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Philip Hayes Obituary

Philip Paul Hayes, 72" MANCHESTER AND MOUNT VERNON - Philip Paul Hayes, of Manchester and Mount Vernon, died on Thursday afternoon of complications from dementia.  He was 72.
Born in Portland in 1942 to the late Yvette Charette and the late Philip Edward Hayes, he grew up on Dresden Avenue in Gardiner.  His mother was a homemaker and seamstress, and his father worked for the Veteran's Administration at Togus.  A busy and outgoing child, Phil served as a Boy Scout and often dressed up as a clown for special events.
At Gardiner High, Phil was active in football, basketball, and student government.  During his high school years, he happily worked summers at Camp Belgrade along the shores of Great Pond.  In 1966, he graduated from St. Anselm's College in Manchester, New Hampshire, and he later attained an M.Ed. in Secondary Education from the University of Maine at Orono.
In 1968, Phil married Bonnie Weston, of Farmingdale, a high school classmate.  Although they were not sweethearts in high school, they reconnected after college, married in Gardiner, and moved to Farmington.  Phil taught Social Studies at Mt. Blue Junior High School and Mr. Blue Middle School for over 30 years, serving as a teacher and coach, then later as an administrator and athletic director.  During his years as a teacher, he mentored many UMF students in their practicum experiences and student teaching.  After retiring from full-time teaching, he served for five years as an education instructor at UMF. 
Described by his wife Bonnie as "a gifted and accomplished teacher who was respected and admired by his peers and students," Phil received a grant from the Ford Foundation in 1972 to study open education in Berkeley, California; the Hawaiian Islands; Grand Forks, North Dakota; and London, United Kingdom.  The civics course he taught, SUNSHINE USA, is long remembered for illuminating life-lessons along with the basics of municipal, county, and state government.  He was nominated by his peers in the SAD 9 district as "Maine Teacher of the Year," and, later, was named a runner-up for "Faculty of the Year" by his UMF students.
Since 1978, Phil spent the better part of his summers at the family camp on Flying Pond in Mount Vernon.  Over the years, he found an outlet for his creativity in refinishing old furniture and in his many projects -- fashioning items both practical and artistic.  When he finally retired from teaching in 2001, Phil divided his time between summers at the pond and winters down the road in Manchester, and he expanded his restoration skills by refurbishing old camps around Central Maine.  He was fond of reading American history and always enjoyed a good basketball game. During these slower but no less busy years, he and his wife Bonnie also made many trips to visit their children and grandchildren in Washington State and Florida.  Always an educator, in recent years he established the Free Library at the Manchester Campus YMCA.
Philip Paul Hayes is survived by his wife of 46 years, Bonnie Weston Hayes of Manchester; his sisters Anita Morrissey of Sidney and Connie Hayes of Rockland, his sons Mark Edward Hayes of Miami, Fla. and Jonathan Arthur Hayes of Mount Vernon; and four grandchildren, Emily Mae Hayes and Samuel Mack Hayes of Mount Vernon and Coltrane Ingram Hayes and Evan Foster Hayes of Miami.
The family extends its sincere thanks to the Alzheimer's Care Center in Gardiner, MGRLTC at Glenridge in Augusta, and MaineGeneral Hospice.
A celebration of life will be held for family and friends in the summer of 2015 in Mount Vernon. Arrangements are under the care of Staples Funeral Home in Gardiner
Donations in memorial can be made to the Hayes Family Scholarship at the University of Maine at Farmington.  Contributions may be sent to the Director of Development – UMF Alumni Foundation, Ferro Alumni Center, 242 Main Street, Farmington, ME 04938

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Published by Portland Press Herald/Maine Sunday Telegram on Dec. 20, 2014.

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January 9, 2015

We would like to offer our condolences to old GHS/family friends Bonnie, Anita, and Connie, and also to the newer members of the Hayes Family whom we have not had the pleasure of meeting. You have our prayers and best wishes.

Steve and Cheryl Cough of Seattle, WA.

Teresa Cough Rizzo

January 8, 2015

Dear Anita and Peter, I am very sorry to hear about Philip. I have warm memories of all of your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Stella and Bob Cordes

January 8, 2015

We have thought of you often these last few years as you dealt with Phil's illnesses. We will continue to think of you in the time ahead as you deal with this loss. Bless you and your family in this time of grieving.

Deborah Skehan Cerami

January 8, 2015

Dear Anita,
I am very sorry to hear of Philip's passing. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and the family. It certainly seems that Philip had a very positive impact on many people. May he rest in peace.

Piper Macleod

January 3, 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. He will be remembered.

Debra Cote

December 29, 2014

Connie, so sorry for your loss. I did not know your brother, but certainly understand your loss. May Gd bless you and your family in this sad time

Heather (Titcomb) Draper

December 28, 2014

Jon and Family,
I am so sorry to hear of your Dad's passing. I remember you and your family when you lived in Farmington , my family living on Mosher Hill. Your dad was the assistant principal at the Junior High and a social studies teacher when I was attending there. I also had the privilege of having your dad as a professor and advisor at UMF when I attended there as well(1994-1998). He was a great teacher and person. He will bedearly missed.

Erin Towns

December 26, 2014

Phil was a stellar professor of mine. I will never forget a lot of the lessons that he taught me. He knew his students well. There have been many times over my 15 year teaching career that his words have come into my head. He helped to prepare me really well for the profession. Gavin and my thoughts are with you and your family Bonnie.

Priscilla Skaalen (Curtis)

December 22, 2014

Bonnie, So sorry for Philip's passing...he was always such a kind and concerned person and helpful to others.....May God be with you thru this most difficult time......My Prayers are with you and the family....

Paula Moore

December 22, 2014

I am so sorry for your loss of such a wonderful beloved person. This is an especially hard time of year for this as well. Blessings and prayers for all his family. He was a cutie. Love, a classmate of GHS 1961, Paula

December 21, 2014

Dear Bonnie and Family

As I read Phil's obit I couldn't help reminisce about his days at GHS and Camp Belgrade as well as Boston. When I think of him during those teenage years, it's with a smile. His sense of humor was infectious. I have many fond memories

Obviously he had a successful career and with you raised a loving family. I offer my condolences to you all.

Bob Nason

Fitz

December 21, 2014

12-21-14 Not being an accomplished wordsmith it is difficult for me to express how much my friendship with Phil meant to us.For now I will just say for over 50 years he was my best friend and that friendship had so much influence on me.The moments we shared,the things we did ,the places we went I will cherish always.Thanks Phil for all the things to numerous to mention here you did for me.

Mary Jewett

December 21, 2014

Dear Anita:

I'm so glad your brother no longer suffers. You were very loyal to him and he was blessed by all family members. My sincere sympathy.

Patrick Heath

December 21, 2014

I was just telling my fiance about the class I took from Philip Hayes. The best class I ever took (history and philosophy of American education). She said to me u were lucky u had him as a teacher. I said back to her that we were lucky to have him. He may be gone but he will never be forgotten. My thoughts and prayers are with his family.

Karen Mathews

December 20, 2014

Anita, I am so sorry for your loss. You and your entire family are in my thoughts and prayers. Karen Mathews

December 20, 2014

Bonnie and Family; Sorry for your loss. We have great memories of Phil. 4th of July, Uncle Wiggly, clothes auction, and trips to the Dump. His passing leaves a large hole in our hearts.
Love, The Levers

Pamela Hayes

December 20, 2014

He was a great father-in-law to me and a beloved Doo Dah to our boys and to Sam and Emily. We will miss him.

December 20, 2014

Phil and I went to school together from
K - high school. We were friends.

We lived our lives, retired, and then
reunited at a high school reunion.

At that time we joined in improving
neglected properties. It was a great
time of life, we were healthy and
vigorous, and thoroughly enjoyed our
projects. We revived ten different
places together, and made a modest
profit on all.

On a particularly lovely little hunting
camp, Phil said, "I would work here for
nothing." Fortunately, that did not
happen. We made a few dollars!

Phil was an excellent partner. He was
creative and could make useful
attractive things out of nothing. He
recycled everything. He was never
wasteful.

They say, people who make other lives
better, make people smile and enjoy,
elevate situations to positive
experiences, are successful. By those
measures Philip Hayes was a great Man.

Bonnie and family, I hope all the fond
memories are a comforting monument of
Phil's life with you. He was very proud
of you all.

Tom Allen

Connie Hayes

December 20, 2014

As Phil's kid sister, I am sad to lose a brother who was always interested in my growth as a person. Since he was ten years older than me I has the sense of him having the role of another parent or uncle in my life. To Bonnie, Mark and Jon, and all others close to Phil know that Phil's exit has him at peace now and that you guided him there with much love. Thank you for loving my brother so well. Connie

Beverly Bisbee

December 20, 2014

Mark,

I'm sad for you and yours...and all of us. The world has lost a wonderful soul. What a grand educator! Compassionate, fair, and inspiring....

May wonderful memories surround you and bring you comfort. May your faith sustain you, and may you see him in your children's smile and in your teaching. Imagine him in SUNSHINE HEAVEN at the great banquet.

Sending love to you and yours!

Mary & Dick Pierce

December 20, 2014

Dear Bonnie and Anita, May Phil rest in PEACE! His life was lived well. He surely sees the face of God. Peace be with you also. Mary and Dick

Barbie MacDonald

December 20, 2014

So sorry to learn of the passing of Philip. What an amazing and accomplished man. Having grown up next door to the Hayes' on Dresden avenue in gardiner, I have many fond memories of the Hayes family. I'll be thinking of you during this difficult time. Barbie

Pat Carpenter

December 20, 2014

Bonnie and family,

I am so sorry to read about Phil's death. What a wonderful man he was; he will be missed. It was an honor to work with both of you when you established the Hayes Family Scholarship at UMF; what a great legacy!

My heart goes out to all of you during this difficult time.

Paul Vaillancourt

December 20, 2014

During my junior year at UMF, I was a student in Phil's Secondary Social Studies and Multicultural Education class. I learned a lot of interesting and useful information from him! As a teacher, he displayed a perfect balance of humor and seriousness. The last time I saw him was about 6 months after I graduated. I mentioned to him that I hadn't been hired for a teaching position, but that I had been hired as a tutor. He provided encouragement by telling me that this tutoring job would provide me with some very useful experience, and he was right! While I was a student at UMF, I worked in the Technical Services Dept. at Mantor Library, and Phil's wife, Bonnie, was in charge of the Circulation Dept. I would like to offer my condolences to her and the rest of the Hayes family.

A member of UMF's Class of 1999,

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