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Jerry Gray Obituary
A funeral for Jerry Christopher Gray, 22, of Vacaville, will be held at 11 a.m. Friday at St. Mary's Catholic Church, 350 Stinson Ave., in Vacaville. Father Michael McFadden of St. Mary's will officiate. On Thursday evening, a visitation will take place from 7:30 to 9:30 p.m., also at St. Mary's.
Jerry passed away Oct. 10, 2008. He was born in Fairfield on Dec. 10, 1985. Jerry attended both Vaca Peña Middle School and Will C. Wood High School.
He was a gifted ironworker. He was passionate about his work and well respected by his peers. Jerry lived life to its fullest. He enjoyed BMX bikes, lake jumping, dirt biking, snowboarding and motorcycles. He had countless friends who could always rely on him. Everyone liked Jerry. Whether it was his sense of humor or unwavering support, he made and kept many friendships. His life changed when his daughter, "Tay Tay" was born 15 months ago. Instantaneously, he became a proud and doting father. Nothing in this world was more important than his precious baby.
Although Jerry is no longer physically with us, he lives on in all the hearts he has touched.
Jerry is survived by his daughter, Taylor Ann Gray and her mother Alana of Vacaville; mother, Brenda Gray-Coudright (Jim Coudright) of Vacaville; father, Jeff Gray of Washington; two brothers, Robert Gray and Justin Gray, both of Vacaville; grandparents, Ken and Linda Baker of Vacaville, Claudie (Rene) Charon of Sacramento and Fran Gray of Vacaville; and fianc\ée, Kayla Timm and her daughter Nikki. Jerry is also survived by numerous aunts, uncles, cousins, Jerry and Jeanine Gray, Kevin and Kim Tjaden, Bryce and Seth Tjaden, Robert and Kim Baker, Scott and Yvonne Gummert, Kattie Gummert and extended family and a host of friends. He was preceded in death by his beloved grandfather, Ronald Gray.
In lieu of flowers, contributions may be made to an account set up for his daughter, Taylor Ann, at Bank of America. Per the bank's instructions, checks are to be made out to Frances E. Gray and mailed to P.O. Box 5533, Vacaville, 95696, or dropped off at Vaca Hills Chapel Funeral Home.
Arrangements are by Vaca Hills Chapel Funeral Home, 446-3233.
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Memories and Condolences
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Robert Gray
December 11, 2022
Robert Gray
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Robert Gray
December 11, 2022
Happy late birthday big bro! Miss you , I´m sure you and Bryce and everyone else up there are having a good ol time ! Miss all you guys
Tay visiting daddy
Brenda Gray
November 15, 2016
Brotherly love
Brenda Gray
November 15, 2016
Daddy's shirts made into teddys bears
Brenda Gray
November 15, 2016
Brenda Gray
November 15, 2016
Chris took little brother to buy matching beanies
Brenda Gray
November 15, 2016
Uncle Justin and tay
Brenda Gray
November 15, 2016
Taylor praying for her daddy
Brenda Gray
November 15, 2016
Brenda Gray
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Brenda Gray
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Brenda Gray
November 15, 2016
I heard that you are on top of the church and never left..
Mother
December 5, 2014
Laying here thinking about you and some of your friends that have past away and now they are with you..it's so crazy how this is happening it's like none of them are making it to their thirties.. The world is just so sad all the way around until I'm with your beautiful Taylor and with my our grand babies. They make everything all right. Miss you more then you will ever know. Love you so much Chris and will write later..
Brenda Gray
November 9, 2013
Love you so much! Miss you so much!
Kattie
November 5, 2013
Hey cuz! So much has happened since you've been gone. As much as I would have loved to physically have you at my wedding I could still feel you. Not a day goes by that I don't think about you. I was driving the other day thinking of all the memories we shared and how big of a part you played in my life. It was tough to remember that I couldn't just call you up or go on a drive just like old times. You are living on, strong in the hearts of those that you left behind. Hope things are better where you're at. Miss you and love you. See you again someday. <3
robbie lujan
January 23, 2013
i miss you sooo much homie you already know though my daughters first b day party was saturday an tay an alana was there i know you were too though big brother... jus know im lost without you bro
Mom
December 2, 2012
Love you so much and miss you more then anything. My heart hurts
kayla timm
November 13, 2011
been thinking about you a lot. miss you tons
xoxo
September 27, 2011
Christopher,
I never got the honor of really knowing you but as much as you are talked about, looking at pictures, watching home videos, hearing all the stories i feel like i did. you were such an amazing fun loving person. not a day goes by where we do not think of you or bring up your name. Taylor is getting so big and more and more beautiful everyday and alana is doing such an awesome job in raising her and is such an amazing mom! I am so glad to be a part of this family and know that our children get to grow up together and play together. i know you would be so proud of how much everyone has accomplished the past few years and how far they have come, working hard, starting families, buying houses and much more. I am honored to have your brother as my boyfriend and father of my beautiful children and to have named my son after such a wonderful and loved person. your memories will forever live on! <3
Lisa Farrand
September 27, 2011
Jerry was a brave and kind young man. He was very responsible. He was loyal and trustworthy. I watched him learn to love broccoli! That was brave. I watched him show others how to have fun on bikes. That was kind. I watched him care for his brothers. That was responsible. I watched him mow his Grandparent's lawn. That was loyal. I watched him become a man and a father. He was trustworthy as both. I miss him. He will never be forgotten. He is tattooed in my memories forever. Brenda, you are strength. I admire you.
Tons of love to you and your family.
Auntie Lisa
September 26, 2011
Love you bro not a day goes by that your not missed I know your up there watching after us see you again one day brother
September 9, 2011
Love you Miss you more then anything in this world. Will never understand why:(
February 10, 2011
My prayers go out to the entire family. I knew Jerry Christopher as a teenager. Nanette
Kattie
November 10, 2010
2years later and it feels just like yesterday. I still can't believe it. Time isn't helping heal the pain I still have. I think about you all the time and wonder what you'd be doing if you were still with us. I keep hoping to wake up one day to find out it was just a bad dream or a really bad joke. We can't change the past so here is wishing that wherever you are, I hope you're doing okay and It's a lot better than being here. Visit more often? I miss you tons. Love you cuz. <3 <3 <3
Dustin Gray
October 19, 2010
I cant believe its been 2yrs already. It doesnt feel like its been a month since I found out... Im still planning on flying out when I get the money to visit your family Jerry.. My prayers are still going out for them.. Rest In Peace my Friend !!
Aunt Kim
October 14, 2010
Love you!!!!
tyler luttrell
October 10, 2009
cant believe it has already been a year since you have been gone bro! things definately arent the same without you, we all love you and miss you. I know your watchin over everyone from above ridin wheelies and doin burnouts in the sky!! love ya bro!!
DUSTIN GRAY
October 10, 2009
i CANT BELIEVE ITS BEEN A YEAR ALREADY. i MISS YOU SO MUCH cHRIS. i KNOW WE GRE UP ON OTHER SIDES OF THE COUNTRY AFTER YALL MOVD BUT, THAT FRIENDSHIP WE MADE STAYED IN MY HEART. yOU WERE LIKE MY BROTHER AND iLL NEVER FORGET IT. sOMEDAYS i WISH i COULD GO BACK IN TIME BACK TO WHEN yOU, rOBERT AND i USED TO DRESS UP AND CMO AND ACT LIKE WE WERE SOLDIERS DOING THROUGH THE CREEK NEXT TO YOUR HOUSE. gREAT tIMES. I CANT WAIT TO SEE YOU AGAIN ONE DAY. REST IN PEACE MY FRIEND, AND ALWAUS WATCH OVER US. !!!!
October 9, 2009
Alana, Brenda and family,
Tomorrow marks one year since Taylors' daddy and your son, brother, nephew passed. It seems the year has flown by and yet some things remain very intact. I wish for you all the joy that comes from remembering him with love and the smile that brightens your faces as his name is spoken. Time will be on your side as these tough times eventually fade to fondly speaking of the man he became and still could've become. Love to you all!
Cindra
Brooke Kruzona
October 7, 2009
Jerry,
I can't believe a year has gone by...don't think that you don't cross my mind every single day..because you do. We all miss you so much. Just the other day Sean was talking about how much he wishes you were still here and all the good times you guys had together. I go visit you often and it still breaks my heart every time..it still just all seems like a bad dream...but we all know youre still with us somewhere...we knew you had to be there at the camping trip this year..how else you explain the midnight lightenting show in the begining of August..? ;) You will never be forgotten and will be forever missed. xoxo <3
Kattie Gummert
September 22, 2009
Just wanted to write, miss you a lot. I opened my email today to see a letter waiting from 'Jerry Gray' for my truck that i'm selling. Of course on the back window it has the window graphics i got from the wake "In Loving memory" i'm sure the dudes going to freak when he says his name on the back of my truck =). I miss you so much. Its almost been a year and its been the hardest year of my life, and i'm sure many more are coming after this. I'm still expecting to wake up one morning and this all be a terrible dream. Everytime we drive to cali i'm all excited to see you and rob and justin and the family until we get there and realize that you're not going to be there. =( I'll see you soon.
love you.
Ashlie Bryant
September 22, 2009
Jerry,you are such a great person!I have so many good memories of you! like at Sean and Brendin's house, Quinn House and many more!!!I'll keep those memories in my heart forever!you always made me laugh! miss you and love you!
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Dustin Gray
August 28, 2009
Jerry,
It still hasnt sunk in that ur gone. Hopefully when work picks up I can fly out to Vacaville and visit ur family. ITs been years since I have seen them. I know u cant hear me but I look up and talk to you all the time. I wish all the time I could just wake up and this all be a bad dream. U will be in my heart forever and always. Your were and will always be my childhood best friend :)
August 26, 2009
Hey jerry......it's been really hard for me all the time. I wish I can talk to you so I thought I would right you on here. I wish you can see how big Tay is getting she definently still remembers her daddy. It's so hard because everytime I look at her it's a mini you. I am doing it though because I have to. No one ever will ever never compare to you I pray. Everynight for me to not be like this , so unhappy full of anger hate and pain . If I didn't have our daughter I probably would just break .I love and miss you with all my heart
Cindra
December 9, 2008
Brenda and family and Alana,
I can't imagine how you're all feeling as Jerry's birthday approaches but you are all in my thoughts and prayers. I wish for you peace during these difficult holiday times and hope that you find comfort in his memories and with your loved ones. It is never easy to lose a loved one, especially so suddenly and at such a young age. But know that his legacy-Taylor, will always know the love her father had for her and the joy she brought him. Hug her tight and stay close through the years. It is always family that will keep you grounded. Much love to you all.
Brooke Kruzona
December 2, 2008
Jerry,
It's been almost two months since you've been gone and there still hasn't been one day that has gone by where I haven't thought of you & missed you. I had an incredible summer with you and am so thankful that you allowed me into your and Taylors life. I will always remember the late night movie nights on work nights, watching UFC together while Ava & Taylor played together, the camping trip,Stinson beach and sooo many other memories we created together. You were unlike anybody else I had ever met and you were such an incredible father. Taylor is so blessed to have an angel like you to watch over her. Thank you again Jerry for all the memories..You will always be missed and never ever forgotten..I love you <33
Jerry & Jeanine Gray
November 13, 2008
Chris you were such an amazing kid just starting your life. You truly touched so many and left behind many precious memories that each of us will always treasure. Uncle Jerry and I are so happy that we were able to share in many of your happiest moments in your young life most of all your beautiful daughter Taylor "TayTay". To see you with her and the way she looked at her "Daddy" warms our hearts, something that will never fade. We will forever Love you and miss you. You and PaPa watch over us until we all are together again.
We Love you, Uncle Jerry & Aunt Jeanine
Justin gray
November 11, 2008
My brother Christopher, You where the best brother I ever had You would come invite me to stay the night and play video games with me. It meaned alot to me. Going shopping and buying matching beanies. Now its Roberts turn LoL. I love you and miss you always. Your little brother Justin.
kayla timm
November 3, 2008
When i first met you in the 9th grade i ran inside to my aunt and said... "oh my gosh, he is so cute!"
then we became best friends. you always walked me to school, we would hold hands until we got to my house. haha.
youve changed my life in so many ways and im so thankfull to have known you. you truley showed me love.
you were so patient teaching me how to dirtbike and when i was trying to learn how to change gears you were right there laughing.
you were my love and you always will be.
im going to miss your voice and your silly jokes.
ill see you again, i know it.
brenda... you raised an amazing son.
thank you.
i love you.
Dustin Gray
October 22, 2008
Brenda & Family:
Ya'll are in our prayers. I searched for Jerry for years after ya'll moved from Mississippi. I was gonna suprise him and come visit next summer. He'll always be in our hearts. He was like my brother, I cant believe he's gone. Talk to you soon.. Love Ya'll...Dustin, Donna & Jennifer Gray
Joyce Hannon
October 18, 2008
To the family of Christopher Gray:
On behalf of Jeanine's brother, Mark, and myself please know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers at this sad, sad time. Christopher will live on in the memories of everyone who knew and loved him. May our dear Lord grant you solace and bless your love for each other.
Robert Thompson
October 18, 2008
Jerry it was great knowing you. I hope your at peace with God. We'll all make sure sure Taylor is happy and knows about her Daddy.
Kathy Rivera
October 18, 2008
Dearest Jerry,
I am so proud to be Taylor Ann's Noni!! You and my daughter Alana have blessed me with such a beautiful grand-daughter who has me wrapped around her pinky finger. I saw how radiant you became everytime you were with Taylor. The love you have for her will live forever with memories and great stories of her Daddy. Oh and by the way Jerry, the spahetti sauce I made that you enjoyed, it always had onions in it. You will be missed greatly!
Barbara Palmer
October 18, 2008
Dear Brenda,
I know how proud you are of all your boys, and I am so sad to hear of Jerry's passing. Your loving memories will comfort you, and in time will soften the saddness you feel right now. I'm praying for you.
Love,
tawny
October 17, 2008
jerry, whenever you were around so was laughter, i can't begin to express how much you will be missed,i am so glad to have known you...."beyond the door theres peace i'm sure, and i know there will be no more tears in heaven"
sue rivera
October 17, 2008
christopher, i have such a good memory of taking you, Robert and Kattie to church with us when we all lived in Mississippi, and afterwards you three wanted to know how come we had to kneel and get up so much. these are the memories i always want to remember. nana sue
Kattie Gummert
October 17, 2008
Jerry Christopher-
Well, i'll try this again since the first time didn't work. =)
It really sucked hard to find out that you were fighting for your life in the hospital with the chance of not making it, the family prayed and prayed for you to pull through but i guess sometimes you don't always get what you want. I finally got to meet your little tay tay, she's absolutely beautiful and it breaks my heart and makes me happy all at the same time when i look at her because she looks just like you! The family i'm sure is grateful to have a little you running around, it'll be almost like you never left. We had a lot of good memories that no one will ever forget.. You'll be with us forever and ever, Watch over us, especially taylor... i really wish i could have seen you two together!
Love you chris, Miss you tons
-Never Forgotten-
LOVE ALWAYS!!!!!
Rest In Peace, Until we meet again =)
<3
bret fergerson
October 17, 2008
see you again lil cousin.
till then, sleep with the angels.
i miss you dawg!
yvonne Gummert
October 17, 2008
chris when you where born you toucht so meany heart as you grow into a young man you toucht even more heart you maybe gone but never forgotten. Auntie Yvonee
Kattie Gummert
October 17, 2008
Chris- its been too bad that our family had to come together under the circumstances but i believe its safe to say you've definitely changed a lot of lives. You were the sweetest person i've ever known, kind heart, amazing personality and loved by so many! It made me so happy to see how many people showed up at the service. It meant a lot to me so i can only imagine how much it meant to your mom. You're gonna be missed so much and we're all looking forward to seeing you again. You've got a big family to look over =) I'm gonna try to make sure Damien can grow up with tay tay as much as possible, it'll be nice for our kids to have the same bond we had. Take Care and keep in touch
Love You Always
You'll always be in our hearts- Never forgotten
Cindra
October 17, 2008
To Jerry's Family,
Today will be one of the most difficult days you'll have to go through and my prayers are with you all. A burial need not be the end of this wonderful guy, hold tight to your memories and may they blaze the path through the coming weeks and months. Love to you all.
Jeanie Brown
October 16, 2008
I only met Jerry once, but I've known his sweet mother, Brenda, for several years. I know he had a generous heart. On one occasion, he helped my husband with installing a floor, and he refused payment! His mother was so proud of her oldest son. My heart goes out to the family, especially to Brenda and Justin. A mother should never have to bury her child. May God give them comfort through this difficult time.
Amanda Crisman
October 16, 2008
Brenda and family,
I am so sorry for your loss. Hold on to the wonderful memories of your son.
Love,
Amanda
Teddy & Les Tjaden
October 16, 2008
To The Gray Family -
Our deepest sympathies & prayers are with you in this time of loss. Chris leaves us with happy memories and smiles of love that we shall all cherish and keep in our hearts. His life was not in vain, but an example a life well lived & loved. God bless you all.
Alicia King
October 16, 2008
You will be missed.
Krista edwards
October 16, 2008
Jerry,
you were an awsome person and no one will ever forget that! you always had a smile on your face and would be there for anyone who needed you! you will be truley missed by so many. love ya man!
Julia Fisher
October 16, 2008
JERRY- we have so many GOOD memories throughout the years;swimming, chicken sandwich plain no mayo, your numerous amount of trucks, alana, allowing me to be there for the birth of Taylor, camping trip, late night phone calls with you and alana, living together, dixon skate park, your old house, you being super white skined, your super big big toe, how you always told me im your best friend....; so many. We were the trio for the longest time;you me and barrett. You always made me laugh with your jokes or comments about anything.You always had my back, and i will always still have your back. We were best friends jerry. ill never forget that! you will always be kaidens uncle jerry! our memories will never be forgotten!watch over us all! love you and miss you lots! Love your B.F.F. FORVER Julia
Lonnie Kennedy
October 16, 2008
My son, Sean, knew Jerry. From what I've heard, Jerry was very good to Sean in the past. Sean is unable to communicate his condolences right now, so I am doing it for him. Our prayers and thoughts are with Jerry's family.
-------Mrs. Kennedy
Scott Gummert
October 16, 2008
Chris,
You were my nephew and my friend. I will always hold you dear to my heart. I have so many fond memories of you. I will miss you till the end of my time. You will be missed by many and know we all loved you. Rest in peace Chris. Love you, Uncle Scott
Leanne Stokes
October 16, 2008
Dearest Family and Friends of Christopher. May you be comforted.
Angie Lozonne
October 16, 2008
To the Gray & Baker Families,
We're so sorry to hear of your loss. Although we haven't seen you or the boys in a long time, you've still always been in our thoughts. May all your wonderful memories of Christopher and all that he was bring you comfort during this difficult time.
Brenda...if you get this message, we want you to know we're here for you. Angie & Martha
Rochelle isaacson-reyes
October 16, 2008
Hello Gray family,
I am so sorry for your loss. Jerry was a great kid, he always had a smile. It seems like yesterday that Justin an Jerry an Bryce were in my yard climbing the trees, riding their bikes, and lake jumping. I am so thankful that i have such wonderful memories of him. He was so proud of his daughter, an what a great person he turned out to be. The only soloce i get from this is, I prayed to my mom that she would take care of him. So i know he is ok now.
Inez Villanueva (Timm)
October 16, 2008
My thoughts and prayers go out to the Gray family. I had only met Jerry a couple of weeks ago when Kayla introduced him. He was very kind, respectful, and humorous. Little Taylor was so cute with her little rabbit hat. God bless.
Dawn, Andrew and Amanda Wilkinson(Gordon)
October 15, 2008
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Linda Scharf
October 15, 2008
To all the family members and friends of Christoper. I was so saddened to hear about Christopher. I was very proud to know him as my great nephew. As I live in Iowa, I didn't get to see him or talk to him often. But I will always remember talking to him during my 3 recent visits to the family there in Vacaville. I could see how proud he was of Taylor and how much he loved her. She was a wonderful gift to him and he to her. I pray that the family will find peace in your memories of him. Love to you all. Aunt Linda
Sarah Kadi
October 15, 2008
Jerry,
You were a wonderful father to Taylor and we all know that she was your little angel.Now we know Taylor and Alana have their Guardian Angel always looking upon them. No one can ever take your place in their hearts. You will forever be in our hearts and Taylor will always know who her daddy is.
Rest in Peace
Alana Rivera
October 15, 2008
jerry christopher gray,
when i first met you it was 107 degrees outside i worked at ralphs grocery store and i was pushing a bunch of carts. you pulled up in your dark blue chevy and i was like omg who is that guy i want his truck.lol. you and your friends helped me push the carts and i got your number. ever since that day we were together always. you hated onions with a pasion and always had to have your ice cold glass of water next to us before bed. We have been though a lot together and had shared a bunch of good times together and i will never forget that.. I am so blessed to have had your child with you. I will never forget what we had talked about and i am so greatful you knew and that keeps me at peace with you. Taylor will always know who her daddy is and i will never let her forget it. i know you are with your grandpa and i know how much you missed him but now you guys are together. Your Taylors angel now. I love you forever and always. Alana
Kim Tjaden
October 15, 2008
Christopher you are such a beautiful person inside and out. I was blessed to have you in my life and will always be so proud of you. I promise to always be there for Taylor and help her to know the person you were. I'm comforted by knowing you had such good friends in your life and found true love in such a short time and are in heaven wth Grandpa.I love you kiddo. Peace, Aunt Kim
Cindra aka Mima
October 15, 2008
I'll never forget watching Taylor bang on the glass storm door saying "da-da" as Jerry walked up the path to pick her up. She was always ready to take her place on his left hip.
Sherri Kadi
October 15, 2008
Alana & Tay Tay,
I love you both with all my heart,,Jerry, your daddy Tay will be missed dearly,,Tay he loved you with all his heart and you were his pride and joy by far! Alana you and Jerry shared a special bond that nobody can ever take from you,you gave him the most precious thing anyone can give another,,the love of a child, in your heart you know how he truely felt about you, always keep the thoughts of the love you shared because those will get you through these hard times.Jerry will live on through Taylor and I'm sure he will be protecting you both just like he did when he was here with us. I love you! Sherri
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