Irving Joseph Spitzberg, Jr.

Irving Joseph Spitzberg, Jr. obituary, Gaithersburg, MD

Irving Joseph Spitzberg, Jr.

Irving Spitzberg, Jr. Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Oct. 15, 2023.
Irving Joseph Spitzberg, Jr. (1942-2023)

From his days as a teen protesting school segregation in Little Rock to his days as an attorney helping asylum-seekers enter the country, Irving Spitzberg spent a lifetime aiding others. Irving Joseph Spitzberg, Jr., 81, of Gaithersburg, MD, died peacefully at Casey House, Montgomery County's in-patient hospice, on October 13, 2023, after an unsuccessful battle with cryptococcal meningitis.

Irving was born in Little Rock, Arkansas in 1942 to Irving J. Spitzberg, Sr. and Marie S. Spitzberg. Irving Jr. and his brother Paul always said they "won the parent lottery." Irving distinguished himself early as a young leader. During the Little Rock School Crisis, the moderate adults who created STOP (Stop This Outrageous Purge) asked him to organize his fellow students to help recall the segregationist school board members in a special election. Irving hesitated to give a quote to a reporter at the time for fear of potential retaliation. "But I can tell you it's the last time in my life I ever waffled," Irving said. "I learned that night not to worry about what other people think about me."

Irving later wrote a book on the subject, Racial Politics in Little Rock, among many other books and articles on scholarly topics. After high school, he attended Columbia University where he graduated cum laude, then studied Politics, Philosophy and Economics at Oxford University on a Kellit Fellowship. Later he was awarded a Doctor of Jurisprudence from Yale University's School of Law.

Irving had a wide-ranging career. He was always focused on higher education policy, leadership in all its contexts, and effective philanthropic action. Early in his career he studied international higher education policy as a Fellow of the Institute of Current World Affairs, including stints in England, Germany, and Kenya. Subsequently, he was a professor at Brown, the Claremont Colleges, and SUNY/Buffalo (where he served as Dean of the Colleges). Then he moved to the Washington, DC area to lead the American Association of University Professors as General Secretary and later to develop innovative programming as an executive at the Association of American Colleges. During the last years of his professional life, he practiced immigration law, advocating for political asylees while helping run The Knowledge Company, which he founded with his wife, Virginia Thorndike.

Irving and Virginia were married in 1988 and shared a magical marriage for nearly 35 years. They came together to be "partners in the work," whatever that would be. First, under the auspices of the Carnegie Foundation for the Advancement of Teaching, they oversaw field work that led to the book Creating Community on College Campuses. Then they co-founded and ran the Knowledge Company, which evaluated the qualifications of foreign professionals seeking to work in the US. In retirement in Baltimore County, MD they shared volunteer activities such as furthering rural preservation in the North County and serving on the Board of the Immigration Outreach Service Center in Baltimore.

Irving was a wonderful father to his sons, Edward and David, always providing guidance and love. When the next generation came around, he reveled in his role as "Grampy". He treasured his time with his grandkids, discussing whatever they were learning in school or their many other interests. For every visit he would wear colorful suspenders and one of his flamboyant t-shirts, with fun sayings like, "Happy Dude!" and "Dads know a lot - Grandpas know everything!" His chosen family was even broader - Irving was close to many people who began their relationship as a student, employee, client, or colleague, but whose friendship grew to be lifelong and extended to their own families.

Irving's commitment to both service and his family across the generations can be summed up in his own words in a letter he wrote his son, Edward, upon Irving's mother Marie's passing: "Always remember that you have a legacy of leadership with a commitment to service. Also, learn the lessons that your Grandma and Grandpa's example taught: find a loving partner, be frugal, value your family, stay fit, and serve others." His ability to help those who loved him focus on what was important will be felt in their hearts forever.

Irving will always be remembered for his encyclopedic knowledge of, well, pretty much everything, and his love to share that knowledge with, well, pretty much everyone. He was, in his essence, an educator. He was also a centrist, a humanitarian who could identify with and show compassion toward everyone. We could not have asked for a better husband, parent, grandfather, and brother, and will miss Irving's irrepressible free spirit and ebullient love of life every day.

Irving is survived by his wife, Virginia Thorndike; two sons from his first marriage, Edward Storm Spitzberg and his wife Neesham Spitzberg, of Bethesda, MD and David Adam Spitzberg and his wife Mariana Spitzberg of Olney, MD; his grandchildren, Lulu Spitzberg, Mateo Spitzberg, and Tomas Spitzberg; and his brother, Paul Seeman Spitzberg and his wife Barbara Spitzberg of Tenafly, NJ.

A memorial celebration will be scheduled for a later date. In the spring, there will be a service at Temple B'nai Israel in Little Rock, the spiritual home of Spitzbergs for over 100 years. The family requests that no flowers be sent and that memorials be in the form of donations to Casey House (run by Montgomery Hospice, 301-921-4400; montgomeryhospice.org).

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March 5, 2024

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November 29, 2023

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Robert G. Griffin

March 5, 2024

Irving and I were classmates at Pulaski Heights Junior High School and Hall High School. There we had many classes and activities together, including marching bands at both places. During high school, we also did research with Dan Mathews at the University of Arkansas Graduate Institute of Technology. During the year the Little Rock schools were closed, we participated in a book club of sorts (often meeting at Martha Sue Brown´s house which was across the street from Irving´s parents' house) in an attempt to keep our education moving forward. Even though our intellectual interests took different directions in subsequent years, our formative years in Little Rock intersected in many ways , fostering a lasting friendship and appreciation.

Bob Griffin

Bill Bozarth

November 29, 2023

Bill Bozarth

November 29, 2023

Bill Bozarth

November 29, 2023

I have known Irving since we were in elementary school together in Little Rock. We shared a lot of experiences in Junior High and High School. We even overlapped one year at Columbia. My fondest memories of him, however, are the times we connected later in adulthood.

I think that's because he was years ahead of most of us in knowing who he was, and what his mission in life was. It took me a long time to catch up with him. I don't think I ever really did.

Irving Spitzberg, Jr. was special. He understood so many things from an early age when most of his peers were pretty clueless. Irving was able to teach and converse on so many subjects, and his light shone bright in many circles throughout his long life, right up to the end. His loved ones will miss him and the world will miss him. Farewell, my friend.

I was able to dig out a couple of pictures from my archives that I wanted to share with the people who knew him. The four young hotshots were in a carpool going to Junior Cotillion in the 8th grade or so. Irving is on the left (obviously) then Jim Pat Gunn, Johnny Roberts and me. The head shot was around the same time. We all got sheets of these mini- pictures and exchanged them. He signed the back of his.

John M. Carland

October 28, 2023

Irving and I entered Pulaski Heights Junior High School in Little Rock shortly after Labor Day, September 1954. We met either that year or the next.

Since so many here have known and written about Irving in his post-Little Rock years, I thought I would make a few comments about Irving in Little Rock before Columbia, Oxford, and Yale whisked him away.

I might note here that early on-that is in junior high--I learned that Irving had focus and purpose to spare and, furthermore, when he brought them to bear to achieve goals, goals tended to be achieved.

To get a sense of his activities in Little Rock at the time take a look at the two photographs I´ve scanned from our junior high newspaper, the Tip Top Times, the first from May 1956, the second from January 1957. In the first Irving is one of a small group of student band leaders. Note the smile and the saxophone (he may have played it before Bill Clinton did). The second shows Irving as editor of the Tip Top Times. I believe in those days, in that position and in others, Irving developed one of his operational methods-not the only one, but one of the most effective: stay behind the scenes and develop the organizational structure necessary to arrive at desired ends.

Irving´s obituary tells about his impressive work organizing the Junior STOP organization during the Little Rock Integration Crisis. However, another facet from that difficult time could be mentioned. When the Little Rock schools closed rather than integrate, students in the system-white and black-had to scramble for an education. Many, including Irving, ended up at one of the county schools outside Little Rock. This prompted him to organize a play reading group which brought together a small group of teenagers intent on getting a fix on the larger world through reading and discussing important plays. We may have been a tiny bit precious but it was a good experience for all of us. Indeed, it generated some much needed light for all in the group in a dark time.

In one of our email exchanges years ago, Irving mentioned that once he headed for Columbia, he lost connection with Little Rock and never regained it. Yet, Little Rock had a hand in forming him, in making him the person he was, the one who contributed so much to the cause of education and community, and who was always a helpful friend.

John Carland
Arlington, Virginia

John M. Carland

October 28, 2023

Tito Anders

October 23, 2023

It was always a treat, when the family convened during holidays, to be astounded by whatever fangled tie, suspenders, or whacky t-shirt Irving would be sporting that season. His humor was forever present, and situationally undaunted. Excellent at questions, and thorough with his answers, I was always fascinated by the depth & breadth of his knowledge. His deep honor and pride in his roots and family made him an uncle to look up to. Thank you for gracing my World Irving, your humor and great attentiveness to all around you have made me a better, more caring man.

Michele Penberthy

October 23, 2023

I met Irving when he and Ginny were here in Lacey WA visiting Ginny's mother, Dorothy. I was overseeing her care, managing her bookkeeping and being her friend. Irving was very interested in the business I had created in 1984 which included overseeing the care and living of Seniors in their own homes. Ginny and I became good friends and I have enjoyed visiting them in their home after Dorothy had passed away. They were a wonderful couple and I admired and have appreciated their eagerness to remain friends. RIP

Savitri Gauthier

October 20, 2023

I met Irving after befriending Ginny, and I had the great pleasure of visiting them many times in their delightful Monkton home as part of a small singing ensemble they just loved to feed and hear laughing and singing in their living room. He was the only Jewish Santa I've ever known, and his flair for dressing the part prompted my husband to dub him "the jolly elf." He was, indeed, that and ever so much more ... RIP you marvelous man.

Barbara Paper

October 20, 2023

From the time I first met my cousin, Irving, I realized he was an intelligent and serious child. Many summers my mother and I would visit Little Rock, AR, where the Spitzberg family lived. I recall one July 4th when cousins, Paul, Jean, Hazel and I paraded his neighborhood waving American flags with Irving, Jr. leading the way. Irving never stopped leading the way.
Barbara Paper

Ken Higgins

October 18, 2023

I am so sorry to hear this news. Irving and I were both Rotarians. He always made me feel important and far smarter than I ever was. I respected his opinion and at key moments during my life he offered me advice I found helpful. Very glad he was part of my journey. Rest in peace.

Dr. Sheila F. Waters

October 18, 2023

I´ve gotten so much from being a FB friend of this lovely man. I will miss our (sometimes challenging) discussions.

MOHAMED Ahmed Subhy Mansour

October 18, 2023

I have known Irving for 18 years; he was a loving husband, a wonderful dad, a successful lawyer, and a man of principles who stood for what he believed in. he was all of that. Still, his superpower was kindness and his unique ability to make everyone around him feel happy and peaceful; I'm so grateful to have known you, my great friend.
Rest in peace

W. J. "Jerry" Dean

October 18, 2023

Always found it a joy and a privilege, as a Hillcrest teenager, to visit within the Spitzberg's cozy home on North Cedar Street. Paul was my excellent band-buddy, baseball teammate and tennis partner; but we also shared with friends lively card games, too! Paul's elder brother Irving and their parents were amazingly tolerant of our ruckus! I quietly envied the close relationship of Spitzberg family members and much respected their tradition of a weekly evening dining-out. Always admired both brothers' academic brilliance and enviable sense of humor. My thoughts now rest with my long-time friend, Paul, and his fine family whose members I wish comfort at this most difficult time. I know how deeply Irving's wisdom and joy in living will be missed.

Andrew Lyons

October 17, 2023

I got to know Irving in 1964 shortly after he arrived in Oxford. I was a third year undergraduate at our college (St. Catherine´s) at the time. Harriet Lyons (my wife) and I visited him in Baltimore shortly after our wedding late in 1967,
and strangely enough we never saw him again. We were briefly in contact by telephone when he was working for AAUP. During the last five years we were in constant contact with him (and indirectly with Virginia) through Facebook. Irving was a gentle scholar and a lawyer with a strong sense of social justice. I know that he faced a long illness with considerable courage.

Candy and Dennis Warner

October 17, 2023

The Pink Sorrell in the photo was given to us by Irving some time ago with the statement that it came from his mother's plant in Arkansas. A generous man, a wonderful neighbor, a fascinating man of ideas, and loving. We will miss him. But we will continue his memory with renewal of the plant each year. Thank you Irving.

Pam Parmer & Ron Stevenson

October 17, 2023

We will miss Irving´s warmth and enthusiasm and his kind and happy presence at the Villas. With love and sympathy, Pam and Ron

Cathy Karas

October 17, 2023

Irving was a great boss and a wonderful person. I worked for him and Virginia back in The Knowledge Company days, and I still tell stories about him! Thoughtful, funny and wonderfully generous. I feel sad, knowing he is no longer with us, but fortunate to have known him.

Martha Saxenmeyer

October 17, 2023

I remember visiting Little Rock
. my mother visited to see your Grandmother who was her Great aunt.
Martie Lazarus Saxenmeyer

David Green

October 17, 2023

Irving hired me as editor of Academe when he was the Secretary-General at the American Association of University Professors back in the early 1980s. I truly enjoyed serving on his staff and the unflagging support and gracious leadership he provided during a time of transition at the AAUP. Our regaining contact through social media in recent years was most enjoyable. I'm glad I had the opportunity to share space and time with Irving.

Hossam Mansour

October 16, 2023

Irving was cheerful, knowledgeable, helpful, and enormously kind. I was lucky enough to have my first Thanksgiving at his (and Virginia 's) home back in 2004, many other fun and happy events and memories

As beneficiaries of Irving's legal services and mentorship, my large family and I
would not be anywhere close to where we are at today in life-whether it was our Immigration or career journies.

We are extremely privileged and humbled be a part of Irving and Virginia's family.

Love,
Hossam Mansour

Joy Charles

October 16, 2023

Meeting Mr. Spitzberg at our IOSC meetings and functions. We always talked about pictures that I took at our functions and keeping in touch with him on FB. May he Rest In Peace

Benjamin Liebersohn

October 16, 2023

Irving was always there for my grandma Esther, and I will always be grateful that he and Virginia helped make it possible for her to comfortably retire and eventually afford assisted living care. Additionally, Irving fostered a love of art and photography which shaped me and others. I will miss you!!

Baer Ackerman

October 16, 2023

Kindness, kindness, kindness.

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