"One day one of my kids said, `Can you play me like a banjo, Mom?' " Maryellen Stout said.
"I had no idea; then I realized my husband would pick him up and play him like a banjo. He's a big kid, 70 pounds, and I said, `Sorry, Matt, I can't do that.' These are the kinds of things he would do with them."
Timothy C. Stout, 42, did the family's laundry, made fabulous garlicky corn on the grill, popped popcorn with the kids and grilled pork chops with a secret coating. It has been hard for Mrs. Stout to try to take over any of those activities.
A few months after Mr. Stout, a quality assurance specialist at Cantor Fitzgerald, died at the World Trade Center, his children — Timothy Jr., now 7; Matthew, 5; and Shannon, 4 — made a list of the 10 Best Things About Daddy:
1. He grilled well. 2. Hugs. 3. Funny. 4. Birthday party and cake. 5. He loved us. 6. Kisses. 7. "Thank you and good night!" (His favorite phrase to encourage the children to go to sleep already, Mrs. Stout explained.) 8. Snuggling. 9. Surprises — movies, treats, adventures. 10. We love Daddy.
"That's pretty much who he was," Mrs. Stout said. "He was Daddy. He had this job because it was a safe job, and he could be home for dinner every night."
Yesterday would have been their 11th wedding anniversary.
Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on June 30, 2002.
Timothy C. 44, of Dobbs Ferry, NY on September 11, 2001 at the World Trade Center. Tim was born in Boston on August 19, 1959. Devoted husband to Maryellen (nee Fanelli), loving father of Timothy Jr., 6, Matthew, 5, and Shannon 4. Cherished son of Thomas and Elinor Stout, caring brother of Caroline Duncan and Jordan Stout. Mass Friday 9:30 am Sacred Heart Church, Dobbs Ferry. Visiting Thursday 2-4 & 7-9 pm, Edwards-Dowdle Funeral Home, 64 Ashford Ave., DOBBS FERRY. Memorials to Twin Towers Fund, P.O. Box 26999, NY, NY 10087-6999 benefiting the families of policemen, firemen and emergency service personnel who gave their lives to save others.
Paid Notice published in THE BOSTON GLOBE on 9/17/2001.