Menu
Search by Name
Search by Name
Eric Valkema Obituary
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
Memories and Condolences
for Eric Valkema
Sponsored by Eric's family.
Angie Gottbreht
September 21, 2023
Thinking of you today. I think of you often and miss you! Love, Angie
Robin Joy Maxson
September 21, 2023
Son, there are no words. Time does not heal this loss. Love, Mom.
Cathy Welch-Eckey
September 21, 2022
Pete and I miss your bright smile. Love, Cathy
Jacqui
September 21, 2022
It's crazy to think that we have been missing you for 17 years now. We miss you always. Love you Big Brother <3
Robin Joy Maxson
September 21, 2021
Hi Son. We visited you this last Friday and had a picnic lunch in your honor. We stayed and chatted for 2 hours. You are always with us and we are always with you. Love you very much! Love, Mom
Angela Gottbreht
July 10, 2021
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always. I think of you often and miss you, I have some comfort knowing my mom can be with you now. I miss and love you both so much!
Shannon
July 9, 2021
Shannon
July 9, 2021
Shannon
July 9, 2021
Shannon
July 9, 2021
Aunt Sue passed away late last month and as I was looking for old photos, I found several of you from my wedding and it made me smile and tear up. You're missed by everyone...I can't believe it's been 16 years already. I'm somewhat comforted, and I'm sure your dad is too, knowing that you were waiting for Auntie on the other side. We love and miss you Eric...
Robin Maxson
January 8, 2020
Erics Birthday Quiz 2019 and Answers
1.What type of animal did Eric always want to get for the ranch? Answer: A
A.Burro
B.Hog
C.Llama
2.One of Erics favorite places to go with his mother was: Answer: B
A.Beach in Del Mar
B.Thornbury Nursery in Poway
C.Back-to-School Night
3.In 1992 what did Eric do for a science project? Answer: C
A.Collected spiders
B.Incubated 4 types of chicken eggs in the garage
C.Baked 4 types of cookies at his Grandma Palfys house
4.One of Erics early skill building assignments was to: Answer: A
A.Lacquer a wicker couch
B.Dig a hole to China
C.Saw down a tree
5.Which group did Eric belong to as a boy? Answer: B
A.Indian Guides
B.Cub Scouts
C.Awana
6.True or False Eric has been caught fishing without a valid fishing license? Answer: True
7.True or False One time ASTREA was involved in an incident? Answer: True
8.To check the depth of the well on our ranch Eric: Answer: B
A.Dropped rocks to measure the amount of time until they splashed.
B.Tied himself to a rope and went down the well to measure the distance to water.
C.Used a strong flashlight to estimate the distance to the water.
9.When preparing for his wedding Eric teased Brieanne that he was going to wear what colored tux: Answer: C
A.Teal
B.Pink
C.Powder blue
10.Erics first theatre movie was: Answer: B
A.Mary Poppins
B.Bambi
C.Transformers
Susan Valkema
September 27, 2019
We love and miss you Eric!
Jacqui Korch
September 18, 2018
Love you Big Brother <3
Robin Maxson
September 17, 2018
Eric's Annual Traditional Turkey Dinner Party will be held this year on his birthday - Saturday, November 10th. The time is 4:00 pm. The location is our home: 17532 Highway 67, Ramona. This year would have been Eric's 39th birthday. Please come and celebrate Eric with us.
Robin Maxson
September 17, 2018
Today is thirteen years since you left unexpectedly. Today we follow your annual tradition of decorating for Fall (Halloween). You are with us everyday. That never changes and never will. We love you son.
Robin Maxson
November 6, 2017
Eric's Quiz for 2017 with answers marked:
1.Eric's favorite book of all time?
A.Cannery Row
B.The Beast
C.Last of the Breed XXX
2.What instrument did Eric play?
A.Trumpet
B.Drums
C.Guitar XXX
3.What did Eric break?
A.Foot
B.Leg
C.Arm XXX
4.What did Eric's mom find in his jean's pocket after removing the clothes from the dryer?
A.Bubble gum
B.$100 bill
C.Snake XXX
5.Where would Eric stop after work?
A.Auto Zone
B.LA Fitness XXX
C.Pizza Hut
6.Eric had to wear a cast as the result of?
A.Swinging from a gate at school XXX
B.Falling out of a tree
C.Tripping over his own feet
7.Eric went to Holland to:
A.Drink Heineken
B.Appear on a television show XXX
C.Ride a bike
8.Eric read all of the books of which author?
A.Louis L'Amour XXX
B.Peter Benchley
C.Zane Grey
9.Eric's favorite scene from Cannery Row is?
A.Mack's surprise party for Doc
B.The great frog expedition XXX
C.Doc ordering a beer milkshake
10.Sunday breakfast would most likely be at?
A.The Old Telephone Company XXX
B.The Hamburger Factory
C.IHOP
Jacqui Korch
February 4, 2016
We love you brother. I can't wait to see if Grayson has any of you in him :)
Robin Maxson
February 3, 2016
Here are the answers to Eric's quiz for 2015 - last November!
1.Back in the day Eric sent away via mail order for what? (Answer B)
A.Cowboy Boots
B.Atlantic Giant Pumpkin Seeds
C.Monster Truck Tires
2.During Eric's baking phase what item was most likely in the oven? (Answer B)
A.Cake
B.Brownies
C.Cookies
3.While working at D3 Technologies, Eric took what computer course through UCSD Extension? (Answer A)
A.UNIX
B.JAVA
C.FoxPro
4.For which carburetor did Eric conduct intensive research? (Answer A)
A.Predator
B.Weber
C.Tengchang
5.Eric snuck home a small animal and left it in his room without telling me. What animal was this? (Answer C)
A.A mouse
B.A puppy
C.A cat
6.Eric preferred with cola? (Answer C)
A.Shasta
B.Coke
C.Pepsi
7.What was most likely sneaked across state lines by Eric? (Answer A)
A.Fireworks
B.A chicken
C.Fresh fruit
8.One time in Mammoth Eric had to stay in a condo for 3 days. Why? (Answer C)
A.He had the flu.
B.He had a broken arm.
C.He had gone snow blind.
9.What exciting activity did Eric do with his Mom when he turned 16 years old? (Answer B)
A.Took a cooking class together.
B.Took a ballroom dancing class together.
C.Took a gardening class together.
10.What was Eric's first car? (Answer A)
A.Chevy Station
B.Toyota Truck
C.Mitsubishi Montero
Robin Joy Maxson
September 22, 2015
Last week we observed the 10th year of Eric's passing. In honor of Eric we followed our tradition for the day of having a meal at The Hamburger Factor, hanging out at the cemetery and "talking" to Eric, refreshing the flowers at his roadside memorial and decorating the house for Halloween (his favorite holiday). Additionally, we brought home a puppy for Eric's little brother, Dan, as you all know Eric loves animals. The puppy was named "Sophie."
This year we are moving Eric's Traditional "Potluck" Turkey Dinner to November 8th - 2 days before his actual birthday. This will be a Sunday and will make it easier for everyone to attend. Please mark your calendars for Sunday, November 8th. We look forward to seeing everyone, eating turkey and toasting Eric as we do each year. Love you all.
-Robin and Terry
Robin Maxson
November 24, 2014
Eric's 35th birthday party was fantastic and on a work night, too. We had a lot of people and a lot of food. I believe Eric would really enjoy his "toast" and I challenge another to deliver the toast next year. Here are the answers to this year's Eric Quiz!
1.Over which ingredient did Eric have a tantrum and refused to eat? (B)
A. Pepperoni
B. Mushrooms
C. Cottage Cheese
2. How many years did Eric work for D3 Technologies? (C)
A. Three
B. Five
C. Seven
3. As a fellow commuter to work and back in Kearny Mesa – what events did Eric regularly email to his mother involving the drive? (A)
A. Did you see that (various animals) in the road this morning?
B. Did you see that (various car parts) in the road this morning?
C. Did you see that Sheriff's car waiting on Poway Road this morning?
4. Eric wrote politically oriented letters to support which objective? (C)
A. Saving the coastline for fishing.
B. Saving the forest for camping.
C. Saving the desert for off-roading.
5. Regarding a much contested political contest in Poway, Eric “voiced” his opposition by doing what? (A)
A. Removing the signs of the proponent.
B. Writing dozens of Letters to the Editor.
C. Handing out flyers in front of Stater Brothers.
6. At what age did Eric finally stop crying about getting his hair cut? (C)
A. Four
B. Eight
C. Twelve
7. Eric's favorite holiday for “celebrating” is: (C)
A. Christmas
B. Independence Day
C. Halloween
8. Which interests and skills of Eric's will be passed to little brother Daniel through David and Jacqui? (D)
A. How to grow the biggest pumpkin.
B. How to work on a truck.
C. How to landscape a yard.
D. All of the above.
9. Which sports did Eric play as a youngster? (D)
A. Swimming
B. Soccer
C. Archery
D. All of the above.
10. In which play did Eric appear? (B)
A. Mary Poppins
B. Fiddler on the Roof
C. Hamlet
susan valkema
November 10, 2014
Happy Birthday Eric, wish Fred and I could be there to help celebrate your 35th. We love and miss you.
Robin Maxson
October 28, 2014
2014: Time for Eric's 35th birthday celebration. Eric's annual Potluck Turkey Dinner will begin around 6:00pm on Monday, November 10th. As this is after work for most of us the start time is a suggested beginning. You can show up at any point in the evening. All family and friends of Eric's are invited. Please bring your Eric stories and we will toast his birthday.
Also, let me know if you will be bringing a "dish" to his dinner - bringing a dish is optional. See you there. [email protected]
Robin Joy Maxson
November 21, 2013
This latest birthday celebration for Eric's 34th was fantastic! There were so many people we almost ran out of meat, but thankfully Eric's boss, Don, and his wife brought a ham big enough to feed a crowd. We had a toast to Eric and even the little kids had a glass of water to hold up. Thank you to everyone for coming out to the Ranch and celebrating Eric. This year we had an “Eric Quiz” – 10 questions that challenged everyone to think about some little known facts regarding Eric. The winner was Kevin Reminga with an astounding 9 out of 10 correct. Here is the quiz with answers:
1. One of Eric's favorite meals is: (A)
A. Tuna Noodle Casserole
B. Pasta with Mushrooms
C. Liver and Onions
2. Which is a skill that Eric perfected in high school: (B)
A. Painting
B. Flower Arranging
C. Cabinet Making
3. Eric loved to do what activity on Saturday morning: (C)
A. Sleep in very late and then watch television
B. Sleep in a little late and then go surfing
C. Wake up too early and have coffee with his mother
4. In high school Eric wrote a passionate letter in regards to the pros and cons of saving which animal he found on campus: (C)
A. A toad
B. A duck
C. A cat
5. How many years was Eric in the 4-H Club of Poway: (B)
A. 2 years
B. 4 years
C. 6 years
6. Eric's first job was: (B)
A. Working for the movie theatre
B. Working for the feed store
C. Working for Lake Poway
7. Eric and his brother were infamous for what activity: (D)
A. Trying to start a tractor on a construction site
B. Creating a dry creek bed using rocks from the South Poway Business Park
C. Exploring the sewers of Poway; encountering bats and turtles
D. All of the above
8. Eric and his brother were caught floating in their raft down a swollen creek during a rain storm. The sheriffs returned them to their mother. What was the punishment for this infraction: (B)
A. Picking up trash along the creek bed
B. Cutting up their raft
C. Time out in their rooms
9. For Eric's first Halloween, what costume did he wear: (B)
A. Devil
B. Angel
C. Clown
10. What word has “always” been mispronounced by Eric: (C)
A. Magazine
B. Diapers
C. Pancakes
Robin Joy Maxson
November 7, 2013
2013: It is time again for Eric's birthday celebration. This will be Eric's 34th birthday. The family is holding our annual Potluck Turkey Dinner at the ranch. It will begin around 1:30 on Sunday, November 10th. All family and friends of Eric's are invited as this is an open house event...! We love seeing everyone and telling Eric stories.
Angela Gottbreht
August 15, 2013
I think about you often bro! I miss you!
Jacqui Valkema
November 10, 2012
Happy Birthday Eric!! We will be celebrating you and the life you had. We were all so lucky to have known you for as long as we did. I love you very much!!
Robin Maxson
November 9, 2012
Tomorrow is Eric's 33rd birthday. His traditional turkey dinner is at the house - since this is a Saturday (Nov. 10th) it will be starting around 4pm. We have turkey and the fixings for his dinner. Call me if you have any questions. It will be great to see everyone who is important to Eric.
Robin 760-705-7435
Robin Joy Maxson
October 19, 2011
To Eric's family and friends,
November 10th will be the celebration of Eric's 32nd birthday. Dinner will be at the "Rancho" on November 10th. Time is 6:30ish. Main event is the roast turkey Eric loved so much.
Terry and I will provide the turkey, gravy, and cranberry sauce. We need a little bit of everything else. You can email your side dish to either myself or Jacqui.
My email is: [email protected]
Jacqui's email is: [email protected]
Thank you so much.
Robin Joy Maxson
September 16, 2011
Hi son,
Yesterday marked six years since the last day I saw you here. I remember you were leaving for work and had your gym bag in your hand. You smiled and that was the last time I saw you...
Tomorrow we will follow our new tradition and decorate for fall - in your honor. Just need to pick up some pumpkins for the displays.
Soon it will be time to plan your birthday party for 2011.
Miss you always.
Love, Mom
Robin Joy Maxson
February 11, 2011
Hi Eric,
It's been a long time since I last saw you. I think of you always.
Love, Mom.
Jacqui Valkema
January 18, 2011
Always thinking about you.
Jacqui Valkema
November 12, 2010
Happy Belated 31st Birthday Eric! I love and miss you with all my heart.
Robin Maxson
November 9, 2010
Hello everyone (and Eric),
Tomorrow is Eric's birthday dinner. If you have not already responded to our invitation, please do so right away. We have about 30 guests confirmed for the turkey dinner.
The weather should be beautiful and we will have the campfire blazing.
We need about 2 more pies and about 2 more side dishes such as rice, etc.
We look forward to seeing everyone.
Love from Robin
October 25, 2010
Hello family and friends,
It is time to celebrate Eric's birthday. Eric's traditional potluck turkey dinner is on his birthday, Wednesday, November 10th. It will start at 6:30pm at our home in Ramona (as usual).
I will roast the turkey and provide gravy. Please let Brieanne or I know what side dish you would like to bring. So far we have: Green Bean Casserole (Pete and Cathy) and Mac n Cheese Casserole (Kerrie).
This would be Eric's 31st Birthday. Thank you everyone.
-Robin Joy Maxson
Robin Maxson
September 10, 2010
Hi Eric (and everyone else),
As the time rolls around to that bad time of the year again I want to remind your family and friends that when they visit the cemetery to be careful of the flower pot. The reason is - there are 7 little frogs living in the flower pot. So, if anyone wants to water the flowers, please do so by bringing a pitcher to water with... Do not remove the flowers from the flower pot or you will crush the growing family of frogs that Eric has attracted.
I know how much you love animals Eric, so in a way this is a tribute to you.
Love, Mom
Jennell Tibbets
April 13, 2010
I miss you and love you everyday Eric.
Robin Maxson
April 12, 2010
Dear son,
Your farm is looking great. I think you would approve of the old horses we have taken on as "projects." They needed homes and some place to retire other than the glue factory.
Your emu has really settled down and is practically friendly. You would not recognize her as the former banshee of the barnyard!
Love, Mom
Robin Maxson
December 31, 2009
Hello Son,
It is about to move into another year - without you here. 2010 will simply mark more time since your departure. We did follow all of the holiday traditions you enjoy and insist upon. Nothing changes in that respect; except of course we follow the traditions without your physical presence. You have "real" flowers at the cemetery. We had a "real" Christmas tree. We had the obligatory Pillsbury crescent rolls and Pepsi.
"Real" pumpkins, too. I'm sure you know this already.
Keep us safe Eric. Love, Mom
November 17, 2009
As you now know, Mom got married yesterday! I know you would be very happy for her and I know you would love Terry. They are a great couple and yesterday, as always, you were their in our hearts. We all love you and miss you!
Robin Palfy
November 16, 2009
Hello son,
We are adding to the family. Today Terry and I will be married! Terry has 3 kids, plus 5 granddaughters. Whew! Your birthday party was perfect; except that you could attend only in spirit.
I will be thinking of you today and always.
Love Mom
Courtney
November 13, 2009
Eric! I was just reflecting on the good times from your bday party and reading through the guestbook and my Pandora hip hop station started playing "Nothing Else Matters" by Metallica. Are you kidding me?!?
Robin Palfy
October 28, 2009
Hello family and friends (and Eric),
It is time for Eric's birthday celebration. Eric would be 30 years old this year. We are serving Eric's traditional turkey dinner at 6:30pm on his birthday - Tuesday, November 10th - at the house in Ramona. 6:30 is just a starting time to arrive - dining will be a little later. Contact either Brieanne or myself to "sign-up" for a side dish. Please plan to come to this event for Eric. We love to see everyone and this year Jasper is carving the bird!
See you all soon, Robin
Robin Palfy
May 11, 2009
Hi Son,
It was Mother's Day again. It is probably a day best left uncelebrated, but your brother and sister (and Brie) were very kind and generous. You would really enjoy how nice the pool yard has become. Love, Mom.
Jacqui Valkema
March 24, 2009
I miss you here at D3. I wish you were around to talk to.
Jennell Tibbets
March 10, 2009
Congrats on finding the ring!... I bet that brought back much more memories and lots of tears. It just shows hes STILL full of surprises.
Robin Palfy
March 6, 2009
Great news! The most amazing thing happened on Saturday, Feb. 29th. Eric's wedding ring was found!
Eric thought he had lost his wedding ring around the pool yard - after he and I had spent a day trenching and dumping dirt. That was in January of 2005. Well, the ring was never found even after a concerted effort involving metal detectors, dirt sifting and excavating of the first 5 inches of soil in the pool yard. It never turned up.
Then the pool yard was landscaped and upgraded last summer. We thought it might show up then. Nothing.
Last Saturday, Terry was planting berry bushes down by Eric's trucks - no where near the pool yard. About a foot and a half down, Terry found the wedding ring. What a surprise! 14 kt white gold - very dirty, but it is Eric's ring!
Jacqui Valkema
February 19, 2009
Oh Mother...that is a classic email from Eric. Thank you for that :)
Miss you brother!
Robin Palfy
February 18, 2009
Eric, I found this email you had sent to me right after we brought home our new duck Jesse. It is so funny. I wanted to share it with everyone. Enjoy.
Mother,
Well things seemed to start off great this morning. I was able to clip her wings without any struggle at all, she really is the sweetest duck I’ve ever seen. That’s about the last good thing that happened. Once I set her by herself to see how everyone interacted Angel came up to her and tried her usual bossy self, but before she had a chance to peck her on the head my foot sent her flying. Fluffy wants to mate with her. Emily tried to go after her, but I was just about to beat Emily to the ground with that 2X4 that mom left out there when I caught my temper. Then I noticed that Emily is going after ALL the chickens. Well the duck can’t move as fast as the chickens so I put her in that Dog (not cat) carrier, and put some water and weeds in there for her. FYI MOM if you are getting low on animal food TELL ME!! It’s kinda hard to separate and regulate when there is no food to distract anyone. Sorry that part was a little frustrating this morning. So I guess we are going to have to come up with a alternative plan for our new duck. I’m thinking a separate cage might have to be the way to go. One right next to the existing one if you wanted. Anyways let me know what your thoughts are on this subject. Your, son.
Jennell Tibbets
November 13, 2008
Eric, I missed your birthday. Im under the guilt trip. I never miss the occassion. disappointing, I know. Anyway,I juust wanted to wish you the happiest birthday in your new home. Im sure your all set it but unfortunetly for us, it seems like just yesterday. Missing and thinking of you everyday.
Claudia
November 10, 2008
Just before I went to bed you were on my mind a lot. I read some old e-mails and found out it was your birthday. It was really weird. Well I hope you will have a nice evening with lots of story's about Eric. In spirits I will be there too. Love, Claudia , The Netherlands
Robin Palfy
September 11, 2008
I want to say "hello" to all of Eric's friends. Eric's birthday will be coming up soon. We will be celebrating Eric's birthday "at the house." Please come to dinner and bring your memories of Eric on Monday, November 10th. We will have Eric's favorite dinner again - Turkey with mashed potatoes, gravy, stuffing, etc. This dinner get-together means a lot to the family. We look forward to seeing everyone at one time. Take care. Love, Robin
Joseph Doidge
August 18, 2008
To my older brother, this year is our ten year anniversary of being friends... we started out spending lunch together at Poway High... and we said our silent goodbye's at Jasper's birthday at gametime.. you were going to give me a ride home... and i left without saying goodbye to you... we shall meet at that place ...eternally untill we meet again... kindest regards and respect to all of Eric's Family and Freinds.
Jennell Tibbets
June 30, 2008
miss you evryday eric!
Jacqui Valkema
June 26, 2008
Missing you!
Jennell Tibbets
May 13, 2008
Eric. Hey buddy. I was jsut sitting ang thinking. You crossed my mind. So I thought I would write to you. You know somethings are better off written and some better off said. Its hard cause I go to the cemetary and dont know what to say but I can write to you. I come here and cant write but have so much to say. Why si that?. Oh well. I just wanted to drop in and say hello to you. Sorry i havnt seen you or talked to you lately. Thigns are hecktic. But you learn to overcome rough and tough obstacles. Oh well. I love you Eric and miss you very much.
Robin Palfy
May 9, 2008
Hi Son,
I haven't gone to this "site" in a while. I do go to the cemetery, but that is different. This is actually better. Tonight is the Ramona Rodeo. Remember when you use to wear those boots? Anyway, everyone is doing well and we miss you "all" of the time. Love, Mom
Robin Palfy
February 4, 2008
Hello again son,
We've started the orchard. Eleven trees to add to the four apple trees. It rained when I had time from work to plant, so your brother is going to do the honors. The boys look good - Spike and Ike. Your house is coming along nicely...I leave Brie to add those details. We need to add a few more manzanita as the gopher casualities are adding up again. As you know time has no meaning...see you someday. Love, Mom
Jacqui Valkema
November 13, 2007
Even when I am 50 you will still be my big brother!
Happy 28th Birthday!
I love you!!
Brieanne Valkema
October 21, 2007
Hey Baby
We need you now more than ever. We had to evacuate our house, I am so scared that everything we worked for will be gone. I love you. B
Frank Palfy
September 17, 2007
Dear Grandson Eric
Today it is 2 years since you left us. I love you and miss you very much and I talk to you every single day about a lot of things. Here is the latest thing that happened to convince me that you do hear me.
About 4 months ago, the computer you built up for Grandma got a virus from the internet which completely destroyed the hard drive. The computer was jammed and nothing could be done with it. I tried to delete and reload Windows at least 4 times but the computer was still jammed. I removed the hard drive and tried to install 3 different hard drives but none of them would install. Then I bought 2 new hard drives and they would not install because they were too advanced for the computer. I was ready to smash the old HD 4 months later but decided to try 1 more time.
I looked at the computer and said "Eric I need your help with this thing". I put the HD back into the computer and loaded Windows, as before, and low and behold the thing worked just fine and works as perfectly as the day you installed it. Now tell me how the hard drive fixed itself without your help.
Thanks Eric.
Love you very very much, Grandpa.
Jacqui Valkema
September 17, 2007
I can't believe it has already been two years. It still feels like it had just happened yesterday. I love you Eric. We are not complete without you.
Courtney
September 16, 2007
Tomorrow it will be 2 years since we lost you. We miss you still as much as ever, and look at your picture everyday. Love you so much!
Robin Palfy
September 14, 2007
When I Think of Eric
When I think of Eric, I think of a hard worker. He always has his priorities straight, and I admire him for that. I wish I could say the same about myself.
When I think of Eric, I think of all the times my friends and I shared. I think back, and know it wouldn’t have been the same without our friend Eric in our lives.
When I think of Eric, I think of Java Hut. To Eric and everybody else, this was our shelter, our home our support system, our palace, our best childhood memories and the place we grew up together at. Java Hut was something very special to Eric, and our friends. It’s something that I will never forget about, it’s the best memories I have.
When I think of Eric, I think of a friend. Someone that never judged me, or took me for granted. He always made me and everyone else around him feel welcome. He was a great friend, one of the best I had. I couldn’t say I had a best friend in our Java crew because we were all best friends. We would do anything for each other, just like Eric would want. We are more than friends, we are family. Eric had the best group of friends possible, I know for sure. The Java Hut crew will go down in history as the best circle of friends, family, brothers, and sisters ever. We are all better together.
When I think of Eric, I think of someone who was tragically taken out of our lives. I think of someone who can never be replaced. I think of someone who will never be forgotten.
Written by Paul Howse, September 18, 2005
Robin Palfy
September 14, 2007
When I think of Eric
When I think of Eric, I think of him working in his truck...
When I think of Eric, I think of his hilarious sarcasm and his witty quick mind. He always had something to say, so don’t even try to come back with something because you’ll fail miserably.
When I think of Eric, I think of his stoic disposition. Nothing was that crazy to Eric, he could handle anything imaginable.
When I think of Eric, I think of someone that always had an answer for me. No matter what it was, how serious, or how freaked out I was, he always had an answer and made it better. The same goes for the rest of the Java Hut Crew, I know for sure.
Paul Howse, September 18, 2005
Robin Palfy
September 14, 2007
When I Think of Eric
When I think of Eric, I think of his million dollar smile. I never in my life have seen someone with a bigger, more intoxicating smile. I always loved to make Eric laugh so I could see his pearly whites just one more time.
When I think of Eric, his laugh fills my ears with joy. His hilarious chuckle was so fast and full of life. I don’t need to hear it again to remember it; it’s burnt into my memory.
When I think of Eric, I think of bands like Poison, Rush, Metallica, and Led Zeppelin. To Eric every rose has its thorns. I treasure the countless nights Eric and all the boys just listened to music and hung out.
When I think of Eric, I think of his almost too tight jeans, his hiking boots, and his black corduroy jacket. He had a style all his own and I loved it, only he could pull it off.
Paul Howse, September 18, 2005
Robin Palfy
August 10, 2007
Hi Son,
Well the infamous "Game Time" place has burned to the ground this morning. I assume this is a sign; the close to an era of "bad" time. I don't know. Anyway, Manu and I saw what was left of the place on our way to work this morning.
Love, Mom
Jessie Mathis
July 6, 2007
Hey Eric-
Saw a monster truck show on tv the other day and there was a canary yellow one and I immediatly thought of you :) I miss you so much. I havn't been to visit you lately, so busy! but thats not an excuse, so i'll probably be by this weekend. Went to grandmas for the 4th and went swimming, i miss your cannon balls! was looking through photo albums with mike from the early 90's, there was so many pics of us together! you were and still are like a big brother to me :) there was one photo in particular were we were dancing together at some family members wedding, we were so happy back then! I miss you and i'll see you soon! I love you Eric, more than you will ever know!
Lova always
Jessie
Jacqui Valkema
June 29, 2007
Eric,
Okay, I have a picture of you up near my desk now. It is one of your wedding pictures taken with you, David and me.
I was driving during lunch today, and I passed by Subway. I couldn't keep the tears in. It's hard to think about how much life sucks (<-- for lack of a better word). The world doesn't seem right. There is a huge part missing, and everyone that you have left behind has to learn to deal with it, because there is nothing that we can do.
And I think that is what kills us the most. There is Nothing we can do about it. It just is. It is a crappy existance without having you beside us everyday.
I miss you will all my heart.
I will always love you.
Love,
Jacqui
Jacqui Valkema
June 19, 2007
Good morning Eric.
I am back here at D3 again and thinking about you. The first thing Rinna said to me when she saw my desk is "where are the pictures of Eric?" I told her I would bring some once I got settled in. It is just not the same being here with out you. It's hard not to think of you and how things were when you were around. Things were easier when you were around.
I love you Eric. You're always in my thoughts!
**Muah**
Robin Palfy
June 11, 2007
Morning son,
Well...it has been a while. We've been busy working on the "place." We had a lovely trip to the Ramona Dump on Saturday - courtesy of your father-in-law. Your brother is driving the "purple" truck all around. It always looks like you're home when I see it parked in the front. Your boys, Spike and Ike, are healthy and happy. Cute boys. I have not done the gardening yet - as I promised. I am a bit behind in that area. I will get something in the ground soon. Love, Mom
Robin Palfy
April 13, 2007
Hello again son,
I am on a new quest to keep real, fresh flowers at your grave... Sounds a bit sad, but it does make me visit you more often. I've gotten use to "swinging by" your new neighborhood on my way to work or back from work. Also, I stop by if I'm going by for whatever reason on the weekend. It is a cheerful place - in existence for such a sad reason... When I sit by you I can hear everything going on in Poway. You like stuff like that. I can hear the games at Twin Peaks Middle School, I can hear the horse activities at PVRA, I can hear the burro across the street, I can hear the bells from St. Gabriel's, I can see Twin Peaks mountain, and I can hear the train from the Old Poway Park - you know how you liked hearing that train on the weekend mornings (no!). It is an active neighborhood. It is the heart of our old town. I guess eventually we will all be part of Poway literally and figuratively. I'll see you soon. Love, Mom.
Courtney
March 10, 2007
Hey Eric,
Didn't come to say anything in particular, but wanted to let you know I am thinking of you always... We miss you so much and we always will. It's still all so unbelievable to me that you aren't here with us anymore. The wedding is in 6 months now... you will be there in spirit, but how we wish you could be there standing next to us. I think you would approve:)
Love you, miss you
Jacqui Valkema
March 1, 2007
Eric,
Guess what?!? You won. We got your desk. You know, THE DESK! I should be taking it home next week. Sue didn't want to let "Eric's desk" go to the dump, so she held onto it until she found it a good home. I love you big brother! Watch out for us. We are always thinking of you!
Robin Palfy
February 21, 2007
Hello son,
We found a great home for the big, blue Power Wagon; the kid above our house, Blake. He and the truck make the perfect pair. Blake was quite enthused to see the metal grid side panels and the lively bumper stickers! He and a few friends pumped up the tires and towed it up the hill with their jeep. The Power Wagon actually looked pretty nice once it had air in the tires. I can see why you wanted it. Anyway, at least we know who has the truck and we can follow its progress - morphing into an awesome off-road vehicle.
Next, we will work on assembling the monster truck. That may involve Danny and a paint job. I haven't told Danny the good news, yet!
Love, Mom.
February 4, 2007
Hi Eric,
I miss you! So I wanted to let you know, I got myself a new, cute, pink ipod! And what are some of the first songs I download, Metallica of course! Each and everyone reminds me of you. Listening to them in Java Hut, out in the desert, driving in the truck. Metallica - your favorite!
I love you and miss you,
Kelli
Jacqui Valkema
January 5, 2007
Eric,
I miss you! It's hard sitting here at D3 and not having you to call when I need help. I miss coming into the "fish bowl" every break and lunch I get, and hanging out with you. I wish that I could still get your lunch everyday like I used to.
I still get that weird feeling that you are watching every thing that I do on the computer. I keep waiting for you to start typing on my screen, just to mess with me :)
You are always in my thoughts! Look over us for the New Year, and I can't wait until I am graced with your presence again some day. ****I love you big brother****
Robin Palfy
January 3, 2007
Dear son,
On Christmas Eve we went to the cemetery and "planted" the acorns from your oak tree. It will be our little game to see how far they grow before the maintenance crew mows them down! They are planted around your stone and around your name. It is up to you to help them sprout.
Jacqui found a new picture of you at work (your work). I have it as my desktop wallpaper. You appear to be quite annoyed in the picture. It is a classic "Eric" shot. You are also making a gesture at the camera that I cannot display at work (totally inappropriate), so I covered that part with my desktop icons. Very clever.
Look after us in this new year.
Love, Mom.
Robin Palfy
December 11, 2006
Dear son,
Well, we have made some progress on the yard. The "rogue" oak tree that is in danger of falling on your roof is slowly being removed. Carlos is the tree trimmer. I know you really liked the way it arched over the walkway, but I believe if you had noticed the way the roots were tearing up the walkway and moving on toward tearing up the foundation of your house - you would probably come to the same conclusion, too. The little tree must go!
Your little boy dogs have made the transition from bad boys to lovely pets. No nuticles involved. They don't seem to mind nor notice the difference.
I know you watch us and look over us. Thank you. Love, Mom.
Jennell Tibbets
November 10, 2006
Happy Birthday Eric!!
Thinking of you as always. We're all going up to your house for dinner to celebrate. Miss you so much!
Jennell Tibbet
October 30, 2006
Hello Eric,
Halloween is tomarrow and I thought I would stop by and say Happy Halloween. So I love you and I will talk to you later!
xoxo
Robin Palfy
October 10, 2006
Good morning Son,
Well we do have one respectable pumpkin from all of those plants. Hopefully the gophers will leave it alone and it can sit in the sun - turning a lovely orange. I've had some very strange dreams about you lately. It seems that I "see" you wherever I go...
We are continuing on our quest to make the homestead as wonderful as possible; remaining within our (yours and ours) original vision. Of course, this is taking a little longer without your physical assistance; however, you are assisting in spirit. You are the reason I do many of the things that I do.
We are looking after each other. We are keeping the family strong - as you would want. Love, Mom.
Claudia van Eck
September 17, 2006
Dear Eric,
Today when I woke up I found out it is exactly a year ago
that you left. It still must be so hard on your family and friends.
You have been on my mind a lot this year.
It still seems so unreal that u are gone.
Your in my heart and I will never be able to forget u, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
Regards, Claudia
Robin Palfy
August 24, 2006
Dear son,
We went with the pumpkin project. I cheated and bought 2 pony packs of Big Max pumpkins. They have survived the switch from container to ground and are "gorgeous." They are the best looking pumpkin plants this property has ever seen. I also, soaked and sprouted the last set of seeds you had washed and saved from one of our Bate's Nut Farm pumpkins. They are in the ground and growing, too. Most importantly, I soaked and sprouted the packet of Atlantic Giant seeds you had sent away for... They were a little old and many were broken, but I have managed to sprout 4 pretty good looking plants. They too are in the ground. Cross your fingers. Chase away the gophers please. We'll see what happens over the next month. We should have some baby pumpkins by Labor Day Weekend. Hopefully, some large ones by the beginning of October. More updates to come. Love, Mom.
Courtney
August 6, 2006
Eric,
I cannot believe it has been almost 11 months. The time goes by too fast, and it still seems so surreal. I don't think I have fully accepted it yet, but I hope to someday be able to look at your pictures without feeling like it is all some cruel joke. You were taken way too soon. We miss you so much. Love you always
Robin Palfy
July 10, 2006
Dear Son,
The time has come to ask the question: To plant pumpkins or not to plant pumpkins. That is the question. July 4th is the official pumpkin planting day according to Bates Nut Farm, but we can do it anytime this week. We do have an area that could be fortified to deflect incoming gophers, squirrels and rabbits bent on destruction. I recall that the squirrels finally "did in" your pumpkin vine. It would be a challenge to see how far we could get the vines. I will consult with your siblings and see what they think. Love, Mom
Brieanne Valkema
July 9, 2006
It is hard to believe that it has been 4 years since we met on Browns front yard on the 4th of July. 4 years since we went to dinner with Carlos, Candy and Tiffany at Buca de Beppos and you we so nervous sitting next to me you drank dinner, and then threw it up. It only took you dying for Carlos to finally admit that he staged everyone ditching us and not coming back to my parents house to go into the hot tub. I don't know how many times I asked you about having to go to work the next morning before you finally left at 3. Still leaving without my phone number, which later had to be coerced out of Carlos, and then still you waiting a week and a half to use it. I miss our long conversations that we use to have, the phone company loved us with our $200 phone bills.
It is hard to imagine that we spent our whole lives in the same town, going to the same schools, and graduating the same year from H.S., and our lives had yet to cross. How many near misses that we knew about, where I heard about "I just saw my friend Eric". I always believed that we were destined to met at this time in our lives where we were both ready for the love that we shared and there was nothing holding ourselves back.
I miss you, I am getting closer to finally moving into the bedroom. To think a year ago all I wanted was for us to move in, now I don't want to be there without you. I love you with all my heart and are never far from my thoughts.
love you always
Brieanne
Jennell (wallace) Tibbets
June 5, 2006
You were right Eric I AM William Wallace
You scored as William Wallace. The great Scottish warrior William Wallace led his people against their English oppressors in a campaign that won independence for Scotland and immortalized him in the hearts of his countrymen. With his warrior's heart, tactician's mind, and poet's soul, Wallace was a brilliant leader. He just wanted to live a simple life on his farm, but he gave it up to help his country in its time of need.
Gerald&Joyce Farkas
May 22, 2006
May 22,2006
Dear Eric,
We never had the chance to meet you in person, however, we feel we do, having learned so many loving things from your wonderful grandparents, Frank & Joy Palfy.
On our recent visit with them in April, your loving grandparents told us of your lust for life, & on-going quest to accomplish the myraid list of goals you set for yourself; traits, which are so admirable in someone so young.
We grieve with your loving family that you were not able to acheive all of your earthly pursuits & dreams, but know that the many happy memories of your youth will help to fill the enormous void that is felt by all who knew & loved you so dearly.
Having grown up with your grandfather Frank,- & known your great-paternal grandparents as well, it is easy to understand how you inherited your rich pedigree of ambition & skills.
May God bless you & keep you.
Gerald & Joyce Farkas
Jennell Tibbets
May 14, 2006
Hello Eric,
Today is mothers day can I know you mom is missing you. Everyone is at our house Visiting with my mom on mothers day, having a small get togeather. I was talking about you with Jenny telling her how in a couple of months it will be a year since you have been tragically taken out of so many lives. So I decided to come talk to you and tell your mother a HAPPY MOTHERS DAY MRS. PALFY!!!!! I know she wishes you were her to spend the time with her! I miss and love you very, very, very, much!!!!
Robin Palfy
May 2, 2006
Good morning son,
Your front yard - the oak tree area - is now weed-free. Brieanne voted for very, very low maintenance landscape. She said she had a black thumb, so we have opted to landscape with rocks and dirt. It's gorgeous. I found several baby snakes and safely relocated them to other areas of the yard. While cleaning the rocks I found many toads, too. Lastly, the lizard playground under this oak tree is alive and well. They kept me company during the 2 full days it took to pull those weeds.
I believe you would be happy with the results. We kept the oak branches that you had leaned against the rock in place. In honor of your artistic-landscaping touch.
Love, Mom.
ALEX ORTIZ
April 11, 2006
TODAY I WAS AT WORK AND I WAS THINKING OF ALL THE STUFF I HAVE TO BUY FOR MY THREE WHEELER AND I THOUGHT OF YOU ERIC. I THINK OF YOU ALL THE TIME BRO. SOMETIMES FOR NO REASON I GO TO CALL YOU AND I REMEMBER AND IT STILL HURTS BRO. I WAS SURPRISED TO FIND THIS. COURTNEYS COMMENT MADE LAUGH, I REMEMBER THAT AT LAKE HAVASU. REMBER "ERIC SHOULD I DO IT, YOU GOT MY BACK?" AND YOU SAID YES, YOU ALWAYS DID
courtney
April 4, 2006
me again... today i came across a picture on the internet of john basedow. i was laughing and feeling sad at the same time. remember at lake havasu when his exercise commercials kept coming on and we were saying you looked like him and you got so pissed? you yelled, "why, because we are both brunette?" it was hilarious. times like this i miss you the most. i wish i could call you right now and ask you how the exercise tapes are coming...love you miss you
jennell tibbets
April 4, 2006
You pretty much said it Courtney.. That poem goes perfect for the way people feel about you Eric. You will always remain a memory in everyones heart.
Courtney
April 2, 2006
oh, and i thought this was perfect...
Death leaves a heartache no one can heal,
Love leaves a memory no one can steal.
Courtney
April 2, 2006
I can't believe it has been almost 7 months... Its still such an open wound. I think of you everyday, and when it gets real bad, I sometimes pretend you just moved away. I wish it was true... Love you and miss you forever!
Robin Palfy
March 18, 2006
Dear son,
It has been half a year since your accident. I don't feel any better or different than I did at that time. So, just as I suspected, time will not make everything "better." You are here with me today - as you have always been. Love, Mom.
Robin Palfy
February 28, 2006
Dear son,
Your manzanita grove is half planted. You wanted the same manzanita that grows in the hills. I found that variety; and I found 6 others. I bought those too. I knew you'd approve.
If you could have a talk with the local gophers that would help immensely. Love, Mom.
Brie
February 14, 2006
To my Valentine
You are never far from my thoughts. I miss my best friend, the person who could make my day better just with a simple smile, a warm hug, or a sweet kiss. I love you, and miss you.
Jennell and Cindy Tibbets
February 14, 2006
Dearest Eric,
Happy Valentines Day Our Dearest Sweet. Another Holiday that you are not present. We continue to miss you Each and everyday day. Just sitting here at the computer E-mailing Aaron Rubin's mother to see how he is coming along and Thought we would check up to see how our Eric is doing. Havn't been able to come by and see you. Although Its not like we havn't though about you or wanted to. Life is just so busy. But We will be sure to stop real soon!... We just wanted to stop by and say HAPPY VALENTINES DAY TO YOU!. The man We love. We cherish the moments we spent with you Eric. Once again ....Happy Valentines Day
joy palfy
February 6, 2006
Dear Eric,
We miss you SO MUCH! We'll love you forever, Honey! Grandpa & I never heard you speak an unkind word. You were always so caring & giving, loving & helpful, & FULL OF PLANS - always looking toward the future.
Grandpa & I are so heartbroken, & so is everyone who ever knew you. Don't worry - Grandpa is still working on the projects you left behind. If only we could see you & hug you one more time!! Sweet Dreams, Sweet Boy!
TOO MUCH LOVE FROM GRANDMA & GRANDPA
Showing 1 - 100 of 136 results
Make a Donation
in Eric Valkema's name
Memorial Events
for Eric Valkema
How to support Eric's loved ones
Honor a beloved veteran with a special tribute of ‘Taps’ at the National WWI Memorial in Washington, D.C.
The nightly ceremony in Washington, D.C. will be dedicated in honor of your loved one on the day of your choosing.
Read more
Should I Send Sympathy Flowers?
What kind of arrangement is appropriate, where should you send it, and when should you send an alternative?
Read more
What Should I Write in a Sympathy Card?
We'll help you find the right words to comfort your family member or loved one during this difficult time.
Read moreResources to help you cope with loss
Estate Settlement Guide
If you’re in charge of handling the affairs for a recently deceased loved one, this guide offers a helpful checklist.
Read more
Obituaries, grief & privacy: Legacy’s news editor on NPR podcast
Legacy's Linnea Crowther discusses how families talk about causes of death in the obituaries they write.
Read more
The Five Stages of Grief
They're not a map to follow, but simply a description of what people commonly feel.
Read moreWays to honor Eric Valkema's life and legacy
Obituary Examples
You may find these well-written obituary examples helpful as you write about your own family.
Read more
Obituary Templates – Customizable Examples and Samples
These free blank templates make writing an obituary faster and easier.
Read more
How Do I Write a Eulogy?
Some basic help and starters when you have to write a tribute to someone you love.
Read more
