Victor William Dahir Jr.

1945 - 2021

A life well lived, loved and respected by many. No matter his professional success, Victor believed his greatest achievement was as a parent. From a large family, oldest of six, growing up in a suburb of Chicago as son of Madeline and Victor Dahir.

He was driven to better himself at an early age working to put himself through college at Amherst and Business School at Harvard. Throughout his life he remained close to his fraternity brothers, Richard Skillman, Mather Neill, Mark Perry and Donald Johnson. He communicated with each, shared memories and said his farewells near the end.

An early career as a CPA | Audit Manager in San Francisco with Arthur Young (now Ernest & Young). Lifelong friendships ensued, personal and professional with Joe Amigone and Rich Puntillo. A number of career opportunities preceded his position with VISA which began a journey of professional challenges and pride that culminated in his most satisfying career achievements as CFO in partnership with CEO Carl Pascarella until his retirement. Many friendships have continued from his time with VISA and he remained in contact with several colleagues and directors, fondly remembered and too numerous to name. Post retirement, he consulted to a local company in Monterey, True Organic Products working for Jake Evans as a business consultant to a startup enterprise that he totally enjoyed. In 2010 he was elected to the Board of Directors of MoneyGram International where he proudly served until his passing.

Survived by wife Kimberly Burgess, daughter Victoria Zak (Brian) and son Robert Dahir (Karina), grandkids Kayla, Brooke, Reiss and Cooper, sister Lyn Ree (Steve), brother Russell Dahir (Tracey) and their families. Closest friends Susan Black and Aris Angelopoulos and their families shared many holidays, travel, love, laughter and memories.

Grateful to Dr. Stauffer, Dr. Koontz, Dr. Hausdorff locally at Community Hospital, Dr. Skinner and Dr. Shelton and their teams at Stanford Hospital for their valiant efforts to give Victor more time. Heartland Hospice nurses Kathy, Tara, and Jason for their compassionate care, making his last few weeks comfortable. Private duty nurse, Bobby will be fondly remembered for his kindness, understanding and exceptional care.

Victor was not religious, but viewed himself as a spiritual man. His request was to share a poem to put his final thoughts in perspective.


THE DASH
by
Linda Ellis
I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on the tombstone from the beginning . . . to the end.

He noted that first came the date of birth and spoke of the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time that they spent alive on earth.
Now only those who loved them know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own: the cars, the house, the cash.
What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard; Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time you have left that can still be arranged.

If we could just slow down enough to consider what's true and real
And always try to understand the way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger and show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile,
Remembering that this special dash might only last a little while.

So when your eulogy is being read, with your life's actions to rehash . . .
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent YOUR dash?

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At Victor's request, there will be no services. Memorial contributions may be made in Victor's name to the MoneyGramFoundation.org or to the AmericanCancerSociety.com

Condolences may be written to the family at www.bermudezfamilyfunerals.com