Merry Susan "Susie" Nelson
Merry Susan "Susie" Nelson
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Susie Nelson was born on December 13, 1953, in Iowa City, Iowa, to Donald and Beryl (Fridley) Ruess. Raised on a family farm in eastern Iowa, she developed a deep and abiding love for rural life that shaped her joyful spirit.
A pioneering homeschool mother in the Des Moines area, Susie devoted herself to educating her children at home with faith and dedication long before it became widespread.
Throughout her career, Susie devoted herself to caring for others-first providing in-home daycare, then serving in collections and as a secretary in the litigation department at John Deere, and later returning to compassionate caregiving with Home Instead until her retirement.
Her childhood on the farm kindled lifelong passions: riding horses, tending beautiful gardens (with a strong dislike for weeds), sewing, and baking. Athletic and spirited, Susie delighted in playing pickleball and cheering at sporting events. An avid card player, she cherished membership in several card clubs. Music filled her heart-she sang with grace and played the piano beautifully.
Above all, Susie treasured her family, pouring boundless love into her roles as a devoted wife, mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, sister, and daughter. Her faith was the cornerstone of her life; she served faithfully as a church volunteer, women's ministry leader, Bible study teacher, and spiritual mentor to many.
Susie is lovingly remembered by her husband, Lenny; children: Erin (Brian) Dougherty, Laura (Isaac) Emerson, and Jacob Nelson; grandchildren: Olivia (Owen) Towers, Kate Dougherty, Jack Dougherty, Noah Dougherty, Jenna (Josh) Luna, Jessica (Nolan) Baethke, Jorja Emerson, Jersie Emerson, and Lucy Nelson; great-grandchildren: Laker Luna, Emerson Luna, and Royce Luna; and brothers Ron (Diane) Ruess of Anamosa and Dan (Cindy) Ruess of West Liberty.
Arrangements by Iles Westover Chapel.
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Pam Erwin
Yesterday
Leonard, Diane and Ron, Cindy and Dan:
It was heartbreaking to read of Merry Sue's passing. She certainly accomplished so much during her life.
Extending to you all my deepest sympathy.
Pam Erwin, Mahwah, New Jersey
Jeffrey Paul Kline
January 2, 2026
I used to like to sit in front of Merry sue at St. Joseph's Church with my family during Sunday mass just to hear her sing. She had a beautiful voice. My Sympathies to her family - God Bless her.
Gleeanna (Lehman) McIntire
January 1, 2026
I was so sad to hear of Merry Sue´s passing. She was a joy to be around; I never saw her without a smile and sharing a caring attitude towards others. Such a beautiful soul, inside and out. My sincere sympathy to you, Lenny, and the entire family. My thoughts and comforting prayers are with you. Cherish your wonderful memories.
Dena Forret
January 1, 2026
Susie and I worked together at John Deere Credit. I offer my condolences to Lenny and family in your loss of this beautiful person. May you be comforted by warm and loving memories along with love and support from friends and family in the days ahead. Blessings, Dena
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Janine Johnson
January 1, 2026
Lenny, the Ruess's and all your families, so sorry to read this. I remember Merry Sue as that spunky gal from high school, always smiling, and usually laughing about something. My thoughts and prayers go out to all of you as you deal with these first difficult days and weeks ahead. - -Janine (Smith) Johnson, (former classmate of Lenny's), Des Moines, Iowa
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Randall & Barbara Bach
December 31, 2025
Lenny and family, we are so sorry to learn of your beloved Susie's death. We mourn for and with you in your loss while being thankful that we do not grieve as others who do not know the Lord. May the Holy Spirit wrap His arms of warmth and comfort around your family as you walk through your loss while rejoicing that Susie is well in her eternal home, awaiting reunion with you.
Roy Hillyer
December 31, 2025
It's hard to find words. May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
Teresa Wachs
December 31, 2025
Merry Sue was a dear classmate from West liberty high school class of 1972. I always remember her smile. She was so proud of her kids and grandkids. Her family and her faith brought her great joy. She will be missed, but remembered in our hearts with love
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