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John McCarthy Obituary
Born September 29, 1921 in the city of Philadelphia to parents Jeremiah McCarthy and Florence Volmer, John was the youngest child of seven. John attended St. Thomas More High School and was their track star from 1937 until his graduation in 1940. John accepted a track scholarship from Villanova in 1940 and under the coaching of "Jumbo" Elliot secured multiple victories and records for the Villanova team. The ROTC had its roots in Villanova and John McCarthy and his student peers were their first class. John's studies were interrupted by the call to arms of WWII and after his junior year in Villanova John went into the officer training program at Northwestern University. In May of 1944 Ensign John J. McCarthy reported aboard the USS LCI 46 in Naples Italy as Fourth Officer. From May of 1944 to November 1945 he served as Landing Gunnery Navigation and Executive Officer and was promoted to Lt. (jg). In November of 1945 John assumed command of the 46th when it was designated LCI (g) gunboat in the Pacific Theatre. LCI 46 Commander John J. McCarthy participated in the Anzio and South France invasions and was awarded American European and Pacific Navy Occupational and Victory Medals. After his tour of duty ended, John returned and married Mary DiCarlo in Ardmore Pennsylvania. John remained active with the navy reserves for many years attaining the rank of Commander and always remained true to his running roots instilling among his family and all he met the importance of fitness as a part of ones lifestyle. Throughout his long term employment with Mobil Oil and well into his retirement John remained active taking up distance running in his fifties. John has completed over 30 marathons and has competed in races and events in many corners of the world. John is survived by his brother, David of King of Prussia; his wife, Mary; 6 daughters, 11 grandchildren and 7 great grandchildren. He is loved and mourned by his family and friends and is remembered for his fierce loyalty, gentle spirit and greatness of heart. Contributions in his memory can be made to Disabled American Veterans PO Box 14301 Cincinnati OH 45250-0301 1-877-426-2838 x3302
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Loretta McCarthy
April 27, 2024
Dear Daddy, I´m joining Marylyn (and all my sisters) in remembering what a wonderful father you were to all of us. I miss you every day.
Love L
Marylyn
April 26, 2024
Missing you daddy every day.
Thank you for being the perfect father to your girls. Happy heavenly anniversary !
Loretta
November 10, 2023
Dear Father,
On the eve of Veterans Day, I'm reminded of so may wonderful times w/ you and the family you created. I will never forget the day you taught us the meaning of this important day. As a young child, those memories are imprinted in my mind as if they were yesterday. I wrote about it in an earlier passage, but it is still crystal clear to me. Thank you for giving me/us your wisdom, which at the time was merely a day to be with you and understand a piece of who you were then/now. Such a valuable part of us today. May this country remember the depth of those sacrifices of all veterans.
Love you Daddy,
LMC
Tess Kozlowski
April 28, 2023
Hi Pop-pop
Not a day goes by that I don´t think of you or the lessons you passed on the us grandchildren or our mothers, which was, of course, conveyed to us grandchildren by our mothers. how very fitting that yesterday was the first day of the PENN RELAYS. Unfortunately, we did not bring any teams this year, but every time we go, I always sit in Franklin Field and look around and I feel like I´m just surrounded by you. I am so proud to be your granddaughter. I try to instill in my own athletes the lessons you instilled in all of us, and I try to be a woman you would be proud of. I love you and miss you.
Love,
Tess
Carla
April 27, 2023
Hi Daddy,
I still find dimes in unexpected places from time to time and know that you are with me, letting me know you are watching over all of us. Forever and always, xO
Marylyn
April 26, 2023
Hi Daddy.
You live forever in our hearts never to be forgotten. And we miss you with us still. God bless us and watch over us always.
Love M
Loretta McCarthy
April 26, 2023
Thinking of you every day, Daddy. Thank you for instilling in us a great love of family. We will always be guided by what you and Mother taught us through your words and actions.
How lucky we all are ... your love comforts us to this day.
Love,
L
Marylyn
April 27, 2022
Miss you Daddy every day.
Our love for you never ends.
Loretta McCarthy
April 26, 2022
In remembrance of our wonderful father who will remain forever in our hearts. April 27 marks 16 years that he has been gone, but he is thought of every day by each of his daughters. His influence will always be a guiding force and we remain his loving girls throughout all time.
Love
Loretta
Loretta McCarthy
April 27, 2021
April 27, 2021
Sending love, good health, courage, and fortitude to all my family, today and everyday. May we reach out to others in need, care for them, be patient and strong in our love. May we continue to apply the examples of wisdom and strength bestowed on us by our beloved father and mother ... forever in our hearts.
Love
Loretta
Loretta McCarthy
April 26, 2020
To My Family:
Tomorrow marks 14 years our Father has been gone. No matter how many years have passed it cannot and will not deter the memory of this precious man who, with the help of our Mother, raised six girls and inspired us to be all we can be in this world.
Last year we watched Madison graduate from his beloved Villanova University. All of our children have been motivated and influenced by him in many ways. His great spirit continues to move us, as does the fearlessness of our beautiful Mother, Mary.
May we all feel their love, strength of mind, boldness, and perseverance today, tomorrow, and every day, especially during this time.
Love
Loretta
The McCarthy Tree, given to the university in 1995 by John J McCarthy dedicated to the 6 McCarthy Brothers & Sister
Loretta McCarthy
May 26, 2019
Janette & Bill & Mad ... proud moment.
Loretta McCarthy
May 26, 2019
Madison McCarthy Crowe graduates from Villanova University May 18, 2019
Loretta McCarthy
May 26, 2019
Loretta McCarthy
May 28, 2016
Dear Daddy,
Saturday, two days before Memorial Day and our country is preparing for one of our Nation's most signigicant Holidays. One that you are a part of along with all those who selfessly gave their lives for our freedom. What an tremendous example you have set for all of us. Now, USMC 1st Lt. Russell Maloney, following in the footsteps of both his grandfathers. We are so proud of him.
That example flows into all aspects of life. I just read (again) the messages written in your legacy book. In each and every one, from family, to friends, to admirers, they all had the same theme. You lived your life with tremendous strength of character, love of family, and country, and dedication to your careers in the military and civilian life.
It was amazing to read it all again. As Bob Moore said in his message to the family: 'What did Dutch do that wasn't successful?! An inspirational and exemplary Husband, Father, Grandfather, Family man, and decorated Military Officer!'
I'll end on that note, Daddy, on this Memorial Day Weekend, ten years after you have been gone. Your legacy will always live on. That is the mark of a life lived with love, honor and integrity.
Love
Loretta
Loretta McCarthy
May 23, 2014
To my dear Father,
Well, it's that time again, Memorial Day weekend 2014. This morning I read an article titled, 'Remembering Remarkable Acts of Heroism.' It told the story of US Marine Corps 2nd Lt. John Paul Bobo, during the Vietnam war March 30, 1967. It was a day of remarkable courage, as the story told, and a Medal of Honor and four Navy Crosses were earned.
I'm glad I stumbled upon that story because it made me stop and do the very exact thing you always taught me ... recognize, appreciate, and salute the incredibly brave men and women who serve our country in war and peace. Of course, I thought of you, your life, your military career, your legacy to your family and to all who loved you. So we honor you today with all those others who served our country.
You would have been immensely proud of your grandson, Russell, graduating and being commissioned a 2nd Lt. in the Marines this month. It was truly an honor to be there and witness the 15 young men (Marines and Navy) take their oath of office and even more special to hear this:
"I, Russell Maloney, solemnly swear that I will support and defend the Constitution of the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic; that I will bear true faith and allegiance to the same; that I take this obligation freely, without any mental reservation or purpose of evasion; and that I will faithfully discharge the duties of the office upon which I am about to enter; so help me God."
God bless them all.
Love
Loretta
Rick Kauvar
October 20, 2013
Loretta,
I can feel your love over all the years and distance between... Death for those that survive Strive to honor and remember.. It is a comfort and a persistent horror in knowing you can never talk to that loved one again...I know the sadness, and my heart breaks for you... You are in my thoughts. Thank you for commenting on the death of my wife. A big hug from Colorado. Your amigo
Ricardo
Loretta McCarthy
May 30, 2011
Dear Daddy,
Gosh ... time really flys by. Here it is again, Memorial Day 2011. Not a day goes by that I do not think of you. Somehow, there is always something in my day that brings back a memory of you and my wonderful family. I feel lucky in so many ways.
Memorial Day in particular has such deep meaning to me. I've shared it with as many people as I can and I'll never stop. It's a legacy that you gave me. The pictures of you help me remember the feelings that go along with those memories.
I love you CDR John McCarthy USNR -- thanks for being the best father any women could ever hope to have.
Loretta
Bobby'd is with you now -- we love him and miss him -- he was brave to the end.
Loretta McCarthy
November 11, 2010
Dear Daddy,
It's Veterans Day 2010 and on my way home from rowing this morning I thought about all the ways I have celebrated this day.
I remembered the year I had my students do a writing project that involved Veterans Day. They got to pick anyone of their choosing in the military.
Some picked relatives on active duty and others were going to send their letter of thanks to various veterans groups. There were some in my class, though, that asked to write their letter to you. I remember that well, as I had told them about you and your service to our country in WWII and afterwards.
I sent those letters to you early enough to get them on Veterans Day. They were excited to have you read them.
You sent a beautiful thank you note to the class and you shared yourself with them. Really a precious moment for me, reading your letter and posting it.
They had a newfound respect for those brave men and women who defended our freedom at home and in far off places.
Thinking of you today and all days.
I love you.
Loretta
June 20, 2010
Waking up in this most spectacular place every morning and drinking my fresh coffee... reminds me of the mornings spent with you doing the same...
Happy Fathers Day to a wonderful man and Super Grandfather. You raised six amazing women and left nothing short of a most beautiful legacy.
I know one day... we'll all be together again...
miss you, love you.
Loretta McCarthy
June 19, 2010
Dear Daddy,
Though you are not here physically, you are always in my heart.
Father's day 2010, is only different because I cannot say this to you in person, but I say it to you in my heart.
Thank you for your strength and guidance, but most of all, for your love. You have helped us all become strong women and because of you and Mother, we 'got it right'.
Love
Loretta
Marylyn Moore
May 31, 2010
Dear Daddy,
Still not a day goes by that I don't think of you and especially, today, Memorial Day. Thank you to you and those who served and continue to serve in the Armed Forces so that we may enjoy all of freedoms we many times take for granted. Happy Memorial Day May 31, 2010.
Love Always,
Marylyn
Loretta McCarthy
May 30, 2010
Dear Daddy,
May 30, 2010, the day before Memorial Day. It's that time again.
I read an editorial recently about this weekend and what it means. In light of all that has happened in our country, it is a reminder to never take our basic freedoms and rights for granted.
It mentioned marking this day by not just remembering those heroes, like you, but doing something positive in their honor.
Memorial day is about heroes and sacrifice. A good time, as the saying goes, to "pay it forward". Something our family is never at a loss to do. Something you taught us.
So we lend a hand to those who need it, and in a small way, we honor you and all the others who made the ultimate sacrifice.
I love you dearest father.
Loretta
Loretta McCarthy
April 27, 2010
About you dear Father,
A great man left us today, April 27, 2006.
CDR John J. McCarthy USNR, served his country fiercely and courageously in WWII and again in his battle against advancing years and many illnesses.
He was an inspiration to all who knew him athletically and professionally. Truly a man of greatness in heart and spirit.
He is deeply missed by his daughters, his wife, and his entire family.
Loretta
Loretta McCarthy
March 17, 2010
Dear Daddy,
March 17, 2010 ... a beautiful, sunny, warm St Patrick's Day. I did a job for 'All American' and got home in time to put on your green shamrock tie and go to our local brewery for dinner with Mike. I thought of you all day and it was a good day.
I am so thankful to claim this family as mine. Thankful that we had you to teach us, guide us, and love us.
I love you and miss you every day.
Love
Loretta
Marylyn Moore
September 29, 2009
Dear Daddy,
Today would have been your 88th birthday.
How I wish that you were here and we could celebrate your special day as a family.
You would have been happy to see how much time we spent with one another this past year doing family things. It has been a very busy year.
I talk to you and see you in my mind all the time but some days it's just not enough.
It doesn't matter how old we are, we never stop needing our parents.
Can you believe Loretta will be 60 tomorrow!! (I'm just ornery enough to write that in here). I can't help but marvel at how quickly we girls keep moving into the next decade.
I'ld like to think someone is giving you a party in heaven. Happy Birthday, Daddy.
Love always, Marylyn
Loretta McCarthy
August 1, 2009
Dear Daddy,
You'll be with us all today, August 1, at the Cousins Picnic. I love you. Not a days goes by that I do not think of you or remember something you taught me.
Love
Loretta
Loretta McCarthy
May 24, 2009
Dear Daddy,
Thinking of you and missing you so very much this Memorial Day weekend, 2009.
My story, as a young girl, of learning about what this day means is always present in my mind. I miss passing that story on to my students every year, but I try to make up for it in other ways.
Today, I remember the dogtag necklace that you always wore with all of our birthdates on it. A symbol of your fight to give us all the right ammunition for life. I look at my sisters and think ... you did an awfully good job!
So, once again, I thank you and all the men and women who sacrificed their lives to give us all our 'tomorrows'.
I love you
Loretta
Loretta McCArthy
December 26, 2008
Daddy
It is December 26, 2008 and I am remembering all the Christmas days of past when you were with us.
I love those memories and I cherish all the things you did to make them special for us.
I love you and miss you.
Loretta McCarthy
September 29, 2008
Dearest Father
Happy birthday to the most wonderful father a daughter could ever have. I will always have you in my heart and I cherish the many birthdays we shared.
I love you today and everyday.
Loretta
Roberta McCathy - Maloney
September 29, 2008
Dear Daddy,
Happy Birthday...the day doesn't go by that I do not think of you and miss you.
Love Robin
Loretta McCarthy
May 26, 2008
Dear Daddy
It is Memorial Day, May 26, 2008. Another day to remember you in a special way and to reflect on the legacy you left us.
I love you
Loretta McCarthy
April 26, 2008
Dearest Father,
May your courageous and fierce spirit live on in all of us. You are a constant in our lives.
I love you and miss you greatly.
Loretta
Loretta McCarthy
March 22, 2008
Dear Daddy
It has been a while since I wrote in our guest book. Every morning, this week, it has been the first thing I thought about when I woke up. So, today, I will follow that urge since I know I will not be at peace until I do. How wonderful that Robin gave us this gift. We'll always have it and for that I am thankful.
It is Saturday the day before Easter, March 22, '08. I remember almost all our Easters together, especially the ones in Pittsburgh. I do not think any of your daughters will forget those (except maybe our little Carla). I was in 8th grade when she was born and we moved there when I was in 6th grade.
They were always wonderful, even though we dreaded the part when you would take out your video camera. The plan was to have us parade outside, usually having us exit out the back door, circle around the patio and back in to the house. This was how you would video our Easter outfits, and although it was somewhat painful to a few of us, we still loved this special attention from you.
Today, I'm remembering one particular Easter Sunday that we have on our 'McCarthy family' video. It is reminiscent of many others, so it will serve as a reminder of those lovely past days with you and Mother. They are just one of our many moments that mark a memorable and loving childhood.
Marylyn would go first, of course. She always had so much more poise then the rest of us. She'd smile at the camera and give a cute little shoulder move. Compared to the rest of us, she was our 'model'. Then *I would come out feeling goofy, grinning like the cheshire cat, and with the worst possible hair-do anyone could imagine. I was in such a hurry to get back in the house, I let the door slam back on Sandy who was next. Now, talk about fast! Sandy, sporting a hair-do much like mine, would be moving at lightening speed. Zip/Zip! She'd be gone in a flash. All you could remember was that big smile. Robin was the next sister and being younger, she still had that childlike playfullness with the camera. Robin was not shy! Jan would follow and she usually had on some sort of dress that looked like mother had tucked 10 petticoats under. It would stick out practically straight and she'd twirl around with this mass of curls on her head. Carla was not around for the first few of these Easter Sundays, but when she did arrive we were not disappointed. She had plenty of moxie! She loved to wear Janette's clothes. On Easter Sunday, with her cute cat-eye glasses, she'd wear a beautiful hand-me-down or a creation by Mother. And then there was Mother ... you already know what I'm going to say, she was beautiful, always.
She still is, daddy, and I know she misses you deeply. We remind her that we are parts of you and that we love her and cherish her. Our travels together have brought us all so much adventure and love. We have both of you to thank for our outlook on family and life.
Today, I think back on all the precious memories of those past Easters with my family. I look at your picture and remember your love and strength. We adore you, daddy, always.
Love
Loretta
p.s. You would be proud of the Wildcats. It's March Madness and last night they came from behind in a great upset victory ... I know Uncle John had to be watching and you were with him in spirit -
Marylyn
October 11, 2007
Hi Daddy,
No special occasion, no special day, just thinking of you as I often do and wishing so much that you were here.
I have my favorite memories of you. I can see your face and I can hear your voice and you will always be my pillar of strength.
Love,
Loretta McCarthy
September 5, 2007
Dear Daddy
Well, yours and Mother's 2nd anniversary without you has passed. It will always make her cry, that will never change.
I am thankful that I can write my thoughts here in your legacy book as I remember so many lessons that you taught us and the things about you that help to make us a better person. I've said it before, but I'll say it again - that I am always taken by Mother's courage in her every day life. She does that because she must and because she has this incredible inner core of strength that she came to you with and deveoped even more with you at her side. I think we all have it.
I love you, Daddy
Loretta
Alicia Brady
June 19, 2007
So Pop pop, I have a favor to ask. You know, I had a favor I asked of you last year, but now I have changed my mind. This favor is more important. So, I decided you can forget the first favor. This favor I ask is for my brother.The prayers of Carter's healing are for God. This is for you: Please show John strength to withstand even the most brutal hours. Show him the wisdom to make one decision from so many options. Show him the courage to face this like the man you always were. It's in him, all these things, strength, wisdom, and courage. You gave them to him. My favor is that you now show him how to use all three to make Carter better. Thank you Pop Pop. I love you and think of you always....
Loretta McCarthy
June 17, 2007
Dear daddy
Father's day is really everyday for us. I would have to say that was true all our lives.
Today, June 17, 2007, I am thankful for all the wonderful father's we have in our family. You have been inspirational to each and every one of them: Tom, Billy, Mike, Pete, Paul, Bobby d', David, Bob B. and of course our cousins, our extended fathers and our friends.
Today we are thinking so much of you, daddy, and in particular of one other special father, John R. McCarthy Moore. As he shares this day with his beloved children, Carter and Kiersten, we share it with him, too, in our thoughts, our prayers, and deepest hope for Carter's well being.
To all our father's and to you, the best father any girl could ever want or have, we love you.
Loretta
Donald Teague
May 29, 2007
As I have said to Mrs. Mary McCarthy; I do feel that I'm RICHER for having known John & I do regret his passing.
Loretta McCarthy
May 28, 2007
Dear Daddy
Remembering and honoring you today, May 28, 2007, Memorial Day. With immeasurable gratitude we recognize the sacrifice of so many.
Today, I will be with you, out on the water, in my single. Just the two of us remembering so many moments of family and love that you taught us. Remembering, also, what this day represents to all of us in the pursuit of freedom.
We love you and miss you so much.
Loretta
George DiCarlo
May 27, 2007
Uncle Dutch, you are always in my thoughts, but on the eve of this Memorial Day I miss you dearly....Dad does too.
Love,
George
Marylyn
May 27, 2007
Dear Daddy,
Tomorrow is Memorial Day. A day you always celebrated quietly and with reverence. The flag has always flown at Torbalago, but now the flag that flies has so much more meaning to all of us, for it is one of yours.
You served your country with the same loving devotion that you showered on all of us. We honor you always, but especially, on this Memorial weekend.
We will always be proud to be your daughters.
We love you and we miss you.
Loretta McCarthy
May 19, 2007
Dearest Father,
What a truly magnificent day we had yesterday, May 18, Indiantown Gap National Cemetery. Your family, together, celebrated your life and the incredible impact you had on all of us.
The Avenue of Flags were flying in the wind as we drove in to the cemetery. Each flag once draped the remains of veterans prior to burial and now donated by the next-of-kin. Did you know it would be this beautiful to us ... that it would move us to tears? That we would know that This was the right place to leave the ashes of a Great and Gentle Man.
Mother, looking beautiful, lovingly and tenderly accepting the flag that honored and thanked you for your dedication and undying love for your country. The voice of Uncle John sharing his loyal affection and admiration for you and Paul's pure and sweet message of prayer and comfort to all. A toast of love and words of the 'finest role model for any man' from Mike. You were a father to all your sons-in-law. Like your daughters, they grew from your wisdom and actions and we continue to see this in our children. Words of such deep love from Alicia, your adoring grandaughter. They all are changed in some way because of you.
Section 16B - grave 507 is on a lovely hill overlooking the mountains of central Pennsylvania, but your existence will always remain in our hearts our minds and our very souls. May we forever be blessed with your passion for life, love of family, strength of character and compassion for mankind.
You are truly a Great and Gentle Man. We love you daddy.
Loretta
Margery Mark
April 27, 2007
Dear Sisters & Nona--
I feel truly like a member of the family, and certainly Loretta (aka Wetta), my dearest friend, is really my sister--- which makes you all my sisters. And on this first anniversary of the passing of Dutch McCarthy (aka Daddy), I just wanted to offer my thoughts for you and for him. I have only a few memories-- but they're potent (scrapple and trying to burn the house down are among them).
I know how close this family is-- I've never seen anything like it, in fact-- and I know how much you all must miss him. But he's still here, inside all of you. I know Loretta feels his presence constantly. He lives in my backyard, too-- in the form of Loretta's boat, Dutch, so he's never far from me, either --plus, I am constantly reminded of what he would say when the circumstances look less than rosy-- the Dutch approach: "oh, you broke your leg (or oar, or boat, or neck, or whatever)? That just means you'll have a great race." And we're off.
So he's never far; and since you are all never far from each other, there's lots of him around, always, and lots of love, always.
With love from your other sister,
Margery
Marylyn Moore
April 27, 2007
Dear Daddy D,
It is difficult to believe that a year has passed without you here, Daddy.
Not a day goes by that I don't think of you. Not a crisis passes without me asking myself - what would Daddy do? You are remembered and missed every single day by all of us.
On this night, the anniversary of your passing, I cannot sleep. I am thinking of you, remembering you and wondering how will we make another year without you.
I know you must be pleased with Mom and all she has accomplished this past year. She is very resilient and works hard to do everything as you would have done -right down to rotating the tires on the car. All of your girls are so proud of her.
I miss you Daddy. I always will.
Your #1 daughter
Loretta McCarthy
April 25, 2007
Dear Daddy
This Friday, April 27, will be the second day of the 113th celebration of the Penn Relays. How fitting that on that day, the men's masters 100m dash will take place, the event that you ran for many years.
Two days from now, it will have been a year that you have been gone. It doesn't seem that long ago and yet not a day goes by without your presence, somehow, in our lives. The impact of your love is so much a part of who we are and how we live our lives. We have and always will, be there for each other as you demonstrated to us in the love for your brothers and Aunt Sis. There it is again, you didn't have to tell us certain things, you showed us in the way you lived your life. You truly are a benchmark for all fathers and I think that we are perhaps the most fortunate children on the planet.
We love you for all eternity.
Loretta
Richard Burr
January 22, 2007
Dear Mary and family,
I'm sorry that I was not aware of John's passing until you took the time and trouble recently to contact me. John was truly one of the most treasured friends I have acquired during my lifetime. He was the first manager under whom I worked at Mobil. He taught this, then, neophyte much, and I was privileged to enjoy his friendship for the entire 38 years I worked at Mobil and beyond. I was also privileged to meet and know you, Mary, after both John and I had retired. It is no mystery why John chose you as his lifetime mate. You both share so many wonderful attributes. I am certain that God has a special place for John in heaven. May God comfort you until the day you join John.
With much love,
Dick and Dottie Burr
Loretta McCarthy
December 12, 2006
Dearest Father,
December 12th, just two days away from Mother's birthday and your six daughters will all be with her, soon.
We love her so much and we acknowledge the tremendous courage she has shown each of us. She misses you so deeply and the strength that she draws on is your character and what you would have done and wanted her to do. It is us too, and even though we are here for her no matter what, she has shown a courage unlike any I have seen before. We are proud of her, daddy. Her strength and spirit faces difficult days without you, but she is a fighter, just as you would want her to be.
Not that long ago Sandy asked you to give one word that you felt would represent each of your daughters. You only got to two of us before you were interrupted. Marylyn was 'leader' and I was 'fighter'. It has only been recently that I realized that I got just as much of my fighting spirit from Mother as I got from you.
We love you both so much. We'll kiss her for you, soon.
love
Loretta
Loretta McCarthy
September 3, 2006
September 3, 2006
Dearest Parents,
It is a beautiful day and finally the sun is shining. It is your anniversary and all six of your daughters are thinking of you with love and respect.
It is a day that daddy would love. He would breathe in the mountain air, embrace the wife he adores and go off on an adventure of sort for that part of the day he was not with her. Perhaps he would set out to clean the forest or make a trail or carry his power saw off into the woods to clear some fallen trees. He would have purpose and resolve and he would come home with the forest dirt and leaves on him. He would come into the house and find her and say that he was back and the work was done. He would kiss her and of course she would have already been told by him that she was the most incredible part of his life, and that these 60 years of marriage have seemingly flown by. That time stands still for two people with a love like theirs and that it was only yesterday that they left Saint Coleman's Church, hand in hand, to start a life together. Death cannot change that. A love like this is for eternity.
We love you Daddy and Mother.
Your 2nd daughter
Loretta
Kaye Cole
June 9, 2006
Dear Mary and Family, it was with great sadness that Steve and I received the news of Dutch. We so enjoyed meeting both of you at George and Kara's wedding and what a wonderful addition to the ceremony he made. We know how much George loved "Uncle Dutch" and what a role model he was for him as I am sure for all the DiCarlo children as well as his own. Please know that you and the whole family have been in our thoughts and prayers.
Always, Steve and Kaye Cole
Paul+Anneliese Valcheff & Fam.
June 6, 2006
Dear Mary and Family!
Sorry to be so late, our Deepest Sympathy-our Love and Prayers are with you. That October 1963 day, when we became your neighbors was one of our happiest Days in our life, we shall always cherish it. Love The Valcheff Family
Mike and Nancy Di Carlo
June 5, 2006
Aunt Mary and the family, Every one loved Dutch. He made you feel special. He was special as you all are. We still feel him and see his beautiful smile. He was an inspiration to anyone who knew him and he lives on our memories and we will cherish them. We loved Dutch, everyone loved Dutch.
John J. DiCarlo
May 30, 2006
To the McCarthy family,
In the 65 years I've known John (Dutch McCarthy) I've never met anyone who exemplified the attributes of courage, honesty, loyalty, competiveness, care for his fellow man, generosity and last but not least, true humility. He is my best friend, brother in law, buddy and teammate in every way. Sister Mary and Dutch took care of Dad in his remaining years and I am thankful every day of my life for the care and kindness exhibited by Dutch and hope he is praying for me so we can some day get back to our "upward game" and "golf" schedule.
Loretta McCarthy
May 29, 2006
Dearest Father
May 29 Memorial Day 2006. There is not a Memorial Day that goes by in the last 44 years or so, that I do not think of that special day you and Mother taught us the true meaning of Memorial Day. I was about 12 years old and all you would tell us was that we were going someplace to celebrate the day. It was to be a surprise. My sisters, and I were anticipating a picnic so when we drove in to the Veterans Cemetery it got pretty quiet in the back seat. This was supposed to be our surprise? We walked among the graves and you talked to us about this day and that it was a gift to us from all those who gave their life so that we could be free. It was as though someone opened up a door of life's 'legacy of patriotism.' A door that would forever be a benchmark in growing up. We watched parades of soldiers, listened to marching bands, prop planes flew overhead and dropped plastic red roses on us. That night when we left I remember thinking, 'So that is Memorial Day! Now, I understand.'
May 29, 2004 we got to pass that message on to our children. You, Mother, Jan, Bill, Madison, Marylyn, Bobby, Tess, me, Jackie and Ray. The dedication of the National WW II Memorial in Washington DC. I will never forget the moment that the WW II veterans all stood up. I will never forget the US Navy Band play the National Anthem as the fighter jets flew overhead. We watched the one break away to represent the fallen soldier.
You gave us so much. Thank you Daddy, and on this Memorial Day may you know that we recognize you are among those who made the great sacrifice to carry on the gift of our forefathers. We honor you and all those other brave men and women. You are our hero.
Love
Daughter #2
Bob Moore
May 26, 2006
Mary and Dutch, what an honor it is to have been part of your lives. I was thinking the other day, there was nothing Dutch did that he wasn't successful at...received a track scholarship at the best track school in the country at the time, from a legandary coach; a decorated Military officer; a successful businessman. And as all of us know an inspirational and exemplary Husband, Father, Grandfather, Family man, friend, and in my case Running buddy. He was even the world's best Manhattan maker! I had a haircut one time to prove it! They say a person's only legacy is how they lived their lives, and their family. What a success story!! But we all know that the power behind all that success was the love and support he got from you, Mary. What a team...and for verification, look around at the fantastic family you two created. Another success story in the Dutch and Mary chronicles. That is the legacy. You did it "so right"!! THANK YOU. Both Dutch and you will live forever in so many people's lives, minds and spirits. Not to mention some of the crazy running habits I Still have, in my 30th year of running~all because of Him!
Remember the shirt I bought him for his last marathon, how much we all laughed and the only reason he wore it was because how much you liked it. It humored me the whole run, it was the only time I laughed in a marathon..not him..too many people cheering for him!! Hopefully he is able to do a marathon every day now, wearing that shirt, that says:
"Yell, Go Dutch, Go"!!
Love always
Earl Schley
May 25, 2006
Marylyn and family,
So sorry to here about your father. My thoughts and prayers are with you. He may be gone but will never be forgotten. His love and spirit will be with you forever.
Luisa Mota
May 22, 2006
Dear Mary, Carla, and all the beautiful McCarthy sisters, my heart goes out to you. John was a wonderful man. His gentleness and quiet strenght were but two of his many qualities. Even though I only knew him for a short time, he touched my life as well. God bless him and his lovely family. Love, Luisa (Pete's sister)
Frank & Angela Gianattasio
May 19, 2006
Dear Mary & family,
We have wonderful memories from Willingboro and visiting you and Dutch at the cabin. Will write to you in Florida. Can,t imagine your pain.He was such a great guy!
Kay & Harry Schurr
May 19, 2006
Dear Mary and Family,
We have such wonderful memories of the family who lived "next door" when we first moved to Nottinghill Drive. We missed you all when you went away. We can ony guess how much you all now miss "Dutch". Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Lene Svedahl
May 17, 2006
Dear Carla,Pete,Angelo,Quentin & the rest of the family.
I'm sorry to hear about your loss, my thoughts are with you all.
Love
Kathy & Jack Mulka
May 15, 2006
Dear Mary and family,
Jack and I were sorry to hear that Dutch had passed away. We appreciate your informing us of your loss. Dutch will be greatly missed. Jack will miss his friendly smile and gracious hospitality and his insightful and intellectual conversations. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
John and Charlene Gentile
May 15, 2006
Dear Robin and Family, So sorry to hear about your father. Our prayers and thoughts are with you.
Joanne and Louie Tomaselli
May 12, 2006
Dear Robin and family,
Please accept our deepest sympathy.
Our thoughts and prays are with all of you. It was always a pleasure to be in his company. You are a great family.
Pete Mota
May 11, 2006
John, you were a role model of strength and character. I will miss you.
Pete Mota
Teri Muller
May 11, 2006
To Robin, your Mom and sisters,
I was so saddened to hear of the death of your Dad (and husband). I have two wonderful memories of spending time with "Dutch" The 1st thing that comes to mind is how he wanted us (Robin's college friends) to call him Dutch. At the age of 22 or so, I thought that was pretty cool! Both occassions involved just hanging out at the McCarthy home, having a few drinks, and just having a GREAT time. I remember thinking how 'at home' I felt. "Dutch" had many passions, but from what I could see, none more important that the 7 Women in his life. My prayers are with each of you.
Marzena & Marcin Stazewski
May 11, 2006
Dear Jan, Billy & Madison
We're very sorry for your loss. He was the kindest person we know. Always had a good word for everyone. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and all the McCarthys. Pop-Pop - we know you're in a better world now 'cause you deserve it.
Cathy Lee
May 11, 2006
Marylyn and family,
So sorry to hear about your Dad's passing. It's never easy when you lose a love one. I know you're close with your family and that should bring much comfort. Paul and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Heidi
May 11, 2006
The McCarthy's
This is such an amazing family that I have been so grateful to be apart of the last 4 years. I told Pop-pop and Nonna (my first year at the OBX family reunion 02') what an inspiration they are to me. This family has tought me so much and mostly about love. This is all thanks to Pop-pop and Nonna. Thanks for having such a great family. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Bill Crowe
May 10, 2006
Dutch,
Good luck on your new journey. We'll never forget you.
Ford & Kay Kilgallon
May 9, 2006
Mary:
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Dutch will sure be missed by all of us. Ford & Kay Kilgallon
Ford & Kay Kilgallon
May 9, 2006
Mary:
Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Duch will sure be missed by all of us. Ford & Kay Kilgallon
Gabriela Masu
May 9, 2006
To Carla, Pedro,Quentin, Angelo and All the McCarthys.
He was a great man, husband, father and grandfather. He was pleasant to know it. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time of loss.
Flor de Maria Ruiz
May 8, 2006
Dear Robin and Family,
Im really sorry for your loss, im sure Mr. McCarthy is in a better life now next to God and he will take care of you and your family as your guardian angel.
Love,
Flor & Mom
Stuart Oliver
May 8, 2006
Janette,
I am deeply saddened to hear of your recent loss. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I did not realize your father had been such an accomplished Navy man. I guess that explains why you were Miss Boating Safety. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Larry & Diane Dicken
May 8, 2006
Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Bud & Mary Breheney
May 8, 2006
Dear Robin and Family: Your Dad was such a great guy! We will always cherish our memories of him. Our hearts and prayers go out to your beautiful Mother, Sisters and all the family. With much love,
Pop-pop enjoying his new patio ;)
May 7, 2006
Richard and Carol Molina
May 7, 2006
Jan,
We're very sorry to hear your Dad passed. He certainly lived a full life and his legacy lives on in his six beautiful daughters and grandchildren. Our deepest sympathy to you, your Mom, sisters and entire family.
Angelo and Quentin Mota
May 6, 2006
Dear Pop-Pop,
We will always remember you. You never gave up and we are very proud to be your grandsons.
We love you very much.
Angelo and Quentin
Lighthouse Point
May 6, 2006
School days
May 6, 2006
John and his running entourage
May 6, 2006
The Wedding
May 6, 2006
New York Marathon - in the rain
May 6, 2006
The annual Easter Egg Contest
May 6, 2006
New York Marathon on First Avenue
May 6, 2006
The Dutchman
May 6, 2006
At the beach
May 6, 2006
Beating the young guys
May 6, 2006
Poolside
May 6, 2006
Gerry & Liz D'Angelo
May 5, 2006
Marylyn (& family), Liz and I were saddended to hear about your Dad's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you. God Bless.
Mary Dicken
May 5, 2006
Sweet Daddy Dutch,
You are such a blessing to me, I am so proud to be a part of your amazing family, you were my first daddy, thank you so much for that! (though I was a baby and don't quite remember a whole lot) but will always be thankful for my wonderful mom, all my beautiful and fabulous aunts and especially Nona, so sweet and strong. My family will always remember you and love the wonderful memories we have with you. We can't wait to see you again.
I love you Daddy Dutch!
xoxo,
Mary
Debra Scarborough (DiMartino)
May 5, 2006
Mrs. McCarthy,
I am very saddened by your loss. I have such wonderful memories of visiting both of you at the "White House" in Willingboro.
God Bless
Alicia Moore Brady
May 5, 2006
Pop-Pop, My first memory of you is Easter in Willingboro, N.J. my last memory of you was you diving in the pool in Florida! I told Nonna(she already knew) you were the most amazing man I will ever know. Love, Alicia xoxoxoxo
Al and Rachel Steward
May 5, 2006
To Mary and family, our deepest sympathy.
Dutch was a good friend, a good neighbor, an inspiration.
He will be sadly missed.
Cindi D'Angelo
May 4, 2006
Mare, I was so sad when I heard about your Dad and I know how painful this is for you. I've witnessed how close everyone in your family is so I know in the days ahead you will find comfort in one another. And this truly is the legacy your Dad leaves behind - a loving family! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Love, Cindi
Edward Hickey II
May 4, 2006
May we all live life like Uncle Jack. Not a single run goes by that I do not think of the inspiration he gave me. He is a wonderful man. See you in heaven Great Uncle Jack and thank you for you.
Gene & Barbara Maloney
May 4, 2006
To Mary, Robin and all the McCarthys. Our deepest sympathies on the loss of John. He was a great person.
Jim & Ellen Storey
May 4, 2006
Uncle Jack was a role model and inspiration for us growing up, and a true friend and inciteful mentor during our adult years. In reading these expressions of sympathy & Love, it is obvious that the good that you do often Does live after you. He has reached the finish line in a race well run. Love and Respect always.
John R. McCarthy Moore
May 4, 2006
Pop Pop,
Rest now...your amazing work, determination and love will live through your family that is as strong as you have made every last one of us. You are always with us.
Thank you for our family and for who I am as a son, a father and a husband.
With Much Pride,
John Robert McCarthy Moore
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