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Robert Andrew Heavilin

1936 - 2011

Robert Andrew Heavilin obituary, 1936-2011

BORN

1936

DIED

2011

Robert Heavilin Obituary

Robert Andrew Heavilin of Bloomfield and former resident of West Hartford, Conn. passed away on Friday, February 25 due to complications from Alzheimer's.
Known throughout his life as "Bob" he was born to the late J. Seegar and Elsie Weniess Heavilin on January 12, 1936 in New York City.
Bob graduated from high school at the age of 16 and then went on to earn an Artium Baccalaureus from the University of Chicago by the age of 19. He later earned a Master's degree in Divinity from Boston University, a Master's degree in Counseling Psychology from the University of Connecticut and a Doctorate in Counseling Psychology, also from the University of Connecticut. He served briefly in the U.S. Army Signal Corps in the 1950's.
Bob was a life-long educator, starting his 40+ year career as a middle school teacher in Verona, N.J. In the 1960's he practiced as a Congregational Minister in New Jersey and Connecticut. After earning his degrees at UConn, Bob began working as a professor of psychology at Capital Community College. Later he also taught at the graduate level at Central Connecticut State University. Additionally, Bob had a private practice in marital and family counseling.
Bob was a passionate sports fan of the Jets and Yankees. He was also an avid hiker who introduced generations of the family to the White Mountains. A raucous game of Hearts accompanied by a glass of good single malt was one of his most favorite family gatherings.
Bob is survived by his beloved wife of 32 years Mary Calvert-Heavilin, his sister Jeanne Heavilin, and his children and step-children and their spouses: Jeanmarie Seabaugh and her husband Steve, Michael Heavilin and his wife Polly, Jane Kellogg and her husband Peter, Susan Calvert, Deborah Heavilin and her husband Bruce Fryer, Sandra Calvert Nathans and her husband Robert, Charles Calvert and his wife Pam Hewitt, and Laura Hill and her husband Douglas; plus his nephew Jay Heavilin, niece Gail Teague and her husband Greg, and niece Tracy Burkhardt. "Grandpa Bob" is also survived by his many grandchildren, great grandchildren and great nieces and nephews, all of whom he loved dearly.
A memorial service will be held on Friday, March 4 at 2 p.m. in the chapel at the First Church of Christ Congregational, 12 South Main Street, West Hartford, Conn.
In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to the Alzheimer's Association. P.O. Box 96011, Washington, D.C. 20090-6011, Ph: (800) 272-3900 www.altz.org. Molloy Funeral Home, West Hartford has care of arrangements.
Please sign the Guest Book at RememberingCT.us/westhartfordnews.com.

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Published by West Hartford News on Mar. 3, 2011.

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Rama Chaturvedi

February 23, 2019

Bob had such great sense of humor . At my retirement party , he spoke and was hilarious .His dedication to our students was way beyond expectation . He was a great friend and a wonderful human being .

Eiichi Fukushima

September 15, 2011

Bob and I were roommates at U of Chicago in 1954-55, the last year he was there. He got me involved in his bowling league. He also organized a birthday treat for me: a $1.95 ice cream sundae that took forever to eat. There are many great memories; he was an excellent roommate. We went our separate ways, only crossing paths once more -- at a reunion in ~2000. I send my condolences to his family. Please know that I will treasure those memories of that year with Bob.

Dawn

May 28, 2011

To friends and family of Robert Healivin,

Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.

I have been searching for him.....to thank him and let him know how, his wisdom, his words and his counseling, was a gift to my life.
Dr. Bob changed my life for the better, the years we spent talking healed me.
I will remember his smile, his laugh, and his words. He will live on in my mind and in heart forever.
He was one of the most important people in my life, one of the most intelligent and caring man I ever met. He was and will always be, one of my hero's!
I truly loved and appreciated his beautiful spirit and I will in ALLWAYS appreciate the gift he was to my life as a woman, a wife and most of all as a parent. Sending hugs out to all his friends, family and to the people he cared for and about.
Sent with love and admiration.

Rama Chaturvedi

April 14, 2011

To Mary and Family : On returning from FL I found that I have lost a dear friend and respected colleague in the passing away of Bob . Working with Bob for almost thirty years was such a joy. His devotion to his students and his warm personality is something I would always remember . Our deepest sympathy . Rama Chaturvedi

Neil/Susan Morse

March 12, 2011

To Mary and the Calvert/Heavilin Families
Our deepest sympathy to all of you for the loss of a very gentle, wise, and compassionate man. Through the years and our friendship with Bob and Mary, they both became part of our family's history, providing child care, attending many family celebrations, and of course hiking in the White Mountains. This photograph is from one of the White Mountain trips that Bob went on with Neil and Josh. It is that glowing smile we'll remember most.

Love,
The Morse Family

Christine Curtin

March 2, 2011

To Chuck and the Heavilin Family,

I am so sorry for your loss. My condolences to each of you.

I was moved to see the comment in Bob's obituary, "intoducing generations of the family to the White Mountains." Although I am not a family member, my son and I had the pleasure of hiking in the White Mountains with Bob, Chuck, Laura, Doug, and Cal in July of 1993. Bob was kind and thoughtful and it was obvious to us, he truly loved his family, nature, and the beauty of the mountains.

As an old Irishman once said, "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal." Bob will always be in your hearts.

Sincerely, Christine

Peggy Lauria

March 2, 2011

To the Heavilin Family,

My deepest condolences to each of you. One of the things that amazed me most about Bob was his zeal for the little things in life. Whether he was running off to class, meeting with a client or squeezing in a run around Coventry, he loved his life.

When he planned a special visit to the Cape, had tickets to a Yankee game with Laura, went to see Mama Mia, drove to a weekly shopping trip with Michael or a babysitting assist, Bob loved his life, and everyone in it.

I recall when he moved his practice to S. Main St. He prepared a flyer to help people find the new office which included the address and he went on to write, "there is a pleasant, chubby, African American doorman who may park your car for you." He asked me to read it before it went out and I said," Do you really want to include the word "chubby"? Bob responded quite seriously, "Well, he is." ! That was Bob.

It didn't take long for the "chubby" doorman to tell me what a great guy, "Dr. Bob" was and how much he enjoyed their brief greetings each day.

Losing Bob has been a long, sad process. I like to imagine him finally at peace, catching up on his UCONN Women's Basketball games and waiting (or maybe you don't have to wait in the afterlife?) for Spring season to begin for the Yankees:-)

Somewhere over the rainbow, another star shines bright in the universe tonight for each of us to see.

Sincerely.
Peggy
Peggy Lauria, Psy.D.

Sandra LaJeunesse

March 1, 2011

Bob and I were in graduate school at UConn together and I remember being touched by his intelligence and kind and compassionate spirit. The world has lost a fine man. My sympathy to Bob's family.

Sabrina Adams-Roberts

March 1, 2011

Deepest sympathy and condolences to the Heavlin family. Dr. Bob will always be remembered as an inspiring and well liked individual. May he rest in peace.

Marcia Clark

March 1, 2011

To the Heavilin Family:

May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.

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