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DAVID TROWER Obituary

TROWER--David R. The Allen-Stevenson School community is deeply saddened by the loss of David R. Trower h'95, Head of The Allen-Stevenson School for 32 years until his retirement in July 2022. From the tens of thousands of warm smiles and firm handshakes at the school's front door to his thoughtful words and sage advice, boys, families, colleagues, and friends have all benefited from David's love of education and Allen-Stevenson. David truly embodied the characteristics of the scholar and gentleman he wanted the boys to become. We send our sincerest condolences to his wife, Carol, daughter, Emily, and the rest of his family. Metin Negrin, President of the Board of Trustees; Duncan Lyon, Head of School

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Published by New York Times on Jul. 8, 2023.

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Nicholas Sands

September 4, 2024

David was one of my most important teachers at the Collegiate School in Manhattan, and I was deeply affected upon hearing the news of his passing. With love and deepest sympathies to his entire family... Nicholas Sands

Andrew Susskind, A-S `69

December 24, 2023

I had the privilege of being a student of David´s at Exeter in the early 70´s and as an A-S alum was absolutely thrilled when he became Headmaster. By every measurement, he was a magnificent Head, not least for his immense humanity and his dedication to developing students´ characters and community service. We are all as diminished by his passing as we were the better for knowing him.

Pamela D´Arc

October 15, 2023

David Trower was a truly outstanding man who contributed so much to so many people and to Allen-Stevenson. He is dearly missed. Our sincere condolences to his family.
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James Holt

August 14, 2023

He was a fantastic Headmaster. The school grew academically as well as its physical plant
He gave guidance to the school with a steady hand, a kind heart, and with a welcoming smile to every young man who entered the school each day. I still remember the topics of his Morning Meetings on Monday. His comments and conversations were precise and thoughtful. He was an outstanding leader and compassionate individual. My condolences to his wife, daughter, and the rest of his family.

His was a life well lived.

Joel Bennett

July 29, 2023

Enjoyed knowing David as a classmate at Brown University

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Nancy Diederich

July 8, 2023

So very sad to hear this news. My husband and I just saw David at the Memorial for Mr. Kersey two weeks ago and he seemed well and happy and told us how much he was enjoying his retirement. Just sad that he did not have time to enjoy more of it! He will be much missed and always brought happiness and joy to the world with his smile.

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