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Thomas Stanley Obituary

STANLEY as J. Stanley, 81, of Punta Gorda, Fla., passed away on Wednesday, December 13, 2006 in Punta Gorda. He was born on December 20, 1924 in Baltimore, Maryland. Mr. Stanley was a veteran of World War II serving with the U.S. Army Air Corp. He was a graduate of Randolph-Macon College. Mr. Stanley was a teacher and a coach. He moved to Punta Gorda in 1990 from Richmond, Va. He is survived by his loving family, his wife of 22 years, Averett Stanley of Punta Gorda; nine children, Susan Stanley, Robyn Stanley, Tomilyn Venaglia, Julie Southworth, Janice Southworth, John Schwartz Jr., Sherry Condrey, Cristy Dance and Angie Garland; 17 grandchildren, and a brother, Aubrey Gilman. There will be no local services at this time. Interment, with Military Honors by the U.S. Army, will be at Forest Lawn Cemetery in Richmond on Wednesday, December 27, 2006 at 11 a.m. Arrangements are by Charlotte Memorial Funeral Home, Cremation Services and Memorial Gardens Cemetery, Punta Gorda, Fla.

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Published by Richmond Times-Dispatch on Dec. 26, 2006.

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Gloria Scott

January 25, 2007

Tom Stanley and I had a very special common bond...our grandson, Conner.My fondest memories of Tom are the many words of wisdom he shared with me and the many laughs.No matter how down one felt,being around Tom always proved to be very uplifting and he could make even the saddest person laugh.He loved his family very much and spoke often of them to me. He was most definitely a symbol of love and laughs.

Tomilyn Stanley Venaglia

January 25, 2007

Thank you for sharing your fond memories of our father. We appreciate all your prayers for us at this sad time. God Bless you.

Janice Southworth

January 24, 2007

Tom was my dad and I miss him very much.All the wonderful things people said about him really touched my heart.He had a wonderful long life and was lucky enough to have married well twice.See you on the other side Dad.Love Janice (one of the twins)

January 2, 2007

Tom Stanley was also my swimming coach in the mid-50's. He was fun, always positive, quiet, and of course - gorgeous! All of us girls had crushes! I have often thought of him over the years, and extend my hearfelt sympathies to his family.
Charlotte Angier Walker (Totsy)
Richmond, VA

Cecil Youngblood

December 28, 2006

Tom was a very important influence in my life at Southampton as my coach and my first boss. I learned a lot of life lessons from him. He will be missed, I know.

Shields Jett

December 28, 2006

Tom Stanley was my swimming coach at Southampton (SRA).He was a great coach and motivator.I improved and achieved more than I thought I could .For a kid who was 10-12 years old at the time I learned valuable life lessons from Tom on what it means to be in good physical condition,and the satisfaction of accomplishing something you did not think you could do.My memory of Tom is when he would be telling us what we should be doing with our strokes,etc.when we were all down at the shallow end of the new pool.

Joe Lenzi

December 27, 2006

Very sorry to hear of Tom's passing. He was unique in the formative years of my life. I, and the rest of the kids my age, loved and respected Tom like no other.

I am sure that I speak for many kids, now grown, when I say that Tom was special. Thank you Tom and best wishes to all of the Stanley family.

JoEd Lenzi

Mary Collier

December 27, 2006

Tom Stanley was my swimming coach and a very positive and influential person in my growth and development during my childhood in Southampton Community Assoication. I'll never forget him, just as many sports team members never forget their admired coach. I have to say ditto to everything Jonathan Angier said in his entry.
To Susan and Tomilyn...you may or may not remember me but I remember you and your mother who actually taught me at St. Gertrude High School--I have your family in my thoughts and prayers. Love, Mary Margaret Lenzi Collier

Jonathan Angier

December 27, 2006

Tom Stanley was a powerful influence in my life when he coached me on the Southampton Swim Team.

He was always positive and he was able to get me to do things I didn't think I could do or want to do.

While it was in the context of swimming, those lessons stuck with me all of my life and in all aspects of my life.

It has been decades since I saw or heard from Tom, but his memory has been with me always.

I send my sincerest sympathy to Tom's family and best wishes for the
future, especially to Susan and Robyn whom I knew when we were
children.

Tom may be gone, but he will not be soon forgotten.

June Lane

December 26, 2006

My thoughts and prayers are with the family Tom was wonderful person
Loved to be around him and listen to him tell jokes He surely will be
missed but not forgetten

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