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Thomas DIFFLEY Obituary

Age 72, of North Oaks, died at home of heart failure on 6/29/16. Tom was born on 9/1/43 and was the second of five children in a lively Eagan, MN, family. He attended Rosemount Elementary School and St. Joseph Catholic School in Rosemount, MN, and graduated from Nazareth Hall in Roseville, MN, in 1961. Tom was especially proud of his St. John's University education in Collegeville, MN, and graduated with the class of 1965 with a Bachelor of Arts in English. He earned a Master of Arts in English from the University of Miami in Coral Gables, FL. Tom met his wife, Kathy McGrath, while working in Glacier National Park during college, and married in 1966 in Miami, FL, where their son, Tom P, was born. Tom began his teaching career in Miami, FL, at the Everglade School for Girls. In 1968, Tom earned his real estate license, which began his 40+ year career in real estate. The family moved to LaCrescent, MN, in 1969, for a high school English teaching position for Tom, and so they could be closer to family when Jim arrived. In 1972, the family moved to the Twin Cities, where their daughter, Meghan, was later born. Tom began his 11 year career at Irondale High School in New Brighton, MN, teaching his beloved English Literature and Poetry classes. While Tom taught high school, he maintained an intense schedule - selling real estate at night and on the weekends. In 1980, Tom joined Edina Realty as a top-listing St. Paul agent. In 1983, he became the Training Director and worked with its holding companies for the next 30 years. Throughout his life, Tom interwove his love of family, teaching, real estate, golf, travel and countless good friends. We will miss his quick-wit, clever insight and observations, and his remarkable efforts to stay connected with his vast community of family and friends. Survived by his wife of 50 years, Kathy; their 3 children, Tom (Alison), Jim (Shelley), and Meghan (Nick); their 6 grandchildren, Tommy, John, Marie, Anna, Claire and Audrey; his brothers, John (Kay) and Martin (Atina); his sisters, Eileen (Dave) and Teresa; and extended family. Preceded in death by parents, Tom and Corinne Diffley. Tom's visitation will be held on Thursday, July 14, 4-8pm at Bradshaw Celebration of Life Center, 4600 Greenhaven Dr., White Bear. On Friday, July 15, a visitation at 9am and Memorial Mass at 10am will be held at Assumption Catholic Church, 51 7th St. W., St. Paul. Tom's luncheon at North Oaks Golf Club, 54 East Oaks Rd., will begin at 11:30am. Memorials may be directed to the Ralph Reeder Food Shelf or Second Harvest Heartland Food Bank. 651-407-8300


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Published by Pioneer Press from Jul. 3 to Jul. 10, 2016.

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CURT MATLIN

June 27, 2025

Mr. Diffley made an amazing (and lasting) impact on his students. Just last week I was telling someone a story about his teaching methods and my experience as a student in his classroom. That was 45 years ago. Still talking about him.
Sad that he's been gone 9 years. That said, he's in Eternal Spirit and hopefully loving it!

July 21, 2016

Condolences to the Diffley family. You surely know that anyone who went to St. John's events in the 1960's or worked at Glacier at St. Mary's in those same years, when Tom was there and singing away, realize that even those who know him most from then,found grand appreciation for him. My husband and I attended the 40 year Anniversary for those who worked at St. Mary's in Glacier and even my husband remembers your husband, father and grandfather's liveliness.
Prayerfully,
Mary Pat Ferron Canes

c anderson

July 15, 2016

For Tom -
"who's eyes to compare with the morning sun, not that I did compare but I will now that you're gone..."

Thanks for the gift of Poetry Mr. Diffley

you told the world of your own 300 yard drives 15 years before tiger woods was born.

and thanks nuggets of life in our youth.

BobbieRubixKubeczech
Rickiedontlosethatnumbergersdorf

genius!!

Curt Matlin

July 14, 2016

Mr. Diffley was my favorite high school teacher (and the favorite of many). Sorry to hear of his passing. Condolences to the family.

My wife (who never met him) and I still quote him, "Word-pow-pow-POWER!"

His memory lives on through his students, friends and family.

Edward Vogt

July 14, 2016

Dear Kathy, 7-14-16


After the initial shock of hearing of Tom's passing, I realized that Tom's love of life and literature did not pass away. They are spread like the gospel seed into his family, friends and students --and then to their descendants.

I still tell my friends about him, years after he'd entertain me with his hilarious original stories of The Quister and Johnny Rivers Chokes in Concert. Tom was the only one I knew who still would shout Hoo-Haa! from the 1950's Mad Magazine satires. Of all the listeners, only I believed him sane at the time, as I shouted the same thing.

Anyone who ever knew Tom will miss him. I hope that you'll be consoled a little to know that men like Tom never really die. I even put a little of Tom's spirit into Kirk in my story American Hearts. But Tom was one of a kind, and not fictional.

To paraphrase W.H.Auden: Earth receive an honored guest,
Thomas Diffley laid to rest.

My prayers and all best wishes and sympathy, Kathy.


Sincerely,




Ed Vogt

John Sullivan

July 13, 2016

I'm sorry to hear of the loss of " MR Diffley". I haven't heard the name in over 30 years. I'm a 1984 graduate of Irondale H.S. My wife is a 1982 graduate of Irondale. I don't recall if he was one of my teachers, but I'd heard his name many times around the school. From what I do recall, he was well liked. I'm sorry to hear his name again under the circumstances. Our thoughts and prayers go out to his family. God bless... John and Brenda Sullivan.

July 13, 2016

Kathy & Family: We were so sorry to hear about Tom's passing.. what a wonderful person he was; caring, generous and fun loving.. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you at this difficult time..

Mike Mulligan & Andrea McGauley

Brett Hildreth

July 13, 2016

Tom and family, so sorry to hear about the passing of your father. May your family take consolation in that he is now celebrating in a finer place that we and he can only imagine. Rest in Peace. Brett Hildreth

Edward Finley

July 12, 2016

So saddened to learn of Mr. Diffley's passing. He was my teacher during my senior year (1969-'70) at LaCrescent High School. He was an excellent teacher and had a very caring person with a keen interest in his students and their plans for the future. The following year, I left to attend the University of Minnesota as a Journalism Major after spending the summer of 1970 with a part-time job in Advertising Sales at the Houston County News. Although I have not seen him since the early 1970's I will always remember his love of hockey. He single-handedly created an interest in the community that years later resulted in building an ice arena and forming a team. You must remember that in the deep SouthEast corner of the state and bordering Wisconsin, if a topic didn't have anything to do with The Packers and football, it didn't have much chance to be practiced. Most of us in that part of the world had never seen a live hockey game; nor had we participated in even a recreational game. When I got to the University, I immediately discovered what the hockey craze was all about. But like many others, we owe that interest to Tom Diffley who lit the candle as far as hockey goes in SE Minnesota. Many fond memories and my deepest sympathy to his family.

Ed Porthan

July 12, 2016

My deepest sympathies to the Diffley Family. Our teaching years at Irondale were precious. Tom was the consummate educator. Anyone who could entice my students to cut my class to attend his Poetry class deserves the highest praise!I'll cherish the memories,

Dawn Reichel

July 11, 2016

Dear family of Tom Diffley,
Words can't begin to express how sorry I was to read Tom's obituary in the paper. I am so sorry for his loss. I always looked forward to seeing Tom and the rest of the Diffley family in the dental office I worked in. Dr. Ager was one of Tom's best friends and I always enjoyed stories about his children and grand children and his travels with Steve and Mary. I have great memories of him and I know memories will keep him alive through all of our hearts. My deepest sympathy to the whole family.
Love,
Dawn Reichel

Judy Mullery Mikrut

July 11, 2016

Sending my condolences to Tom's family. So sorry to hear of his sudden passing.Tom and his brothers were special family friends to my brothers while growing up at St. Joseph's Catholic School in Riosemount. Lots of fun times together when Tom was around.

Nancy Werner

July 11, 2016

My deep sympathies to Mr. Diffley's family and friend. Mr. Diffley was one of my teachers at Irondale - I haven't seen him for over 40 years, but well remember him. Everyone loved him - such a lively, cheerful man and a very good teacher. Sounds like he had a life well lived and was well loved- can't ask for anything more than that in this life.

Tom Juen

July 9, 2016

The start or a beautiful day at Glacier Park; my family and I camped at Johnson's Campground. Lucky Black and son Huey asleep in a tent at our site. The morning alarm clock was Tom and Steve Berg calling a wake up for us all. What a great surprise. What a grand morning!

July 5, 2016

I loved Tom like a brother.
Pfutz

July 3, 2016

TO THE DIFFLEY FAMILY....SO SORRY TO READ OF TOM'S DEATH. GREAT MEMORIES OF A REAL GENTLEMAN AND FAMILY IN ALL THE DIFFLEYS. REMEMBERING YOU ALL IN MY MASSES UP NORTH HERE....LOVE 'N PRAYERS... FR. MIKE ARMS, CROSSLAKE, MINN.

Shari and Steve Bjorklund

July 3, 2016

Dear Diffley Family,

We were so sad to hear about Tom. Whenever we hear his name, a smile spreads across our faces. He was kind...always interested in others...and a funny and wonderful wordsmith who never forgot a name. May your many good memories help you through this tough time. We know you will miss him...as so many will. Please know that we are thinking of you.

Shari and Steve Bjorklund

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