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Sue Ellen Allen

1945 - 2021

Sue Ellen Allen obituary, 1945-2021, Phoenix, AZ

BORN

1945

DIED

2021

Sue Allen Obituary

On February 24th, the world lost a bright light whose fiery passion matched her signature red hair. Sue Ellen Allen was born on July 6th, 1945 in Port Arthur, Texas. She had Southern lady charm, impeccable manners, wore pearls and red lipstick, and once you met her - you never forgot her. Her laugh was infectious and her sense of humor kept her sane. She loved her best friend Tom, her three cats, travel, languages (she spoke three) and was the kind of person who not only turned lemons into lemonade, but made sure everyone who was thirsty had some. She loved fiercely. And if you were lucky enough to be in her circle, you knew it.

Sue Ellen was a University of Texas grad, former educator, former business owner, and a former inmate at Arizona State Prison. She used to joke and say she was a "contradiction in terms." It was her experience of being incarcerated and losing her young cellmate Gina that changed the course of her life in a profound way, and left a legacy of criminal justice reform advocacy in her wake.

She used to say "Being released from prison is like being shot out of a cannon into a brick wall naked." Sue Ellen knew women in prison needed more education and programs so worked to make it happen. She authored the book Slumber Party from Hell about her incarceration experience, and after having written to President Obama regularly urging him to go visit a prison (he eventually did) she was a White House guest on more than one occasion, even joining First Lady Michelle Obama in her box at the State of the Union address in 2016. Her letter to President Obama was featured in Jeanne Marie Laska' book, To Obama: With Love, Joy, Anger and Hope.

In 2016, Sue Ellen founded the nonprofit organization ReInventing ReEntry, whose mission is to educate and reshape our society's perception of former inmates so they may successfully reintegrate and be given a fair chance for employment, housing, education and entrepreneurial opportunities - without shame or stigma. The organization's signature program was the ReEntry Simulation that took Sue Ellen all around the country to universities, corporations and State Houses to help build empathy for the barriers and struggles formerly incarcerated people face upon prison release in a bipartisan manner.

In 2018, she was a regular face at the Arizona State Capitol as she stood alongside Representative Athena Salman and others to bring awareness to the lack of dignity women in prisons face with the Dignity Act, and was the Arizona organizer for #cut50's National Day of Empathy.

In 2019, Sue Ellen was invited back to the White House to celebrate and witness President Trump signing the First Step Act. She was also selected as a United State of Women (USOW) Ambassador for Arizona.

She quickly shape-shifted during COVID-19 times to create a "Zoominar" called The Skinny on Crime Punishment and Prison, where she'd have deep conversations about criminal justice reform. After suffering health setbacks, she continued to work with passion, grace and humor. She did her final interview from her hospice bed in December 2020.

Sue Ellen saw life as a grand adventure - from her youth until the very end. She was a master at adjusting and adapting to make the absolute best of every situation, and would often say the detours caused by unforeseen circumstances became the best adventures. She is preceded in death by her parents, Ruth Jene (Suy), Ardis Hyleman Allen and the love of her life and husband, David Grammer. She was adamant that her life be celebrated with laughter, beauty and service to others. She will be deeply missed by all who knew and loved her. May the legacy of her work be carried on as she watches over us…

Celebration of life details forthcoming.

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Published by The Arizona Republic from Mar. 1 to Mar. 2, 2021.

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Kim Crecca

February 23, 2022

Not a day goes by that something doesn't remind me of Sue Ellen. So many of us who are deeply involved in prison ministry, especially here in Arizona, remember her involvement in educating the public about the issues facing those trying to re-enter society after prison. And, boy do we need her voice now as current legislative efforts seek more ways to incarcerate individuals. Punitive measures are increasing despite our work encouraging restorative justice practices. Sue Ellen always seemed to have a way with people and was very convincing when speaking to members of government; something I sadly lack. I miss her laugh, I miss her positive attitude, I miss her help in our battle against the carceral state. I just plain miss her.

Kim Crecca

April 8, 2021

When I first met Sue Ellen Allen, I was brand new to prison ministry. I was in awe of her poise, her skill as a communicator, and her passion. I wanted to be just like Sue Ellen. I went to as many of her events as I could because it was like drinking from the fountain of youth to be around her. I always left rejuvenated, reinvigorated, and recommitted to helping those affected by incarceration and the ladies in Perryville Women's Prison in particular. Her book "Slumber Party from Hell" has a broken spine, torn pages, and is well thumbed. And it's my third one since I'm constantly giving them to others with the exhortation, "You gotta read this book! It will change your life." She changed my life. She filled it with blessings, purpose, and joy. I will continue the fight, Sue Ellen, I promise.

Joe Gillette

April 8, 2021

Sue Ellen was an exceptionally kind, caring, and joyous spirit. She had a way of inspiring everyone she touched. She will be greatly missed, but her memory, her legacy, and her extended family will endure. So much love for this one-of-a-kind soul.

Thomas Carruth

March 15, 2021

I had the pleasure of being Sue Ellen's next door neighbor for the past few years. She was a wonderful neighbor, my favorite in fact. I always enjoyed stopping and having a chat with her when I had the opportunity. Sending my condolences to her friends and family.

Charissa

March 15, 2021

I miss her dearly. She was an amazing woman and a great friend.

Nicole

March 9, 2021

I only knew Sue Ellen briefly, but in that short time she had a lasting impact. I was young when I met her, dealing with the hurt of my mother being incarcerated. I lacked communities at that time who shared that experience. But then I met Sue Ellen. She welcomed me in. She gave me space to talk about my mom, to process the experience of her incarceration, and encouraged me to find ways to use that pain as fuel for something better. She never knew how much I needed that at the time, how life giving it was to have the space she created. What a gift. I know it is one she has given to countless women.

Thank you, Sue Ellen. I'm sorry I never told that to you while you were still physically here.

Angel Marie Parker

March 5, 2021

Sue Ellen had a huge impact on my life! From the first time that I met her in 2006 she was always full of life. She was determined to make a difference. She did do that and her legacy will live on forever. She touched so many lives and I will never forget her spunk. Fly high with the Angels my beautiful friend and know that you’re loved and will be missed.

Cathy Hozian

March 4, 2021

She will be greatly missed.

Sandra E Price

March 3, 2021

Sue Ellen provided one of several stops along the path of my education on the criminal justice system, the critical need for reform, and support for those in the system and re-entering. When I saw a notice that we were honoring Sue Ellen, I was thrilled, until I realized we were actually memorializing her. Her passion and compassion will be sorely missed. Our community has lost a bright, bright light.

Dustin Gardiner

March 3, 2021

Sue Ellen was such a lovely, kind, empathetic woman. Simply put, she was an intelligent presence in any conversation she entered. I have fond memories of hearing her infectious laugh during game nights at Stacey's house. Thank you, Sue Ellen, for sharing your sense of humor and vision for justice with the world.

Cris Martinez

March 3, 2021

I met her, shook her hand and felt her energy. She was an incredible force!

Gail Sowers

March 3, 2021

Sue Ellen was my sister in orange. She was the one person who did not judge anyone based on outward appearances; she judged you based on your character as a person. Her best attribute, was her VOICE, and she used it until she couldn't. I stood beside Sue Ellen many times at the capital, I volunteered on several occasions for her Re-Inventing ReEntry classses, I celebrated with her, and I cried for her. I will miss talking with this amazing person. As stated in the article, Rest in Power, Sue Ellen; You have an eternity together with David.

Ron Mack

March 3, 2021

Your beauty and brightness will be missed beyond words. I love you and will think of you often. Your soul will continue to glow and the memories of you will shine on... May you Rest in Power, Love, and Peace... ❤

March 2, 2021

She gave my daughter a chance to see the other side she opened her eyes and was so very kind to her I consider myself blessed that my daughter Erin had the opportunity to be blessed by Sue Ellen and was able to intern under her Erin learned so much from her. I hold her in my prayers and thank her for everything she thought my daughter ❤

suzy clarke

March 2, 2021

I never knew Sue Ellen personally. I very much respect her energy, focus and care for the incarcerated & the challenge of reentry.
Suzy Gebhardt Clarke

MaryLeigh Lippincott

March 2, 2021

Even though I never met this woman, somehow I came upon her obituary and was so fascinated by her legacy that I bought her book! She will continue to be an inspiration! As she pointed out, she believed that people were put her in her life for a reason. I feel as though it wasn’t an accident that I came upon her obituary. I wish I got to meet her. What an extraordinary woman!

Bill Welter

March 1, 2021

Style, Grace and Love a really Fabulous Lady!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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