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Donna (Berg) Hall
May 19, 2011
Sandy Ardrey was a wonderful, loving and caring man who loved God most of all. He cared about everyone he met. What he wanted most in life was to introduce as many people to Jesus as he could and tell them about God's amazing love - so great that He sent His only son Jesus to die for each one of us. This is his legacy. We can all take a lesson from that!
My mom had been a widow for 39 years, and was 73 years old when she and Sandy were married 8 years ago. They were like two starry-eyed teenagers, holding hands, sneaking kisses and saying "I love you." They both loved each other so very much! He would always reassure me that he would take very good care of my mom. I never once doubted him. Sandy's health began to decline about 5 years ago. My mom cared for him at home as long as she could, and continued to do the same as best she could even after he was moved to the nursing home for round- the-clock care about a year and a half ago. Mom, now 82 years old, visited him most days, including the very day he died. Every day she 'lost' more of Sandy. Sandy could no longer walk, speak, eat or keep his eyes open, but mom would talk to him, sing some of his favorite hymns, hold his hand and massage his forehead, hoping that her words and acts of love would comfort him.
On 5/2/2011 Sandy died. Sandy was only a part of our family for a short time, but we loved him and he was certainly "Grandpa" to our son. I told our 9 year old son, Isaac that Grandpa Ardrey had been sick for a long time, but that he had gone home to be with Jesus in Heaven. I told him, "Grandpa's death is a happy occasion, because he gets to go to Heaven to be with Jesus. It is also a sad occasion since we will certainly miss him and we won't see him anymore until we get to Heaven. The best part is that, now Grandpa isn't sick anymore, but he is walking, talking, singing and maybe even dancing (he was Irish) again in Heaven." Our son thought about that for a while and then said, "I want to go to Heaven." We reassured him that he would most likely live a long life like Grandpa before it was his time to go to Heaven.
My husband,Todd & I then proceeded to tell Isaac about the special role Sandy played in our lives. Sandy & Maxine were the first people to reach out to my husband ,Todd as a first time visitor at Lake Avenue Church of the Nazarene in 1992. They invited Todd to go out to eat with them at Old Country Buffet (north). They did not know that Todd worked for OCB (south) until they began to get to know each other during the meal! My special connection with Sandy is that, my dad died when I was 4 years old, so he wasn't able to be there on my wedding day 18 years ago (1993) at Lake Avenue Church of the Nazarene, but Sandy and Maxine were there. Little did I know then, that he would one day be a part of my family. My dad couldn't be there, but my stepdad was there to help me celebrate my wedding day!
I have been reminding Isaac of the memories he has of Grandpa Ardrey: 1) Grandpa blowing up balloons with his air pump and letting them fly around their living room in Ft. Wayne and watching as some balloons were propelled even farther by the circulating ceiling fan, 2) playing cards with Grandpa and Grandma at their house on Thanksgiving, 3) helping Grandpa blow out the candles on his birthday cake, 4) going out to eat with Grandpa & Grandma to a restaurant of Isaac's choosing, 6) seeing Grandpa through the nursing home window a year and a half ago, because Isaac came down with the "flu" on the way to see Grandpa & Grandma in Texas; Isaac placed his hand on the window to "touch" Grandpa's hand on the other side, 5) at about age 4 or 5 Isaac gave Grandpa a very precious "baba" (soft comfort item) that belonged to him, which had special comforting 'powers'. Grandpa cherished it and always considered himself to be very privileged to be chosen by Isaac to receive such a special gift. Grandpa asked Isaac how the "baba" worked. Isaac explained that if Grandpa had a headache, he should place the "baba" on his head, if he had a stomachache, he should place it on his stomach. Later, Isaac found out that Grandpa slept with the "baba" under his pillow, or it was placed between Grandpa & Grandma's pillows on their bed at home. On a return visit to their home months later, Grandma took Isaac into their bedroom to show him that the "baba" was between their pillows on their bed. Isaac crawled across the bed on his hands and knees, bent over and sniffed the "baba" and declared, "It's just how I left it!" It still smelled like his "baba" - Grandma had not washed it. Grandpa was buried with the folded "baba" placed under his hands, across his stomach.
These are the initial memories that we shared with Isaac, though I know there are more. We loved Sandy as part of our family. I will never forget how much Sandy loved my mom. What a gift he was to her (that they were to each other) in her later years of life! Oh, that we who are married will be as much 'in love' with our spouses in our 'golden years'.
A couple of days after Sandy died, I offered Isaac a positive way to think of Grandpa. I told him that, "Now, when you play the piano, Grandpa will hear you." Sandy we hope you can also hear our hearts that speak of our love to you as well. We love you and miss you Sandy... Grandpa.
Art & Rita Tallman
May 7, 2011
Sandy was a great influence on the lives of so many. His life was well spent for our Lord and now he is His presence!
Eric & Helene Tallman
May 6, 2011
I am thinking how wonderful it is to know that a life spent, literally, in love with Jesus is the most beautiful and effective life possible. Thank you for living for my Lord - see you in paradise!
May 4, 2011
Our loss is Heaven's gain. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
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