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Jean Arden Eversmeyer

1931 - 2022

Jean Arden Eversmeyer obituary, 1931-2022, Houston, TX

Jean Eversmeyer Obituary

Jean Arden Eversmeyer, known as Arden, left us on her final journey November 14, 2022, in Houston, TX.

Arden was the eldest daughter of the late Audrey Handeyside and Herbert Edwin Eversmeyer. She was born April 4, 1931 in Stevens Point, Wisconsin. The family moved to Dallas, TX in 1943. Arden was very close to her father, who passed away in 1954, leaving a large hole in her life. Over time, Arden and her mother became closer. Arden and her sister, Floi, cared for their mother until Audrey's death, at 95, in 2004. Floi passed away, at 73, in 2005.

Arden earned a BS in Health and Physical Education from Texas State College for Women in 1951 and a Master's in Education from Sam Houston State University in 1964. She worked in Texas public schools for 30 years, teaching health, physical education and driver education, and serving as a Secondary School Counselor. She initiated the Driver Education Program in the Plano TX public schools in the early 1950s. Arden spent most of her career in the Pasadena and Houston Independent School Districts. She retired in 1981.

In the early 1950s, Arden met her first partner, Tommie Russum, at a softball game in Houston, TX. Arden relocated to Houston to be with Tommie. They were together for 33 years when Tommie died of cancer in 1985. In 1987, Arden met Charlotte Avery; they were married in 2008. Arden and Charlotte traveled, worked, and loved together until Charlotte's death on April 4, 2018 - Arden's 87th birthday.

Throughout Arden's life she was a community activist. After Tommie's death she focused on lesbian rights by building community and developing resources for lesbians, particularly the elderly. She served for six years as a Mayoral appointee to the Houston Agency on Aging. In 1987 she founded LOAF, Lesbians Over Age Fifty, a unique social and friendship organization which now has about 150 members.

Concerned that the life stories of lesbians, particularly those born in the early decades of the 20th century, were being lost as those women aged and passed away, Arden founded the Old Lesbian Oral Herstory Project (OLOHP) in an effort to document and honor those life stories. The OLOHP celebrated its 24th Anniversary in 2022, having interviewed over 800 women. Arden personally interviewed over 200 Old Lesbians and co-edited two anthologies with excerpts from collected Herstories: A Gift of Age (2009) and Without Apology (2012). Arden often said, "You don't have to climb Mount Everest to be interesting. Everyone has an amazing story."

Arden served on the Steering Committee of the national organization Old Lesbians Organizing for Change (OLOC) for 14 years, 7 years as Co-Director, promoting social justice and equality for elderly lesbians nationwide. Arden's efforts on behalf of Old Lesbians and the Houston LGBT Community, resulted in her being recognized locally as well as internationally. She has been featured multiple times in Houston's OutSmart Magazine, as well as Texas Women's Magazine, and in US newspapers from Hawaii to New Jersey and Washington State to Florida.

Arden's Honors and Award highlights include: three Proclamations from the City of Houston for community service through LOAF, OLOC and the OLOHP; Woman Trailblazer Award from the US Department of Energy, Washington, DC; Honoree as a Woman of Character, Courage and Commitment by the National Women's History Project, Washington; DC; Featured Speaker at the Federal Deposit Insurance Corporation (FDIC), Pride Month Celebration, Washington, DC; Bold Woman Award, BOLDFest Conference, Vancouver, BC; Honorary Grand Marshall, Houston Pride Parade (2017), and a room named for her at Houston's Montrose Center.

Arden established the Arden Eversmeyer Endowed Scholarship in Multicultural Women's and Gender Studies at her alma mater, Texas Women's University, providing a scholarship for a master's or doctoral student in the Multicultural Women's and Gender Studies program. She donated her substantial library of lesbian books, music, videos and memorabilia to the Texas A&M University library. She also donated significant LOAF records as well as other activists materials to the University of Houston. Arden's impact will be felt by generations to come.

Arden is survived by a niece and nephew; three grandnieces; one grandnephew; five great grandnieces and many, many dear friends around the world whose lives she touched.

Memorials may be made to: The International Documentary Association - OUTWORDS; PFLAG Houston; OLOHP; LOAF; OLOC; National Women's History Project; the National Women's Music Festival (? Women in the Arts, Inc.) or your favorite charity.

A Celebration of Life will be announced at a later date.

Special thanks to Alex Rosa and OutSmart Magazine for permission to use their photo of Arden.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Denton Record-Chronicle on Nov. 26, 2022.

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MW

April 15, 2023

We celebrate Arden and her remarkable life. We are in awe of what she has contributed to preserving our herstory. Honored to be included in OLOHP.

FB

April 15, 2023

we all miss Arden, she holds a special place in many hearts .

BC

April 15, 2023

What a very special woman Arden was, I will always be grateful that she was a part of my life.

BS

April 15, 2023

Her generosity and gratitude for life meant so much to me in depth, width, and height. She is always a part of me and I do so miss her physical presence but feel at one with her spiritualness.

JA

April 15, 2023

I am happy and proud to have known her and to have become one of her valued lesbian Old Lesbians Oral History women.

Her spirit will remain with us and inspire those of us coming in the future.

Blessed Be!

ST

April 15, 2023

I have been feeling Arden's loss from here in Washington State, and didn't know there would be a way to feel that loss collectively.

As someone said, it was easy to believe that Arden would live forever. She was just so steady.

Hopefully, her good works and good example will continue.

AO

April 15, 2023

Arden lived a beautiful and incredibly meaningful life. Her legacy will live among in her family, friends and institutions she supported.

GE

April 15, 2023

Arden was such a special woman. I had received an email from her thanking me for a donation. I still occasionally read it - yes, I saved it.

HM

April 15, 2023

Arden´s legacy is immense. I feel honored to have met her last year and thus be part of her collection of stories.

DM

April 15, 2023

A beautiful soul who will be missed.

TR

April 15, 2023

So grateful I met her at Silver Threads & moved to support her & the Project . What a woman!!!

Leah Ewing

April 4, 2023

I am so lucky to have had Arden in my life from the very beginning. Her positive impact on my life is immeasurable, and I am so proud of her legacy--building communities, supporting queer women, collecting stories, and making people feel listened to and valuable. I hope to someday be even half as amazing as my great aunt. Thank you for paving the way.

Rachel Robnett

December 4, 2022

Although I can't say I knew Arden well, both Arden and Charlotte made a profound impact on my life. Charlotte was my great great aunt. I wrote them a letter after I came out. They invited me over, shared their library, and sent me home with some jam and large side of encouragement and bravery. I will be forever grateful for the work she did and getting to spend even a short time around that kind of love.

Saundra (Sandy) Boyd

November 27, 2022

She freed a lot of people and made the world a better place.

Kim and Fi Macpherson

November 27, 2022

Rest in everlasting peace, Arden. Your light continues to shine through The Old Lesbian Oral Herstory Project legacy.

Rosie

November 23, 2022

Arden, I can´t thank you ENOUGH..!!!! You have help so many of us. Over fifty.

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