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Martin Cuddy Obituary
MARTIN J. CUDDY
AGE: 48 MONROE TOWNSHIP
Mr. Martin J. Cuddy, Father, Husband, Officer, Teacher, Leader, & Hero died on Wednesday January 5, 2011 at Raritan Bay Medical Center in Old Bridge. He was 48 years old. Born and raised in Dublin, Ireland, he emigrated with his family to the US in 1965. He lived in New Brunswick and North Brunswick before moving to Monroe Twp. in 2000. Officer Martin Cuddy began his career at the Middlesex County Department of Corrections in 1993. Throughout his career he achieved numerous accolades including letters of appreciation from many of the communities and towns within Middlesex County and beyond. In 1995, Martin was accredited as a Corrections Instructor as well as a Firearms and PR-24 Instructor. Within the next several years, Martin obtained the status of a Glock Armorer and Police Training Commission Instructor. As a member of the Middlesex County DOC Special Operations Group, he trained members of the department in unarmed self-defense and advanced PR-24 skills. He was also a member of the Middlesex County Special Operations and Response Team, participating in hostage situations and tactical operations. Martin was the distinguished recipient of the American Corrections Association's Life Saving Award. Most recently, he received the New Jersey County Jail Wardens Association's Corrections Officer of the Year Award. Throughout the years, Martin proved himself to be an inspiration and mentor to hundreds of law enforcement officers throughout Middlesex County.
He is survived by his wife of 13 years, Deborah (Cardillo) Cuddy of Monroe Twp., two daughters, Angelica E. Cuddy and Arianna M. Cuddy both of Monroe Twp., his father and mother, Michael and Josephine (nee Prew) Cuddy of Monroe Twp., his father-in-law and mother-in-law, James and Barbara (nee Marzilla) Cardillo of Edison, two sisters, Patricia Grzenia (Kevin) of Jersey City, and Catherine M. Worden (Matthew) of Jersey City, his brother-in-law, James Cardillo (Melissa) of Metuchen, his sister-in-law, Jacqueline Garofano (Paul) of Elmwood Park, two nieces, Amber Cardillo, and Dasha Grzenia, and one nephew, Cody Cardillo. He also leaves behind many extended family members and dear friends.
Funeral services will begin at 9:15am Monday January 10, 2011 from the M. David DeMarco Funeral home 205 Rhode Hall Rd., Monroe Twp., NJ 08831, 732-521-0555. A funeral liturgy will be 10:00am at Our Lady of Peace RC Church, North Brunswick followed by Entombment in Holy Cross Burial Park Mausoleum, S. Brunswick. Visitation is Sunday 2-4pm and 7-9pm at the funeral home. For those who desire, memorial contributions may be made to the Melanoma Research Foundation, www.melanoma.org. For directions, please visit www.demarcofuneralhome.com. Due to the anticipated attendance for Sunday's visiting hours, we ask those of you who are able, to carpool. Thank you for your understanding.
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Mas
February 1, 2012
You will be missed forever my friend.
Chuck K
September 7, 2011
Martin, At a time when America remembers their HEROS, your family and friends salute you because you will always be our "HERO".
You are a good friend and I think of you all the time. I miss our conversations we had.
REST IN PEACE OUR HERO
September 6, 2011
Martin i think of you often and miss you even more.You my friend,I will never forget. Bob H MCDOC
Angelica Cuddy
June 14, 2011
Hi Daddy. I miss you so much and cannot believe it has been almost 6 months. I love and miss you! <3 <3 <3 :)
Chuck Kravitz
June 12, 2011
Marty,
It almost happened, I was ready to join you and almost did. I just got out of the hospital. I know my promise to you and god knows I am trying my brother. It isn't easy but I am trying.
RIP my friend until we meet again.
We ALL miss you so much.
June 11, 2011
Martin great husband,father and friend.MISS YOU ALOT
Chuck Kravitz
May 14, 2011
Marty,
It has been 4 months since GOD took you from us. Why he would take such a wonderful and loving daddy and the most dedicated husband a wife could ever want, and someone I am proud to call my friend is beyond my belief.
We had a great visit last week. Not only do I miss you but all of your family and friends do too. Two years ago when I needed a friend you were the first one to call. I so wish that you were here my friend but I look at your picture every day and know you are (we have some great talks).
I so wish you were still here. I would have traded places with you in a heartbeat for your wonderful family misses you so much. They say time will heal but I don't know about that I think you just learn to live with it. My mom will be gone 29 years this month and believe me you just deal with it.
Marty, I know god needed a "HERO" to help him and he couldn't have chosen a better one. It is our lose but his gain. Just look at the people who continue to write to you. You are one of the greatest guys I have ever had the privilege to work with, to know, and to be honored to call "MY FRIEND".
Just know I will always keep my promise to you.
I will continue to visit you. Until we meet again, RIP MY BROTHER, MY PARTNER, and MY FRIEND!
May 9, 2011
Four months and counting without my beautiful husband-you are loved and missed more than words can say.
April 7, 2011
MARTIN,
VISITED YOU A COUPLE TIMES ALREADY AND PLAN TO SEE YOU LATER TODAY .... MISS YOU BROTHER !!!
NAP
James Rossman
April 7, 2011
Martin three months and it is still hard to believe. Rest my friend knowing your in the hearts of many and will never be forgotten. RIP my Friend
Sgt. Chuck Kravitz, Retired MCDOC
April 6, 2011
Marty,
It has been three months and I think about you all the time.
You are sadly missed but I know you are in a better place my friend.
May GOD BLESS your family and most of all YOU.
RIP MY PARTNER
April 5, 2011
Gone but not forgotten 4:88
Angelica Cuddy
March 5, 2011
It has been exactly 2 months, and it still is not any easier, but I know you are in a better place. The sad thing is...no one can repair the stab in my chest. I love u Daddy, thank u for this amazing life! You will always be my hero!
Sgt. Chuck Kravitz, MCDOC Retired
February 1, 2011
Marty,
It has been a month and it is not any easier. I say a prayer everyday that GOD has you in his hands and that he will help your WONDERFUL family and bless them everyday.
You will always be our "HERO".
Pat & Mike Cannavo
January 31, 2011
Will be in our hearts forever. Miss you Martin. You are the best
January 30, 2011
MC 4:88
Angelica Cuddy
January 26, 2011
To my Father, he was the best dad anyone could have had. He was my best friend and everything I know he has taught me. Thank you daddy I love you soooooo much!
Carlos Baez
January 26, 2011
Farewell my brother before we meet again. You were a great friend and mentor. It was my pleasure working and training with you. We shall never forget. God Bless the Cuddy Family.
mark kurtz
January 22, 2011
We all lost a great one with the passing of marty. One the best guys i could always count on in a difficult situation. He leaves an emptiness in my life.
January 16, 2011
Our sympathy to all the Cuddy family
Its a sad loss as martin was bigger that life and lived it to the full,
We over here in Ireland shall miss him forever.
Tony & Catherine Murray (Portlaoise,,Ireland)
Dianne & Rebeccah (friends of Elisa)
January 14, 2011
Our deepest sympathy for your loss. You have been in our thoughts & prayers for a long time. May memories of the happiest times bring you comfort & peace in this very sad time.
A. Hippeli
January 13, 2011
To work with martin through the years was a pleasure. He was an outstanding dedicated officer that you could rely on, but knowing him as a friend was even better. I will never forget the times we spent together, not only on a proffesional but on a personal basis as well. He will always be a true warrior, friend, and brother that will never be forgotten. He was an amazing person that many people will remember and hold in thier hearts forever,he will be sadly missed by all.
Michele Mulvey
January 13, 2011
What an amazing man Martin Cuddy was & still continues to be in our hearts & memories. I was thankful to be w/ him during his final week. My heart breaks every time I think about what his family is going through. You couldn’t ask for a better family & support system. Just hearing everyone talk about him & what he’s done so humbly for everyone he’s ever encountered is astounding. I am so proud to have known him. He truly is an amazing ‘Officer, Teacher, Leader & Hero’!
To the entire Cuddy family, I love you all & will continue to be here for you always.
J.L. MCDOC
January 12, 2011
An Irish Blessing for an Irish Warrior!
May the road rise to meet you
May the wind be always at your back
May the sunshine warm your face
...the rain fall soft upon your fields
And until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of his hand.
You will be missed Brother
Bernard (Smiffy) Smith
January 11, 2011
To the family of Martin Cuddy he will be greatly missed. He was a very special person. He is now in a better place.
Right now when your loss is so fresh, it may be difficult for you to imagine that this pain will ever go away. But in time the blessing of God's unfailing grace will soften the hurt that you're feeling and bring your heart the peace, comfort, and hope that it need to heal. Until then, please remember there's a circle surrounding you and lifting you up in prayer.
Matthew Worden
January 11, 2011
Words do an injustice in explaining how much we will miss Martin. He will remain very alive in our memories and admiration.
Jennifer Coffey
January 11, 2011
To Debbie and the entire Cuddy family:
We are deeply sorry for your loss. Martin was a pleasure to be around, and he will be truly missed. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Jennifer and Kevin Coffey
voz
January 10, 2011
A true warrior who fought the good fight. Rest easy brother.
January 10, 2011
We should hurry to love people. They fade away so fast.
Rest in peace, Martin.
Richard and Ilona Grzenia, Warsaw, Poland
Lt. Michael Kozyra
January 10, 2011
Martin will be missed and he was a very professional officer at all times. He worked well with others and the job always got done. I prayed for him this past couple of months when I found out about his illness.
today he is at peace and I will not forget him.
Jeff Morris
January 10, 2011
Martin, thank you for making everyday that I spent with you amazing. We were a team that was hard to compare. A duo that always left a lasting impression.
We worked hard in everything we did, and laughed even harder most of the time. Your being was truly inspirational to all and when you spoke people listened, learned and strived to better themselves. Hearts are saddened and empty for now, but the amazing stories of courage, accomplishment and strength and of course your sense of humor makes you live on in our hearts and minds forever. Today we go to say goodbye a final time, and to you my true brother I say, thank you, go in peace and never forget because I know I never will.
Sinead Abbott
January 10, 2011
Martin will be sorely missed by all family & friends. He touched many lives and was a fantasic person. All his cousins here in Ireland will miss him terrbily adn wish we could be with the rest of the family at this trying time. We love you Mart xxxx
Kathryn York
January 9, 2011
Martin Cuddy was a true hero, not in the big picture, but the picture of everyday life. He was my hero! A good man, father, husband, officer, brother, trainer and leader. Martin left a mark on my life and count less others! I will forever remember your example. I will never forget you brother, Godspeed!
Patrick Worden
January 9, 2011
Debbie and Family:
We are deeply saddened by the loss of Martin. I always enjoyed the get together's at Matt and Cat's and Kevin and Trish's on the rooftop. Martin was a great person and will be missed dearly. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the entire family.
Pat and Sildha
Terri McAtee
January 9, 2011
See you on the other side Martin. You have touched many lives and will never be forgotten. Your family should be proud. You are a friend and mentor. You will truly be missed.
Joe Turanski
January 9, 2011
I had the pleasure of working with Martin until I retired in 2001. He was a kind and caring person whom I had the pleasure of many a conversation. And always knew he had my back when needed. Rest in peace Martin you will be missed.....Joe Turanski
Carol Clinch
January 9, 2011
Our Sincerest Sympathy To The Cuddy Family: Michael,Josie,Debbie,Angelica,Arianna,
Tricia,Kevin&Dasha,Catherine&Matthew Worden, & Extended Members of the Cardillo Family - It is with deep sorrow to all of you with the passing of Martin Cuddy. He truly was a great husband, father & son whom I will remember as always smiling,happy & full of the essence of life itself. May the Lord, Jesus, bless & comfort all of you during this difficult time. May you find comfort in knowing he is without any pain any longer.
Raymond & Carol Clinch, Toms River,NJ
Katherine Mackiewicz
January 9, 2011
In Loving memory of a wonderful person and Son.May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.Take comfort in knowing you have a guardian angel to watch over you.You will always live in our hearts and prayers.
Joseph and Katherine Mackiewicz, Edison, New Jersey
Mike Perez
January 9, 2011
I had the Honor to work with Martin for a few years while at MCACC. He was truly a CLASS ACT and one of the most admired men i have ever known. I am fortunate to have known him. My sympathy to the Cuddy family...he is in a better place..believe it.
Lauren Duca
January 9, 2011
God looked around his garden and he found an empty place,
He then looked down upon this earth and saw your tired face.
He put his arms around you and lifted you to rest.
God's Garden must be beautiful, He always takes the best.
He knew that you were suffering, He knew that you were in pain.
He knew that you would never get well on earth again.
He saw that the road was getting rough and the hills were hard to climb,
So he closed your weary eyelids and whispered
"PEACE BE THINE".
It broke our hearts to lose you, but you didn't go alone,
For parts of us went with you the day God called you home.
George Stilwell
January 9, 2011
My deepest sympathy to the Cuddy family. Marty your presence and strength will always shine upon us and you will never be forgotten. It has been an honor, Thank you brother.
January 8, 2011
Today I say good bye to my friend. Although it could never be good bye, he will forever rest heavy on my heart and mind.
I have known Martin for over 18 years. Words such as character, honor,humility, pride and perseverence are not just words rather symbols that will forever remind me of Martin.
Iam deeply saddened and find myself inadequate to equally convey such words of sorrow to both families. Martin gave to so many people and touched so many hearts and lives.
My children have grown up around Martin.My family laughed with him and later cried for him, they loved him; they too will not forget him and nor will I.
Love you brother,
Joseph Rekulak
Jerry & Michele Peaney
January 8, 2011
No farewell words were spoken No time to say goodbye You were gone before we knew it And only God knows why Our hearts still ache in sadness and secret tears still flow What it meant to lose you No one will ever know But now we know you want us To mourn for you no more To remember all the happy times Life still has much in store Since you'll never be forgotten We pledge to you today A cherished place within our heart Is where you'll always stay
Scott Napravnik
January 8, 2011
TODAY WAS THE FIRST DAY AT WORK FOR ME AFTER U PASSED AND EVEN THOUGH U HAVENT BEEN THERE CUZ YOUVE BEEN SICK IT HURT TO KNOW THAT MY FRIEND AND LONG TIME PARTNER WILL NEVER WAVE OR WHISTLE DOWN THE HALL TO ME EVER AGAIN !!! IM READING THESE POSTS BALLING MY EYES OUT ........ RIP MARTIN ...NAP
nadine balletta
January 8, 2011
Debbie i am so sorry for your loss. even though i never met Martin i can tell he was a wonderful husband, father & friend from all the beautiful messages on here. You,your beautiful daughters & your family are in my thoughts & prayers. Love Nadine xo
Goode
January 8, 2011
Thank You Ofc Cuddy! May god bless you and your family. You will truly be missed.
Goode
January 8, 2011
Thank you. God Bless, sure gonna miss you!
Candi Eisenberger
January 8, 2011
Debbie I am so sorry for your loss. May all the wonderful memories you have of him get you through this difficult time.
Lou Kraft
January 8, 2011
I met Martin on a warm sunny Sept. day in 1967. We were both waiting to go into St Ladislaus School Kindergarten in New Brunswick, NJ. He seemed a bit troubled about starting school that day, so I consoled him. Thruout our Kindergarten school year, we were good friends and every now and then, the teacher would seat us side by side since we got along so well. We both attended that school thru grade 8 so we spent 9 school years together. Once we left that school, I rarely saw him. He was a great friend and I am truly saddened to hear about his passing this early in life. My family wishes Martin's family our most sincere condolences at this most difficult time. May God keep you in his vision as he welcomes Martin home.
Lou Kraft and Family
Laury Hamilton
January 8, 2011
My sincere sympathy and prayers for Martin Cuddy and the family he has left behind. May you take great comfort in your memories of such a lovely person.
Sheila Rice
January 8, 2011
We want to send our deepest sympathy for your family and Martin will be miss. We will keep you in our prayers.
Love The Rice Family
We will always remember the good times we had together.
Elisa/John LaDue
January 8, 2011
Vicki Sabo
January 8, 2011
In the short time I worked for Ofiicer Cuddy, he left a strong impression of what a fine Officer and a true gentleman should be. It was with deep sadness I learned of his passing, but I will never forget his support or all he taught me. You will be missed and remembered Sir.
Mike Zarzycki
January 7, 2011
To the cuddy family sorry for your loss. Martin you will be missed. Thank you for giving me a chance when you did and even though I moved on it was always good to see you when ever I came by..RIP Brother..
Jim Miller
January 7, 2011
R.I.P. Martin. Even though you leave this life for a better place, a part of you will remain behind. A piece of you will remain inside of the hearts of every officer you trained and worked with throughout the years. For knowing you, and working with you, we are all better officers. You defined what a Correction Officer should be and you made your family proud. Watch over us and know that we will do our best to watch over your family in their time of need. You will be missed by many but forgotten by no one.
Sgt. Chuck Kravitz (Retired) MCDOC
January 7, 2011
To my PARTNER:
Marty I will never forget the good times,tough times and long hours we shared for many years. You where the best partner a guy could have.
I will never forget what you did for me when I was at the lowest point in my life. You proved to me that you where not only my partner but TRULY MY FRIEND. I will always remember the phone calls to check on me even when you where so sick yourself. I made a promise to you and I will keep it. Partner you fought a tough fight and never gave up. You would never let anyone know how you where hurting. I pray that God will be good to you and give you the peace you deserve. Your suffering is now over but we all know that God called you because he needed a HERO and he picked the best one that is you.
To Deb,
You are truly an amazng woman. Marty loved you so much and he knows you loved him too. I told Marty I will be there to help you and the girls and no matter what I will be there for you. As I told you, you only know who your friends are when the chips are down. As you have seen Marty has alot of true friends and WE WILL BE THERE FOR YOU.
To Angelica & Ariel,
I know you are hurting right now. Just know that your father loved both of you more than anything. Although life seems so unfair just know that your dad will always be with you and watching over you. I know I am not your dad but just know I will always be there for you if you need anything.
Marty, REST IN PERACE MY PARTNER AND MY FRIEND.
Evonda Timbers/Family
January 7, 2011
Martin I will miss you so very much. It was a pleasure having you be a part of my life. I was always touched & moved by your friendship & will always remember the best of times. Especially when you & Debbie first met & how u made Debbie & me laugh. I know u will keep a watch over them & your family by sending them your strength to carry on. You my friend will surely be missed & remembered always.. I love you & rest in peace..
Namaste
Evonda & family..
Dawn Dziadyk
January 7, 2011
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
Joseph Misiur
January 7, 2011
Marty, my colleague and friend, you will be missed dearly. I enjoyed and will remember all our talks, and laughs we shared through the years. I thank God for bringing you into my life, and to MCDOC. You brought more to us than you will ever know. Thank you. God Bless
stephanie quintanilla
January 7, 2011
So sorry for your loss. Take comfort in your memories and he will always be with you and your children in your hearts. With sympathy.
Elisa/John LaDue
January 7, 2011
John & I will miss Martin very much. We are so sorry for your loss. May you and the girls have peace and strength through all the wonderful memories you have of Martin. We love you.
Joseph Loreti
January 7, 2011
R.I.P. Brother Martin Cuddy. You will be missed but never Forgotten. Thank You for all the advice you have given me.
scott napravnik
January 7, 2011
GONNA MISS U PARTNER !!! U NEVER GAVE IN OR UP ...FAUGHT THE TOUGHEST FIGHT OF YOUR LIFE ALL THE WAY TIL THE END... THANKS FOR TEACHING ME THE WAY OF THE HALLWAY
January 7, 2011
we are so sorry for your loss, you and the kids will be in our prayers
the dunay family
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