Paul (Tom) Skogen
ONALASKA - Paul (Tom) Skogen, age 82, of Onalaska, Wisconsin, passed away on Wednesday, November 16 at Bethany Riverside, where he resided for the past three years. Tom was born July 26th, 1940, to Paul and Jane (Aiken) Skogen in La Crosse, Wisconsin. He was the oldest of three brothers. Cause of death was dementia.
During his youth, Tom worked alongside his brothers, Dave and Gary, doing many small jobs at their parents Skogen's IGA grocery store. The "boys" would sort pop bottles by vendor, package eggs, or bag potatoes-whatever needed to be done. The store and their house were connected, so their dad would give a holler that help was needed. The boys would go running to do their job.
While attending Onalaska High School, Tom sang in the choir and played trumpet in the band. It became evident as time passed, that Tom's passion was for music.
Upon graduation from Onalaska High School, he attended Luther College, where he fell in love with the Nordic Choir. The highlight of his Christmas season was attending the yearly Luther College Nordic Choir Christmas Concert.
After graduating from the University of La Crosse, Tom taught in Spring Grove, MN, and Mindoro, WI, before journeying to Milwaukee and accepting a teaching position with the West Allis School District. He enjoyed teaching kids with special needs - always giving them a little humor with his instruction.
After the death of his father in 1976, Tom resigned his teaching position in West Allis to return home and help with the family business. Tom was a loved leader in the community relations department at Skogen's IGA, and continued his role as the family moved to the larger Festival Foods model.
Tom's passions were his church, music, and beauty pageants. He often spoke of the Miss America pageant as his Super Bowl. In 1980, he started serving as a field director for the Miss Wisconsin organization. He also assisted with many pageants in the greater La Crosse area and judged several state pageants throughout the country.
Tom was a member of the First Lutheran Church choir for over 40 years. He had the most beautiful baritone voice. One Onalaska choir member recounted that at times, she wouldn't sing so she could instead listen to Tom's rich baritone voice. Tom also looked forward to singing in the Methodist Church Cantata each December. "Good, Quality music" was his joy. Music was his relaxation.
Tom loved his church, First Lutheran, in Onalaska, which is where he was baptized, confirmed, and now having his funeral. He looked forward to spending time at First Lutheran with his neighbor and friend, Mike Peper (custodian at First Lutheran), helping with whatever needed to be done.
Tom was involved in many aspects of the Onalaska Community. He was a member of the Onalaska Rotary Club, Masonic Lodge, Onalaska Historical Society, the city's Long-Range Planning Committee, the Sesquicentennial Committee, and the Onalaska Cemetery Beautification Committee. Tom was parade marshal of the Onalaska Sun Fish days in 2003, an honor of which he was very proud. Tom remarked that, "Like Miss America, small-town festivals like Sunfish Days are part of the fabric of American life, and I'm proud to be a part of it." He looked forward to the Memorial Day parade and services held at the Onalaska cemetery. He enjoyed walking the cemetery after the service, recalling memories of some of the interred.
Family heritage was also very important to Tom. He was proud of his Norwegian ancestry, Halfway Creek Church, and the Skogen Homestead ("Skogenheim"), in Halfway Creek. He vacationed in Norway to visit the community where the Skogen family immigrated from prior to coming to Holmen, Wi.
Tom loved people and would often offer up suggestions to his brothers, Gary and Dave, to promote an employee. He also kept his eyes open for that future "Miss" Onalaska, Oktoberfest, Holmen, etc., amongst employees. He was recruiting at all times for the local pageants.
Tom is survived by brothers, Dave (Barb), Gary and Gary's friend, Emily; Aunts Beverly Fuhrman (Onalaska) and Carol Rodgers (Appleton); Nephew Mark Skogen (De Pere); Nieces Susan Langer (De Pere), Kristin (Heath) Tschumper, Kayla Schleuter, and Karee (Jeff) Munson, and Stephanie Skogen. He is also survived by great nephews, great nieces, and many cousins. He was preceded in death by his parents, Jane and Paul; Grandparents, Orris and Gladys Skogen, and John and Cora Aiken; and close friend, Dennis Wall.
Heartfelt gratitude from the family goes out to all the special caregivers Tom had through his journey with Dementia: Onalaska Care Center, Laurel Manor, Eagle Crest North, his "family" at Bethany Riverside. Also, a huge thank you to Katie Wood and Nancy Beguin for the many rides to choir practice and church services, and for the visits to Bethany Riverside bringing treats. Thank you to his high school classmate, Lois Riniker, and to Pastor Scott Skogen for their frequent visits with Tom.
Funeral services will be held tomorrow, Friday, November 18th at 11:00 a.m. at First Lutheran Church, 410 Main Street, Onalaska, WI. Friends may visit with the family from 9:00a.m. until the time of the service. In lieu of flowers, a gift can be made in Tom's memory to the La Crosse Symphony Orchestra, 201 Main St, Ste.250, La Crosse, WI 54601; to First Lutheran Church, 401 Main St, Onalaska, WI 54650; or to an organization of the donor's choice.
Tom will be remembered for his wonderful sense of humor, and love of family and friends. He was loved by many. He added "spark" to every gathering. Get-togethers have not been the same without him. Rest In Peace, Tom!--
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BRYN DAVID TRESSLER
February 13, 2024
CONDOLIENCES
Mike Beere
February 24, 2023
I had the pleasure of working with the Skogen family for many years, and I knew Tom as a witty creative person that went out of his way to welcome and assist new employees. Although it has many years since I´ve seen Tom, I will always miss him.
Sig olson
November 21, 2022
A memory of Tom, when my mother- in-passed my wife Marilyn found a wast basket that the store had given away at Christmas as a present to customers. She said she wanted to return it to the Skogen´s. We took it to the office ( then on second street) and took it inside where we met with Tom. Marilyn gave it to him saying she wanted to return it to the family. He got that big smile on his face and said he was going to keep it as his very own. He took his old one and put it aside and set it by his desk, he said how much he appreciated it and said how much he appreciated it as as far as he knew it was the only one that existed! Tom and Dave and Gary were always great friends and were always so good to my mother-in-law Mabel Ford. She always walked to the store on Sand Lake Rd. And if she forgot her money or didn´t have enough Tom would tell her to bring it next time. Also if it was to heavy Tom would send someone to carry it for her.
Kenneth Barilani
November 21, 2022
sorry I missed the funeral. Tom was my classmate in high school and a good friend of mine. He will be missed the community lost good person.
Sigurd Hanson, ETHIOPIA
November 20, 2022
My thoughts and prayers to the special Skogen family as you mourn Tom's passing. Tom was always so kind to me and I will forever remember his genuine smile. May his soul rest in peace.
Sigurd Olson
November 19, 2022
I am so sorry to here of Tom's passing,the Skogens were always so good to me, Tm included! He was especially good to my mother in law Mabel Ford!! your family is in my prayers Sig Olson
Dennis Furlong
November 18, 2022
In the early 1980's when I was a single parent with a small son I had to make every cent count. My treat of the day was to go to Paul's Pantry for a coffee and a sweet roll. That is where I met Tom. Somehow Tom knew money was tight for me. One Thanksgiving at Paul's Pantry Tom gave me a small ham out of the goodness of his heart. He knew I couldn't afford such a luxury and insisted it was his treat to me and my toddler son. I never forgot that act of kindness. This is the kind of person he was. Tom was a person I was fortunate to have known. Rest in peace and may God be with you. Dennis
Nancy Nelson
November 18, 2022
My heartfelt condolences to the Skogen family.
Tom was fun to talk with, so good natured. He was truly a joy to know.
Blessings on the family.
Melissa Erdman
November 18, 2022
I have many fond memories of Tom from First Lutheran Church and the church choir. Wonderful man who will be missed by many. My condolences to the family.
Barb (Mickelson) Bronson
November 18, 2022
Our thoughts and prayers are with the Skogen family with the passing of Tom. He was a very special person and will be missed by many people. I have many great memories of him from church and his friendship through out the years that I will cherish. May God comfort you now and in the days ahead. God has a new angel to watch over us. Hugs
Lynda McGinnis
November 17, 2022
So sorry to hear of the passing of Tom. He was very well liked at Laurel Manor by both staff and tenants. We enjoyed him so much. He always had such a positive attitude, and was kind to everyone. Prayers and hugs sent to family.
Tom Wilkins
November 17, 2022
Tom came to my adopted Hometown Hot Springs, Arkansas when he was judging the Miss Arkansas pageant that year. Imagine my excitement having someone I knew from my hometown coming to Arkansas. I located him and we spent several hours talking about his family and mine. It was several years ago but I recall it like it was yesterday. A great loss in many ways.
Michael Ablan
November 17, 2022
Please count me among those that loved him.
Kathryn Nichols
November 17, 2022
So sorry to hear about the passing of your brother Tom, I am sure you will agree with me, he is in a better place know. May he Rest in Peace. He and my sister Eleanor were the best of friends in School.
Marie Tabor
November 17, 2022
Dave, Gary and family,
So Sorry for your loss. Reading his history was so heartwarming. You all have given so much to to this community. Although you will miss Tom you have plenty of beautiful memories. Thank you to the Skogen family.
Wes and Dianne Panzer
November 17, 2022
May Tom Rest In Peace. Tom was a joy to know over the years, kind, humorous and thoughtful. I especially looked forward to singing next to him in many Onalaska United Methodist church Christmas cantatas.
Wes Panzer
Jim Reisdorf
November 17, 2022
Tom had a wonderful demeanor about himself. I am proud to have known Tom. Very special person. May he Rest In Peace. Thoughts and prayers go out to the family.
Lisa Bentzen Meyer
November 17, 2022
Dave & Gary , JJ and I are so very sorry to hear of your brother Paul. I always enjoyed talking with Paul at Festival when he´d come through. He was a very smart, funny man. He will sadly be missed.
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