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STEVEN KAY Obituary
Steven Bruce Kay
Of Washington, DC., died suddenly on August 19, 2019, at the age of 61. A native Washingtonian, Steve was born on December 11, 1957, to Marvin and Dolores Kay. He graduated from Walt Whitman High School in 1975 and went on to receive a B.S. in Civil Engineering from the University of Michigan in 1979 and an MBA from The George WashingtonUniversity in 1985. Steve began his career with the Richmarr Companies, a development and construction company his father and Richard Kirstein founded in 1953. In 1995, drawing on their years of experience at Richmarr, Steve joined Richard's son, Gary Kirstein to form Encore Development, where they developed and built their own projects while also providing construction management to outside clients. Steve approached life with boundless energy, love, and a huge smile. A true child of the '60s and '70s, he was a talented guitarist with a passion for rock and blues, and he played in several bands throughout his life, most recently with his band, Outta The Blues. Steve was an avid tennis player and a frustrated golfer. His greatest pleasure by far was skiing with his wife and children on their frequent trips to Aspen-his favorite place on earth. Steve is survived by his beloved wife and best friend, Ellen Winer Kay, his adored children, Andrew, Suzanne, and Caroline, his mother, Dolores Tauber Kay, a brother, Craig J. Kay (Stephanie Krupin), and a sister, Karen Matthews. A private funeral service was held on August 23, 2019. Memorial contributions can be made to The Risa Fund, www.risafund.org "It's better to burn out than it is to rust, the king is gone but not forgotten."
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Eric Bass
August 24, 2020
I can't believe it's been a year. Honestly Ellen, I think about you and Derek often. My thoughts and prayers remain with you always. Wish I was closer so I could share with you personally. Please know, in my life, you guys are never forgotten. Victor B.
Thomas Roelofs
October 11, 2019
I knew Steve when we were Civil Engineering students at the University of Michigan. We both transferred to U-M the same year, and he was one of the first friends I made there, and his friendship, and strong, engaging personality made it such a better experience for me. Not sure what made me Google his name after all these years, but it shows you what kind of impact he had on me to think of him. I was saddened to see how his name came up in the results, but I think it's just God's way of letting me know that he has taken my old buddy. Knowing Steve, he was a great father, great parent, and had a great life. Made mine better. God Bless.
Sharon and Keith Meyer
September 6, 2019
Dear Ellen and Family: The Meyer Family would like to extend our deepest condolences on the untimely passing of Steve. We have fond memories of our time spent with you all of those parent's weekends at Camp Pinecliffe with our daughters. I will always remember Steve's overwhelming joy at our father-daughter tennis matches.
May you all take comfort from the many fine memories he leaves behind. Our thoughts are with you.
Eric Bass
September 3, 2019
Dear Ellen and Family,
The picture in the guest book is the way I always did and always will remember Derek! To me, he was always truly interested and caring, always made me smile and feel special when I saw him.
It's so hard to imagine the world without his light shining in it. Although I did not see you all often, living in California, I always felt close and you are always in my heart.
I'm so sorry for your families loss especially, not to mention a loss to all of us.
Sending Love,
Victor
September 3, 2019
We were so sad to hear this news. What a loss. Such a beloved person. We will miss his shows, and his happy feet on the golf trip. Our deepest condolences to Ellen and kids. Michael & Myriam Ahearn
My photo Neil, Billy, Ralph and Nils-Crazy Horse May 6, 2018 Fox Theater, Bakersfield, CA
Howell Posner
September 1, 2019
Steve, May Your Memory Be a Blessing. Our condolences to Ellen, your kids and the Kay family.
Many a full moon has passed since we last spoke and now those yet to come will not be as bright. You've left us to join a great band. Now you get to jam with Hendrix, Jimmy Reed and Danny Whitten. Every time I hear Neil you will be remembered. Yes, The King is gone but he's not forgotten.
August 31, 2019
We go back a long way. We are friends, co workers and played music together. Our fathers had a long history. I pray for your family. Till we meet again. Doug Jr.
August 31, 2019
Sudden loss is very difficult to bear, my condolences to the family. Hoping the love and support from family, friends and God help you endure this heartbreak.
N. S.
August 31, 2019
My deepest sympathy to the family of Steven Kay. May you be comforted in knowing that our Heavenly Father cares for you. He will give you strength and courage to cope with your grief. Psalm 94:17-19 u
Charley Hutson
August 31, 2019
I really enjoyed knowing Steve. Such a happy and nice guy. A fantastic and talented musician I wish I'd had more time to play with.
Our prayers and thoughts are with you all.
Charley Hutson and the Hutson family
August 30, 2019
I am very sorry for the loss of your loved one. May you be comforted by your fondest memories of him, cherish them and keep them close to your heart. With each passing day may you receive needed comfort and strength from God, as well as, love and support from family and friends.
August 30, 2019
Dear Ellen-I have been holding you and your children in my heart and prayers since I heard the news. I am so very sorry. Will fondly remember Steve's vibrant smile that you captured in this photo. Love, Karen Riibner
William Banner
August 30, 2019
Steven was my friend since Bannockburn in the 70's. I remember him well throughout the years at Walt Whitman. Such a nice guy I'll always remember. May he find everlasting peace in heaven with God. We all will miss him dearly.
Sincere condolences to his entire family from the Banner family. RIP Steven.
Mike Cohen
August 30, 2019
May Steve's family find some semblance of peace. He is at peace. Sending all the love I know how to send.
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