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for Stephen Bender
Jean Klein
August 25, 2010
Dear Teresa,
I just heard about the loss of your beloved Stephen. I'm so very sorry. I will always remember what a kind and gentle soul he was. Know that our thoughts are with you, Laura, and Thea. Please accept our condolences.
Love,
Jean (Getty) and Steve Klein
August 25, 2010
I read of Steve's death this week (Aug. 25) in the Lake Forest College Alumni Notes and was very saddened.
We arrived at the College at the same moment, in the fall of 1966. There were only a handful of Jewish students in the incoming class, which may have had something to do with the way we naturally gravitated toward each other during our first turbulent weeks in The Great Midwest. Eventually, Steve joined a fraternity and I chose not to; as a result, we ended up going our separate ways, although we continued to remain friendly.
I was gratified to read that Steve spent his life in a thoughtful, giving way – that was nice to discover so many years later.
As it happens, I ended up living in Steve's original hometown of Newton, MA. I'm guessing that he left some friends here behind as well.
Please accept my condolences and know that I share your sorrow.
Stephen Logowitz
Class of 1970
Lake Forest College
jan spracklin
July 24, 2010
Dear Teresa, I just found out about your loss of Stephen! I am deeply sadened. I truly love you guys. You both have helped me thru some tuff times. You will always be in my heart. You are one special lady, that made Stephen feel like a king! May God bless you. I love you, Jan Spracklin
Susan Blanchard
January 25, 2010
Dear Teresa and Family - I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband, Dr. Steve, as my son, Danny called him.. Dr. Steve was my son's therapist for several years and really helped him so much.. After my son was discharged from Dr. Bender's care, I started to see him as my therapist. I was diagnosed with a rare, neurological disorder called Cervical Dystonia, and I cannot tell you how much he helped me deal with my disorder, which has no cure. Dr. Bender was not only a wonderful person, he was a great therapist with a great outlook on life! He will be sorely missed... God bless. ~ Susan Blanchard
Michael and Jana Holden
January 22, 2010
Dear Ms Brugman.
My wife and I have had the pleasure of knowing your husband. He has meant so much to us in his guidance and kindness. His loss will be felt by the many who have known him as a friend and mentor. We offer our deepest condolences and wish you well.
Mr and Mrs Holden
Paula Haddad
January 21, 2010
Steve will be so missed by my family. He was such a great person and so helpful to my son, Jordan. There are no words that could possibly state what he did for my son. The most down to earth soul that took people for what they were and called the cards as he saw them. During the time of my family strife, we'd been to so many people and no one could make the connection with my son, but Steve did so. At a time when my son was an adolescent that felt that all adults were not to be trusted, Steve broke through that and helped him move forward. Not that I had ever told Steve why I chose him as my son's therapist, but he had helped someone else that I knew many years before (who is also now deceased). I am so sorry to hear about your loss and he is now a bright star shining down on the earth. He will be so missed.
Love The Hoene Family
Penny Maciejka-Hoene
January 16, 2010
Dear Teresa,
My mom and we send our condolences; we often talk of you affectionately, and send our deepest sympathy to all of you during this difficult time. May we be able to provide you inspiration and comfort, when you have done so for us over the years.
I am confident that you with your strength and courage will find solace with your family and friends during this dark moment.
Kisses and Hugs
Penny maciejka-Hoene, Bernd, Hans, Henning, Edward, Franzi. Also Eddie & Elaine.
Ruthie Dean
January 12, 2010
Dear Teresa & Family:
I have thought about you a lot over the years. I came across your name on line and discovered that you have lost your dear husband. My heartfelt sympathy goes out to you and your daughters.
I know that you are a very strong person and I'm hoping that the good memories with you and your family will sustain you at this time.
Love to all of you,
January 2, 2010
Stephen will be greatly missed by everyone who ever had the good fortune of knowing him. A gifted therapist, a talented musician, a loving husband, father and friend. There should be a picture of Steve beside the
word "mensch" in the dictionary.
"A mensch is someone to admire and emulate, someone of noble character. The key to being “a real mensch” is nothing less than character, rectitude, dignity, a sense of what is right, responsible, decorous".
Leo Rosten~ The Joys of Yiddish.
Peace on your journey, Steve.
Joseph Trainor
January 2, 2010
Teresa,
I am so sorry to hear about Steve's passing. I just returned from being away and am sorry that I missed the memorial service. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
With my deepest sympathy,
Joe Trainor
Jim Fallon
January 2, 2010
Knowing Steve enriched our lives. He will be missed but his friendship will last forever.
Deborah Schmitt, PT
January 1, 2010
Teresa,
I was saddened to read of your husband's passing. I know you shared a very deep bond of love and respect. May those memories help you through this difficult time, and sustain you in the days to come.
Mary McCormick
December 31, 2009
Graydon and I were devastated to learn of Stephen's death, yesterday. Our thoughts and greatest sympathy go out to you, Teresa, and your girls. We hope that the love and support of family and friends will help to sustain you during this difficult time.
Lisa Ireson
December 31, 2009
We are very saddened to hear of Dr. Bender's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with Teresa, his daughters and the family.
Lisa Ireson
PJ Morasse
Nick and Sharon Pangaro
December 31, 2009
When someone passes on that we knew and liked, I?ve always wondered why the pain was so great. Then I came across a passage from Robert Pirsig on the death of his son, Chris. Pirsig says that people become parts of patterns in our lives, and when they pass, they leave holes in that pattern. The stronger the attachment, the bigger the hole, and the tougher it is to fill.
Steve leaves a big hole for us to fill. But while the pain is huge, even for us who knew him only through the wonderful sharing of music, the cause of the pain is the love that drove the attachment. And such love can never be a bad thing.
Rest in peace, Steve. Our lives, and the lives of all who you touched in your time with us, is much richer because you were here.
Betsey
December 31, 2009
A terrible loss - my thoughts go out to Teresa and the girls -
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