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Catherine Cary Penton
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Catherine Penton Obituary
Left to mourn their loss are her beloved husband, Jeremy David Penton; and her beloved daughter, Anna Virginia Penton, both of the Ferguson Valley. Also heartbroken are her parents, Anne and Aubrey (Buddy) Cary of Williamsburg, Va. Other grieving survivors are her two aunts and uncles, Marcia Lee Hall and her husband, Don C. Hall V of Gloucester, and Patricia R. Whitehead and her husband, Allen H. Whitehead Jr. of Williamsburg. Other survivors include her cousins, Cynthia Lee Hall of Norfolk, Don C. Hall VI and his wife, Terri of Poquoson, Patricia Anne Drake and her husband, David of Gloucester, Allen H. Whitehead III and his wife, Kristy, Gregory L. Whitehead and his wife, Jeannine of Williamsburg, and Elizabeth L. Whitehead of Williamsburg.
Services for Catherine will be held at the Crematorium Chapel in Bunbury at 2 p.m. on Friday, Oct. 9, 2009 (Australia time) and a celebration of her life will be held at the Ferguson Hart Winery in the Ferguson Valley, where she lived so happily.
We will love her and miss her for all of our lives.
In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to the Leukemia Society of Western Australia, P.O. Box 586, Balcatta, Western Australia, 6914, Australia. View and post condolences on our online guestbook at dailypress.com/guestbooks.
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Anna Penton
April 6, 2025
Hello all,
Unsure if anyone is reading this page but I just found this many years later. I´ve read every entry and they´re all beautiful. Here´s a pic of me and my dad this year. I´m 17 now! Many years have passed since most entries were made.
Anna
Cheryl Rourke
October 3, 2023
Traditionally I write a poem for you Catherine Cary Penton. So much has happened in all our lives. Things we should have shared with you. Your Secret Women are now all older, slower, some of us very grey and Karin has crossed. Every time I see the lilies in our valley I think of you. They are everywhere at the moment.
Pain
by Cheryl Rourke
The pain is everywhere.
Glorious superficial smiles mask the tragedy.
Prepare a face for the faces we meet.
A toast to life, alcohol fuelled.
Night blindness a manifestation.
Moments of panic,
Flight a consequence
Or fight?
Hot and red
Breathless fear
Steamy glasses
Fog.
The pain is everywhere
But it is not seen.
Derek Sheets
October 3, 2023
Just thinking of you Cathy
Shirley Lewis
October 4, 2019
I feel I can now write a few words, Catherine. I was so destroyed by your death I could not write! Now I know that you are still with us and will always be. My love will be with you always.
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Anne Cary
October 3, 2019
I miss you every single day and will forever. Words cannot possibly convey the empty relentless feeling I have without you. You are in my heart always and you have all my love, precious daughter. I love you to eternity.
Anne Cary
October 8, 2016
Hi darling, in just a week I will once again trek to Australia to visit Anna and Jeremy. It is something I want and love to do, yet it is bittersweet way down deep in my heart. I think of you constantly and I trust that you already know how wonderful a father Jeremy has been to Anna. Now Anna....Cath you would be so proud of her. She has an independent spirit you would love - a little spitfire at times. We see so much of you in Anna, in personality as well as how much she favors you. I know you are keeping a close eye on her, and I will join you in that when my time comes. My only hope is that what we have been taught about God is true and that I will once again be with you. You were always the very best of my life and you will remain so until the end of time. I love you more perhaps than you can understand, and I long to be with you.
With all my love,
Mom
April 17, 2012
To dear Catherine,
We painted the sunshine
and made us a day -
we sang us a summer
from June until May -
we coloured each moment
with laughter and warm
and wrote us a sunset
that lasted till dawn -
but dreams and schemes and holidays
must always have an end,
so thanks for the ride on the rainbow
my friend
I miss you every day,
With love,
Julia
Cheryl Rourke
November 4, 2011
A new poem for Anna and Catherine.
The Tooth-fairy treads on little silent feet.
At night she visits, a sleeping child to greet.
Beneath the curls on a small slumbering head,
She takes the milk tooth; places a coin instead
Under the pillow on which the child dreams,
Of nightly visitations via magic streams.
Through the window, the Moon sends silvery light,
To illuminate fairy wings, which glow bright.
The Garden wafts a perfume ever so sweet,
On the gentle Wind, tugging at the bed sheet.
All night long, the child softly breathes,
As the Tooth-fairy spins tooth wreathes.
Julia Blandford
October 28, 2011
Dearest Catherine
I can't believe it's been two long years since you left us. Our friendship was far too short and I miss you so much. There is so much I want to talk to you about - firstly about bringing up Ingrid and Anna. As we talked about just before Ingrid and Anna turned one I was so happy to have you in Ingrid's life and I still have the beautiful card you made Ingrid for her first birthday saying how you loved having Ingrid and myself in Anna's life.
Ingrid and Anna continue to be good friends (described like siblings) by the kindy teachers!
But most of all as I leave the hectic 'small years' with my children and have some more adult time for myself this is when I miss you the most because we didn't get the chance to explore our adult friendship together apart from being first time new mothers. I want to discuss the world and books and politics and travelling and so much more. I want to invite you for a nice lunch somewhere at one of my favourite wineries and just talk for a few hours...
I miss you so much
With love always
Julia
Patricia Whitehead
September 22, 2011
Oh Cathy, remember when we used to get so excited over purses with 'features'? That's the first thing we'd look for when a new one caught our eye. Uncle Allen and I spend one whole evening photographing a new acquisition of mine to show you all it had to offer and then we e-mailed it to you. Such are the important memories in life. They never leave us. Do you have a purse up there? something to carry your memories in? I'll be glad to check it over for you......and I'd love to see the memories again too. I love you beyond life and I always will, my 'second' daughter. p
Sheila Stone
December 24, 2010
Dear Anna,
I just deleted my first entry by accident, so I type again. Your mother was my first and best friend for many many years. We shared so many memories I don't even know where to begin and if I wait until they flow perfectly into this book, then I won't do it. My first attempt was met with many tears and I just wanted to make a perfect entry for you. I'm so thankful your mother and I reconnected in 2006 or 2007 when you were an infant. She was so proud of you and was as beautiful and bright as they day we met in 1976.
My family and I moved directly across the street(Pioneer Lane Yorktown,VA USA) from your mother and grandparents. It seemed as though their house was my home away from home. I probably spent half my childhood with your mama- ballet, jazz, swim team, pre-school, kindergarten, all the way through high school. I even remember visiting her at NC State in college. One of my fondest memories was our after school ravioli lunch when would stare at a shark book and imagine swimming deep in the ocean (my parents still have the book with our ravioli fingerprints in it. Wow, your mother had a fantastic imagination...
We would laugh and play for hours or until our mothers would separate us. I learned so much from your mother, she was so intelligent, bright, funny, compassionate and always willing to listen.. Anne and Buddy were just as entertaining and I'll never forget my time spent their growing up. Your grandfather always called us Boys, "What are you boys up to?" Well we were always up to something, never a dull moment with inquisitive Cathy Cary.
I hope to meet you again one day with my daughter Tajmana born May 9, 2005. We love to travel and would love the opportunity to share more stories with you in person. I believe in the spirit world and feel as though I felt your mothers presence soon after her passing. Which helped me through the rough mothering phase I was going through. A unexplainable calmness came over me which brought me a new appreciation for motherhood.
Your mother was very unique and kind like no other woman I've ever met and I'm so thankful we reconnected a few years ago. I guess we both were struck by wander lust which took me to Ojai, California(among several other places) and your mother to Australia...I remember playing a futuristic game when we were about 9 or 10 and it always included far away places that we desired to visit and live. Needless to say her braveness allowed her to travel and explore new places, which I always admired in her.
Please feel free to contact me anytime. Who knows which communication methods will be available to you in the future. For now I can be reached by email [email protected]
All the best to you and your family..
Lots of Love
Sheila Stone
Derek Sheets
December 23, 2010
My Big Sis,
Ever since I could remember, you have always been there. A part of my life- my family, you were always caring and never asked for anything in return.
Your smile and laughter could fill the largest of rooms. Remembering the days of riding the school bus together; through grade school you were there every step of the way. Holidays, birthday parties, Dad poker nights, playing with your little dog Poppy, summers at the pool and then we got older.
You were with me in intermediate school and throughout high school. The mischief that followed in those years and finally came adulthood. We spent many special days together at VCU always a phone call away. I moved on to JMU and you remained at VCU but we were always together in a family bond.
Looking up to see you in the stands on virtually every baseball game I played knowing my big sister was there was always a special feeling.
From your oh so beautiful wedding to your wonderful husband Jeremy to your smallest angel Anna. You have touched everyone across this world deeply with your heart and we miss you.
Our best to Jeremy and Anna.
Love,
Derek, Pinky, Jake and Mason Sheets
Thayer Sheets Jr
December 23, 2010
My Lil' Sis,
Growing up, you WERE my little sister. Every time I cut your lawn, you always checked on me and always offered me something to drink. Christmas nights filled with laughter, and love and just the anticipation of you coming over..what a joyous time!
In high school you WERE my little sister. You always came to my baseball games and you were my most trusted confidant.
In college you WERE my little sister. I remember visting you many times in college at North Carolina State University. You and Beth introducing me to Tater!
In my wedding you WERE my little sister. On one of my most nervous days you were there to hold my hand and tell me how proud you were of me.
No matter how far the distance, how busy we became, the length of time that lapsed, we would always start where we left off, as if a day had never passed.
I will regret forever not seeing you during your last years, months, and days for there is a hole that can never be filled. You were family and I will always hold you close to my heart...for WE will MEET again!
Thayer Sheets Jr.
December 17, 2010
My darling Cathy,
I know you won't be able to be home for Christmas this year, but we will be with you and will be feeling all the joy and love that we have always felt for you. I bet you'll have a great time with Grandma and Granddaddy - how nice for them to have you to share the holiday with.
Your mom and dad, and Jeremy and Anna miss you beyond imagination but they are being brave because they know that will make you proud of them. Their lives are made up of memories of you.
Thank God, for all of us, that you are not really gone; you are as close as a memory and as near as a heart beat. Thank God there is no real separation between souls who truly love each other, as we love you.
Be happy, sweet Cathy. We will always be near to you.
I love you,
Aunt Pitty
(Patricia)
Memories away.
November 6, 2010
Dear Anna
We met your beautiful Mum through our friends, Jan and Merv, who lived up the road from your place when you lived in Gardincourt Rd.
She became a wonderful friend and always but always was a glow of light whenever we saw her. She really did appear to have an aura around her.
She used to come and visit us here at Peppermint Lane Lodge sometimes and we always had a special feeling of warmth when she left. We had lots of laughs and discussed the meaning of life - among many many other things.
When she was pregnant with you your Mum and Dad would come and visit us and ask questions about their pregnancy. I was a midwife although was not registered or practicing then. Your parents had so many questions to ask and we all had such wondering of what you were going to be like!
Well......then you came along.......and you cried all the time. I often tried to work my professional magic with you - every now and then it worked - but your Mum was the best. Your Dad was the best at keeping you entertained. Your Mum was so practical and pretty strict too. You were so cute and have grown up so quickly.
We met Anne and Buddy when they came over to visit Catherine and Jeremy. We could see so much of Catherine in them.
Throughout all the time that we knew Catherine though she had back pain but she never complained.
Anyway - now it's now - and life has moved on.
It was a great privilege to have known your Mum and we will never forget her or you or Anne and Buddy.
I hope you don't forget us and we see you again and again in the future.
Always remember........."go placidly amid the noise and haste and remember what peace there is in silence". This is the opening paragraph of the Deciderata. I have this "poem" on my fridge and read it often. I hope you get it find it inspiring too.
Love
Kim and Simon Wesley - Peppermint Lane Lodge - www.peppermintlanelodge.com.au
Jan and Merv Hart
November 4, 2010
To dear Anna,
The first time we meet your beautiful mother and father was just after they had put an offer on a house just up the road from our vineyard. Her smile was infectious, a sure beauty to the eye with the same beauty within.
We were thrilled, these two lovely people were to become very good friends and our lives were meshed. Over the years we had so much fun, from our wine group to passionate Eagles supporters to just great friends - as you can read we all live in a very special valley. Then you were hatched! Catherine made this known to us at Secret Womens Business Lunch on July the 4th and she sang in full voice the American anthem. Wow, from then on you became the most important topic and we couldn't wait to meet you!
Watching beautiful Catherine and Jeremy walking you around the streets of Ferguson every day in one of your amazing pushers was something we will never forget. How we loved to stop and chat or just wave, this special family, so happy.
We have all been blessed by knowing Catherine your gorgeous mother. Her wonderful presence and love that she gave us all. You Anna, shine just like your Mum and are the apple of your fabulous Dad's eye. He has done such a great job in bringing you up to be the girl your mother would have dreamt you to be.
We have attached a photo of the very sad but beautiful day, as we all said our goodbyes to your lovely Mother.
You will see how much we all loved her and how we all miss her. She is forever in our hearts.
Lynne & Graeme Mitchell
November 1, 2010
Catherine was so much a part of our beloved Ferguson Valley community it is hard to imagine her not being here now.
We were only part-timers in the valley until recently so we only got to know Catherine for a short time, but our memory of her will last with us forever.
Just some of the things we will remember most were her beautiful welcoming smile, those lovely rosey cheeks, her striding along Greenwood Heights past our gate pushing Anna in the pushchair, happy times at the Wild Bull Brewery meeting up with locals and neighbours, our first dinner at Catherine and Jeremy's house when she amazed us with her knowledge and passion over Aussie Rules football and last but not least when visiting her a few weeks after Anna was born where it was a pleasure to see her such a proud and happy mum. (It was also the first time we met Catherines lovely mum Ann, also a proud and happy gran!)
Catherine, we are so sad we didn't get to spend more time with you and our house wasn't finished in time for you to sit with Jeremy and Anna on our verandah to look down the valley and watch the sun set over the Indian Ocean as we had planned. Although I am sure you were there with us on the verandah watching over Jeremy, Anna and Anne when they came by.
Jan & Rob Tierney
October 21, 2010
Catherine was one of those rare people who although she touched my life for but a moment, will leave an impression for a lifetime. She embraced & enhanced our Ferguson Valley lives. Our Book Club meetings were enriched not only by her enquiring mind & her wisdom, but also by her sense of humour, the twinkle in her eye & her beautiful smile.
Catherine, it is so sad for Jeremy & your family to have known, loved & lost you, & sadder still that Anna will only get to know you through the memories of others.
October 17, 2010
I unfortunately just found out, and was completly heartbroken. Cathy was always so mature and unbiased, and I am so sorry to hear the news...
Cheryl Rourke
October 14, 2010
“The Family Well”
Look down into the well.
Below, an ancient mirror.
Time is stilled and shushed.
Familiar faces float and nod.
“Hush little baby don’t you cry.”
Echoes of gentle motherhood.
The depth cannot be fathomed,
But the chant is soothing and deep.
Reflection, recognition of the past.
Here, reach for a grandmother’s face.
Answer with a greatgran’s cadence.
Deliver another wish into the well.
The water ripples, shimmers, spirals,
The guardians of our childhood whisper.
Old soft fleshed hands stroke.
Perfumed nursery voices murmur.
“Mummy and Nanny thank the Lord.”
All are there in the pure water,
Total parts of the reflection.
Your face, her face, our good night.
The circle of illumination.
No beginning, no end.
A timeless familiar face,
A promise to remember.
By Cheryl Rourke 6 June 2007
Written for Catherine on the birth of Anna. Presented at the SWB Ferguson Valley at Jenny Gardiner's home.
October 14, 2010
Catherine visited us in Albany, AU, several times. From the first moment, she created such a warm glow in our house. Part of it was that stunning, sincere smile that suffused her beautiful face and seemed to spring from her inner contentment.
Catherine was one of the most other-centered people we have ever encountered in our fairly long time on the planet. It was clear to us that she was prepared to take any steps to grow the relationship she had with Jeremy and, eventually, her little daughter. Her unselfishness was truly remarkable. We have often described her as saintly.
We were amused, sometimes, at the little things that showed this wonderful feature: we recall on one visit that Catherine armed herself with a cricket bat (grossly oversized for her) and keenly tried to pick up the fundamentals of batting. If she was going to live in this country, she was going to embrace some of our iconic activities.
And she didn't waste time declaring her allegiance to our state's football team because she realized that Australians are tribal in their adherence to their local team. We loved all this enormously.
No matter how old we may grow to be, there never seems to be enough time. In Catherine's case, we regret the things we talked about doing together, such as visiting Melbourne, a city Catherine fell in love with at first sight. However, we still remember with real joy some of the things we all did together here. There was that walk through the bush to one of our genuine pristine jewels, Little Beach and breakfast at the Two People's Bay afterwards.
We hold onto these pictures with pleasure and yet sadly. However, we are always deeply grateful to Catherine for that beautiful presence that came to us ever so briefly.
Kath and Basil Worner
October 13, 2010
catherine you are so missed, i think about you all the time. Anna and addy have such a special bond which is such a joy to watch - they really have known each other all their lives! love and miss you
Emma
xxx
Heather Thompson
October 12, 2010
Dear Anne, Buddy, Jeremy and Anna,
Although only knowing Catherine for a few years the memories of her incredible smile and unique friendliness with everyone she met. She made our son Ryan, who has lived in Texas for many years, feel very privileged to be able to sit and talk with her about her beloved home when Ryan was home on holidays and we had a wonderful few hours with her and Jeremy and all the other Ferguson Valley crowd at the "Wild Bull", the favourite Friday night meeting place. Catherines ready smile in a time of extreme adversity, gorgeous scarf covering her head and little Anna content in her stroller. Hearing her laugh with Ryan as they both reminisced on the good ole US of A was a memory that will keep her alive in our hearts forever. Our hearts are with you all this one year on, it seems to have gone so quick but we think of you often and send many prayers and love to you all.
Stuart, Heather & Ryan Thompson
Bunbury WA
Karin & Don Williams
October 12, 2010
Dear Cathy,
I know you have not gone too far and are keeping an eye on Anna. Jeremy is taking good care of your precious darling. Taking her for evening walks, as you both used to do. Your love abounds.
Karin & Don -Ferguson Valley,
Western Australia
SWB American Independence Day July 2006
Cheryl Rourke
October 10, 2010
Sharron Guy Robertson
October 9, 2010
Cathy,
What an opportunity I missed in not getting to know you better through the years. As children we were together perhaps a few times a year. I mostly remember the traditional family get-togethers with the Guys, Carys, and Pritchards at Christmas. I remember you as a toddler with those sweet, sweet cheeks! So precious.
It would have been nice to have met your Jeremy and Anna. What a lovely family! I know that your precious girl will grow up to know what a beautiful mother you were, and what a loving and gracious family she was born into.
May God bless you and all of yours.
With love to Anne, Buddy, Jeremy, and Anna,
Sharron Guy Robertson
Catherine & Jeremy in Bunbury
Jeff Jerabek
October 3, 2010
Jeff Jerabek
October 3, 2010
Anne, Buddy, Jeremy, Anna, and Family...
I remember the day that Jeremy met you at the Irish festival in Richmond & he couldn't stop talking about you for the next few weeks. When we met you, it was like you two had known each other for years! It was an honor being part your special wedding day & I think of you and Jeremy often. Teresa & I had a great time visiting Bunbury & you showed tremendous hospitality to us Americans! You always made a point of looking us up when you came to visit the States (even if it was only to take Jeremy golfing!). We wish we could’ve done more during your illness & still wish we could do more for Jeremy & Anna today. We will always remember your smile…….
Love Teresa, Jeff, & Samantha Jerabek
Cheryl Rourke
September 24, 2010
Secret Women’s Business in the Ferguson Valley
In the beautiful Ferguson Valley an organization of women regularly meet to share each others’ company, secrets, food, wine and talents. In the group of eight women, ranging in ages, there are five Australian women, one German Fräulein, one French Mademoiselle and one young American woman represented. The group assembles at different private homes for a luncheon and usually there is a visitor or two invited along to each gathering by the hostess of the day. At the luncheon the women usually share one piece of wisdom, one reading, one fun story and one recipe for the food enjoyed on the day.
With such a variety of nationalities represented at the SWB luncheons the food enjoyed reflects the diversity of the group. There have been many theme luncheons to celebrate special days. Australia’s Foundation Day, hosted by Jenny Gardiner and Lu Standish, was toasted by a luncheon of foods regularly served by pioneering women. The intriguing entrée was Green Tree Quail where 28 such quails were served and enjoyed. American Independence Day saw an American fare served accompanied by a rousing rendition of “The Star Spangled Banner”, sung by the lovely Catherine Penton. Bastille Day was recognized and celebrated by Anita Olsthoorn where the ladies were treated to a French bistro feast, French music and French charm. One sunny day in winter saw the women in a German Weingarten Outdoor Restaurant; such was the authenticity of the food and atmosphere provided by Karin Williams. In Jan Hart’s lovely new home, Jan and Catherine hosted a fondue feast with three different fondues served. If Jan were planning a house warming, she certainly achieved her goal. At one stage the centre of the table was merrily burning away. It is unbelievable the things Jan can do with a linen serviette. The party girls were certainly sizzlin', guzzlin' and dunkin'! Kim Wesley hosted a memorable day where all at the table related how it was they came to be married to their partners. Many secrets of marriage and divorce were shared over an elegant Peppermint Lane Lodge luncheon. Another time only fresh Ferguson Valley fare was served on the Kingtree Lodge balcony by Cheryl Rourke, when succulent fresh marron, mango and avocado were married to a fresh salad with a spicy sauvignon blanc dressing.
The inaugural meeting of SWB was in December 2005 when Jenny Gardiner mixed her Christmas pudding ingredients in an esky, such was the volume it could well have been “The Magic Pudding” in the making. In the time since many wonderful guests from all over the world have joined the ladies and have been introduced to Ferguson Valley intrigue, hospitality, food and wines.
Cheryl Rourke
Cheryl and Chelsea's Floral Tribute For Catherine...The Lily of The Ferguson Valley
Cheryl Rourke
September 24, 2010
Cheryl and Chelsea's Floral Tribute For Catherine...The Lily of The Ferguson Valley
Cheryl Rourke
September 24, 2010
Anita Olsthoorn
September 24, 2010
Catherine,
You were so beautiful and so charming. You came into our valley and into our hearts, but left us much too early. You died so young,but you will always stay the sweetest, most gorgeous American woman we have known. Every Christmas dinner we will have, we will keep a seat for you. You are not forgotten.
Kindest thoughts to all who loved you.
Catherine at Kingtree Lodge for a SWB luncheon. She is beaming as she is about to eat a crab salad,
Cheryl Rourke
September 24, 2010
Cheryl Rourke
September 24, 2010
I well remember the first time I met Catherine in July 2006. She was glowing with youth, health and beauty. So much so, I was initially suspicious of the beautiful American with the flawless complextion and perfect teeth. She was a new member of our Secret Women’s Business luncheons. We were at Jan Hart’s wine cellar for an American Independence Day luncheon, in honour of Catherine, an American, joining our group. Catherine took up the challenge I leveled at her and in a clear, fine and strong voice sang, “The Star Spangled Banner” for all of us. It was then I first knew I really liked her and all my suspicions faded away. I then thought I had all the time in the world to get to know Catherine.
Over many more SWB meetings we all appreciated Catherine’s company and also met Anne, Catherine’s lovely mother. Of course, eventually I did get to know Catherine much better but it was via a bitter sweet introduction to Catherine’s strength when faced with a terrible blow to her very essence. I cannot make sense of this loss we all feel and I question the Universe. I do know I am glad I met her and her wonderful family. This poem is a tribute to the Catherine who so delighted us with her humour, intelligence and the words of wisdom we all shared at our Secret Women’s Business luncheons. Catherine was a very talented writer and sensitive reader, so a poem is the best way I can think of honouring her. We will always remember her and will forever miss her presence.
An Exotic Flower
by Cheryl Rourke 2009
The bloom was a real surprise.
The outward appearance, velvety,
Delicately hued, yet softly glowing.
Yes, a flower out of the ordinary.
What gentle climate encouraged
Perfection of texture and beauty?
And here she was, luminous,
Growing dewy in a harsh clime.
Such an exotic beauty unfurling
And taking root down under.
Blessed was the union so strong,
Another unique blossom now unfolds.
Luminescence is, by nature, short lived;
An experience which touches so many.
Remembered as a spirit: wise, womanly,
Gentle, gracious and forever complete.
Our garden of secret women’s endurance,
Treasures a new, rare and hybrid bloom.
Cherished, nurtured and celebrated.
We embrace, ‘Anna’, Catherine’s bud.
Charmaine Trice
September 22, 2010
"Grieve not...
nor speak of me with tears...
but laugh and talk of me as though I were beside you.
I loved you so...
'twas heaven here with you."
We love you.
Jason Smith
September 21, 2010
How tragic that you were taken from this world at such a young age while you were still such an important part of so many people's lives. How fortunate that you and Jeremy were able to bring Anna into this world and that you were there to mother her at the start of her life.
October 5, 2009
Leighan M. Cirillo White
September 21, 2010
What a sad day for those left behind to grieve. What a beautiful day when the angels welcome you home. Rest in peace sweet Cathy.
October 2, 2009
Lani, Paul Hergenrother
November 19, 2009
Cathy was such a joyful child that turned in to a beautiful woman. We wish we could have seen her as a mother. Our hearts are so sad for her family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Greg
November 16, 2009
Catherine, all my love flies with you on wings of angels. Although half a world away, you were never far from my heart and still are not. Until we meet again.
Brian Denton
November 16, 2009
Cathy is such beautiful person in every sense of the word. A kind, loving heart, cheerful spirit, and forgiving soul. I say “is” because although she has passed to what I have no doubt is a much more beautiful place, she continues to live in our hearts. People like Cathy never die…they live forever in us, constantly making us want to be better people. I extend my heart and prayers to her family. Please find comfort in knowing that you now have a beautiful Angel looking over you and out for you always.
Zerrol and Cindy Grantham
November 14, 2009
Cathy, beautiful in body, mind and spirit, will remain in our hearts forever. Bless us all. Zerrol and Cindy Grantham
Connie Cary-Weinholtz
November 13, 2009
Although I never got to meet Cathy in person, she sure was fun by email!!! She was just the sweetest person with a great sense of humor. I am so sorry her time on earth expired so quikly. I know how much Buddy and Anne loved her along with Anna and Jeremy. I am happy she is now with my mother and father (Cathy's grandfather) I feel quite sure she got some of her humorous personality from her granddad!! He was just a little crazy:), kind of like her dad!!
They are all with the wonderful angels now where there is no pain or suffering smiling down at all of us.
All my love, Connie Cary Weinholtz of Houston, Texas
Helen Somers
November 12, 2009
I was so incredibly sad to learn that Cathy was so sick, and then to find out that she had passed away. It is difficult to imagine the world without her. She was one of those dear friends I always imagined would be in my life, and I always knew I would find her again... We lost touch for a while, but I knew it would be as if no time had passed when we saw eachother again. Now I wish I hadn't let so much time pass... It is a lesson to those of us who knew and loved Cathy. We should take the time to see one another and spend time together while we have the time to spend.
In the last brave week of her life, many of us said prayer after prayer for her. I told my children about her. I remembered good times we spent together in Richmond. I remembered her beautiful smile and I heard her laugh in my memory. I spoke to friends about her - and I remembered her with with mutual friends. In the weeks since then, I have found myself remembering her often. I miss her very much.
Many of us are reconnecting because of this sad news. I would give anything if Cathy could be there, too... I also know that it would make her very happy to know that we are reuniting because of her. What a lovely, bittersweet gift from a lovely friend.
My heartfelt condolences to Cathy's husband, precious daughter, parents, and countless friends.
Anne and Buddy Cary
November 4, 2009
Born January 3, 1972. Died September 30, 2009. Beloved wife of Jeremy David Penton, mother of Anna Virginia Penton, daughter of Anne and Aubrey (Buddy) Cary.
Our beloved Catherine, when you passed away at the far too young age of 37, the light and joy of our lives went with you. You showed such great dignity and courage throughout your long battle with lymphoma, bravely trying to make it easier on those who loved you. The love you gave us throughout your life will live in our hearts forever and will never diminish. We will love and cherish your precious Anna and help her grow up knowing how very much you loved her, how that love will live in her forever, and how very special a person her mommy was and always will be. We will do all we can to help Jeremy, whom we have come to love as a son. His steadfast love and gentle caring for you has touched us deeply and we will always cherish the memory of the very special relationship the two of you shared. Words cannot express the pain of our loss and the sadness we feel. Our hearts are crying but still full of love for our precious Catherine Anne.
All of our love forever and forever, Mom and Dad
Jean Lynch
November 3, 2009
Dear Anne and Buddy:
You have been in my thoughts and prayers since I heard about Cathy's death. She fought a long, courageous battle. I know she is in heaven now looking down on you, Jeremy and precious Anna.
Even though I haven't seen Cathy in a number of years, I find myself remembering the beautiful teenager who stayed with us while you were on a trip. I remember her as being full of laughter and joy. I know that she is laughing and dancing with the angels now.
May God comfort you and heal you, and may your memories bring you peace.
Jack joins me in extending our love to you. We will continue to pray for you and your family.
November 3, 2009
I feel a tremendous sadness knowing that Cathy has left us, she had a unique way of touching every person she met. Whenever I think of Cathy, which is often, I see a smile that lights up her face and and a lot of joy. I know the angels are singing because she had her own special light that brought happiness to others.
I miss you Cathy,
PA
Lisa Dishman
October 31, 2009
Please accept my deepest sympathies. I only knew Catherine for several years while we both lived in Richmond. Catherine, Lisa Girari, Lisa Johnson and I were quite the little gang out and about in Richmond and we sure did have lots of fun! Catherine was someone that I wished I had met 20 years earlier because she was the perfect type of friend. When she moved to Australia, she decided to sell some furniture she couldn't take. I bought the cutest little child"s desk for the child I didn't yet have, but hoped to have soon. I finally got the child, twins no doubt, and they use the desk every day. I think of Catherine every time I see them sitting there.
We all miss her and I can only imagine your loss. Please take care and know she is missed by many.
Cathy Soaring Through the Sky
Patrica Whitehead
October 30, 2009
Here's our Cathy... This is how I see her now - soaring above us, full of joy and loving us as we love her. She will never die.
Aunt Piti
Erin Seals Sakowski
October 29, 2009
Dear Anna,
Your mom was a great gal. I knew her from kindergarten on and she was the kind of friend that stuck by you whether it was cool to or not. I particularly remember one Halloween when all the girls were Madonna and I was the Abominable Snowman. She never let me feel out of place.
I live thousands of miles away, I've never met you, and I haven't spoken to Cathy in almost a year but it brings me to tears right now thinking of her having to leave you. I have two little girls and there's no more precious thing in life. But if I know Cathy, she's an angel watching out for you forever.
Someday I hope it brings you peace that she was truly happy there in Australia with you and your father. We'd lost touch for a number of years but last December we caught up and here's a little of what she had to say:
"Australia is fantastic. We're living in wine country and it's magic and beautiful and I love it. If you and Wil ever plan a big trip overseas you always have a gorgeous retreat waiting for you here! ...Anna's wonderful and I'm loving being a mom ...So apart from this damn cancer, I'm doing great!"
Shannon Fisher
October 29, 2009
Anne, Buddy, Jeremy and Anna,
I know you must be feeling intense despair right now. Please turn to your friends and family during this difficult time for love and support; we love you and we loved Catherine. No one wants you to go through this alone. Though you are a thousands of miles away right now, we are all with you in spirit. And so is Catherine.
Love, Shannon Fisher
Lews Wheeler
October 29, 2009
My life was never the same after I met Catherine. She made me want to be a better person; to grow up. She taught me about real friends and thus, what is like to really lose someone you cannot live without. And in the end as it turns out my own immaturity and obtuse lazy acts cost losing her to Australia. When she told me she was moving to Australia I immediately broke down in a manner not match before or since. Catherine still means the world to me. -Lewis Wheeler (Richmod, VA)
Chip, Terri & Brian Hall
October 27, 2009
Cathy, we will miss you so very much. You were one of those rare wonderful people who was admired by everyone you met. Your long struggle is over and now you can rest in peace. God needs your help with his work in Heaven as an angel. You had a pleasant personality and were always cheerful, friendly and helpful. You were so easy to talk to and had a genuine concern of other people’s wellbeing. Having known you your whole life I have no doubt that you were also a great Mom. I bet you could always manage a smile for Anna despite the pain. Anyone who knew you was lucky to have your friendship. Kathy we love you.
Cathy was always very cute as she grew up, a very good looking girl who blossomed into a beautiful woman. We admire Cathy so much for her endurance. She is not gone and certainly not forgotten. Cathy is one of those people who wouldn’t want us to go on grieving, she would want us to help each other accept her fate, and support her loved ones. Cathy was in our prayers for so very long. Now our hearts and prayers go out to those she left behind.
With love from our hearts,
Don & Cheryl Lundin
October 26, 2009
Dear Jeremy, Anne & Buddy,
Although we haven't been able to be with you physically over the past several months, know that you and Cathy have been in our thoughts and prayers. We'll continue to pray that God will provide comfort and healing. May you find strength in your friends and family during this difficult time.
Sybil Berger
October 23, 2009
O my heart to hers. Bless her sweet soul and the little one who lives on in her memory. No more pain. I have no doubt that she will watch over her little girl forever. That is kind of comforting to me. I am sorry for your family.
October 16, 2009
We will miss Aunt Cathy very much. Anne, Buddy and Jeremy, we know you loved her very much and we loved her too. We are praying for you.
Love, Courtney and Christopher
Jeannine and Greg Whitehead
October 16, 2009
Words are unable to express the pain that we are experiencing with the passing of our dear Cathy. Her infectious laugh and magnetic personality brought joy to all. Cathy was such a blessing to this family and to everyone that knew her and she will continue to touch our lives as her legacy lives in our hearts. It is impossible to understand how someone so special is taken from us so soon. Anne, Buddy, Jeremy and sweet Anna, we are praying that God will bring comfort and peace to you during this unbearable time. It's sad for us all but when it's time, healing will begin-but for now, we just miss our dear Cathy
Walt & Susan
October 16, 2009
Anne and Buddy....
Our beloved children are simply not supposed to depart this world before us. We cannot imagine the pain and sorrow you and Buddy and the family are enduring. Our thoughts, our prayers and our love are with you every single day.
October 16, 2009
My dear sister Cathy-we will miss you so much. You were so much more than a cousin...You brought light into this world and made it a better place for me. I hope and pray that we all take time to reflect on your life on a regular basis and to slow down a bit to appreciate your love, laugh and life.
Heaven, as we all know is a wonderful place. I can't help but think, however that it has gotten a little brighter with you in it. God Bless Anne, Buddy, Jeremy and Anna.
Allen III
Priscilla Seals
October 16, 2009
Cathy is a special part of our memories of the charmed life we all lived in Edgehill as our children grew up together. She was a beautiful child who grew into a kind and beautiful woman. Her loss touches our family as much as that of a relative. Our prayers are with her husband and dear daughter as well as with Anne and Buddy and the extended family.
Margarette Lynch
October 14, 2009
Anne, Buddy, Jeremy, Anna, and Family,
I was so very sorry to hear that Cath lost her courageous battle. I hope and pray that you will find strength in your faith. And, strength in knowing that the precious memories of Cath will live on in your hearts and in your adorable little Anna forever.
Sincerely,
Margarette
Linda Windom
October 14, 2009
Dear Anne and Buddy,
Laura forwarded this information to me. My heart just breaks for you. Cathy was such a joy to all who knew her. I hope that knowledge in some small way gives you comfort.
Much love,
Linda Larkin Windom
Barbara Davis
October 14, 2009
Dear Anne and Buddy,
My heart aches for you, and there are no words that I can say that will ever make us understand why someone who loved life so much and had so much to give was taken from you, Jeremy and especially Anna. Until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hands.
Love,
Barbara
Patricia Whitehead
October 14, 2009
Cathy, you have always been my daughter in my heart. You, Allen, Greg, and Beth share the same genes from your identical moms so you have semi- brothers and a sister who were raised with you and who love you so dearly. You and Beth were soul sisters, always together either at your house or ours. I remember all the trips your mom and I took with you and Beth, the inside jokes, the shared experiences, the days and years of loving each other. We were a happy foursome on those trips – ready for an adventure.
For some reason what comes to my mind now is something you did all on your own – skydiving. The picture you brought home showed your joy for living – a great smile on your face and excitement like an aura around you. That’s how I see you now – soaring above us, smiling, happy, and beginning a new and better life.
Cathy, You have been such a large part of our lives since the day you were born. We will never be the same after losing someone so very precious to us. Your special light will always shine down on us and we will remember you every single day of our lives and love you always.
Uncle Allen and Auntie Patricia
October 14, 2009
Anne,Buddy,and Family:
We were very sorry to hear about the passing of Cathy. We have been thinking of you and hope to see you soon.
Bobby and Sharon
Kim Parker Stratton
October 13, 2009
Anne and Buddy,
My heart just broke when I heard the news of Cathy's passing. I had tried to get in touch with her a while back when I heard about her cancer. I have such wonderful childhood memories of Cathy and I playing together. I am so sorry for your loss. I am praying for peace and comfort for your family during this difficult time. May Cathy's legacy live on in her precious daughter Anna.
October 13, 2009
Anne and Buddy,
Our hearts go out to you. Please except our heartfelt sympathy.
Martha Jane and Bill
October 13, 2009
Anne, Buddy, and Family,
Our love and sympathy to the entire family. We were so sorry to read of your beautiful daughters passing. We will be thinking of you in the days and weeks ahead.
Don and Billie Jo Harvey
October 13, 2009
Farewell to our dear, sweet Catherine. We Love you and miss you so much. Our hearts go out to your Mom and Dad, Jeremy and precious little Anna. You have brought joy to our lives since the day you were born. We'll keep you always in our hearts until we meet again. Much, much Love, Aunt Marcie and Uncle Don
October 13, 2009
Cathy’s wedding day stands out in my mind particularly, when she had flowers in her hair and was so happy she glowed. I remember thinking there was never anyone so lucky. She got married under the mulberry tree, looking like a princess and smiling her whole-hearted smile at Jeremy. I think everyone present was affected by the happiness the two shared. I know her parents were beaming as they watched her.
Cathy had a beautiful smile. It caught your memory because it was absolutely genuine, and no one could help but join in. She was a magnificent listener, too. She had a way of looking at people while they spoke that made them feel important, and then ask just the right questions to provoke thought or encourage their opinion.
People will remember Cathy’s smile and her vibrancy. She lit up a room with her positive energy and gave everyone a moment to feel special. She was full of life, and people loved her for it. I miss Cathy, and I’m so sorry Anna can’t see what a remarkable woman her mom was. I still believe, though, when I remember Cathy’s smile on her wedding day or as she held Anna at Christmastime, that she was lucky. Samantha Drake, Gloucester, VA
Cindy Lee Hall
October 9, 2009
Cathy Penton! Daredevil-skydiver, lover of life, brave soul and kind hearted friend to all who have ever crossed your path . . . I miss you greatly - you started your next journey way too soon . . but no doubt, now that you are on your way, you probably wonder what’s taking us so long. I truly look forward to meeting you again someday. Love Cindy Lee
October 9, 2009
Anne, Buddy and Family,
Marian and I are very sorry to read of your daughter's death. Our deep and sincere condolences for your tragic loss. May the Lord Jesus comfort and strengthen you through out your grief. We know that you will be blessed by your memories of Catherine and feel her love through her precious daughter.
In Christian Love,
George and Marian Ashby
October 9, 2009
Anne and Buddy,
Words cannot express how heartbroken we are for you both and Jeremy and Anna and the entire family. It still does not seem possible - we are not supposed to outlive our children. She was so courageous for so long. Just know that we are thinking of you and your precious Cathy. Love, Betty and Thayer
Lovelace
October 9, 2009
Anne, Buddy, Jeremy, Anna, and Family...
Our many, many sympathies go out to all of you in the loss of Cathy. She was a very beautiful and amazing woman who will be missed terribly but never forgotten.
With Heartfelt Condolences and Much Love...
Gretchen and Woody
Linda Kessler Van Dyke
October 9, 2009
Anne and Buddy,
I am so sorry to hear of Cathy's death. What a shock as I did not know that she had been struggling with this dreadful disease. I remember Cathy being such a vibrant, happy little girl when I would babysit her and her laugh was contagious. I remember her, Beth and Susan having a ball in the backyards of our homes playing together. My heart goes out to you and you and her extended family in Australia and please know that you all are in my thoughts and prayers. I pray that God will give you the peace that passeth all understanding and that you will feel his arms around you to carry you through this difficult time.
Susan Cherry
October 9, 2009
Anne and Buddy,
My mother, father and I were heartbroken when we found out what happened last night. I have so many memories as a child growing up with Cathy (sleepovers, building forts behind my dad's garage, kickball) and have regretted for a long time not staying in touch with her and the both of you. Your entire family was like a second family to me growing up. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you both as well as the Whiteheads.
Susan Cherry (Kessler)
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