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Tobin Shea Obituary
Toby graduated from Canterbury School in 1981. He then attended Providence College and received his bachelor's degree in 1985.
Toby loved, thought, and mused deeply. He gave all that he could of himself to those he met along the way. His love of family, music, and Boston sports (especially his beloved Red Sox) was unconditional; and, he relished the challenge of many a New York Times crossword puzzle. In the words of the poet Naomi Shihab Nye, "A man leaves the world and the streets he lived on grow a little shorter."
Toby is survived by a brother, James and his wife Alissa of Gill, MA; a sister, Megan and her husband Cyrus of Wallingford, CT; and a brother Tim and his wife Jenni of San Marcos, CA. A most loving uncle, Toby also leaves his niece and nephews, Liam, Aidan, Emma, Eben, Riley, and Carter.
Funeral services and burial will take place in New Milford, CT. They will be in the Spring and at the convenience of the family.
If you so choose, donations can be made to GAAMHA, Inc. at this link, https://www.gaamha.com/donate/, or this address: GAAMHA, Inc., 208 Coleman Street, Gardner, MA 01440. Mitchell Funeral Home www.mitchellcofuneralhome.com
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Memories and Condolences
for Tobin Shea
Joe deMoncada
February 9, 2023
Toby was a great friend who loved the Grateful Dead and the Red Sox's. I know he is doing good work from the Heavens!!
James Flanagan
December 21, 2021
I´ve learned of Toby´s death quite by accident. I clearly remember him from very long ago at Canterbury and what a decent, hard working, loving, funny young man he was. I coached him and taught him and he was a part of a great group of his peers who often spent time in my apartment watching MASH reruns and talking into the night. I was very fond of Toby and considered his father, Jim, to be my mentor during those long ago years and as my dear friend. The Sheas were a wonderful family. I will keep Toby´s memory in my heart and I send belated condolences and good wishes to his siblings and extended family.
Kathy Barry
February 20, 2020
My cousin Toby was such a sweet, caring soul. We grew up with them and loved all our family time together. My dad, David,and his mom Patsy were more like brother and sisters than cousins. My heart truly breaks for his siblings, Jim, Megan and Tim and their families. I hope you will find peace now and happiness with your reunion with your parents and Mary Kate. Heaven has welcomed another angel!
Venetia Smith
February 16, 2020
I have no words, Jim, Alyssa and Tim. We loved Toby. He was a good man.
Gordon Yell
February 16, 2020
R.I.P. Toby....way to young to have left us. It was a pleasure to have known you. I wish I'd have stopped a few weeks back,when I saw you walking. Fly high with Darren.B., J.P., Corey.J., Dave.S., Shirley,and many others.
February 16, 2020
You have my deepest sympathy and prayers for comfort at this difficult time.
Toby was a good man, a tender soul, and I will miss him.
Gonna miss you brother
Joe deMoncada
February 16, 2020
Toby was a friend of mine who was always there with a touch of grace and humility. We shared an intense interest in the Grateful Dead!
"Truckin', I'm a goin' home. Whoa whoa baby, back where I belong,
Back home, sit down and patch my bones, and get back truckin' on.
Hey now get back truckin' home." God bless you Toby and say hi to Mary Kate and your parents. Love you brother...
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