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Thomas Flahive Obituary
WESTBOROUGH - Thomas F. Flahive (78) passed away peacefully at home surrounded by his loving family on Monday, June 14, 2021 after a long and courageous battle with Mesothelioma.
He leaves his loving wife of 59 years Eileen (Dunne), three children Susan L. DiVita, and her husband Michael of San Jose, CA, Daniel F. Flahive, and his wife Melissa of Westborough and Mary S. Manuelian, and her husband Mark of Westborough. He was "Buppa" to seven grandchildren, Benjamin Kosh, Samuel Manuelian, Nicholas, Jessica, Victoria, Carly and Kevin Flahive.
Born in New York City in 1943, he was the son of the late Thomas and Mary (McDonald) Flahive. He was raised in Westborough where he graduated from Westborough High School in 1961.
Tom was a member of the International Union of Elevator Constructors Local #4 for 39 years. He spent the majority of his 39 years working for F.S. Payne Company, retiring in 2001.
Tom loved summers on the Cape, winters in Florida, wood carving, storytelling and his cherished dog, Annie. As a friend of Bill's for 49 years, acceptance, attitude, and faith were the guiding principles in his life. Tom looked forward to weekly Patriot's games, spending time with family, and a good meal. He gave more than he took and was always grateful for the life he had; Tom's generosity extended to family, friends, and strangers alike. He loved to laugh, play practical jokes, and more than anything else, he loved his wife, children and grandchildren. He will be missed dearly by his family and friends.
Calling hours will be held at Pickering & Son Westborough Funeral Home, 62 West Main Street, Westborough, on Sunday, June 27th from 2:00-5:00 P.M. His funeral Mass will be celebrated on Monday, June 28, 2021 at 10:30 A.M. at St. Luke the Evangelist Church, 70 West Main Street, Westborough. Burial will be in St. Luke's Cemetery.
In lieu of flowers, contributions in his memory can be made to the Charlotte Spinney Vision Scholarship, c/o Avidia Bank, 100 East Main Street, Westborough, Massachusetts 01581.
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Randy whitehead
June 14, 2025
I loved Tommy
Randy Whitehead
June 14, 2023
Loved that man.
Heather M
June 24, 2021
We love you, Bup. Missing you and sending love to all the Flahives. I am lucky to have great memories of Meme and Bup.
Richard Kane
June 21, 2021
So admired this courageous, selfless soul. Tom (a former neighbor), was very kind to me, encouraged me at a time when it was needed most; did I even thank him, I wonder? To Eileen, Susan, Dan and Mary, to Ben, Sam, Nick, Jess, Vicky, Carly and Kevin, solemnly whisper that "I am so very sorry!"
Cara Lynch
June 20, 2021
I lived in the apartment above them for a few years and got to know Eileen and Tom like family....such a wonderful man. Thinking of you all during this difficult time.
Randy Whitehead
June 20, 2021
My sincere condolences to Eileen and all of Tommy´s family. Tommy was my life-long buddy. All who knew him loved him. He will forever be missed.
Maureen Horgan
June 20, 2021
I always looked forward to speaking with Tom when he would walk Annie around the neighborhood. He was such a warm and welcoming spirit. He will be missed.
Alissa
June 20, 2021
How lucky I am to have Uncle Tommy as my Uncle. He always wore a big smile and greeted everyone as a long lost best friend. I loved walking into the room he was in because I always knew I was going to be greeted with the biggest hug and welcome. Uncle Tommy will be loved & missed always.
June 20, 2021
Dear Mrs. Flahive, Susan, Danny and Mary
Sorry to hear about Mr. Flahive´s passing. Prayers to all.
You lived around the corner from me and I was your babysitter!
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Kathy (Hassett) Ozella
West Dennis, MA (formerly Westborough)
Dustie Shannon
June 20, 2021
So sorry for your loss ! I loved seeing his smiling face at the Y . He will be missed !
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