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Paul Benien Jr.
1940 - 2020
Paul Benien Jr.
1940 - 2020
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1940
DIED
2020
Paul Benien Obituary
Dr. Paul F. Benien, Jr.
February 17, 1940-November 11, 2020
Paul Benien, Jr., 80, of Oklahoma City, finished his course and went to be with the Lord Jesus on November 11, 2020.
Paul was born in Tulsa, Oklahoma to Dr. Paul F. Benien and Kay Fandel on February 17, 1940. He attended Cascia Hall High School where he excelled as a star athlete and was awarded a full-ride scholarship to play football at The University of Oklahoma. He went on to receive his medical degree from the College of Osteopathic Medicine in Des Moines, Iowa in 1966, which became one of his greatest passions in life because he lived his life to help other people. Dr. Benien served as a Captain in the US Army Medical Corps during the Vietnam War from 1967-1970 and was awarded a Bronze Star for his service. He then completed his residency in general surgery at The Dallas/Fort Worth Medical Center by 1974. He also served 2 terms on the Oklahoma State Board of Osteopathic Examiners after being appointed by Governor Walters and Governor Keaton.
He was known and loved by everyone he met because of his kindness and desire to help others. He lived a full life, was happily married, and loved his family. And yet, through all these things, his motivation for life was his love for the Lord Jesus and considered everything a loss to the surpassing greatness of knowing Jesus Christ his Lord.
Paul was preceded in death by his parents, Paul and Kay; brother, John; and son, Fred. Paul is survived by his wife, Bonnie; daughters, Mary Benien and Nancy Elix of Tulsa, Christy Bell, Charlotte Drabek, and Alanna Peebles of Oklahoma City; 16 grandchildren and 2 great-grandchildren.
Viewing will be available on Sunday, November 15th, 11:00 AM-4:00 PM. Funeral services will be held at Christ the King Catholic Church on November 16th at 10:00 AM, 8005 Dorset Dr., Oklahoma City, OK 73120. Graveside burial following service at Resurrection Memorial Cemetery, 7500 W. Britton Rd., Oklahoma City, OK 73132. Arrangments are being made by Mercer-Adams Funeral Home, 3925 N. Asbury, Bethany, OK 73008. To share a memory or condolence, visit:
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Richard West Slemaker III
May 16, 2022
I was serving as a Medic in Vietnam when I stumbled upon Paul working inside a bunker in the middle of the fighting operating in extreme conditions saving life and limb as a surgeon serving our 1st Cavalry Division wounded. I'll never forget that single day watching and working with him under horrendous conditions. What people don't remember was Paul's brother John Benien, was killed his first days in Vietnam. Paul was married to my Aunt Mary Ellen Slemaker right after his return from the war.
Combat changed us all and as many remember we didn't get the welcome that today's combat veterans get.
Somehow we survived that time and put our lives together back in the "world". Paul made something of himself in spite of all the awful pain and agony that he tried as hard as he could to prevent.
God speed Uncle Paul! Boomer Sooner!
Praise God for the peace that all our "band of brothers" now have in heaven with HIM.
I love you my brother in arms!
Sincerely,
Rick Slemaker
Houston, Texas
Frank Shearer
November 21, 2021
Paul Benien was my Nieghbor,a Wonderful,Kind & honest Man. Paul was a Great Example For All To Follow. All Of The Benien Boys Were Always Very Kind & SUPPORTIVE.
THE Benien´S Parents Were SO KIND TO ME. IM SO VERY SAD TO LEARN OF HIS PASSING.
Frank Shearer
November 19, 2021
I grew up two Houses from Paul Benien. I absolutely Loved The Benien Family. Paul helped me Learn Football.
Dr. & Mrs. Benien looked after me. Such a Great Loss.
We Lost A Wonderful Man. R. I. P.
Frank Shearer
May 30, 2021
Frank Shearer here. I grew up next to the Benien Family. This was one Special Family. All three of the Benien Boy’s were very strong Athletes with
Strong Catholic Values. I enjoyed walking to their House to play Basketball & Football. Paul was the Coach of our sixth grade Football Team. We were undefeated. I was a better Swimmer than a Football Player.
The Benien’s set great examples for others. I’m just now seeing
That Dr. Paul has Passed Away. RestIn Peace Dr. Paul. ❤
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Christie Trojanowski
January 18, 2021
Dr Benien was a great doctor and a kind person. I was a patient of his over a 25 year time span . I’m very sorry to learn of his passing
Christopher Nyte
December 3, 2020
Paul was a good man and I am thankful to have known him. I learned a lot from him and appreciated his work ethic. Most of all, he was a warm and kind person. These Christ-like traits are not easily found these days
Gerald Edds, MD
November 14, 2020
Paul was a gentleman, scholar and friend. His family of cosmetic surgeons will miss his leadership and positivity. Rest In Peace, my friend.
Robert Jackson MD
November 14, 2020
Paul was a good friend , a great surgeon, wonderful colleague . He was a great kind man . I will miss seeing him at meetings. God Bless all of you as you grieve Bob Jackson
Dr. David Simon
November 13, 2020
A true gentleman and friend. He will be greatly missed. May his memory be eternal and may God rest his soul. David
Rebecca Thompson
November 13, 2020
One of the sweetest men I have ever known.
Words can not express the sadness I feel, He was loved by many and will be greatly missed.
Much love my dear friend.
Rebecca Thompson
November 13, 2020
We have lost a wonderful guy. I was two years behind him at Cascia with his brother, John. Paul was always considerate and soft-spoken, an outstanding athlete and a solid citizen.
Rest in peace, Pablo.
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