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Joel Tobey Obituary
Joel Graduated from Barrington High School in 1947 and Brown University in 1951. After serving as a Captain with the 11th Airborne Division of the U.S.Army he joined Amica Mutual Insurance Company in 1960. He worked in the Baltimore office in 1965 and returned to Providence in 1967 as an Assistant Secretary. He became Secretary one year later, Vice President and Secretary in 1972 and Executive Vice President and Secretary in 1980. In 1985 he was elected to the position of President and Chief Executive Officer and Chairman and Chief Executive Officer in 1994.
Joel was a communicant of St. John's Episcopal Church in Barrington and had served on the Vestry of the Church. He had served as a Director for Junior Achievement, a Trustee of the Greater Providence YMCA, Director and Secretary of the Greater Providence Chamber of Commerce, Director of the RI Public Expenditure Council and Director of the Insurance Research Bureau. He also served as a Director of the Alliance of American Insurers and the American Insurers Highway Safety Alliance. He was a past president of the Squantum Association, and had been active in the Hope Club, Turks Head Club, University Club, Model T Ford Club of America, Masonic organization, Rotary and St. Andrews School and he was a member of the Barrington Yacht Club. Joel enjoyed sailing, golfing, skiing, traveling and restoring antique automobiles.
Besides his wife, he leaves two sons: Mark H. Tobey and his wife Dinah of Castle Rock, CO; James A. Tobey and his wife Eivy of Barrington RI; a daughter, Judith T. Anderson and her husband Steven of Roanoke, VA, two brothers, Jonathan Tobey of Brattleboro, VT, Joshua Tobey of Centre Hall, PA and 8 grandchildren: Daniel, Nikki, Samuel, Marina; Nathaniel, Robert; Ashley and Eric.
A memorial service will be held on Monday at 11 AM in St. John's Episcopal Church. Burial will be in Forest Chapel Cemetery in Barrington. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Joel's memory to St. John's Episcopal Church 1919 County Road Barrington, RI 02806. Visit smithmason.com for information and online condolences.
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September 13, 2010
Mrs. Tobey so sorry for you loss. It was a beautiful service today. A wonderful tribute to a great man. Beth McQuade and family
September 12, 2010
Elaine, Norman & I have found memories of our bridge games many years ago. We had many laughs and enjoyable evenings.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Judy Smith
September 12, 2010
Mrs. Tobey and family, It was such a pleasureable, fun experience serving Mr. Tobey at Squantum. He was a wonderful gentleman and truly cared about the employees. I will really miss him but hope we will see you and your family often.
September 12, 2010
Masonic Prayer for the Departed Brother Joel Toby
Let us pray. Supreme Grand Master, author of all good and giver of all mercy. Pour down Thy blessings upon the family of our Adelphoi Lodge #33 brother, Joel Toby, who recently joined you in the Celestial Lodge above.
Strengthen our solemn engagements with the ties of sincere affection!
May the present instance of mortality remind us of our approaching fate, and draw our attention toward Thee, the only refuge in time of need that, when the awful moment shall arrive that we are about to quit this transitory scene, the enlivening prospect of Thy mercy may dispel the gloom of death.
Joel was extremely active in the community and represented the Craft with high distinction.
Besides his wife of 55 years, Elaine, Brother Joel leaves two sons: Mark H. Tobey and James A. Tobey and a daughter, Judith T. Anderson. Along with two brothers, Joshua Tobey and 8 grandchildren: Daniel, Nikki, Samuel, Marina; Nathaniel, Robert; Ashley and Eric.
After our departure hence in peace, and in Thy favor, may Joel be received into Thine everlasting kingdom, to enjoy, in union with the souls of our departed Masonic brethren, the just reward of a pious and virtuous life.
So mote it be.
Deputy Chaplain Charles Reade
Adelphoi Lodge #33, F&AM
Riverside, Rhode Island
tony fagundes
September 12, 2010
so sry for the loss of tobey now he is with are lord the real chief of the world
Donald ( Ted) Cady
September 12, 2010
Tobey Family, Joel was a pleasure to work for, a fine caring gentleman who had the Amica Family always at heart. It was because of him I was offered a position and a good retirement from the greatest Insuance Company in the nation. He Was also a very proud Paratrooper. With sympathy Ted Cady
Matthew Gifford
September 12, 2010
Dear Elaine and Tobey family- my thoughts and prayers are with you during this tough time. I'm thankful to have gotten to know him over the last few years, i will miss his weekly stories when i'm at the house to cut the lawn. With love , Matt
September 11, 2010
Dear Elaine and family, Walt and I were so sorry to learn of Joel's passing. He was one of the most gifted individuals we have ever met. May God's love be with you all at this very sad time in your lives and always. Love, Walt and Joyce
Carlos Diaz Duque
September 11, 2010
Jim and Eivys , No soy muy bueno para palabras en estos momentos, pero de corazon les mando mucha fortaleza, y guarden en sus corazones las ensenanzas y cosas lidas de Joel; que cuando se acuerden les regale una sonrisa cuando la necesiten.
Los quiero y recuerdo mucho
Carleo DD
September 11, 2010
Dear Elaine, I am so shocked to hear of Joel's passing. His smile will be in my memory for a long time. Wish I could be with you, but you will be in my prayers. We had some great laughs at the bridge table, and at the Patriot games. God be with you. Love, Chasey
Jill Harrington (Binyon)
September 11, 2010
"Bubs" My sincere sympathy to you and all the family. Words fail at this sad time but I do want you to know that you all are in my thoughts and prayers. Our frienship has lots of wonderful memories and Joel was such a
special friend to me. Much love to all.
September 11, 2010
"Bubs"; Betty and I send our condolences to you and your family. You will all be in our thoughts and prayers. John and Betty Proctor.
Omar, Katy y Santiago Monroy
September 11, 2010
Bubs, recibe nuestras condolencias, nuestro espíritu está contigo y toda tu familia, tuve el honor de poder conocer a Joel y ver en él a un segundo padre para mi hermana Eivy quien recibió de él gran sabíduria y cariño, siempre estará en mi memoria su sonrisa de bienvenida en las pocas pero provechosas veces que le ví, el señor, el espíritu universal, lo tenga en su gloría.
Carl Foehr
September 11, 2010
Dear "Bubs",
It is with great sorrow that we hear of Joel's passing, You and your family will be in our prayers.
September 11, 2010
09/10 Condolence message was from Vince and Marcella McCulloch, Fleming Island, FL
John&Mary Lou Magee
September 11, 2010
Dear Elaine, Our thoughts and Prayers are with you and your family, Joel will keep you all in a lighted way, Much Love the Magee family
September 11, 2010
"Bubs": Marcella and I send our condolences.
Joel capably provided AMICA with leadership during a transitional period. It was my pleasure to serve under him and work toward keeping AMICA's top-notch ratings.
God bless.
Barbara Donovan
September 11, 2010
Dearest Elaine - please accept my deepest sympathy in your loss. I know the path will be hard, but know in your heart that friends will always be with you. With love, Barbara
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