John Thomas McErlean Jr.

John Thomas McErlean Jr.

John McErlean Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Sep. 17, 2001.
The Games of Life
He admitted it was a silly T-shirt, but for John McErlean Jr. it tapped into a deeper truth. The words emblazoned on it were "Life Is Good," and he bought it last summer when he and his wife, Beth, returned to Nantucket, where they spent their first vacation together 15 years earlier. On that earlier trip, though, they did not have four children in tow.

"John said, 'It seems so simple, but it's true: I've been blessed with a wonderful family and everything I wanted from life,' " she recalled.

The entire family agreed that last summer's was the best vacation they had ever had — they biked, flew kites, kayaked and built a bonfire on the beach one evening with some of Mr. McErlean's colleagues from Cantor Fitzgerald, where he was a partner. Still, returning home to Larchmont, N.Y., was hardly a letdown. It was where he had grown up, where he and Beth had dated in high school.

Girard Smith, who was Mr. McErlean's neighbor, paddle tennis partner and close friend since the fourth grade (they even chose the same college, St. Michael's in Vermont), said that the finest testament to Mr. McErlean was "how many people called John their best friend." He talked of Mr. McErlean's a joyous belly-laugh and good-natured competitive streak.

"Johnny could make games out of anything," he said. "Traveling to college we would play `Name That Tune' on the radio for three hours. He always did things like that with his wife and kids, making a game out of life to make it more fun."
Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on December 21, 2001.


McERLEAN-John Thomas Jr. Of Larchmont, NY, died at the World Trade Center on September 11, 2001. He was 39 years old. Born July 27, 1962, in New York City to Agnes and John McErlean Sr. He was raised in Larchmont and attended Iona Prep and St. Michael's College in Vermont. He received a BA in Business in 1984. John had a successful 17-year career on Wall Street, which began at Donaldson, Lufkin & Jenrette. In 1988, he joined Cantor Fitzgerald and most recently served as a Vice President and Partner. He was a parishioner of St. Augustine's Church and a member of the Larchmont Yacht Club. He was an avid sports fan and served as coach for a variety of children's teams in his community. John was deeply loved by his family and his friends. He will always be rembembered for his sparkling smile, quick wit, generosity, sincerity and a tremendous devotion to his wife and family. He will be greatly missed. He is survived by his wife of 14 years, Beth; his four children, Ryan 11, Timothy 9, Mary Kate 8, and Allie Maeve 4. He is also survived by his parents, John and Agnes McErlean; sisters, Ann McErlean, Marie Hunter, Aggie Duhamel, Catherine Francese; brother, Thomas McErlean and 15 nieces and nephews. A memorial service will be held on Monday, 11 AM, at St. Augustine's Church in Larchmont. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to: Twin Towers Fund, P.O. Box 26999, New York, NY 10087-6999, benefiting the families of the policemen, firemen and EMT's who gave their lives to save others.

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September 10, 2021

Johnny Mac, a tough anniversary but incredible memories..I miss you guys so much, and think about all of the hilarious times we had. I think you often, and wish you all could be with us now!!!

March 23, 2021

In memory of john mc erlean from another john mc erlean in dundalk Ireland.

S J. Friscia III

September 28, 2014

In Memory
With Honor & Respect.

Mike Beaudet

February 24, 2012

I went to St Mike's with John. I did not know John as well as the people who have added their condolences over the years, but St Mike's is a small school and we all knew each other in one way or another. I had heard after 9/11 that John lost his life that day.

John was always a funny, kind, fair and decent person. I always recall a huge laugh from him when we did talk or bump into each other. He was special.

I went to the 9/11 memorial yesterday with my 14 year old son Zachary. It was nice to tell Zachary about this kind and caring man I knew many years ago.

Lisa Kriner

September 15, 2011

John,
I met you once at your sister-in-law's wedding, my husband and I were there for the weekend and of all the people we met, you stood out! I'm so very sorry the world lost one of the "Good Guys". I wish you were still here for your friends and family.
God Bless

Dawn Stevenson

September 9, 2011

I never knew you, I was given your name to plant a flag in your honor on this upcoming 10 year anniversary. My heart goes out to your friends and family. I am a mother and teacher with 19 years experience and I will tell my students and children of you each year in remembrance.

Nancy Neumeister

November 6, 2009

John, I think of you often. I didn't keep in touch with you since SJP days, but still wish you were with all of us!

Joanne Driscoll Campbell

October 7, 2009

Johnny: our 25th reunion was not the same without you. Miss you.

Love
jojo

Billy Stapleton

September 11, 2009

Thinking of u Johnny Mac! Happy Anniversary in Heaven 2009.

hugh mcerlean

September 11, 2009

in our thoughts

Doug Abraham

July 27, 2009

Happy Birthday!!!

Eileen Mc Erlean--Bollinger

September 13, 2007

My sadness touches all who was touched by John..........

joanne driscoll campbell

September 11, 2007

One of my best memories is walking through the quad at St. Mike's and hearing a loud "whip" from John and Billy's dorm window followed by Johnny's contagious laughter.

Thanks for being a blessing in my life.
love,

jojo xo

Theresa Brennan (Heyn)

September 10, 2007

For Beth:

I think of you often especially will be praying for you tomorrow. It's been 6 years. Long ago we talked about the dreams we both had and it breaks my heart that yours were so incredibly devasted. I miss talking and sharing secrets back in the days of Scudder.

Terry

Doug Abraham

July 27, 2007

Happy Birthday!!!

P Tabbernor

December 27, 2006

In remembrance....

Kristine

November 17, 2006

As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

Raymond "Hal" Lynch, Jr.

September 4, 2006

I remember "Johnny Mac" from St. Mike's in Vermont. He was a fellow graduate of mind. I did not know him well however I remember his great laugh and good nature during class or at a school function. I teach at a small Catholic school and will be remembering him on the sixth anniversary of his death during our monthly school mass. God bless John.

Chris Walker

September 1, 2006

Rest In peace brother

Robert Mc Erlean

February 20, 2006

My sincere sympathies go to all of John's family and friends. As the name implies, at some time in the past, we were related and it is always painful to lose a relative. Someone once said, "Every man's death diminishes me" This one diminishes me even more.

May God bless his family.

Chris Pretsch

August 18, 2005

Mac,

It’s going on 4 years now and not a single day has gone by that I don’t think of you. You started out as my mentor at Cantor and became my mentor in life. You taught me so much about being a man of integrity and character and how to be successful in business and a dedicated family man at the same time. A balancing act that is hard to achieve in our business. You had the greatest sense of humor and the biggest heart. You were truly one of a kind. Meeting you changed my life more than you can ever imagine and I consider myself blessed for the friendship we had. Your picture graces my office wall and always will, a reminder to keep it real. Your character guides me daily for when I am faced with a challenge I ask myself “what would Mac do.” I’m not sure I’ll ever meet anyone who could stack up to you but you will never be forgotten.

Spyder

Jerry Szych

October 8, 2004

I can't say there is a week that has come in the last twenty years of my life that I haven't told one of your jokes or pulled one of your pranks that you used to pull on me all the time. I am already teaching my daughter all the wonderful things you taught me. You were and will always be an inspiration. God willing, we will meet again and how I do look forward to hearing that laugh. Thank you for all you gave me and God bless all the world that is a sadder place without you in it. You will live on forever.

Bill Stapleton

September 10, 2003

Happy 2nd Anniversary in heaven. I saw the towers of light tonight - thinking of you. Peace.

John Robert McErlean, Jr.

September 15, 2002

With Sincere regrets for the loss of what sounds to be such a wonderful person. Especially this name touches my heart!



John Robert McErlean,Jr.

Jim & Maura Devereaux

September 15, 2002

Dear John,

Not a day goes by that your name isn't mentioned in our home. Our children even remember "Daddy's special friend" in their prayers each night.



The world is a better place because you were in it, and now all of Heaven is brightened by the beauty of your smile. God Bless you and your family.



With much love,

Jim & Maura

Meg McConney Mirabella

September 11, 2002

I didn't know John very well, but he always said hello and was one of the friendliest and nicest guys I have ever met. I've known Beth as a neighbor growing up and then as a fellow "soccer mom" for many years and feel her loss terribly. I have always felt we had much in common: born & raised in Larchmont, knew many of the same people, married our high school sweethearts. My parents have known both John's parents as well as Beth's mom for many years.

I do know John was a wonderful dad. My parents lived across the street from them and more than once, when my older daughter and Ryan were in preschool together, John would stop over with his kids and invite my daughter to go to the park with them. There isn't a time when I pass Chatsworth Avenue School playground or the playground at St. Augustine's and don't think of those occasions; my daughter doesn't remember them clearly, but I do.

I guess I just want to say that a vital part of this community was torn away last Sept 11th. I'm terrible at offering condolances in person. I've never been good at that. Beth, Ryan, Timmy, MaryKate, & Allie, as well as the entire McErlean and McCarthy families, you are in my prayers, as is John, always.

Scott & Gail

September 11, 2002

Our thoughts and prayers are with you. A BIG HUG from your friends in Ocean City.

Billy Stapleton

September 10, 2002

Johnny Mac:



One year later and words are still impossible. You are so missed my friend...many thanks for the gift of friendship. Happy anniversary in heaven - say hi to my dad, he was a big fan of yours, one of the many.

Love always

Lucy Johanson

September 5, 2002

Coming up on a year,John, and I am amazed how fast it's gone and how much your absence has changed so many people in town. We all miss you and Kelly misses her Godfather...Use your influence up there and keep Phil going in the Marathon!

Elena Fichtel

September 1, 2002

I remember I was once babysitting for the kids the night John and Beth went to a theme party. The theme was the 70's and John was dressed like John Travolta in Saturday Night Fever. He joked around with me for a half an hour before they left. He was probably the most amazing adult that I knew. Since Septemeber 11th I have felt a gapping void that, at times, seems bottomless, but then I just think of John, Beth, and the kids as a family and I feel better. I love you John and you will always be remembered.

ROBERT MCERLEAN

March 11, 2002

TO THE FAMILY OF JOHN THOMAS,



I AM SADDENED BY YOUR LOSS. I BELIEVE HE WAS MY COUSIN. I AM EVEN MORE SADDENED NOT TO HAVE KNOWN THIS SPECIAL MAN---

MY HEARTFELT CONDOLENCES FOR THOSE WHO LOVED HIM-

WITH SINCERITY



ROBERT MCERLEAN

March 4, 2002

DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL MAN...JOHN THOMAS MCERLEAN JR.AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS WIFE..CHILDREN..FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK...MAY JESUS ST.JOHN AND ST.THOMAS AND ALSO ST.PATRICK GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN..AMEN

Mike Saling

January 16, 2002

May God bless your soul. May you and all of the faithfully departed, rest in peace; and may perpetual light shine upon you...

Adriane Markusen

January 9, 2002

Well, I think often of you, John, and the devastating loss of your family. It just doesn't seem fair, and the saying that "only the good die young" comes to mind. Yet, the love of your family and friends (in the hundreds!) offers great comfort; while the "heart" of the McErlean family may be physically gone, it still beats strongly in your four children, and your spirit is very much in evidence and will live on for many years. Your kind and compassionate persona remain with so many, and that is, perhaps, the greatest legacy any person can hope to leave. And, lastly, I'll bet you are one of the handsomest (and most popular) guys in heaven!

Tom

January 1, 2002

Johnny - Started teaching my little boy how to play knee-football in the basement. But you knew that already. We miss you.

Bill Marcon

December 28, 2001

I knew John from my childhood years. I will always remember his imitation of his from Langsams Sports shop. John was a very warm and enthusiastic person admired by so many he knew. I know his wife Beth as well. Beth, too, was captured by his enthusiasm for life. John I know you are in heaven and I know that you are well. Peace and happiness be with you. I remember you well. Bill Marcon

Teresa Jahn

December 22, 2001

We are very sorry for your loss of John. May his life and love live on in all who love him. Our hearts cry with you.

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

John Levenson

December 22, 2001

I did not know until today he was known as "Johnny Mac". It's good to get a sense of who he was and what he means to people today. My thoughts are with his family who must miss this good man so much.

Bill Stapleton

December 17, 2001

Merry Christmas in heaven GUY - miss you and love you. Rooting for the Jets for you!

Rich Hans

December 3, 2001

We miss you John.

Eileen Stapleton

November 29, 2001

John was a good friend of my brother in law, Bill Stapleton. They went to college together and lived near each other. I met John occasionally at Bill's home. For me he is the face of the WTC disaster as he is the only person I am aware of that I had ever met who ultimately died on 9/11 at the WTC. Whenever I see pictures of the towers collapsing I will think of John and how devastated his family must be. Rest in Peace.

Dorothy Black

November 15, 2001

We've never met, but I know of you through my brother, Allen Upton. He had nothing but wonderful things to say about you. Bless you and thank you for being such a good friend to Allen.

michael mcallister

October 16, 2001

I always felt better about myself after an incounter with Johnnie Mac. He always steered the conversation away from himself and onto what was new in your life. He was a man with a bright smile a firm handshake and a keen Irish wit. I mourn for his family and friends and for anyone lucky enough to have known Johnnie Mac.

BARBARA BOLIN

October 7, 2001

MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU ALL.MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

JOHN MAY YOU REST IN PEACE.

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