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for Jay Hendelman
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Andrea Connolly
May 14, 2020
Hi to the hendelman family. I had both my babies at Emerson hospital who are now 31 and 28. I would see Jay in the hallway and he would cover for my gyn Dr bender. Jay always put a smile in his patience face. He was professional and funny. He was a great guy and spoke highly of his family. How honored I feel to have known jay and keep him and his family in my heart and prayers Always. Cindy I hope you and the girls are doing well and keeping safe.
Sincerely
Andrea Connolly
July 3, 2019
I just learned after all these years. I moved out of the area and lost touch. Dr Hendelman delivered both of my children. Timothy in 1988; and Jessica in 1991. Privileged to have his service and to get to know him then.
Andrea Connolly
April 16, 2017
I am so sorry for your loss..Dr Hendleman was a great guy..I just found out about his passing and i had to write how sad I feel...when my son Chris was born in 1991 jay went by my room and asked if I would like a coffee...he had a great sense of humor..he was a great doctor and he will be missed by many..my Dr was Dr bender and jay would cover for him..again I am so sorry for your loss...
Natalie Stack
September 29, 2014
Just found out my oldest daughter is pregnant. We thought it would be such a great experience if she went to the same obstetrician that had delivered her. In searching for Dr. Hendelman, I came across this. I was so saddened by his passing. He was my doctor and delivered all five of my children, my last in June of 2008. Dr. Hendelman was a wonderful man. He also had done my tubal ligation later that year - tried talking me out of it many times as he said he wanted to be the first to deliver a basketball team :) I will always remember his charm, wit, and professionalism. I wish I had heard of his passing earlier, he will always be greatly missed.
Kristi Djuric
October 2, 2013
I was thinking of Jay as my Daughter starts her college search. He delivered both of my babies 11 months apart...he was gentle great man. I worked at Emerson with him as well....my sincere gratitude to a great man....my heartfelt prayers for his family. Know that he is remembered.
Laura Troisi
March 31, 2010
I am so sorry to hear that Dr. Hendelman passed away. He delivered my daughter 25 years ago, and much more recently we talked about our daughters and their artistic studies in New York. I was on crutches after breaking two bones in my foot, and he was hobbling with one foot in some sort of boot, so we commiserated on that score. He will always be remembered with appreciation and admiration.
Chappy Ferry
March 17, 2010
Montreal
March 17, 2010
McGill University
March 17, 2010
McGill University
March 17, 2010
Edgartown Light
March 17, 2010
Menemsha harbor
March 17, 2010
Menemsha Harbor
March 17, 2010
Menemsha Harbor
March 17, 2010
Jennifer
January 22, 2010
Just learning our beloved Doctor is no longer with us, my sincere condolences to his family. Of his many fine qualities what stands out the most to me was his passion for life and his family, not just his practice. My second child came early in an emergency c-section and much to my dismay at the time Dr. Jay was in New York visiting his daughter. There was never any doubt his family was his pride and joy. My hope for you is that time heals and cherished memories last forever.
Wendy Miller Olapade
January 2, 2010
My dearest friend Cindy, Dominique and Alexandra - Your loss cannot be imagined by me. I pray that the time that has passed so far has been filled with the delights of memory and stories of Jay. I am so sorry that I have been apart from your lives and was not with you in any way through this time. Cindy encouraged me to read the entries on this book - and they truly reflect the power of goodness that flowed through Jay's hands and heart as a physician and friend.
I offer one more story for your hearts - which I pray will make you laugh and help you to remember the depth and breadth of the man you know as husband and father. Jay was my Gyn for a couple of years before Cindy met him. In fact, I take some pleasure in knowing that it was I who set them up (at least that is how it is in my memory). I hope you girls know that part of the story - for it is a good one too. (Jay was gonna get Cindy, no matter what.)
After they were together, I remained a patient of Jay's for while and we socialized often, as we were very good friends. At dinner with friends or with your grandparents, at a holiday gathering or just handing out watching you girls...Jay, often threatened when I challenged or disagreed with him on something, in his teasing, good natured way. And here was his best: "You better be careful Wendy, or the next time you are in the office, I will put the speculum in the freezer before you arrive."
It still gives me shivers and makes me giggle. Imagine!
He was a good, good man. May he rest in peace and grace.
I am so sorry for your loss.
with love,
Sea Dog II, Jay's favorite toy
November 17, 2009
Jay, March, 2009
November 17, 2009
Cynthia Hendelman
November 17, 2009
Jay passed away six months ago and my daughters and I still struggle with that reality. However, reading the many heart-felt expressions of sympathy helps to ease our sense of loss. Each story lifts our spirits, knowing how much Jay was loved and appreciated.
Although we must go forward with only memories of Jay, our memories are profoundly richer because of all of you.
Thank you.
Catherine & Robert Merola
September 23, 2009
I just got back from being out of state all summer and went online to schedule an appt. I am deeply saddened to hear of Dr. Hendelmans' passing. He was a wonderful doctor and family man. He was so proud of his family. When Dr. Jay Kelinson closed his practice in 2004, Dr. Hendelman took me on as a patient when I was eight months pregnant. He subsequently delivered my last two healthy children via c-section. He always made me feel comfortable and was the true professional. My husband and I are saddened at this loss.
August 6, 2009
Dr. Hendelman delivered my last baby 3 years ago. His calm demeanor and image during my delivery I remember so clearly. I'm so, so sorry. -Sarah Finsthwait, Lincoln
Syrie Fried
July 14, 2009
I learned of Dr. Hendelman's death just yesterday. The news makes me very unhappy indeed. He was really a wonderful doctor who you made you feel well looked-after. And he was so pleasant to be around, just very good company, which is great in a doctor. We used to talk about sports, and he was always interested in my work, which is the law. I will miss him a lot. I also extend my most sincere condolences to his family, who have suffered a great loss.
July 14, 2009
July 14, 2009
When I called Dr. Hendelman's office a couple weeks ago to make an appointment, I was deeply saddened to learn of his passing. Words cannot explain the shock. He has been my Doctor for 20 years. He was truly the best of the best. I loved talking with him about the Vineyard as I grew up there. My deepest sympathy to all of his family.
Patti Lima Northboro, MA
June Popielarz
July 9, 2009
I am so sad to hear that Dr. Hendelman, who delivered my 2 children, has passed away. He was a kind, caring, and dedicated doctor who will be missed greatly. My sincere sympathies to his family. We would often talk about his daughters at my appointments as I enjoyed seeing the pictures of you at his office. He was so proud of you.
Laura-Jean Hickey
July 7, 2009
My deepest sympathies to the Hendelman family. Dr. Hendelman saved my life during the January, 2005 blizzard! He was on call and told me "there was something in your voice that told me you had to come in now...and the pending blizzard of course!" He never let me know how ill I was--so very professional and confident. He had to deliver my son to treat me and a few blood transfusions later, I had a beautiful son and no real clue how bad it could've turned (nurses told me later). Thank you Dr. Hendelman for saving my life...God bless you and your family.
Lily Goykhman
July 6, 2009
To Dr. Hendelman's family,
My I am so deeply sorry to find out that our wonderful Dr. Hendelman is gone. He is and will be deeply missed.
For 18 years I had a privilege to be treated by one of the Boston’s Best OB/GYN and had a joy of having Dr Hendelman by my side during my children’s deliveries.
My deepest and sincerest condolences to his family that I have only known from Dr. Hendelman’s own stories. He loved you all so much.
Alexandria Waldron
July 4, 2009
I literally just this moment stumbled across this...I am in deep shock and sadness, for this wonderful man's family, for my family (he took care of us before, during and after the birth of my first child) and for those who will never know what a true professional and caring human being he was. Dr, you will always be in my prayers.
Margo Seltzer
July 1, 2009
Heartfelt condolences to Dr. Hendelman's family. Although we've never met, I feel that I know you from the 12 years I spent as a patient of his looking at your beautiful family photos in his office. Jay was a wonderful doctor, but more importantly a fabulous human being. I'll think of him every time I see my two children that he helped bring into this world. -- Margo (Lincoln, MA)
June 29, 2009
My husband and I were saddened to hear the news of Dr. Hendelman's passing. He was a wonderful man with a great sense of humor. I felt safe under his watchful care...I am grateful to have known him. Melinda and Mike Powers (Weston, MA)
M S
June 28, 2009
Dr. Hendelman epitomized the best in medicine, competent and skillful, yet the kind of doctor who gave you time, attention, and a level of care to make you feel secure and in good hands. Dr. Hendelman's office was telling of the kind of person he was. His personal space in his office was an open book, giving nice snapshots of his life. His dedication to his family, faith, and the Red Sox was admirable,and as a parent, I really liked how he spoke of his daughters with pride and adoration. Though his time on earth was short, and his passing surely was painful to those left behind, may his family and friends find comfort knowing that his legacy will endure, having yielded so much life through his profession, shown kindness to his patients, and brought joy to acquaintances. God bless him. Hope he is fishing with God in heaven.
Miffi MacLean
June 26, 2009
To the Hendelman Family:
My thoughts and prayers are with you at this very sad time.
I first met Dr. Hendelman twenty-four years ago when I was almost 6 months pregnant with my first child. I was very unhappy with my other Doctor and someone had mentioned Dr. Hendelman was accepting new patients. He was so caring and had a wonderful sense of humor. He saw me thru three additional babies!
He will be deeply missed.
Danielle Kilmartin
June 26, 2009
My deepest condolences to the Hendelman family. Dr. Hendelman was a wonderful physician and person. Very professional and funny at the same time. He will truly be missed.
Dana Dunn
June 25, 2009
I opened the letter on Father's Day, never anticipating what was to be read. I fully expected a letter expressing sorrow and sadness for Dr. Hendelman's retirement because I always joked with him about not knowing what to do if and when that day ever came. I am so saddened by the loss of such a wonderful man and a truly gifted doctor. And to think, he came into our lives 12 years ago by way of picking his name out of a book. "Dr. Jay Hendelman", that sounds good, let me call his office and see if he is accepting new patients. When the nurse replied, "Yes", I was relieved that I had found a doctor to deliver our baby. I had no idea of how much I would grow to love this man as a physician. His care was instrumental in my life. Because of Dr. Hendelman, I never minded that "annual visit", which many women do, and in so many ways looked forward to it. I never felt uncomfortable. In one of the most uncomfortable of situations, he was always a professional. Then our "chit-chat" back in his office with small updates of our lives, followed by "Things look good, see you next year." We moved from the Concord area as well but I drove that hour each year for a doctor I so respected.
To his wife and his girls, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. You meant the world to him and I hope that some of these stories give you comfort during this unbelievably difficult time. Thank you, Dr. Hendelman, for your outstanding care and the gift of my two girls. You will be undeniably missed.
Hannelore Arnold
June 25, 2009
I am so sorry for your loss...Dr. Hendelman was an awesome doctor. His sense of humor was incredible. I am grateful to have had such a wonderful and talented doctor for the last 11 years. He will be deeply missed.
Nancy O'Rourke
June 24, 2009
All my sympathies go out to Dr. Hendelman's family and friends. What more can be said about this man that hasn't already been said. I was a patient for 15+ years. He delivered my first baby 14 years ago, when I was a young single mother. He knew exactly what to say to keep me comfortable. He was there 11 years later when I decided to start having more babies. He saw me through my miscarriage and more. When each baby came he was there, although he almost missed the last one, who came in 20 minutes. I will never forget as he came strolling in the room, my son's head was out and he said "oh, so were going to have a baby" and then made fum of me because of the mess I made.
He will truely be missed and I will think of him everytime I put my seatbelt on.
Avanti Rao
June 24, 2009
To Dr. Jay Hendelman's family - Dr. Hendelman was truly extraordinary. I was Dr. Hendelman's last obstetrics patient- He delivered my baby boy Ribhu on Feb 25th 2008. He said we were his "swan song"! I am really glad I had a chance to know him. Everyone I met at the hospital had only wonderful things to say about him. He will be missed. Wish you great courage and strength to see you through your loss
-Avanti Rao (Bedford, MA)
Nicole Pyne
June 24, 2009
Dear Dr. Hendelman, I am very sad to hear that you have left this life and wish you much happiness in your resting place. I thank you for taking the time to help me through the pregancy and delivery of Madison. You made the delivery room experience sort of like a party on 6/29/05. I enjoyed our talks about boats and Martha's Vineyard trips. Thank you for your kindness and for helping to bring life into my family. Rob, Madison and I will miss you deeply.
Amy Gentile
June 23, 2009
To the Hendelman Family,
I was so shocked when I received the news that Dr. Hendelman had died. I had only known him for 3 years. He did my surgery to remove a cyst in May of 2006. I saw him last September and looked forward to seeing him again. I always told him he was the BEST DOCTOR in the WORLD!! He made you feel so comfortable. I am just devastated that he is gone. I've never liked a Doctor as much as Dr. Hendelman! He was the BEST!! My deepest sympathy to his Family! He will be missed!!!!
Janet LeClair
June 22, 2009
To the Hendelman Family,
I was so saddened today when I opened the mail and read about the loss of Dr. Hendelman. He was referred to me by my physician over 12 years ago. I was young and didn't know one doctor from the next. He removed a cyst and reconstructed my filopian tube, which led to the pregnancy of my first child, Stephanie, of which he was my OB/GYN. I moved and had two other doctors and two other children. But then I came back a year ago to Dr. Hendelman even with a long drive. I had a condition that no one else had the knowledge or desire to figure out how to effectively help me. When I knew I needed someone that knew his stuff, I thought of him. Six months ago he performed my procedure and today after 8 years of issues I am healthy. Dr. Hendelman was an outstanding doctor, and I am happy that I was able to see him one last time. He saved so many lives. He brought life into the world. And he made so many other lives better. He truly made a difference in this world and you should be so proud of that. My deepest, deepest sympathy. He is very much missed.
June 22, 2009
To the Hendelman family
I recieved the letter today in the mail. I amdeeply shocked and saddedened to hear about Dr Hendelman's sudden demise. I was his patient for lat nine years. He was a wonderful, caring doctor. He will me grealy missed.
Surekha Bhade
carol leger
June 22, 2009
To the Hendelman family,
I just recieved the letter in the mail. I am so sorry for your loss.Dr. Hendelman always made those annuals bearable. I was his patient for about 10 years. He was a kind and caring physician and will be missed.
Deidre Pirro
June 22, 2009
Dr. Hendelman was a wonderful doctor who saw our family through the pregnancies of our 4 kids over the last 11 years. It was always a pleasure to see him and I often tell stories about funny moments which we shared together through it all. My husband and I will always remember his terrific humor and outstanding professionalism.
We’re so sad for his family and so sorry for your loss. He left an amazing legacy through all of the beautiful babies he helped bring into this world. Thanks for sharing him with us.
Christine Treat
June 22, 2009
By the time Dr Hendelman delivered my babies, I had the biggest crush on him - he was so endearing and funny with his dry sense of humor. I know he thought I was there just to annoy him as he jokingly said to me at each visit. I am so sad about his sudden passing, I cannot express my feelings deeply enough...Chris Treat, Acton.
Samantha Hand
June 21, 2009
To Dr. Hendelman's family and friends -
I was really stunned when I opened my mail this morning and got the news. I was Dr. Hendleman's patient for 13 years and I always looked forward my appointments, travelling to his office from Boston, Cambridge and Michigan. I cannot begin to image how he will be missed by those who were priviledged to be truly close to him. I used to brag about how great 'my' doctor was - how decent, how fun, how thoughtful. I felt he took care of me as a whole person, not just a patient. He spoke lovingly of his wife and talented daughters, shared fishing and baseball stories. The office was always peaceful and everyone seemed happy to be there. Dr. Hendleman was a remarkable man and the world is a better place for him having been part of it.
Samantha
Peggy Harvey
June 21, 2009
I am so shocked and saddened to learn today of Jay's death. I was lucky enough to choose him as my obstetrician 21 years ago (when his second daughter was freqently smiling in her playpen in the waiting room). Dr. Hendelman delivered all three of my children, even kindly scheduling the delivery of my 3rd child around treatment for a serious medical condition of his own. I can't imagine that I will ever find a doctor with such a perfect combination of intelligence, humor, and compassion. He was immensely proud of his family, and we enjoyed updated each other on our children's growth and successes. I will miss him terribly. My deepest condolences to his family; his death is a tremendous loss to you and all of his patients.
Barbara and Murray Miller
June 21, 2009
He was the best best-friend ever!
He was the best brother we never had!
He was the best bestman ever at our wedding over forty years ago!
He was the best memory-maker!
He was the best audience for joke telling!
We constantly remember Jay with deep sorrow in our hearts and with smiles on our faces.
Love always,
Barbara and Murray Miller
Lorrie Ferraro
June 20, 2009
To the family:
There was nobody better than Jay Hendleman, he has been my doctor for 21 years, delivered my 4 children. I am deeply saddened by this news. I send you my deepest thoughts and prayers.
Lorrie Ferraro and family
Jennifer S-P
June 20, 2009
Dr. Hendelman was a fantastic doctor who could balance humor and professionalism with ease – a difficult task in the medical profession. He was smart, caring, and I always felt like I was his #1 patient. You will be missed, Dr. Hendelman. And yes, I’m still wearing my seatbelt.
Sara White
June 20, 2009
I was so shocked and saddened to open my mail yesterday and read about Dr. Hendelman's death. I only met with Dr. Hendelman one time. My previous OB/GYN had retired, and after a few years of just seeing my primary care or skipping a year, I finally got my act together to find a new doctor. I saw him on May 4th, 2009. I came home and told my husband I felt like I had hit a home run with finding Dr. Hendelman. He was thorough, kind and respectful throughout my exam. I immediately felt comfortable with him. He was an excellent doctor, and he will be missed by all of his patients. Our thoughts and prayers are with his family at this time.
Ellen Bell-Irving
June 20, 2009
To the Hendelman Family, please accept my sincere condolences on your loss. I too was shocked to open my mail yesterday and learn of his death. As a patient of his for over 10 years, I always had the utmost confidence in him. He always treated me with kindness and his sense of humor was wonderful. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this very difficult time.
Karen Marinaccio
June 19, 2009
Dr. Hendelman was my doctor through three difficult "bed rest" pregnancies. His expertise got my children through and his encouragement got me through. Thanks to him, I have three healthy sons, and I will always be grateful. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family.
Maureen, Charlie, "Miss Cheerios" & our little "Tyranosaurus Rex!"
June 19, 2009
I was shocked and saddened to read of Dr. Hendelman's passing today. I transferred to his care during the middle of my first pregnancy 8+ years ago. He was highly recommended by both a doctor & an OB nurse. (They know who's "THE BEST!") Instead of causing tears of worry like my ex-Dr, Dr. Hendelman inspired happy tears of joy and laughter. He was so caring in all that he did. We are lucky to have known him. Our deepest sympathies go out to all of his loved ones.
Micaela Stanley
June 19, 2009
To the Henlelman Family my deepest sympathies. Like the many other patients there is another amazing story of his compassion and expertise as a Dr. and another shocked and sad patient. I switched to him in my 9 month my daughter was breach and I had a schedule c-section. The cord was wrapped around her neck three times thanks to his quick expertise he saved her life. We think of him every year on her birthday as we celebrate her beautiful life. I was 36 and wanted four I was only blessed with one and we would joke how he wouldn't make a living off of me. After we moved from Concord 10 years ago I drove an hour back every year because I thought he was a great Dr. and if I was lucky enough to have more I wanted him to deliver them. We will always remember how special he was to give us our greatest gift. Our thoughts are with you during this very sad time. May these wonderful stories of him let you know how many lives he gave, saved and touched.
Louise Brown
June 19, 2009
I was shocked and saddened to receive a letter today notifying me of Dr. Hendelman's death in May. He was a kind, smart and a wonderful physician, was my doctor for the last 10 years or so. Always had time to treat each patient as an individual, to listen and be helpful. It's hard to believe that he won't be welcoming me warmly at my next checkup and I am certain all of his patients feel the same. My deepest sympathy to his family. May his memory be a blessing. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Louise R. Brown, Wayland
Karen Brandstein
June 19, 2009
Dear Hendelman family,
I am so very sorry for your loss. Dr. Hendelman was my esteemed doctor for almost 11 years, starting when Ali was still in my 3rd grade class. (I still smile when I think back on how quiet your family kept my early pregnancy with Leah, and I have many fond memories of Ali. Remember "The Butterfly Game?") Efficiently and with humor, he served as a stand in for a moyhel, when our son was too premature for a bris. As my doctor, he was there for me many times with kindness and understanding. I felt secure that my medical care was being handled with great knowledge and wisdom. I will truly miss him.
fondly,
Jeanne LeBlanc
June 19, 2009
I am so very shocked and saddened to hear about the passing of Dr. Hendelman. My deepest sympathies go out to his family and to the girls in the office and to Diane who was there when I first came to the office.
I have been a patient of Dr. Hendelman's for almost 20 years. He delivered my son almost 15 years ago. I was just in to see him in March and again in April. I am so glad that I was able to see him and shake his hand one more time.
I will truly miss him! He was the best doctor!
Heidi pusatere
June 19, 2009
I just learned of Dr. Hendelman's death today. I am so shocked and saddened. I have been a patient of his for nearly 20 years. When I first started going to him, I was a young girl terrified of the thought of going to the doctor. He had a way of putting you at ease and assuring you everything was going to be o.k. I loved his sense of humor and his knack for remembering things about his patients lives'. After having a C-section with my first baby, most OB's would not have even attempted a vaginal delivery. Dr. Hendelman knew about my hopes and assured me that this was something I could try if I wanted to (you don't know how jealous that made some of my friends who were pregnant and their Dr.'s wouldn't give them the option). I was able to have my last 2 children without the need of a C-section and I can never repay him for the joy he has given me . I wish I had taken the time to write him a note to let him know how thankful I have been for all his years of care. I thought I would be his patient for many years to come. I wish I had known of his passing sooner as I would have loved to tell his family how special he was to us as well. This is a huge loss to the Emerson Hospital community. My husband and I will always remember him fondly and the impact he made on our lives.
melissa smith
June 19, 2009
I am deeply saddened and distressed to hear the news about Dr. Hendelman. He was my doctor for many years and a special person. When I was looking for a new doctor years ago, I took the advice of some nurses at Emerson who said that he was a great doctor and a nice man. My deepest sympathies to his family.
Marcia Campbell
June 19, 2009
To the Hendelman Family:
I've just come from my mailbox and read about your sad news. Dr. Hendelman was my doctor for over 20 years and was with me during my very surprising and only pregnancy at 40 years old. He was so kind and compassionate. My mother was was dying at the end of my pregnancy and he offered to schedule my appointments "anytime, morning or night" to make it easier on me. He gave me the most precious gift of my life... my 12 year old son and my mother had a chance to meet him before she passed away.
He was wonderful to me and I will never forget it. I'm so sorry for your loss, he loved you all so much.
Tracy Sconyers
June 19, 2009
I received the news today about Dr. Hendelman's death and am deeply saddened. He delivered our 2nd child, Jack, as well as nursing me through some tricky surgery after our 3rd child was born. I will never forget him telling us that I still had a while to go and how he had to go home and feed his dogs as his family was away. So he did, came right back and said "See, plenty of time!" He will be truly missed by our family.
Mary Sulzer
June 19, 2009
Dr. Hendelman was the best. I was a patient for only a few years, and in the course of conversation discovered he was Canadien, therefore a HUGE hockey fan as was I. We spent most of my last appt. this past January talking about the Canadien teams of the 50's, 60's and 70's. I'm sure he was well behind his appointments for that day. I promised to bring him a Jean Beliveau framed print next time I saw him...my sincerest sympathy to all of his family, he was a wonderful man.
Lynna Cuneo
June 19, 2009
Dr. Hendelman delivered my first and only daughter December 2007. He made a scarey situation into a beautiful day that I will always remember him for. I am shocked as I just received a letter of his passing. My deepest sympathy to his family who by seeing pictures of you all in his office, he loved dearly.
Lynna
Gina
June 19, 2009
I heard the news today and was so upset. I informed my mother and sister and we're all deeply saddened and shocked by the news. He was an amazing doctor and a sweet man. He will truly be missed.
Our condolences to his family.
Janette Sylvian
June 19, 2009
I just found out today about the loss of Dr. Hendelman. I am in shock. Dr. Bender referred me to him and he delivered my baby just last year. He was wonderful about treating my pregnancy as completely routine - even though I was well over the "40 mark". He treated me the same as if I had been "young", because he knew it was the right thing to do in my case and it was! The pregnancy was uneventful and he scheduled an induction at 39 weeks, because he didn't want me to go past the due date. That happened to be the day of the Super Bowl and he didn't want me to go into to labor that weekend, just in case. I ended up going into labor on my own that same morning! We joked about it afterward. At 39 weeks, he said the baby was already a "solid citizen" and he was right again, she was over 8 lbs. She is the joy of our lives and Dr. Hendelman played a major role in that. He will be greatly missed.
Kathy MacDonald
June 19, 2009
I am so sorry for your loss. Dr Hendelman delivered 2 of my children. He was a very caring person and always re-assuring me that all will be ok. It was obvious by the photos that hung in his office that his family meant everything to him.
Karla Smith
June 19, 2009
I just got a letter today informing me of Dr. Hendelman's death. I am so sorry to hear this. He was very patient during my first pregnancy and I'll never forget how he literally slid into the room just in time to deliver my second daughter. He was one of a kind. He was so proud of his two daughters and often spoke of their accomplishments. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.
Cheryl Carey
June 19, 2009
I just learned of Dr Hendelman's death and am deeply saddened. Seventeen years ago he saw me through a very difficult 2nd pregnancy. Being a nurse I knew all the "bad" things that could happen. He always knew how to keep me calm, and although he missed the birth of our second son, he called me the next morning from the Vineyard, saying, "couldn't you wait til I got back?" He will be greatly missed. Not only was he a wonderful physician, but he was an outstanding human being! I will never forget him.
Katie Sherman
June 19, 2009
We cannot even express our shock and sadness to have just learned of Jay's passing. Or deepest sympathy goes out to his lovely family. We were blessed to have met Jay 7 years ago and since he delivered our 3 children. Jay was such a unique doctor as he was so patient, interested, caring, confident and a joy to have a conversation with. Whether we discussed restaurants, the Vineyard, Jewish holidays he was funny and always interested. Even after we moved to Sharon ma and I continued working full time we stayed with Jay – we had such confidence in him. And enjoyed our appointments. He loved what he did and it showed. Jay often spoke of his wife and daughters in such a loving proud way. We will be forever grateful for his safe and caring deliveries of Samantha, Maxwell and Cameron.
Katie & Paul Sherman
Claire Masci
June 18, 2009
My husband and I were very shocked to hear about Dr. Hendelman. I have been going to him for 25+ years and will miss him greatly. He was a wonderful doctor who truly cared about his patients, never rushing you out the door, calling you personally with test results, and always leaving no doubt that he cared. He will truly be missed. We wish to express our deepest sympathy for his family.
David Buscemi
June 17, 2009
We just found out today about Dr. Hendelman's passing over a month ago.
He delivered our daughter almost 2 years ago. As many had stated, we loved his dry sense of humour and his professionalism. He shared his birthday with my wife and they always laughed about how the best people were born that day. We also were very impressed at the delivery when he was more concerened about my wife and birth of my daughter than some of the medical professionals who were more interested in the time and next patient and cleanup of the OR/Delivery Room. We will miss him and think of him always at our daughter's Birthdays
Christine
June 16, 2009
This is so sad to me. I moved from NYC 5 years ago and was so blessed to find Dr. Hendelman. I truly enjoyed his visits. His dry sense of humor was a God send. He delivered both my girls Emma and Anna. I was devistated when he gave up OB and now to hear this. He is truly a loss to the community.
June 15, 2009
My deepest and heartfelt sympathies to the Hendelman family as I just learned of Dr. Hendelman's sudden passing today. He was my doctor for the past 10+ years. He was a wonderful person who deeply cared about his family and his practice. He leaves a HUGE HOLE in the lives of those he touched/helped over the years. We will all miss him very, very much!!
-Karen Lovett, Chelmsford, MA
Liz Ritz
June 9, 2009
I can't believe this has happened. I had an office procedure done on 5/13. Fairly routine but I was concerned so Dr. Hendelman was also. He called me Fri night to tell me all was well with my test results before he went out of town. His bedside manor was great--my daughter works in New Orleans for a charter school and he told me he would be glad to call her to get her back here if I wanted anytime. He said he was compassionate and wanted to help his patients but not to the point he risked his life--I knew what he meant and appreciated it. i have only been his patient for a few years but he did assist on several surgeries I had. He was compassionate and I am sorry he is gone. I do hope his family reads this as I was in touch with him until the end.
Fondly---Liz Ritz
Sommer Jones-Riolo
June 8, 2009
I am so sad to read the news about Dr. Hendelman. He delivered my son via c-section in April 2008. He was the on-call doctor when I went into labor. I was terrified and he was wonderful. He had a great sense of humor and a wonderful bedside manner. He put me right at ease. What a terrible loss. My deepest condolences to his family.
Lisa DeRosa
June 4, 2009
So sorry to hear about Jay. He was my doctor for over 20 + years. It was always fun (yes fun) to see him. He had a great sense of humor and always made the uncomfortable comfortable. I will miss him, too. He loved his family and talked about you all often. It is truly a loss. God bless you.
Sharlene Tuttle
June 2, 2009
To the Hendelman family, please accept my deepest sympathy.
My husband became very ill when I was pregnant with our third child and Dr. Hendelman was so kind and reassuring. I knew that we were in great hands with him. His sense of humor and his compassion helped tremendously. I was blessed to have known him during this difficult time. Please know that you are all in my prayers and thoughts and I truly hope that your wonderful memories will be a comfort to you at this time. I always loved seeing the beautiful family pictures that he had in his office and it was obvious that his family was a great source of pride and happiness. We were so fortunate to know him.
Katherine Beede
June 1, 2009
To the Hendelman family, please accept warm and heartfelt condolences from my family and me.
I don't remember how I found Dr. Hendelman 13 years ago, but it was one of the luckiest things that ever happened to me! From the minute I met him, I knew I would feel safe and happy in his care. He always had something funny to say, and kept me (and my husband) laughing at every visit.
He delivered both of my daughters, my first in a very scary emergency c-section, my second in a very civilized, planned c-section!
It was truly an honor to be his patient -- I have never trusted or liked a doctor more than Dr. Hendelman. He made me feel like I was the most important person and he solved every medical issue I presented him with. I always looked forward to our visits and I never worried while in his care.
I had the good fortune of seeing Dr. Hendelman for my annual visit just 3 days before his passing. I joked that I wished I had a reason to see him again before my appt. next year; to which he laughingly replied, "well, you can always just stop by to say hello!" I am deeply saddened that instead I must say "goodbye".
Dr. Hendelman was one of my favorite people, not just my favorite doctor. And I will miss him tremendously.
Kerry Daley
June 1, 2009
I just called today for an appointment and was shocked and saddened to hear the news of Dr. Hendelman. He has been my ob for 20 years and delivered my 2 children. He will be missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
The Bennetts
May 29, 2009
To the family of Dr. Hendelman - our deepest sympathies for your loss. Dr. Hendelman was a wonderful man and a outstanding physician. He will be sorely missed.
Sandy Snell
May 29, 2009
Colorful,compassionate,sensible,intelligent,witty--Jay Hendelman was one of the finest men and one of the most wonderful doctors I've ever known--my physician for over twenty years. I am stunned and saddened at his loss. I will so miss him! My deepest sympathy to his family.
Carol, Les and Kimberly Bowen
May 28, 2009
To the Hendelman Family,
As so many have said, Jay Hendelman was an amazing and special doctor. He delivered Kimberly almost 21 years ago, in an emergency c-section. Had he not correctly realized what was happening & acted quickly, all of our lives would have been dramatically different. We are so thankful for his skill and caring and sense of humor that got all of through a difficult time. He was a gift, and will long be cherished and remembered. All of our thoughts and sympathies and condolences go out to you at this difficult time. I hope it is comforting to know that so many who you didn't know are thinking of you.
Sincerely,
Anne Kaiser
May 28, 2009
Cindy, Dominique and Ali, my heart breaks for your loss. I've known Jay personally and professionally for 20 years, and he was truly a lovely man, in every sense of the word. Jon joins me in sending his love and sympathy.
Stuart and Leslie Lee
May 28, 2009
To the Hendelman family,
Jay was not just a great physician he was also a great friend. The world has been made a better place by his goodness, sincerity, humor and compassion. At his memorial service, attended by so many, the tributes and kind words bestowed upon him showed what a terrific person he was. The medical profession and the community has experienced an immeasurable loss. He touched so many people in so many positive ways. My wife and I enjoyed, very much, any time spent with Jay and being members of that group. To Jay's family we offer our sincere condolences and we share your grief. To Jay, you will always be loved, sadly missed and never forgotten.
Vicki Leonard
May 27, 2009
I was in the office just last week. I was shocked to hear the news when I called yesterday. I feel like I lost a friend. He never made you feel rushed and his sense of humor during the delivery of my son has been something I've shared with my friends and family and still will for many years to come. I'm glad I had the chance to know him. He will be missed.
Julia D'Auria
May 27, 2009
I was shocked to hear about the death of Dr. Hendelman. My sister and sister in law had both recommened him to me 3 1/2 years ago when I needed surgery. The first time I went to his office to see him he was so easy to talk to.He took the time to explain everything to me and to answer my questions. Even after the surgery when I got home, I called Dr. Hendelman a couple of times with some concerns and if he was unable to get to the phone at the time, he got back to me within minutes.I had a gynecologist close to home that I have been going to for 12 years prior to seeing Dr. Hendelman,but after my great experience with him I knew that I wanted Dr.Hendelman to be my regular doctor. Living in Merrimack NH,it is a bit of a drive for me to Concord, MA but well worth it.I'm so sad that I've known him for such a short time. He was a great guy and an excellent doctor. I will surely miss him.
Debbie Tymm
May 27, 2009
I was shocked and saddened to learn of Dr. Hendelman's passing. I have been going to him for over 10 years and I thought he was a wonderful doctor. I was recommended to him by many of my friends who had children delivered by him, some tricky deliveries, however he had handled them expertly. I had moved away from Concord but felt he was an excellent doctor so thought the drive to see him was worth it. He will be surely missed by all.
Debbie Tymm
May 27, 2009
I just called Dr. Hendelman to reschedule an appointment and was told that he has passed away suddenly. I am saddened and shocked by this news. I have been seeing Dr. Hendelman for over 10 years and he was a wonderful doctor. I was recommended to him by all of my friend's who had children delivered by him, some of whom had tricky deliveries which he handled with expertise. He will be surely missed. I moved out of the area and thought he was worth driving the distance for because I respected him so much as a physician.
Cheryl O'Connell
May 27, 2009
My condolences go out to the Hendelman family. Jay delivered my second child 12 years ago. He was not only my doctor, but also my friend. His caring heart, sense of humor, and compassion will be sorely missed. Although the world just lost a wonderful doctor, Heaven gained a beautiful angel. Thank you Jay for making my life a little brighter.
Lisa Meinhold
May 27, 2009
To the family of Dr. Hendelman
I was a patient of Dr. Jay for over 15 years,he delievered all 3 of my children. I found him not only to be the best and brightest doctor but a wonderful person who truly loved and cared for his patients. He was always there for you with encouraging words and a big smile on his face. I never had any doubts while under his care. He was very proud of his family, sharing many of your accomplishments throughout the years. He will be greatly missed. I am sorry for your loss and my prayers are with you.
Lisa Meinhold
Rodney R Gallo Jr DPM
May 27, 2009
I had the pleasure of serving on the medical records committee with Dr Hendelman for many years at Emerson and was always impressed by his professionalism and enthusiasm for even the most mundane of isssues.Thoughts and prayers go to him and his family.
Lori
May 26, 2009
Dr. Jay was an incredible and caring physician. As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.
Tara
May 26, 2009
To the family of Dr Hendelman,
I worked with Dr Hendelman at Emerson Hospital for the last 10 yrs. I admired his wisdom, his sense of humor, and his love for his patients. He always went above and beyond for his patients and they spoke so highly of him. He knew how to take a joke and tease us nurses. He respected us when the joking was over. I am sorry for your sadness. He will truly be missed by all who knew him.
Jayne and Dan Cormier
May 26, 2009
I was saddened to hear about the passing of Dr. Hendelman. I was lucky enough to have him deliver both of my children (1986 and 1988). He had the best sense of humor and knew how to put you at ease. Our deepest sympathies to his family.
Sheila & Norman Goldberg
May 26, 2009
Dear Cynthia,
It was with great sadness that Norman and I learned of Jay's death. Our thoughts and our prayers with you and the girls at this most difficult of times. May your memories of a life shared sustain you all.
Kristin G.
May 26, 2009
To the Hendelman family,
I echo the sentiments of many of these entries. I too was a patient of Dr. Hendelman and my deepest sympathies go out to you during this difficult time.
I moved here 10 years ago, halfway through my second pregnancy knowing no doctors in the area. My father, who was also a physician, said that the only way to find out who's the best is to ask the nurses. So he did just that - called the labor and delivery nurses station and asked which OB/GYN they would go see. HENDELMAN was the unanimous response. High praise from those who have worked with them all!
He took great care of me and my daughter, always able to put me at ease during difficult times with his gentle humor.
He will be geatly missed by the community. He touched so many lives and his love for his family was appearant.
Anne Marie Coyne
May 26, 2009
To the Family of Dr. Hendelman - Please accept my sympathy and condolences on your loss. Dr. H was my doctor for over 20 years. He delivered my daughter and helped me through a difficult pregnancy. He was one of the most kind and caring physicians I ever encountered. The medical profession was fortunate to have him as a member and I was very lucky to have found him for a doctor.
Renee Callery
May 26, 2009
To the family of Dr. Hendleman my deepest sympathy. He was a wonderful doctor that impacted my life in so many ways and will be sadly missed. He delivered the most precious gift my daugther and also cared for me during some troubled times. He was the only doctor that I had 100% confidence in and always exceeded my expectations.
Karen Roy
May 26, 2009
To Cindy, Dominique, and Ali -
You are all in my thoughts and prayers as you go through this difficult time. You should know that your husband and father has made a difference in the lives of many, to include me.
Emerson Hospital will never be the same for me since the passing of our dear friend. I had the pleasure of knowing Jay for 17 years. He provided me with superb care during my pregnancies as well as being a caring friend. I also worked with him in the hospital in a few different capacities. He was meticulous about everything he did. He set a very high standard for himself and others. The right way was the only way for him. I had the greatest respect for him because of that. He always looked out for the best interests of his patients, family, and friends. Every morning he would stop by my office when he was picking up his mail in the Medical Staff Lounge and offer his "Good Morning - Sunshine" greeting! He loved his ice coffee from Dunkin's and was excited to get a free turbo shot. His sense of humor brightened my day. He spoke proudly of all of you often. I am happy to have known him. I miss him dearly.
Joy Jordan
May 26, 2009
To Dr. Hendelman's family and friends, may the grace of God comfort you in your loss. Dr. H delivered the last two of my three girls, now almost 19, and 16. I will never forget his comment as he delivered my second daughter, asking "how big was your first?" "7 lbs." I replied. "this one's bigger" he said, and then she weighed in at 7 lbs, 1oz! Ha! "Well, I was right!" he said.
I will always appreciate him coming into day surgery to visit me as I was having a breast biopsy done, after just seeing my name on the board. We shared that bond of cancer survivors have.
At yearly appointments, we talked of Red Sox, tennis, paying too many taxes and having vacation property to take care of. Thank you, Dr. H for caring for your patients' lives and families. You will be missed.
Lisa Loomis
May 26, 2009
My condolences go out to your family. Jay was a great listener, skilled practitioner and wonderful person! He always had a quick wit and great sense of humor. He is leaving behind not only a family who will mourn him but a community of patients who knew his true worth. He will be missed!
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