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LERNER--Rabbi Stephen C. Died on January 27, 2021 of Covid-19. A true son of the Bronx, Stephen C. Lerner grew up in the Grand Concourse, a child of immigrants who came from Ukraine after WWI. A Spaldeen ballpayer, he graduated from PS70 and Bronx Science, where he discovered fine foreign films at the Ascot Theater. Thrived at Columbia College, studied history, made lifelong friends as Editorials Editor of Columbia Spectator, elected to Phi Beta Kappa and a prestigious secret society. Post-college, influenced by mentor Morton Smith, received grant to study ancient history at the University of Iowa. Realizing his deep love for Judaism and the Jewish people, he applied to Rabbinical School at Jewish Theological Seminary (JTS), and was accepted with the support and encouragement of Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel, whom he had met in Iowa. After 1967 ordination, became a strong, dynamic and creative leader, bucking significant synagogue opposition to achieve progressive Jewish goals. At Temple Israel of Riverhead, increased the hours of Hebrew school and brought the synagogue into the United Synagogue. Served at Town & Village Synagogue in Manhattan for eight significant years, where he spoke out against the behavior of the president during the Vietnam War and Watergate scandal and led a draft counseling service, possibly the only one based in a synagogue in the US. Despite reluctance of Conservative synagogues in mid-70s to grant women greater ritual role and strong opposition on his own board, he pushed through a program of rights for women in the synagogue there and in his next pulpit, the Jewish Community of West Hempstead. Received great acclaim for these efforts. Was active in the Rabbinical Assembly (RA) of the Conservative Movement, serving as the editor of the movement's journal, Conservative Judaism, which was published by the RA and JTS. He continued to utilize his journalistic skills as the author of trailblazing articles in books and journals, as well as in The New York Times on his baseball hero, Johnny Mize, some of which were republished and even translated into Hebrew. Rabbi Lerner served for many years as rabbi of Temple Emanuel of Ridgefield Park, later Kanfei Shahar, and found his greatest calling in bringing Jews to Judaism, as the founder of the Center for Conversion to Judaism. Converted well over 1800 students, creating new Jewish families and generations of committed Jews. With his wife Anne, a professor at JTS, welcomed students into their home and modeled the beauty of Jewish life for his students with his wit, storytelling, and gastronomic gusto. Devoted father and grandfather, was deeply proud of his children who followed in his and Anne's footsteps as Jewish educators and leaders. He adored his grandchildren. Rabbi Lerner, who was 80, was predeceased by his parents Abraham and Tauby Lerner and his in-laws Joseph and Lillian Lapidus and is survived by his beloved wife, Dr. Anne Lapidus Lerner, brother Irwin (Doris) Lerner, children Rabbi David Lerner (Sharon Levin), Rahel Lerner (Adam Gregerman), grandchildren Talya, Ari, and Matan Lerner and Aviva and Ezra Gregerman, as well as many nieces, nephews, friends, and the legacy of those he brought into the Jewish people.

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Published by New York Times on Jan. 31, 2021.

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Manjari Chatterji

December 8, 2022

I am saddened to learn belatedly about the passing of this great man. His integrity and support for peace will be greatly missed. I can still hardly believe how kindly he corresponded with me via email, and offered both consolation and encouragement. Heartfelt condolences at the passing of this great soul.

Shepard Scheinberg

February 8, 2021

It was over 50 years ago when we welcomed Steve to Temple Israel of Riverhead. He brought my fiancé, Linda into the Jewish Faith. She has been a committed Jew; President of the Board of Trustees at Temple Israel of Riverhead and Board member of Beth Tikvah of Naples. Without Steve’s help, our lives would have been different.

Daniel Klein currently Detroit MI

February 6, 2021

I just heard about your loss and sending along my deepest condolences to the family. I met Stephen once at my fathers funeral in Petach Tikva May 20 1976.

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Simone Taylor

February 1, 2021

May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived. Please except my sincerest condolences to you & your family for the loss of your loved one.

Bénédicte and Maurice Zultak

February 1, 2021

We studied with Rabbi Lener thirty years ago when we were in the US and have kept wonderful memories of his teachings and his warm welcome in his temple and his family. His memory will remain an enlightment for us.
We would like to share our sympathy with Anne, David and Rahel.
Benedicte and Maurice Zultak (Strasbourg, France)

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Nina Shapiro

January 31, 2021

So sorry to hear of Rabbi Lerner's passing. My sincere condolences to his entire family. I am one of those who went through the conversion process with Rabbi Lerner and remain a committed Jew after 43 years. His thoughtful assignments asking me to delve into the real commitments involved have remained with me through these years. When he asked me what I wanted out of this, I answered, "I want my husband to become a Jew." He was an immigrant from the Soviet Union with next to no knowledge of Judaism. I can say that I was the greater success in this respect. I think of him when I see my grandchildren observe Jewish holidays with my Jewish children. May his memory be a blessing for all.

stephen trachtenberg

January 30, 2021

RIP A life well lived. We met at Columbia more than half a century ago. He converted my wonderful daughter in law who is a blessing to my family. I will not forget. Steve Trachtenberg ‘59.

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