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Michael Ascarte Obituary
ASCARTE, Michael Shelby
Age 33, of Yuba City, California, died peacefully on January 25, 2009, after succumbing to an eleven year battle with a traumatic brain injury. Michael was born on July 1, 1975 in Orange County, CA. He graduated from Roseville High in 1993 and attended Sierra College. He was an avid Dallas Cowboys fan since childhood and played semi-pro football for the Fresno Dragons. He had a passion for aviation, learned to fly a helicopter and he was also a certified scuba diver.
Despite the unrelenting challenges Michael faced each day, he was strengthened by his deep faith, his supportive family and friends, as well as his love for his daughter, Lexus. Michael took courage in the Bible's resurrection hope and his last request to others was to seek Jehovah's Kingdom. His honesty, generosity, forgiving spirit, love of family and great sense of humor were a constant source of joy to others, but Michael's heart was his greatest attribute! He will be remembered as a loving father, son, brother, nephew, grandson, cousin and friend.
Michael is survived by his daughter, Lexus Nicole Ascarte; his parents, Adrian Ascarte of Huntington Beach, CA and Debi Ascarte, Yuba City, CA; his brother Adrian Lee Ascarte, Salt Lake City, UT, his wife Kristi and their three sons, Matthew, Cameron and Ryan; his sister Christine Olson of Yuba City, her husband, David, and their two sons, Austin and Carter; his sister Erica Scoggins of West Sacramento, her husband Jason, and their two children Lily and Jackson; his uncle, Steven Wilson of Spanish Fork, UT, his wife, Suzan and their daughter Katie; his grandmother, Maxine Wilson of Dighton, KS; his uncle Christopher Ascarte of Lincoln, CA, his wife, Tina and their three sons, Jeffrey, Kevin and Cody; his uncle, Steven Ascarte, his aunt Karen Ascarte and his grandmother, Irene Ascarte of Huntington Beach, CA and his aunt Cindy McDivitt and her husband, Dean, of Kahulu, Maui; the Olson family, the Middendorf family, the Barron family and his best friend, Nicholas Gianfortune of Fresno, CA, as well as many, many others that held a special place in his life.
A memorial service will be held on Saturday, January 31, 2009 at 3:00PM at the Kingdom Hall of Jehovah's Witnesses at 2422 Hammonton Smartville Road, Marysville, CA 95901. Michael Carvahlo, a life-long friend and Christian Elder, will officiate. A reception will follow. In lieu of flowers, donations and remembrances may be made to the Michael S. Ascarte Memorial Fund through Bank of America, Yuba City, CA.
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Erica L Scoggins
July 5, 2025
I'm not going to lie, this week is always difficult.
However, it get's better year by year. As soon as June comes to a close my heart drops thinking even more about my brother. This year was a bit brighter because I was able to talk with Lexus who we have all wanted to connect with for so many years. Hearing her voice was a soft echo of Michael. And I am grateful to have heard it.
So many memories that I want to share with her about him. I think the first one will be about when he hacksawed the rope from the swing from the tree when I was on it and landed in the blackberry bushes. And let's not forget the time he locked me in the camper closet. I'm claustrophobic for a reason. So many stories.
There are also so many positive memories. The time he fought someone who tried to kiss me in elementary school. He was my guardian and protector. The boys knew not to mess with me after that. He always had my back no matter the situation. And that continued through his passing. Always looking over his baby sister.
His heart was huge. Maybe too huge for his body to handle and why he passed so early. I miss him so much and he carries on with me. Anywhere I go, I take a part of him. He's in Huntington Beach, Hawaii, Mexico, Kansas and Costa Rica. He's still very present in this world even if he isn't physically here. His memories and love still live on.
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2025
It´s hard to believe, but Michael would be 50 years old today! He´s missed so many changes in our family, with the addition of 2 daughters to Matt and Sarah, and also a daughter to Ryan and Emma, which makes Michael´s older brother, Lee, a grandpa, and me a great-grandmother! TT and David added another Yorkie to the household, so we are now enjoying the playful antics of 2 fur babies, Coco Bella and Rocket. David was recently appointed as a Ministerial Servant, which was a wonderful privilege! They are also celebrating their 30th Anniversary on July 14th and they will be in Hawaii for 2 weeks taking in the sun, surf and fruity drinks...
Everyone is busy and doing well, but I´m sure Michael would be looking forward to all the summer activities and events coming up, including the "Pure Worship" Special Convention being held at the Golden 1 Center in Sacramento on August 1 - 3, 2025. We have the very special privilege of hosting international delegates this year and we will have a special service day on July 29th. Our congregation will provide local foods, such as Punjabi, Mexican and American fare, as well as colorful entertainment, with singing, dancing and skits! Many of the friends in Sutter Buttes are creating colorful "Welcome" signs to greet the visitors at the airport and the Kingdom Hall, including gift bags for each of the delegates. I was asked to compose a greeting card, too, based on the theme: "What Paradise means to you", which I have really enjoyed putting together.
Time continues to move forward, so we have many things to share with Michael when we are reunited. We lost Uncle Steve recently, so he has been added to all those sleeping in death like Michael´s dad, Aunt Cindy, and Grandma Irene. We miss them all and look forward to welcoming each of them back in the resurrection that is just around the corner! Erica has been taking care of all the legal details for the family, and she has actually been in contact with Lexus recently. It´s a positive step, but I still pray that Lexus will choose to get acquainted with her dad´s side of the family that he loved so deeply, but only time will tell. My heart continues to be optimistic and very thankful because Jehovah "heals the brokenhearted; he binds up their wounds." (Ps. 147:3)
Debi Ascarte
May 16, 2025
Proverbs 17:6 states that "grandchildren are the crown of old age", so I feel richly blessed to have 6 grandchildren and 5 great-grandchildren! They have filled my life with so much love and sweetness, but I am still missing one dear one... my granddaughter, Lexus Nicole Ascarte.
When I lost my son, Michael, I lost access to Lexus, too. She is turning 24 today, and even though she hasn´t reached out to me yet, I continue to think about her every day and to patiently wait for her to respond. I also continue to pray that she is living a happy life filled with purpose, genuine love, true joy, heartfelt kindness and a grand hope for the future! I love you, Lexus!
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2025
Here I am, once again, trying to put my thoughts and feelings about Michael to paper. My tears surprised me and have made this more difficult than I expected, but I am thankful that as the days, weeks and years have elapsed, my faith and the loving support of my family has helped to soften my grief. (Psalm 34:18) I´ve also found encouragement by reading Bible accounts of faithful servants like Abraham, Issac, Jacob and even God´s Son, Jesus´, and the effect the death of a loved one had on each of them. (Genesis 23:2; 24:67; 37:34, 35; and John 11: 33-35) It´s reassuring to know that grief is not a sign of weakness, it is a natural expression of love.
All the comments that friends and family have posted here during the past 16 years also remind me of the impact Michael had on all our lives and the extraordinary spirit that touched everyone who knew him. He was often the life of the party, which wasn´t always a compliment, but his humor was infectious, and it could brighten even the darkest moments. He was far from perfect, but I think Michael´s saving grace was his deep faith, his courage to admit his mistakes and his ability to ask for help when he needed direction. Despite the challenges he faced with his brain injury, he still recognized his spiritual needs and strived to maintain a relationship with his Creator. His life was a testament to the power of Jehovah´s love and forgiveness.
My heart is filled with love and happy memories of my son, so I am deeply thankful for the Bible-based hope of a resurrection. (Hebrews 6:1, 2; John 5:21, 28, 29; Revelation 21:4; and 1 Thessalonians 4:13) It is a lifeline for me and counteracts any unnecessary anxiety caused by life´s uncertainties, like sickness and death. This wonderful hope brings me "comfort beyond measure"! (Acts 20:12) I still miss Michael every day, but I imagine seeing him and all my lost loved ones again, very soon, which fills me with peace and joy!
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2024
Remembering the birth of Michael is emotionally challenging and a rather cathartic experience. It reminds me of happy, carefree days, but it also brings up feelings of sadness and grief that are difficult to process. Nevertheless, I am thankful for this Legacy forum, which provides an opportunity to honor his memory and to give his daughter, Lexus, another glimpse of the loving father she never had a good chance to know.
July 1, 1975, brings back wonderful memories of a very special time that brought great joy and happiness to our sweet family. I was only 23, but Michael was my third child, so I wasn´t a nervous or inexperienced new mom. I was able to relax and enjoy the awe of the moment and appreciate the miracle of life very deeply. Michael blessed us all with his unique sense of humor, his infectious laugh, his contagious grin, his love of adventure, and his passion for life. He also drove us crazy with his bizarre, but often genius inventions, including a few failed ones. Little did I know then that we would tragically lose him while he still had so much more life to live...
We all have loss in our lives and unfortunately, death is part of life in this system, but losing a child is probably the most emotionally difficult experience that a human can possibly face. I have lost cousins, friends, aunts, uncles, grandparents, parents, and my husband, but nothing can compare to the emotional pain of losing my son. I miss them all dearly and in different ways, but losing Michael completely crushed me.
Death ends a life, but it doesn´t end a relationship which lives on in the hearts and minds of the survivors. Although he is not physically present with us today, Michael´s spirit and memory live on in the hearts of all those who loved him. His absence is deeply felt, but we take comfort in the knowledge that he is safe and resting peacefully in Jehovah´s limitless memory. (Hosea 13:14; Job 14:14,15; Isaiah 26:19; John 5:28, 29; Acts 24:15.)
My love is everlasting and today, and every day that I live, I will always be dedicated to keeping Michael's memory alive!
Debi Ascarte
May 16, 2024
Not a day goes by that I don't think about my precious granddaughter, Lexus Nicole, and I wonder how she is doing. She is a grown woman now, and at 23, she may even have a sweet family of her own. One might think that missing her would be less painful after all these years, but my love is very strong, and my heart still aches for her. I promised my son, Michael, that I would never stop searching for her, but despite all my efforts I am still so far away, and basically a stranger to her. But life is a matter of choices, and consequences for us all... Although I continue to be very hopeful and exercise patience, I know time and unexpected events can overtake us all and delay our best intentions. (Ecclesiastes 9:11)
I wish Lexus happiness to welcome all her days, filled with laughter to make her heart sing, with friendship, sharing, caring and all of the joy that each new day can bring. May Jehovah bless her, now and always!
Erica L Scoggins
January 26, 2024
Oh my bratty brother. AKA "the prince". Not a day goes by that I don't miss my friend and partner in crime (it wasn't my fault you got the tattoo, I tried to talk you out of it). You would be amazed to see how the family has grown and changed. All of your nephews and niece have made such great strides in life. We only wish that you were able to be here to see it all and be a part of it. You are in our hearts so technically you are there every step of the way. We always think of you. You and Addie went to Costa Rica this year and have a special burial there. My point is even though you aren't physically here your memories will last indefinitely through all of those that have loved you. You are truly missed by everyone that has been fortunate enough to know you. Compton Mike lives on forever. Love you brother.
Debi Ascarte (Mom)
January 25, 2024
January 25, 2024
As another year approaches without my beautiful boy, Michael, I am very thankful for all the scriptural evidence and undeniable signs that we are getting closer and closer to a new system of things, to a cleansed earth, to a life-restoring resurrection, and to a reunion with all our lost loved ones! God's Word assures us that death is not a permanent loss, but rather a temporary separation from the ones we love. (Revelation 21:3,4; Hosea 13:14; John 5:28, 29.)
There are so many wonderful changes coming, and joyful events to look forward to, that my heart is bursting with love and happy anticipation! I miss all my family and friends who have fallen asleep in death, especially Michael. So many words can describe him, so many stories can be told, but as his mother, he naturally holds a very special place in my heart and in my deeply cherished memories. For those who crossed his path, became his friend, or were fortunate enough to be his family, then you all know how this "wild child" not only changed my life, but possibly yours, too.
As each year comes and goes, I have not lost hope, but I grow ever more thankful for my family, my faith, and my life! As Micah 7:7 states, "I will show a waiting attitude for Jehovah, the God of my salvation," and as I do, I will continue to treasure the grand privilege of serving Him forever!
Debi Ascarte (Mom)
July 1, 2023
I have lived a long, fulfilling life with so many great moments filled with love, joy, and happiness, as well as some difficult challenges that I have tried to meet with dignity and grace. My darling son, Michael, was born 48 years ago today, adding another layer of love to our sweet family of 4 and greatly increasing our joy. It was an exceptionally wonderful time in my life since his father and I had dedicated ourselves to serving Jehovah God before he was born. His beautiful sister was born 19 months later, so our life was full and richly blessed! (James 1:17)
Of course, life, as we all know, is unpredictable "because time and unexpected events overtake us all." (Ecclesiastes 9:11.) Even so, I never anticipated tragedy striking our family and losing my son. I had hoped for so much more, but I am very thankful for all the time I did have with Michael. As his mother, I was always there to encourage him, I was by his side to celebrate his joys and accomplishments, I was behind him to support him, and I was next to him when he didn´t want to be alone. Now, I am left waiting ahead of him to greet him when he is resurrected! (John 5:28, 29)
There are so many things to share with him about our growing family and all the changes that have occurred over the past 14 years. He would be truly amazed at all the advancements the Organization has made, as well as the current scene of this world. (1 Cor. 7:31.) This weekend we are enjoying our "Exercise Patience"! Regional Convention in Sacramento. It´s the first in-person Convention we have had since the pandemic, so it is especially exciting for everyone! Michael attended a Convention every year of his life, so we all really wish he was here!
Debi Ascarte (Mom)
May 16, 2023
Although I haven't seen my beautiful granddaughter, Lexus Nicole Ascarte, for over 20 years, she is a very special part of me, and of my son, Michael, so I never give up hope! Despite the physical and emotional distance that has kept us apart, it doesn't change what's in my heart. My love for her continues to grow day by day, and year by year.
I hope May 16th is full of sweet laughter, special moments, and wonderful, happy memories, but if I could give her three things, it would be the confidence to always know her self-worth, the strength to chase her dreams, and the ability to know how deeply she is loved. Life will not always be easy, but I hope she never forgets to look for the beauty in it... It is up to her, and only her, to create a life she wants to live! I pray she will find what makes her happy and whole, and then surround herself with it. Hopefully, that will include experiencing the joy that comes from serving Jehovah!
John
January 27, 2023
As I lay in my bed long before sunrise I'm finally reading several recent posts to this legacy memorial of Michael. I've seen every notification of new posts but I've avoided reading them because of the sadness I feel everytime I get one. That is until now. And how happy I am that I decided to read these new thoughts from you, Debi, and from you too, TT.
The thing is, we all suffer silently in our own hearts over those Loved ones we have lost, but it took until this moment for me to appreciate the love that moves you to reopen your wounds in making public expression after so many years. The thing is, I miss Michael and think on the moment my heartbroken son made the call to me to come to be with your sons, Christine, in that moment when tragedy struck. I'll never forget what I saw in David's face and heard in his voice. In that instant life was altered for all of us.
This legacy memorial is meant to comfort those who suffer in their loss of Michael; his mother, siblings, extended family, all his friends. I'm comforted this day by the memories you have shared but I'm moved to add my own thoughts for a different reason. I feel that a second legacy has been created over these past 14 years, one that Michael will one day treasure. This legacy is the enduring history of loving comments posted by Michael's adoring mother and sister. It is because of your loving, open hearts that I am willing to pull the bandage off of my own wounds and subject myself to the hurt once again.
This morning I'm encouraged to again realize how precious life is. To realize how real our hope is. To realize how much I love our wonderful family and long to see the fulfillment of all our prayers. To realize how special the two of you are.
May each and every one of us hold tight to those we love and cherish who are still with us.
Christine Olson
January 25, 2023
Miss your smile little brother... it won't be long until we are all reunited again!
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2023
Fourteen years ago, I had to tell my family and dear friends that my darling son, Michael, had just passed away. It was very difficult to share those tragic words while trying to manage my own emotions and trying to make sense of it all. Jehovah has lovingly helped fill part of the large gaping hole that losing Michael made in my heart, and I have continued to heal over time. But life moves on and sadly, there are new losses that have made their own mark...
On November 28, 2022, Michael´s grandma, Irene Elizabeth Ascarte, passed away a week after she turned 98! She was a loyal Kingdom proclaimer throughout her life, and over the years, she helped many, including three generations of her own family, to love Jehovah God and to come to an accurate knowledge of Bible truths. She retained her gregarious spirit, her lovely smile, and the twinkle in her eye right up to the very end...
Losing those we deeply love doesn´t get easier, grief takes time... I still miss Michael every day and I look forward to being reunited with him, his dad, his grandma, and many other loved ones in the coming resurrection. (John 5:28, 29; Revelation 21:3,4)
Christine Olson
October 3, 2022
Christine Olson
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Christine Olson
October 3, 2022
Christine Olson
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Christine Olson
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Christine Olson
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Christine Olson
October 3, 2022
Michael, so much has happened in the world these past 2 and a half years! Went through a global pandemic where many of us didn't leave the house for over a year and had to wear surgical masks in public as well as attend meetings via zoom! The nations and governments are falling apart and divisions are everywhere!
If you were here you'd be so excited to see Bible prophesy unfolding before our very eyes in our life time!
I miss you, we all miss you however we know we're one step closer to being reunited with you, Dad and so many other members we've recently lost along the way. We're all hanging in there, the boys are grown men now, Austin resembles you but Carter has your twinkle. Mom is still holding up even with my disabilities, she is resilient; I know she holds on to be reunited with your baby girl Lexus Nicole. We will all continue to reach out to her in hopes that she'll be able to finally take her rightful place in our large extended family. No matter how much time goes by we're waiting and will be welcoming to her with open arms. Miss you little brother, pray we will all be reunited soon! Miss your green backpack... love you forever - TT
Debi Ascarte (Mom)
July 1, 2022
The world keeps turning, the sun continues to rise, and the days come and go, as always, but I still miss my baby boy who would be 47 years old today. From the moment Michael was born, he was a delightful gift and a blessing that I never expected in life. His energy, laughter, and sense of humor still illuminate my darkest moments. I treasure all the wonderful memories we made together, and I hold them in my heart along with Jehovah´s loving promise of the resurrection. I look forward to each new morning because it brings me closer to that great day!
It´s another year without Michael, but as I reflect on the sweetest recollections of our time together, I am so thankful that Jehovah understands my deepest sorrows and gives tender mercies for my greatest needs. He surrounds me with His loving comfort, giving me strength for today, and hope for tomorrow!
Debi Ascarte
May 16, 2022
May 16th is very special day for my granddaughter, Lexus Nicole. Although I don´t celebrate birthdays, I celebrate her as she reaches the milestone of her 21st year. She is an incredible masterpiece, God's special design, and as such I pray that she will always display qualities that reflect her priceless value to herself, and to others. (I Peter 3:3, 4.) I hope that love, joy, happiness, and faith are her close companions everywhere she goes. Time and distance continue to separate us, but Lexus is old enough to shape her own life, to plan her own future and to find her own way to me. I love her with all my heart and pray that she will!
Erica Scoggins
January 25, 2022
I can't believe it's been thirteen years. I think about you every day. You have never been forgotten by any of your family and friends. We share stories and laugh at our adventures that you were apart of. We have grown closer as a family which you would have loved. Still trying to connect with Lexus and we will never stop trying.
And if you could see your grand-nephews Carson and Ryker you would just explode with love. And now there is a grand-niece on the way. There is a lot to be thankful for, we just wish you were here to be apart of it.
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2022
Seasons come and quickly go, but I still miss Michael every day. I´ve spent the past 13 years navigating the world without him and each year I think it will get easier, but looking back, I realize that I miss him more each day.
I´ve experienced so many losses in my life, but losing Michael was the hardest thing that´s ever happened me. Over the course of the past 13 years, I have tried to stitch my broken heart back together by reflecting on all the sweet memories and special moments that are now deeply etched there. I am so grateful for all the journeys we shared, the struggles we experienced, and the milestones we conquered together.
Michael helped me see the world through different eyes and he gave me a new perspective on the fragileness of others, on forgiveness, and on personal expectations. My love and gratitude for my family, for my faith, and for life itself has grown to new depths and is immeasurable.
My sweet son may be gone, but he will never be forgotten! The coming Paradise and the promised earthly resurrection will reunite us, and it´s just around the corner. - Psalms 37:29; Isaiah 26:19; Isaiah 55:10, 11; John 5:28, 29; Matthew 25:34.
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2021
Forty-six years ago today, I was sunburned from my District Convention at Dodger´s Stadium, swollen and almost ten months pregnant. I woke up in labor around 6am and, needless to say, I was more than ready to meet my new baby. It was the natural childbirth era and I had chosen to have a home birth, with my doctor, my mid-wife, my husband and my two best friends in attendance. Everything went according to plan and my sweet baby boy was born within a few hours. Weighing in at 8lbs 7oz, 21 inches long and thankfully, with all ten fingers and toes. I was excited, proud and, as expected, very tired, but it was a happy occasion for everyone. I felt doubly joyful when my husband honored my own father by naming our son, Michael "Shelby"!
I had so many years loving, laughing, enjoying, and at times, chastising my darling boy, but not as many as I would have liked. Yes, Michael was gone too soon, but as someone once said, "It is not where we go, the paths we take or how high we climb. It is the lives we touch, the love we share and the joy we bring to others." I am so thankful for his life and for all he shared with us. I am looking forward to wrapping my arms around him again when he is resurrected and in Paradise, which will be restored very soon. (John 5:28, 29; Revelation 21:3, 4; Luke 23:43; Isaiah 45:18 & 55:10,11.)
Debi Ascarte
May 16, 2021
Twenty years ago today, I was very privileged to be present when my beautiful granddaughter, Lexus Nicole Ascarte, was born. It was love at first sight for me and that love has grown deeper every day thereafter... I only have one wish for her on this special day, and that is to count all the blessings in her life and to love the things that really matter, like family, friends, and Jehovah. I hope she has learned that it takes patience, grace, courage, kindness, empathy, faith, and forgiveness to become a strong woman. It also requires divine direction to help chart a clear path to a successful and fulfilling future, with rich blessings and all that is needed for a happy life. - Proverbs 3:5,6.
Lexus has missed out on knowing her dad, Michael, but she has my heart and all my love, as always!
Erica Scoggins
January 26, 2021
Today hit me harder than yesterday. I don't like to dwell on loss, but I think this year it has been more intense given all of the changes that have taken place. Mom already acknowledged who we have lost. It has been a tough year dealing with that aftermath.
You would be amazed at how our entire family has reconnected. The stronger bonds that have been built. Aunts, uncles, cousins. You would have been front line and center for all of it if you were here. Our appreciation and love for family has been something that I wish you were here to see and be a part of.
Austin and Carter have taken such great care of mom. They are amazing with their huge hearts. You have two bat-dino nephews that I love and adore (and can't stop visiting...they almost convinced me to move to Utah). Ryker looks so much like you and Carson has your energetic personality. Lily graduates from college this spring and I actually started class again (ugh, math). Jax has become an engineering genius. We gained a beautiful and sweet niece Emma.
I wish you and Lex were a part of it all. However you both are always there in spirit.
John O
January 26, 2021
We're all holding on with you! Cannot wait to welcome Michael and Addy back!
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2021
Over the years, trying circumstances, difficult challenges, and unforeseen occurrences have called for an inordinate amount of tenacity, faith, and perseverance on my part. However, truth be told, Michael's sudden death 12 years ago nearly broke my spirt... I survived, thankfully, but certainly not by my own strength. The inspired words at Psalms 94:17-19 reveal my true source of success: “If Jehovah had not been my helper, I would soon have perished. When I said: “My foot is slipping,” Your loyal love, O Jehovah, kept supporting me. When anxieties overwhelmed me, You comforted and soothed me.” And, of course, my wonderful family has also had a large share in sustaining me with their love, encouragement, and care. I am, to be sure, very richly blessed!
You never quite know what a year will bring—from unexpected challenges to unexpected blessings. In 2020 we tragically lost Michael’s Aunt Cindy and Uncle Dean within months of each other. We were also hit hard by the pandemic, the massive loss of life, the lockdowns, and the mask wearing, but there were some unexpected blessings, too. Our family continued to enjoy good health, safe homes, and secure employment, unlike so many others. Additionally, Michael’s nephew, Ryan Ascarte, married his high school sweetheart, Emma Jackson, on November 12, 2020 in Utah! They had a beautiful ceremony and a wonderful beginning for their new journey as husband and wife. I couldn’t attend due to the pandemic, but my joy has been doubled once again by the sweet addition of Emma to our family!
With another new year, and with every new day, we draw closer to Jehovah God’s promised resurrection. (John 5:28, 29.) I eagerly look forward to greeting Michael again, and all our lost loved ones, with open arms, joyful tears, and a heart bursting with love! During our happy reunion, I will happily recount everything they have missed, and I will also share the exciting events that have occurred during these last days. (2 Timothy 3:1-4)
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2020
It's hard to imagine, but my sweet baby boy would have been 45 years old today. We never celebrated birthdays, but I have always celebrated his life, even now. He infused my life with love, joy and spontaneous laughter! And, at times, he also caused pain, sadness and a river of tears, but I still wouldn't trade one moment of the time I had with him. His sudden death showed me how the landscape of a moment, a day, a life, can be forever altered in the blink of an eye After 11 years without him I have tried to adjust to his absence, but there will always be an empty chair, a missing voice, silenced laughter, and a hug longed for, even on the most beautiful days.
On days like today I find myself smiling at memories, but also wondering about all the things we both missed when his life was cut so short. I wonder about all the changes life would have brought to him as he aged. Would he have some gray hair, a mustache or a few wrinkles? Would he need glasses? Would his traumatic brain injury have continued to improve? I wonder if he would still love to eat baby back ribs or try to beat me at Risk. Would he still love the beach or love to watch Will Ferrell movies? Would he still love fast cars and listening to me singing to Neil Diamond? Would he still be strategizing over Fantasy Football?
Things that would never change were Michael's love for Jehovah, for his daughter, Lexus, and for his family; they were a constant in his heart! Despite his limitations from his TBI, he was still a deep thinker and often pondered on the state of the world and how prophecy was unfolding and being fulfilled. I wonder what he would think of the COVID-19 pandemic, or the new way our meetings are conducted on Zoom? Would he be shocked by the all the social unrest we are seeing? I'm sure he would recall II Timothy 3:1-5 and appreciate that the New System is getting closer every day. For me, each day brings me closer to seeing him again in the promised resurrection, (John 5:28, 29 and Revelation 21:3,4.), so I will show a waiting attitude for the God of my salvation. My God will hear me. - Micah 7:7.
Debi Ascarte
May 16, 2020
I have been blessed with seven grandchildren and two great-grandchildren over the years, so my life is very full and rich. There is a special bond between grandparents and their sweet grandchildren. They are the future, the priceless legacy left behind by grandparents to make this world a better place. They are also the ones who make you feel young at heart and carefree again
Today my granddaughter, Lexus Nicole Ascarte, will turn 19. She stepped into adulthood last year, and I hope she has made some very good choices for her life thus far. I havent seen her since she was 2, so all I can really do is keep this legacy of her father, Michael, for her. He wanted her to have the best life possible, but he has been gone now for almost 11 years. I can see from pictures posted online that she is beautiful, but I pray she is happy, healthy, well-loved, kind, caring and spiritual. I hope she is also confident, but not arrogant, brilliant but practical, fun loving but a hard worker. I hope she never gets disappointed when things dont go as expected, and always remains strong and never stops believing in herself. I love her to the depth of my soul and keep her close to my heart, and I always will.
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2020
What do you do when your whole world changes? For the first few months after losing Michael I didn't feel anything but my own pain, and there were days when the heaviness in my heart made each breath shallow and ragged; every step an effort. The loss of a child is something I could have never prepared for, but over the years I have learned that healing is not on a timetable. In fact, time doesn't fix this kind of loss. Healing comes from actively pursuing life again, which I am trying to do with my family's loving support and with Jehovah God's continuing care.
Writing about Michael on this Legacy page over the past eleven years has become my outlet and sanctuary where I can empty the depths of my sorrow and put my emotions safely to rest. I miss his big smile that still melts my heart and his loud infectious laugh that always made me want to laugh too He could just enter a room and brighten it with his smile, his attitude, or his presence. He had that special gift! In fact, every person he knew has a story about how funny he was! Despite all of the pain and turmoil in his life, he loved to laugh and to make others laugh, too. He never seemed to tire of watching comedies, which seemed to be very therapeutic. Will Ferrell, Chris Farley, and Adam Sandler movies were at the top of his list. He loved to quote them, too, so I think there is some truth in the saying, Laughter is the best medicine.
Even though I never thought I would say this, I miss our little trips to the Barnes & Noble, Fry's and Home Depot to get supplies or do research for his latest invention or project. I was usually exhausted after a full day at work and reluctant to spend my evenings walking down aisle after aisle in search of a special book on electric circuits, checking out the latest computer parts or finding tiny LED bulbs, etc. It was however something he really enjoyed, so even though I was tired I still tried to make it fun. I am very thankful now for that time and for all the memories I carry with me. So, whenever I eat his favorite foods, hear his favorite songs, watch his favorite movies, see his team play on TV, or glance at photos of him, I give thanks to Jehovah God for my 32 years with Michael. And, I heal a little more
Sadly, we lost Michael's Grandma Maxine on December 14, 2019. She was 97 years young and although she lived a full, wonderful life, she will be deeply missed! She was laid to rest in Healy, Kansas next to Michael's Grandpa Shelby, and where Michael's ashes were also scattered just as he requested. Although the list of loved ones that we all miss and yearn for continues to grow, we are confident that we will all be reunited in the coming resurrection. (John 5: 28, 29)
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2019
Michael Shelby Ascarte was born on July 1, 1975. It was a day filled with overwhelming awe, tremendous excitement and grateful thanksgiving. I wept tears of joy when he was born and tears of great sorrow when I lost him on January 25, 2009, but his life was a special gift I that have deeply treasured for the past 44 years.
Losing Michael changed me forever in many ways I see beauty in things I didn't have time for in the past and I am more thankful for each new day, even when things are difficult. I say I love you more now and I look for ways to be kinder. I try harder to be more patient, more understanding, more forgiving, and hopefully, less judgmental. More importantly, my faith and trust in Jehovah and his loving promises has grown even stronger. (Acts 24:15; John 3:16; 5:28, 29; 1 Thessalonians 4:13.)
Although Michael has been gone for more than 10 years now, those we love never truly leave us there are things that death cannot touch! He will always be loved, never forgotten, and forever missed!
Debi Ascarte
May 18, 2019
As of May 16th my precious granddaughter turned 18! This was very special for her, and for me, since I have been patiently waiting until she came of age to communicate with her. Although I have been very ill and in the hospital 3 times over the past 2 weeks, I composed a letter, which I sent to Lexus in care of her other grandparents. I am praying she not only received the letter, but that she will also respond to it.
I love you Lexus and I will be here whenever you are ready
Grandma
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2019
No matter how many years go by, the anniversary date of when Michael died still brings back intense feelings and emotions. On the days leading up to January 25th I always seem to have a heightened sense of vulnerability and often feel like I'm having a panic attack, like it's hard to breathe but even after ten years there will never come a day, hour, minute or second that I stop loving or thinking about him.
No, even with the passage of time I will never forget my sweet boy The reality of his absence is always right under the surface of other emotions, even happiness. I know my dear son, Lee, and my precious daughters, Christine and Erica, also miss Michael deeply however the journey I walk is my own. I am, and forever will be, his mother and, that being said, I will carry this child for the rest of my life. He lives within me, forever a young man of 32. Handsome, extremely funny and yes, often exasperating!
Although I do experience moments of sadness and feel a deep sense of loss at times, I am so profoundly thankful that I have the assured promise of the resurrection from our grand Creator, Jehovah God. (John 5:28, 29; 11:25; Acts 24:15) And like so many others, I continue to yearn for the day when I will see my darling son, Michael, and all my lost loved ones once again!
Connie Ryan
December 5, 2018
Hi Debi I hope you remember me it's Connie Ryan It's been 44 years but we took our natural childbirth classes at your home when I was pregnant with my daughter. You and Adrian have crossed my mind so many times and I have always tried to locate you . I even tried Cindy and Karen but no luck, I can't believe. what I am reading right now about your son , I'm so so sorry to hear this news . I would love to catch up with you. I'm on Facebook also. Please give me a call would love to hear from you ❤
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2018
This has always been a very special day for me My beautiful son, my rainbow baby, would have been 43 years old today! The day he was born was a time in my life that was near perfect. And, although my wild child was far from perfect, he still filled my heart, and my life, with unimaginable love, joy and laughter.
I miss Michael every day and even though it's been nine and a half years since I lost him, tears still surprise me sometimes. Thankfully, every day that passes is another day closer to welcoming him back in the Resurrection! - John 5:28, 29.
Debi Ascarte
June 4, 2018
I have been posting comments for my sweet granddaughter, Lexus, on May 16th every year since her Dad passed away in 2009. I was sick this year and in the hospital, so although this post is very late, it is filled with all my love.
It's hard to believe that Lexus, this small bundle of joy that I was privileged to welcome into the world, will be a Senior this Fall Of course, time doesn't stand still; all of my grandchildren are growing up so fast and starting new journeys. Ryan just graduated from high school on May 24th and Carter is graduating from 8th grade on June 6th. Lily and Austin will both be in their second year of college. Lily wants to be a psychologist and Austin wants to be an ultrasound technician. Matthew and Cameron are both fire fighters and they are both married. Cameron has a one-year old little boy with another on the way. So, my dear little one, I wonder what your goals and aspirations are?
As always, I pray that you are a happy, healthy 17 year-old; safe and secure, enjoying fun activities with good friends, keeping family close to your heart and remembering Jehovah in your youth. - Ecclesiastes 12:1.
I love you with all my heart and look forward to seeing what the next year brings And so, the countdown begins!
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2018
It's now nine years in and every day without Michael still hurts The feelings of loss haven't gone away, but they have thankfully changed. Some days are harder than others, but Jehovah has continued to help me maintain some sort of calm and peace that guards my heart from the intractable pain. (Psalm 55:22; Psalm 34:18) My heart still beats and life goes on, however the last 3,260 days without Michael has required an inner strength that I didn't know I had!
I have tried to share happy memories of Michael in all my previous entries, but he wasn't perfect, of course, and neither was his life He faced daily challenges after his brain injury, many of which he failed over and over again, but he always continued to try. In spite of his limitations he still chose to continue serving Jehovah and I am very proud of him for that! Not all who hear believe, yet this broken, wounded man-child strongly believed in Jehovah's love and mercy, in the ransom sacrifice and in the coming resurrection. Really, despite my loss, what more could I ask?
Rest well my son, until Jehovah awakens you...
July 1, 1975
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2017
Another day, another year It's hard to believe, but Michael would be 42 today! Life goes on and so much has changed, but there hasn't been one day when I haven't felt his absence. He is especially missed during family gatherings, which he always enjoyed so much, and we have celebrated many life changing events this year without him. His nephews are both married now and Cameron became the proud daddy of Carson Lee in March. Austin and Lily both graduated from high school last month and will be attending college this August. Lily is going away to University in Southern California and Austin is going local. Michael's daughter, Lexus, and his nephew, Ryan will be seniors now, and Carter will be in the 8th grade!
Happy times, family times, busy times I am so blessed to see our family grow and change, and I am looking forward to sharing all this with Michael after the Resurrection, which draws closer every day. - John 5:28, 29
Debi Ascarte
May 16, 2017
Sweet Sixteen! Another year has passed, and another milestone has been achieved by my beautiful granddaughter, Lexus. I hope that her dreams become a reality and that she enjoys amazing and unforgettable experiences everyday! I hope she is learning important lessons, lessons her dear father, Michael, had hoped to instruct her in and the kind that shapes you for a lifetime. She's now ready to embrace her freedom with a new driver's license, and soon she'll be graduating from high school, and will later leave home as a young adult. The future is hers for the taking
My wish for her is simple to say but not so easy to do: I hope she lives a full life full of joy and wonder, full of loving family, full of trustworthy friends and, finally, full of Jehovah's blessings!
I love you, always,
Grandma
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2017
The memories of happy moments spent with Michael still live on, as always, even though today marks the 8th year without him. Losing him truly changed my life forever, but as I look back over the years, I realize that each of my children shared in changing my life They showed me new ways to love, new things to find joy in, and new ways to look at the world. These changes are a part of their unique legacy and will always be a part of me.
When Michael died, I not only lost a child but also a close friend, a link to my granddaughter, Lexus, and a special source of love and support. He was, without a doubt, my wild child, but he taught me a lot about serving Jehovah despite personal challenges, health issues and physical limitations. He struggled to put fleshly attitudes and behaviors aside and to focus on his spirituality, and, like a lot of us, he failed many times. However, no matter how many times he fell, he always humbled himself, asked for forgiveness and tried again. I respect that and I love him all the more because of it!
So much has changed over the past 8 years, yet so much remains the same... Life is still very busy and full of interesting surprises, like the fact that Donald Trump was just sworn in as the 45th President of the United States! No one saw that coming! There have also been many progressive and exciting changes to Jehovah's earthly Organization. The websites, JW.org and JW Broadcasting are amazing and instep with today's advancing technology. The Web sites are powerful preaching tools, making the good news available even in lands where our work is restricted or banned. Michael would have loved it! Our family is moving ahead, too, and growing with the addition of Matt's wife, Sarah, and the expected birth of Cameron's baby boy. It's hard to believe, but Lee will be a Grandpa soon and I will be a Great-Grandma!
Yes, life goes on, so after the promised Resurrection there will be so much to share with Michael and all of our lost loved ones!
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2016
It's already been a busy summer and it's only July 1st So many changes that Michel would have had to adjust to, like turning 41 today and having a 15 year old daughter! Time doesn't stand still and life is always busy. I was diagnosed with cancer again and had surgery May 23rd, which would have made Michael a nervous wreck, but I'm scheduled for radiation treatments beginning July 7th and should be cancer free!
Thankfully, I was able to go to Utah where I attended Matt's wedding on June 25th, which was beautiful. He married Sarah, his high school sweetheart, and Michael's cousin and best friend, Kevin, officiated. He did a great job, which made us all very happy. Lee was the proud Papa and in tears half the night It was wonderful to have everyone together, although Aunt Cindy and Uncle Chris could not attend. Jeff and the boys stayed behind to take care of Chris so Tina and Cody could make the wedding. Of course, Michael and Adrian were dearly missed, as always!
Cameron has a girlfriend and Austin is driving now, with Lily and Ryan following close behind. Yes, life continues to press forward at a fast pace, but a day doesn't go by that I don't think of my son, and miss him! I am looking forward to seeing him soon and giving him a big hug. We will have a wonderful time catching up on all the things he has missed and telling him about all the events that led up to the Last Days!
Christine Olson
May 23, 2016
Thinking of Michael and all the crazy funny stories... Was thinking he'd get a kick out of Moms personal "cuppie" she's sporting today!
Look forward to being reunited with him to share some of the moments he's missed out on.
Also can't wait to meetup with Lexus, can't believe she's 15 this year! Where does the time go? See ya soon lil brother
Debi Ascarte
May 16, 2016
Thinking of my precious granddaughter, Lexus, as she turns 15 The day she was born she filled a space in my heart that I never knew was empty! I hope and pray that she is happy, healthy and staying close to Jehovah. Yes, Michael's beautiful baby girl is deeply loved and will never be forgotten by our family.
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2016
January 25th is always a time for sweet reflection After 7 years I still think of Michael every day and dream of him almost every night. There are so many good memories, like staying in San Francisco for our District Conventions, spending the day in the city, eating lunch on the wharf, taking a ride on the trolley and of course, Michael's funny photo ops! Erica, Lily, and Christine and I had planned to spend today there, but unfortunately we had to cancel due to illness. Lily, however, arranged for a special visit to Capital Barbershop, a frequent hangout of Michael's. Although the shop is closed on Monday's, Charlie kindly agreed to open it so Lily and Erica could see the wall mural of Michael again. It's quite impressive and a wonderful tribute to the son, brother, uncle, nephew, grandson, father and friend we all miss so much!
Elizabeth Barron
November 15, 2015
Just missing you a little extra today.
Debi Ascarte
October 26, 2015
Of all the roads we traveled together, I am happy to say that you enjoyed our trips to the family farm in Kansas the best. It has always been the definition of home to me and it is where my heart is the most content. It's my family roots, my grounding and my comfort zone, and now, my darling son, it is also your final resting place...
In honor of your request, your ashes were scattered at your Grandpa Shelby's grave on August 1, 2015. Now two of my favorite men are finally resting together until the coming Resurrection!
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2015
Oh, sweet child of mine, even though it's been 40 years since you were born I will never forget that special day. Happy memories always come flooding back and I catch myself smiling... Remembering how you would almost dance your diapers off, cry when you watched Wild Kingdom, or cock your head to the side with a mischievous grin when you wanted something whether it was good or bad for you. I miss you with all my heart, sweet baby boy, and I am thankful for every day you were here!
[The years of our life] quickly pass by, and away we fly.Ps. 90:10.
May 17, 2015
Looking at Lexus is like looking at Michael, how much she has his features! The hope is to one day meet Lexus, and more importantly to watch Michael and his daughter fall into each others arms...
Debi Ascarte
May 16, 2015
Sometimes a picture really is worth a thousand words
At 14, there are still so many possibilities ahead, but I can see the essence of who Lexus may be one day, and it makes me smile. I miss her every day and long to see her, but I am confident that Jehovah, the Originator of the family arrangement and the Hearer of prayers, will reunite us in time. Whatever the future holds for us, I just want my darling granddaughter to know she is loved unconditionally, and forever!
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2015
Even though I think of Michael every day, the 25th came upon me quite suddenly this year. For me, that's emotional progress! I know that the grief process is a personal journey and it affects everyone differently, but we all live our life in phases. When one ends, another begins. Change is constant, yet life goes on…
Although my heart is healing, I admit that I am still adjusting to life without my darling son! I miss his smile, his contagious laughter, the sound of his voice, and his sparkling brown eyes that were always dancing with mischief. He challenged me with his childish antics, crazy stunts, and wild dreams, but he also inspired me, encouraged me and kept me on point.
Six years, and many tears, later, I am confident that Michael would be happy to know that my circumstances are good and that I am doing well. He would be so proud to see how his sisters have responded to my needs. Although they have very busy lives, they have been a constant source of love, encouragement and support.
Of course, Michael will be full of many questions when we meet again. He will want to know all about the changing world situation and the progressive changes in the organization and preaching work. It's an exciting time and there will be so much to share with him. He will also be interested in what happened in the lives of his friends and family. Since my last entry Molly got married; Taylor and Peyton were baptized; Celeste's daughter, Adrienne, had a baby boy; Elena married Aaron and they just had a baby girl. Uncle Bud had surgery on his hand to correct Dupuytren's Contracture, or as he calls it, “the Wilson Family curse” and I just celebrated 18 months cancer free. Woo hoo!
Yes, change is constant and life goes on, but I will always miss my darling son until we meet again. Thankfully, the fulfillment of Jehovah's loving promise of the Resurrection draws closer every day and it cannot fail. (Hebrews 6:18; Numbers 23:19)
John Olson
August 15, 2014
Michael, my son, I am reminded of your loss in my life as I contemplate the loss of another dear friend this week. As Jehovah's people we are saddened by the loss of any of those we care for, but the pain that lingers for years and years following a loss of someone we know as family in our hearts is a different one, one that truly shapes our life.
Your loss is that kind of loss, all these years later. Tears still flow easily, the photos in this guestbook still bring back memories as if they were yesterday, and, in the end, all of this crystalizes and makes firm our hope in the incredible promise that we will see you again.
We are comforted by the knowledge that we can share our personal thoughts like this and know that all who love you so deeply are joined in our desire to hold you, laugh with you, and move forward in eternal life with you at our side.
While you sleep peacefully, quietly, we are fighting the fight to the finish, with you embraced deeply within our hearts.
Mom and Carter @ the Sacramento Regional Convention
Christine Olson
July 2, 2014
I remember the day you were born, I was 5 years old. You were born at our home in S. California and I remember the shrieks from Chris Kidd because you peed right in her face! LOL Should have known then that you were going to mischievous and full of laughter! We miss you every day and of course it's especially felt when we go to our Annual Conventions that you always looked forward to. You would have loved the one we went to this past weekend, it was INCREDIBLE! It is the 100 year Centennial for God's Kingdom 1914-2014... we know it won't be too far off now until we are all reunited in Jehovah's promised paradise. We know what God promises it will NOT fail but WILL come true! - Isa.55:10,11 We look forward to seeing you SOON little brother and Addie too! xoxo
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2014
Remembering my darling son and the day he was born 39 years ago. We had just attended our 4 day “Divine Sovereignty” District Assembly at Dodger Stadium in Los Angeles. I was 3 weeks overdue, sunburned, very swollen and tired, but thankful that I didn't go into labor there since we had planned for a home delivery. The very next morning we welcomed our sweet, healthy baby boy into our family, and named him Michael Shelby after my Dad. It was the perfect day…
This past weekend we attended our 3 day “Keep Seeking First God's Kingdom!” Convention in Sacramento and Michael's absence was profoundly felt, as always. I miss him so much, but I am thankful for his life and for the great joy he brought to mine. I am looking forward to the Resurrection and excited to see all our loved ones again very soon!
John Olson
June 12, 2014
Thinking of Michael this day... Like a son to me. I so look forward to seeing this man again.
Debi Ascarte
June 6, 2014
Congratulations, graduates! This was the last day of school for all our kids, young and old… Cameron graduated from the Fire Academy, following in the footsteps of his brother, Matthew, and his Dad, who is a Battalion Chief. Ryan graduated from 8th grade and will be in high school in the Fall! Lily and Austin will be sophomores, and Carter will be in the 5th grade. Lexus will be in the 8th grade and my niece, Kate, will be in the 7th grade!
I am very proud to see all my grandkids doing so well and reaching for their goals! They are growing up so quickly, but they still try to make the most of their summer breaks! Michael would have been right in the middle of their squirt gun fights, pool parties, campouts and road trips, so his presence will be greatly missed, as always … He loved us all so much and would want everyone to enjoy the summer, so let the fun begin!
Debi Ascarte
May 20, 2014
Congratulations, Lexus, on becoming an official teenager this month! Your Dad would be so proud of you and the beautiful, young woman you are becoming! He wanted the very best for you, so I hope your life is filled with wonder, joy, good health, happiness, great friends, and most of all, love!
Despite the miles between us, you are always in my thoughts and prayers, Sweet Pea! I love you…
(I just got out of the hospital so I wasn't able to post this on the 16th.)
Mark Cooley
January 25, 2014
Some of my best memories are hanging out with the Spola crew in Kyburz.
They were extended weekends that I wished would never end despite the absence of a shower. We would stay up until dawn playing cards, telling stories and talking trash about each others teams.
There are people in life who you cross paths with that you will never forget. Mike was one of those people. Thankyou for being a part of my life. I know we will cross paths again brother.
Christine Olson
January 25, 2014
Another year has come and gone... can't believe it has been 5 years now! Although we miss and think of Michael often, we are comforted knowing God's promise that he will soon reunite us with those we love! - John 5: 28 & 29
We all look forward to that time when we can share our stories with him and all life's adventures that has transpired along the way. Carter said today that he was dedicating his 1st Basketball game of the season to "Uncle Mike". Well Carter made good...with a blowout game and scoring 18 points! We miss having Michael in our cheering section, he was always so enthusiastic and encouraging.
We are all doing well and pressing forward as we know it's not long off before we will see you and Dad again. Miss you little brother! xoxo
Debi Ascarte
January 25, 2014
It doesn't seem possible, but today marks the 5th year without Michael! Nothing, not even photos, can come close to being connected with him ‘in person', but my heart is able to endure his absence because I know that the longer he is gone, the closer I am to seeing him again in the New System! I still miss the warmth of his hug, the reaction of his smile, the joy of his infectious laughter and even the tears of tender conversations we shared about missing his daughter, but writing about him, telling his stories and how he helped mold my life has been very healing. I hope that it will also help fill in some of the blanks Lexus will undoubtedly have about her father, his family and his life.
There are so many memories I could share, but a few of my favorites include:
• When Michael was little he created his own words like ‘ouchie bouchie'
• His hilarious movie dialogue quotes
• How much he loved baby-back ribs and hot wings
• Playing Scrabble and singing karaoke
• Watching Survivor together
• The fun he had playing with his niece and nephews
• Our road trips to Bodega Bay, Utah and Kansas
• His never-ending photo ops
• Making our emergency/disaster backpacks
• Giving Lexus' picture a kiss goodnight, every night
We all yearn to know our heritage - to know who we are and where we came from so I hope I can share these memories and many more with my granddaughter someday. Family is part of our internal blueprint; it is our link to the past and a bridge to our future. It is my true compass and my heart's real home, so no matter what happens in life, Michael, and Lexus, will always reside there…
Lily Barron
January 25, 2014
I miss you uncle mike, can't believe it's been 5 years without you here, I love you??
July 1, 1975
Debi Ascarte
July 1, 2013
My sweet baby boy would be 38 today, so I took a happy walk down “Memory Lane”. I remember how much he loved his Binky, and when it was time to give it up he went through the motions of throwing it away like a “big boy”. He was given lots of praise and seemed quite proud of himself, but obviously regretted it by bedtime and decided to take Erica's. It took us a while to figure it out and by then he had quite a stash of pacifiers under his pillow, under his bed and hidden throughout the house! Needless to say it took a little longer to break his habit than we expected.
Michael also loved to dance to the theme song of the Gong Show! He would shake his fanny so hard to “Gene, Gene the dancing machine” that his diaper would almost fall off. He was hysterical, and humor became second nature to him. When he was older he thought he had a chicken bone caught in his throat, he also thought a potato was growing in his head and he got an M&M stuck in his nose… He was a handful of energy, curiosity and wonder! He filled my days with endless questions, and taught me about things I never knew I'd be interested in, like Japanese Hornets, LED lights, RISK and Fantasy Football picks. I still miss him every day, but I remember the good times we shared, smile at the memories, and feel comforted by love.
Debi Ascarte
June 23, 2013
Last week we lost Michael's dad to serious illness… Although it was very sudden, he chose to come home with his family where he was attended to and surrounded by all his children, their spouses and his grandchildren. Thankfully, he slipped away peacefully in the midst of our love, honor and gentle comfort.
Michael's dad, Adrian, was my high school sweetheart, the father of my 4 precious children and the love of my life for 46 years! He touched all of our lives in many different ways, but he will always be remembered with love and affection, and deeply missed! Although we are all grieving his loss, we can be confident that “the Father of tender mercies and the God of all comfort” understands our despair and will provide us with the strength we need to endure, and to heal. (2 Corinthians 1:3)
One of Michael's greatest hopes was for his family to stay close to each other, to stay strong in the faith and to be reunited with him after the resurrection. We each need to do our part for that to be realized, but that wonderful hope for his dad now rests in Jehovah God's loving hands!
Rest well, my love, until we meet again…
Adrian Ascarte July 14, 1950 – June 15, 2013
Christine Olson
May 31, 2013
Carter gave his 1st Bible Reading tonight, he did such an amazing job, you would have been so proud! Just not the same without you lil brother! xoxo
Debi Ascarte
May 17, 2013
Twelve years ago on May 16th, I stood in the delivery room and watched the miracle of life unfold as my sweet, precious granddaughter, Lexus Nicole Ascarte, made her entrance into the world. It was a great day for her parents, and quite possibly the happiest day of her Daddy's life! I was blessed to share that special moment and to witness the beginning of a baby girl's incredible journey through life. The next few years were filled with love, joy and wonder as she grew and flourished.
Lexus is a preteen now and growing up so quickly! She describes herself as “fun”, and she likes baseball and sports, which is so much like her Dad. Of course, her looks have changed over the past nine and a half years, but she still has the same twinkle in her eye and she tilts her head to the side when she smiles, just like Michael. Their likeness is undeniable!
My beautiful grandchild left footprints on my heart, just like her father, and she will always be a part of me. I pray for her health, happiness and well-being, as always, and for the day when we will be reunited! Ah, little one, I love you so…
Christine Olson
May 17, 2013
Lexus, can't believe another year passes by and now you are 12 years old! You are almost officially a teenager! Your Dad would have been so happy to see the young woman you are becoming... we hope to all be together soon! Thinking of you always! xoxo Aunt TT & Fam
100% Michael!
May 15, 2013
Celeste & John Olson
May 6, 2013
Michael~ You are missed every day by all who knew and loved you. How could anyone help but love you! Your smile was infectious...your laughter could lift anyone's mood...and your love and concern for others was evident in all that you said and did. We never had the pleasure of meeting your beautiful daughter but we will never forget the love in your eyes when you spoke of her. We look forward to the day when Jehovah ends the sadness and pain of this system and those sleeping hear his voice. What a wonderful day that will be! We love you so much and feel your absence deeply ~ But You are Always, Always Remembered With Love and a Smile.
~ Celeste & John ~
Christine Olson
March 21, 2013
Congratulations Lexus for making student of the Month! Way to go Forkner Cowboys! We are so proud of you, I know your Daddy would be too! We love you, Aunt TT & Family xoxo
Happy Cousins - Lexus Nicole Ascarte, Austin Olson & Lily Barron
Christine Olson
March 21, 2013
Molly
January 31, 2013
Something that always stood out to me about Michael was his ability to light up a room. If you were at a gathering, and Michael was there...at his table or near him is where you wanted to be. You were guaranteed laughter until your face hurt. I look forward to the day when Jehovah God fulfills his promise and resurrects those asleep in death. I can't wait to see his smiling face..and of course laugh my butt off with him.
Mom's favorite "Beach Boys" at HB
Debi Ascarte
January 29, 2013
Baptism - October 2, 1994
Debi Ascarte
January 29, 2013
"Muddy buddies!"
Debi Ascarte
January 29, 2013
brandon smith
January 28, 2013
Mike, romos stats were awesome, I still wear the jersey you gave me every cowboys game I watch. I wonder if you can hear my heart when I imagine you with me when dallas plays. Miss you buddy, you were stolen from me too soon...........ill never watch a dallas game alone, your always in my heart.
January 27, 2013
Mivhael, I wasn't around you a lot but what a personality you had, always smiling and happy. You would do anything for anyone. I remember the sweet little boy when you were out in Kansas to see your Grandpa and Grandma Wilson, and I remember the loving grandson who came out to the funeral of his Grandpa in April of 2007. There will always be an empty spot in my heart when I remember you.
Love, Grandma Maxine Wilson
Michael, TT, Lee & Erica
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Best friends!
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Michael & Josh Baker
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Michael & Carter
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
TT, Michael, Lee, Erica & cousin, Jeff
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Michael & Lexus
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Sunny days in Frisco!
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Mom & Michael
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Erica & Michael
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Cookie time!
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Michael's new arrival!
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Some dirty fun!
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Erica, Michael & TT
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Michael & his little "Snow Bunny"
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Michael & TT
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Michael & friends
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Lee, Michael & cousin, Jeff
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Gus & Michael
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Rocklin - 2001
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Good night, baby sister!
Debi Ascarte
January 26, 2013
Mom & Dad - sporting Cowboys Jerseys in honor of Mike
Christine Olson
January 26, 2013
Kristi, Erica, Chey & Lulu
Christine Olson
January 26, 2013
First Super Bowl without Michael - Jan. 29, 2009
Christine Olson
January 26, 2013
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Estate Settlement Guide
If you’re in charge of handling the affairs for a recently deceased loved one, this guide offers a helpful checklist.
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Obituaries, grief & privacy: Legacy’s news editor on NPR podcast
Legacy's Linnea Crowther discusses how families talk about causes of death in the obituaries they write.
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The Five Stages of Grief
They're not a map to follow, but simply a description of what people commonly feel.
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Obituary Examples
You may find these well-written obituary examples helpful as you write about your own family.
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Obituary Templates – Customizable Examples and Samples
These free blank templates make writing an obituary faster and easier.
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How Do I Write a Eulogy?
Some basic help and starters when you have to write a tribute to someone you love.
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