, 58 Bridge St., New Milford, assisted the family with arrangements.
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Pamela and John Way
August 14, 2024
Just heard of the passing of Carl. I am so saddened and want you to know Nancy my heart and prayers are with you
Charlie and Lori Kelly
August 2, 2024
Lived on the mountain for over 20 yrs - though we did not know Carl well - he always greeted us with a smile and a wave. Carl you will be missed but your legacy will live on. Our deepest sympathies to Nancy and family.
Phyllis Rhodes Cortese
July 25, 2024
We are so very sorry to learn of Carl´s passing. Sending sincere sympathy from your neighbors, Phyllis, John & Dylan Cortese
Ann Fisher
July 25, 2024
Carl was unique and a community treasure! His presence and contributions shall be missed! Nancy and family, you were terrific partners!
Jon Gordon
July 22, 2024
We originally met Carl Dunham over 25 years ago with conflicting interests, but soon felt a kindred spirit and affection for Carl after getting to know him and his collaborative approach to all his endeavors and personal interactions.
Carl (and Nancy too of course) have always been so gracious and open in sharing the magic that resides in the land they've both worked so selflessly to enhance and share with the community. Candlelight Farms is a place and experience my (then) young daughter was fortunate enough to experience during the countless hours spent there, and it (as well as the memory of Carl) will always be apart of our family.
Don’t think we’ll ever look over to that magnificent property, and not expect to see Carl happily riding on his tractor or planning some new project, and even if he’s not there physically, he’ll always be with us in spirit while folks will continue to appreciate the beautiful legacy and philosophy he worked to cultivate an impart.
Goodbye my friend Carl, and wishing Nancy, Chris & Family peace in what is a most difficult time.
Jenn Arnau
July 19, 2024
Carl was truly one of the kindest and gentlest souls I've ever known. He would stop to chat with me no matter what was going on. Always a smile and many good chats we had over the years. We were blessed by his wonderful mountain and to live right close to his beloved horses. Pete and I will miss you very much, as will many other people. I know that Heaven gained a Wonderful Angel. Heaven is now blessed with you Carl. Until we meet again our great friend~
Peter Christopherson
July 19, 2024
Carl was the Greatest person to have as a neighbor. He and his wife, Nancy, were always gracious and delightful. I always saw him out around his farm and house doing things to keep up with the property. It was a pleasure to have known him. He will be missed by many. His love was immense and given always.
Ellen Post
July 18, 2024
Sending my heartfelt condolences to Carl´s family. I will miss seeing his smiling face at the dental office, he was such a kind and caring man .
Micheal & Susan Warner
July 18, 2024
We were so saddened to hear of Carl's sudden passing.
He was our neighbor for 32 years.
A kind and gentle man who always greeted us with his warm smile and a hug. We will miss glansing out the window and seeing him mowing the fields. He had such a deep connection with this land & community where he devoted his life. His spirit will always be a part of this beautiful mountain.
Our deepest sympathy to Nancy & her family
Mallorie Parkinson
July 16, 2024
To Nancy and family,
I was saddened to hear of Carl's passing. He was one of the good guys. He and his Mom were very kind to my family during the years my Mom worked for him and continued to have respect and a friendship years later. I believe my Mother knew you Nancy.
May God bring you peace and comfort. Condolences on your loss.
Pat Erickson
July 16, 2024
Nancy I have so many fond memories of Carl from over the years. He was always willing to help with anything in our community.
Our town has lost a great man . We are sending our condolences.
Pat and Mike Erickson
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Don Lowe
July 15, 2024
Along with many, many others, I'm truly going to miss Carl. I always appreciated his positive attitude and Carl was repeatedly very kind to me. I'll miss his warm smile and good advice.
Michael and Lisa Ostrove
July 14, 2024
We'll miss you Carl.
From our first day on the mountain as neigbors almost 25 years ago, Carl's been a huge presence in our lives. He truly was one of a kind, a modern day gentleman farmer. He'd never fail to greet us with a smile, a hug and some friendly chatter and was always thinking and planning something, giving us the updates of the goings on in and around New Milford. He grew up as a boy in our house and helped us with innumerable secrets about our old place, including unclogging a hidden drain pipe in our backyard to stop the flooding a few months ago! We'll miss the waves from his tractor, the friendly drop bys and his forever smiling face! It's a big loss. All our love to Nancy and the family.
The Ostrove's
Jacquie McCloskey
July 14, 2024
Carl was a great friend to me and my family, as well as the Garden Club of New Milford! There wasn't anything he wouldn't do for us. Always there to help and accommodate us. He will be truly missed by our family and the Garden Club. See you on the other side my friend.
Jacquie McCloskey & family
Mayor Pete Bass
July 14, 2024
Nancy,
Carl was always looking at ways to better the farm and Town. He liked to look "Outside the Box" and offer solutions. He will truly be missed. Prayers of Comfort sent to you and the family.
Mayor Pete
Bob Pielli Jr
July 14, 2024
My condolences to Nancy and her son, as well as to Chris S. Always liked Carl and every time I´d see him near the farm it just reminded me of my childhood. Good memories.....
Roberta and Sy Hirsch
July 14, 2024
Nancy,
We are saddened by the sudden death of Carl. He was a special man who always made us feel welcome. We so enjoyed the various parties and get together through the years. We will miss him.
Roberta and Sy Hirsch
Nancy,
We are so saddened by the news of Carl´s sudden passing. He was such a nice man. We enjoyed so many wonderful times at parties and get-together through the years. He always had a smile and warm embrace for us. Our thoughts go out to you at this terrible time.
Roberta and Sy Hirsch
Debbie and Kevan Vancoughnett
July 14, 2024
Our prayers go out to you and your family Nancy. Carl was simply a great man! He cared so much for his family, friends and community. He will be missed.
Our love and prayers are with you!
Debbie and Kevan Vancoughnett
Susan Murphy
July 14, 2024
Nancy - Carl was a great guy. Everyone in town knew him and you made an awesome pair together. The memories you had with him will never leave you. Lots of love. Susan Murphy
John Lawless
July 14, 2024
So sorry to hear. He was a real regular guy!! John Lawless
Karin NeJame
July 14, 2024
Nancy, my deepest sympathy to you.
Liddy Adams
July 14, 2024
I knew Carl throughout my 42 year career in Real Estate as an agent and Broker/Owner. He was one of my "go to" people for advice, information, legal conversations, chat, jokes, stories, and then some. He never not made time for me on the phone or if I dropped in to his office on the Green. His laugh got me going when he knew I was down. His love of the Town of New Milford and his Candlelight Farms property were amazingly solid and thoughtful. He was funny, sincere, whole hearted and willing to help. Bless him, and Nancy, and all he contributed to the Town of New Milford and his neighbors and friends. He will be missed, but not forgotten. Give it a rest, Carl!
Bill Buckbee
July 13, 2024
Carl was a good man who I was honored to know and share many conversations with over the years. Condolences and prayers to Nancy, the family, and all who knew and loved a man who gave tremendously to his town.
Paul Murphy
July 13, 2024
My heart and prayers go out to Nancy, I´ve known Carl for several years and have considered him a true friend always greeting each other with a hug and long handshake and always asking about each other´s health. He will be missed dearly my myself and hundreds others in the area.
Jim And Joan Kick
July 13, 2024
Nancy
Our deepest sympathy to you
Jim and Joan Kick
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