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Thomas DiStefano Obituary
Poughkeepsie, New York - Thomas "Tommy" DiStefano, 68 - a lifelong resident of Poughkeepsie, NY, was called home to the Lord on Friday, March 5, 2021, surrounded by so much love. Born April 6, 1952, to the late Albert J. DiStefano and Anna Massarelli, Tommy graduated from Poughkeepsie High School in 1970 and attended Marist College in Poughkeepsie.
He married his soulmate Deborah DeVor on October 12, 1980, in Poughkeepsie, NY. Tommy spent over 40 years "delivering money for future delivery" as the owner of DiStefano Insurance Agency in Highland, NY. He put his family and faith before anything and loved spending time with his six grandchildren more than anything in the world.
Tommy will be remembered by every person he has touched. His faith was true until the end, and even while fighting for his life, he never complained or wavered in his faith and love for God. He dedicated his life to the service of others and the impact he had on so many lives will live on forever.
He is survived by his 98-year-old mother Anna DiStefano, his wife of 40 years Deborah DiStefano, son Damien DiStefano, Adam DiStefano and his wife Jeanine, and Ryan DiStefano and his wife Erica. Additionally, he is survived by the joys of his life, his six grandchildren, Brayden, Marcello, Annabella, Lorenzo, Serafina, and Theodore.
Calling hours will be held at the Timothy P. Doyle Funeral Home 371 Hooker Avenue Poughkeepsie, New York 12603 on Thursday, March 11th, 2021 from 4:00 - 8:00 pm. A High Funeral Mass officiated by The Most Reverend Bishop Gerardo Colaciccio will be held at Mt. Carmel Church, located at 95 Mill Street in Poughkeepsie on Friday, March 12, 2021 at 10:00 am. Burial at St. Peter's Cemetery in Poughkeepsie to follow.
If you would like to send an online condolence please visit our website at www.doylefuneralhome.com
In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations made in Tom's name to the National Centre of Padre Pio https://www.padrepio.org/donate
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Starla Pezzullo and Family
August 9, 2021
We are so sorry to hear about Tom´s passing. We remember him from our years of karate with Adam. Tom was kind and caring, and a wonderful person. Our sincerest condolences to your family.
Brent Buell
March 11, 2021
I want to give my condolences to Tom’s family. I had never met Tom face to face but worked with him many times as an insurance underwriter. When Tom found out my uncle was battling pancreatic cancer, he consoled me, told me he would pray for my uncle, and explained the prayer group that he has for those battling cancer. Tom would ask how my uncle was doing whenever we spoke, his positive outlook was always appreciated. Tom left an impression on me that will last on, may his legacy live on through all he touched. God bless his friends and family during this difficult time.
hilda crittenden
March 10, 2021
unable to attend. just want the family to know you are all in my thoughts and prayers. to have tommy and family in my life has been a joy in my life. i will always remember the good times.
Jeff mccabe
March 9, 2021
Dear. Anna and all of Tommy’s family - I read with sadness of Tommy’s passing - will always remember DIStefano Cleaners on Main St next to Melhados and Habers Bike Shop! You all worked so hard so that Tommy might have a better life - and Anna what a life Tommy had- Job well done!
Oh Folks I hope this helps - May God Keep You Tommy
All the McCabes appreciative customers and good friends
Poughkeepsie
Kathy and David Meyerson
March 9, 2021
We are so very sorry to learn of Tom’s passing. We have many great memories of spending time with him at St. Peter’s Church. You are all in our thoughts and prayers.
Brian Terralavoro
March 9, 2021
I had the privilege of knowing Tommy through his son's businesses. Great guy! Always with a smile and a story. My condolences to his family and friends. Rest in Peace sir...
Alex Francese
March 9, 2021
Tom was a true friend to all that new him. We grew up together in Poughkeepsie and he never had a bad word to say about anybody. He now resides in heaven and those who believe will see him again. RIP
Charles Bate Jr
March 9, 2021
You will be truly missed Cuz. Our breakfasts with "the boys" you, Tommy M., Lenny, and me, was a special thing that I will miss and Cherish forever.
ray watkins
March 8, 2021
Condolences to Tommy's friends and family. Rest in peace dear friend..
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