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for Paul Anik
Christy O
September 5, 2021
I just ran across the notice of Paul´s passing that occurred many years ago. It is now the year of 2021. Seeing Ben´s post caused me to write this message. Ben, I don´t know if you will ever see this post but I was a technology client of your Dad´s many years ago. He was an exceptional attorney, a great friend, and a joy to spend time with along the way. He was trustworthy and had a sense of humor that lit up my world with happiness over and over. But, as for you and your family, you all were his greatest treasure. He loved all of you so deeply and celebrated your lives without fail on every call that we ever had together. You, your Mom, and sister were the greatest joys of his life. He found a great depth of contentment and fulfillment in each of you! God bless and keep you all. Take comfort in knowing your Dad adored you. He was quite the hero for all of us who knew him well. His legacy lives on with so many.
Ben
March 6, 2017
Miss you Dad.
Bennett Bigman
February 22, 2009
Our hearts go out to the Anik family. Paul's trademark was his friendliness and genuine interest in people. I remember being at the Dodger game last Summer and how Paul went out of his way to joke around with my boys and make them feel at home. Paul's caring and generosity is an example that we should all try to follow. He will be missed.
Ben Flowe
February 13, 2009
It's really hard for me to believe that Paul is gone. I will truly miss him but, like others who have submitted loving entries here, keep him as a part of me. We mentored each other long distance for 26 years. I met him when he was a client at Informatics and I was starting international law practice in Washington DC. We achieved what we thought was a great victory, a $50 fine, when much more was at stake, then Paul chewed my butt out about the bill for "what was only a $50 matter"! I gave him a hard time right back, and we established a frank relationship that served us both well. I took him to a fancy lunch to make up, and he said he'd rather have had NY pizza. ;-) He taught me how to write a software license when few knew what that was, and I helped his clients on export controls and sanctions (especially encryption) when he realized I liked those issues and he, like most, did not, though he could do whatever he wanted. We bounced law practice changes off of each other at various times, and I'm so glad we stayed in touch.
Don McDermett
February 11, 2009
Most sincere condolences to the Anik family. I had the privilege of working with Paul while I was the General Counsel at Sterling Software from 1996 to 2000. We were a very demanding client and Paul served our needs with great passion, great energy and always with a smile and good humor. Paul is one of those extraordinary people who left lots of "footprints" on this planet and in the hearts and minds of those with whom he came in contact. He will be missed but certainly not forgotten by those of us who had the privilege of knowing him.
February 7, 2009
Paul was a long-distance mentor, who would call me out of the blue to see how I was doing. He inspired me and reinforced my belief that the practice of law provides value, and that the business of law should always be secondary to our clients' interests. I will miss his calls, but will always remember his message.
Rochelle Coleman
February 6, 2009
Our deepest sympathy to all of you on your loss, from the Weikers family (relatives of the Rose family); Ethel Weikers and Valerie Weikers and family in Pittsburgh, PA; Rochelle Coleman and family in Canton, OH; and Ronald and Ann Weikers in Manchester, NH.
DEBBIE CONNER
February 5, 2009
OUR DEEPEST SADNESS TO HERE ABOUT PAUL ,,WE READ ABOUT IN THE ACORN PAUL WAS A WONDERFUL MAN FULL OF LIFE SENDING BARB ,VANESSA AND BEN MUCH LOVE ,, ALWAYS RANDY DEBBIE AND ALEX CONNER
Cara Levy
February 4, 2009
Our cousin Paul was the most wonderful guy
He held the family together, nobody valued family more than Paul.
He always made us laugh, and made every family event fun
He was the light of our lives.
He was a wonderful husband, he and Barbara have been a team since the day he met
He was a great father, he loved Vanessa and Ben so much and I believe if he could have taken pictures of their every moment on Earth he would have done that
And he was without a doubt the greatest cousin and friend Larry and I and our family ever had!!
We loved him and will cherish his memory forever
Joel, Jackie & Daniel Robins
February 4, 2009
It is with deep sadness that we extend our deepest condolences to Barbara, Vanessa and Ben. Although we had lost touch after moving from California we never lost the memories of our friendship. Our son, Daniel, and Vanessa went to Temple Aliyah together and we were there when Ben was born. Paul was the ultimate family man, a wonderful husband and father and a great friend to all who knew him.
We are the lucky ones to have known him.
Joel, Jackie & Daniel Robins
Carole DeMarco
February 3, 2009
It is difficult for me to put into words what Paul meant to me. He taught me so much about life, by his actions and the example he lived. He always stayed in touch even though we lived miles apart. I took comfort in the fact that he was a phone call away. His exuberance in everything he did was immeasurable. His heart was even larger. Family definitely came first for Paul. He loved his family and always talked about them. He was very proud of Vanessa and Ben and the young adults they became. He was a bright light in this world. Like the others writing in this book, I feel a great loss. We will all miss him in our own way, however, I know he is still around waiting for the time that we will see him again.
Bruce Ferber
February 2, 2009
Paul affected my life in ways he probably never knew. We had lost touch for a while and then happened to run into each other at a Calabasas video store right after the Northridge earthquake. He told me "we should play tennis -- get a foursome together." We played pretty consistently on Sundays for thirteen or fourteen years and I now play the game four times a week -- if I hadn't run into Paul that day, I'd never have a backhand.
Thank you for tennis, Paul, but more importantly, thank you for being the guy I looked to when I'd wonder: "How does one become a kinder, more generous person?" You were the living example of the qualities it took to be a great family man and devoted friend. Now that I'm on my own, Paul, I hope to keep those memories alive so I can access them as needed. In your own inimitably jokey and nonjudgmental way, you taught us much about what it meant to be human. I am forever grateful for your friendship and will never forget you. I send my love and continued support to Barbara, Vanessa and Ben. I am always here for you.
Toi Cook
February 2, 2009
My wishes go out to Paul and his family. While I only knew Paul for about a year I will always remember him bringing his baseball glove to the Dodgers v Mets game at Dodger Stadium and sitting in the suite with him while he scorekept the game. He was and still is one of the coolest and friendliest people/lawyers I have ever met. Rest in peace...PAnik! :)
Melanie Hendel
February 2, 2009
Dear Paul,
Well, I guess you left before I could show you those photos of my model we were talking about the other day at Cozmo's. But more importantly, you left before we could go out on a photo mission together (finally). I suppose I'm suppose to make a humble attempt to try and continue our passion of the dying art: Film Photography. You were so inspiring and have brought so much into our lives. I feel so blessed to have had a G-dfather/uncle like you. Never a dull moment with Paul Anik. The memories run large: Hiking in Lake Arrowhead, pool parties in the summer heat, Passover, Birthdays. I will miss you very much. Please send us a sign every now a then (A shooting star or rainbow would suffice). In the meantime, I've begun writing a song for you. When I turn famous as a soul jazz musician, the song will go on my album.
Love,
Melanie
Alan Clarke
February 2, 2009
I met Paul a few year ago and only had about 2-3 years of interaction. That was enough to make me regret I had not met him earlier but grateful that I had the opportunity I did. He was exceptional in his kindness, support and humor (I remember a futile attempt to counsel me through LA rush hour traffic to LAX - it was a 3 Stooges experience that had us both doubled-over). I did a poor job of keeping up and will forever regret it. The world cannot afford to lose the good ones and he was one of the great ones. Godspeed Paul, you will be greatly missed.
Tom Lutz
February 1, 2009
It has taken me several days to get to the point of being able to make an entry in this guest book. I will greatly miss his phone calls while he was driving some place, his jokes, his caring, and so many things, but especially his friendship. A business relationship that began when we both worked for Sterling Software evolved into something much greater. He wanted me to come out for another wine tasting trip, with Barb as the designated driver (as usual!), but I put it off and now I have to live with that regret. To Barb, Vanessa and Ben, my deepest and sincerest condolences. Please stay in touch.
Cathleen Oushakoff
February 1, 2009
Paul was to me, a kind and hilarious friend, a great mentor and teacher, an inspired example of human goodness, a sympathetic listener, and an empathetic colleague. He had a keen sense of purpose that amazed me each day. He cheered me on and made me smile. This world just isn't right without Paul. I owe him so much and will miss him even more. My thoughts and prayers extend to all suffering this loss, especially to Barbara, Ben and Vanessa.
Amy Hendel
February 1, 2009
I was part of the close group who worked on this obituary annoucement. Though we are proud of our words, they barely dent the picture we wanted to paint of this incredible man. He has left behind a hole in the universe. My family and I are heartened by the outpouring of love and the care friends and family are giving to his "family jewels," Barbara, Vanessa,and Benjamin. I know Paul had such a life force that, though gone from our physical lives, his energy will remain with us for an eternity.
Janet Rudolph
February 1, 2009
Paul was a stalwart member of the mystery community. We all mourn his passing. Personally I'll miss his enthusiasm, his energy and his creativity.
ANNETTE & MARTY STEINBERG
February 1, 2009
We were very saddened by the news of Paul's passing. We feel very fortunate to have known him, his beautiful wife, Barbara and lovely children, Vanessa & Benjamin.
Our hearts go out to all his wonderful friends & family. He will be missed by so many.
Elana Coan Collins
February 1, 2009
I have known the Anik family since I was twelve when I first started to babysit Vanessa. I instantly knew I was part of something grand. Paul was always a source of encouragement and support and I feel blessed to have known him. I am now married with a family of my own and I know his influences will extend to how I raise my children. My family and I were fortunate enough to spend time with Paul over the holidays during our trip to California. We are all deeply saddened by the loss of this incredible individual. We are forever changed for having known him.
Larry Steinberg
February 1, 2009
None of us who were at Thursday's service will ever forget this testament that a kind, humble man with an open heart touches many many lives. Paul's passing has left a hole in my heart that will never be filled.
January 30, 2009
Dear Paul, Your inspiring statement to me in December was "Out of adversity comes opportunity." I will take these wise words to heart and will forever treasure the privilege of having been your law partner. Thank you for helping to make me a better person.
Nancy Frierson
January 30, 2009
Paul thank you for being as gracious as you are. May God bless your family.
Gabriella Wright
January 30, 2009
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this time. I hope your fond memories of your husband & father carry you through your journey of healing. He was a remarkable man with a wonderful sense of humor. His happy-go-lucky personality was always infectious to those in the office. Most admired trait of Paul was his love for his family!
Gladys Verduzco
January 29, 2009
What a great loss to us all. Paul was such a great man and a joy to see every day always with a great smile on his face. He will be sorely missed.
kathleen brown
January 29, 2009
you were truly one of my favorite lawyers in our firm. you were so nice and treated everyone equally. i will miss playing the lottery with you.
Ann Loeb
January 29, 2009
This is a lovely idea. I met Paul when he started at AGSK when he came running up to me to tell me how excited he was that we had gone to Brooklyn College together (one year apart). Since then he has always been the first to offer help when requested and had the most extraordinary breadth of expertise. He will really be missed. My husband David Gubman is also our partner and I know he feels the same. We are so sorry we couldn't come to the funeral. Unfortunately, I had a chemotherapy treatment this morning and David had to take me. But I was really and truly shocked to hear the news. For his wife, I just want to say that I lost my first husband over 20 years ago and I can at least imagine how you feel and all I can tell you (which you'll probably hear too much of) is that as much as it hurts now (and that's really bad), it will get easier bit by bit over time and as difficult as it is on the kids, they are extraordinarily resilient and if you all hold on to each other, it's really all you can do for each other and as a tribute to Paul. David and My Best to you all.
Dan Statum
January 29, 2009
It was a pleasure working with Paul, he would stop by the Records Department on his way to his office and always managed to put a smile on everyone's face with a quick joke or funny comment. He will be greatly missed
Michael Plonsker
January 29, 2009
My sympathy is with you and your family. You should be proud of your Dad and husband. He was decent, a great lawyer and just a good good guy. He will be missed.
Mary Lee Wegner
January 29, 2009
Paul was an inspiration to all of us at Alschuler and Dreier et. al. because he represented someone who was actually able to fulfill the ideal of balancing love for work with an even greater love for life and family. Everytime he spoke about any of the three of you, Barbara, Ben & Vanessa, he glowed. He is much loved and much missed, and my heart goes out to you.
JOSE RAMIREZ
January 29, 2009
SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS, PAUL WAS ONE OF THE LAST GOOD GUYS LEFT!
Myrna Tangco
January 29, 2009
Let's not mourn our loss, but instead celebrate a beautiful life well lived. A genuine, well loved man who will be sorely missed and never forgotten.
Bill Burbank
January 29, 2009
My deepest sympathy at your loss. My prayers to your family and friends.
Judith Fulton
January 29, 2009
I worked with Paul at AGSK and will always remember him as a kind soul. I'd occasionally run into him sitting in front of Gelsons where'd he'd stop to refresh himself during his Saturday morning bike ride. May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
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