Mary Katherine Toolen

Mary Katherine Toolen

Mary Toolen Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jul. 29, 2025.
Mary Katherine "Penny" Toolen of Pawlet, Vermont passed away on July 18, 2024. Penny grew up in Edgewater, NJ and attended Holy Angels Academy in Fort Lee, NJ and Ladycliff College in Highland Falls, NY. After graduation Penny became a dedicated, enthusiastic and highly admired kindergarten teacher first in Edgewater, NJ and then for many years in Toms River, NJ. After her retirement, to care for her mother, she moved to her beloved "Patriot House" in Pawlet.

Mary was predeceased by two important women in her life: her mother, Margaret Tuite Toolen and her aunt, Dottie Tuite Hone. The three women had a zest for life, learning and adventure. They shared a love of Ireland and cared for many beloved animals over the years. The last two loved pets in Penny's life were Katherine Kitty and her dog, Molly. Penny is survived by many loving cousins and friends. She will be remembered for her faith, generosity, independence and wit. Her family and friends will share 'Penny" stories for many years.

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