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Janet Ruby
January 5, 2026
My condolences to the family. Tom was a long time member and major fundraiser for the Selma Cyclepaths. I loved listening to him tell the history of where we were riding and his welcoming smile. This picture shows him completing his first 100 mile ride!
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Dean Webster
January 3, 2026
I go back with Tom to the 1980s in Durham – via legal/lawyer circles, and, if I remember correctly, at First Presbyterian Church in Durham.
Our bond grew stronger when we crossed paths in Raleigh at the Theological Forum class at White Memorial Presbyterian Church. He and I were classmates together there for around 30 years.
Some of my impressions of Tom include: compassionate; a giver; family man; effusive; cheerful; friendly; intellectual; conscientious; hilarity-combined-with-seriousness; at bottom reverent as to religious matters, but capable of other forms of irreverence; deeply engaged. I also recall Tom's enthusiasm for A Place at the Table.
Tom was often the discussion leader at the aforementioned Theological Forum. Whenever he spoke in class, his audience would be rewarded by paying close attention to what he had to say -- i.e rewarded in at least the following ways: (1) he was conveying points of great insight, and/or (2) he was conveying some really funny point.
I will greatly miss him, as I am sure many others will as well. Condolences to the family.
– Dean Webster
Jack R Stone
December 31, 2025
I write to offer my condolences to Norma and his family. I first met Tom in 1975 when he served on the citizens workforce development council for the City
of Durham. I found Tom to be genuine and a man of integrity. He was dedicated to the whole citizenry. We kept in touch over the years as we pursued different career paths.
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