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1932
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2025
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Phyllis Patenaude Obituary
Phyllis was born in Rome on March 6, 1932, to the late Milo and Edna Nessel Fahey, and educated in the Rome Schools. She worked as a therapy aide for the Mohawk Valley Psychiatric Center in Utica. Phyllis enjoyed life and lived it to the fullest. She was at one time a CSEA officer.
Phyllis is survived by her daughters, Suzanne (Andrew Sr.) Potter of Vernon, and Christine Allen of Clark Mills; her son, Jeffrey Patenaude of Rome; her grandchildren, Andrew (Jodie) Gardner, David (Maria) Frank, Amy Frank, Andrea (Eric), AJ (Ashley) Potter, Asheley (Dan) Leonard, and Aaron Potter; her great grandchildren, Kylee, Noah, and Drew Gardner, Jayden, twins Matthew, Kaylee, and Alyssah Frank, Ryan, Seth, Landon, Anthony, Harvey, and Elani; her brother in law, Frank Nicotera; and several nieces, nephews, and cousins. She was predeceased by her sisters, Elaine Nicotera and Gail Mullen; brothers, Roger (Miyoko) Fahey and Patrick Fahey; and her significant other of 25 years, Dean Mallory.
Services will be private.
Funeral arrangements are entrusted to the Barry Funeral Home, 807 W. Chestnut Street.
Please offer online condolences at: www.BarryFuneralHome.com.
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Connie Cushman
July 4, 2025
Sending my sincere condolences for the loss of your mother and my dear friend. Your mom was a special lady and feel lucky to have known her. I pray God will comfort you and bless you at this difficult time with many happy memories.
STEPHANIE D SCHELL
July 3, 2025
Had a zest for life.
Gail Baker
July 3, 2025
Phyllis was a wonderful neighbor. Sure miss her. So sorry.
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