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L.Jay Tenenbaum Obituary

L.Jay Tenenbaum Renowned arbitrageur and philanthropist, L.Jay Tenenbaum died peacefully at his Woodside, California home on January 16, 2011. He was 88. Born in Little Rock, Arkansas to Harry and Berenice Tenenbaum, L.Jay was raised in St. Louis, Missouri where he attended St. Louis Country Day School. In 1942, while studying at Vanderbilt University, he enlisted in the U.S. Army. L.Jay achieved the rank of 2nd Lieutenant and served with the 10th Mountain Division in Italy. He was very proud to have received a Silver Star, Bronze Star and two Purple Hearts in recognition of his wartime service. Returning home after the war, L.Jay was decommissioned through California and vowed then that he would one day return. L.Jay's professional life began in St. Louis working for his father's investment banking firm Peltason, Tenenbaum & Co. Through his father's friendship with Gustave L. Levy it was suggested in 1953, that L.Jay go to New York and work as an assistant to Mr. Levy at Goldman, Sachs & Co. In 1958, L.Jay was asked to become a member of Goldman's Partnership while heading the firm's Trading and Arbitrage Department helping to build it into an important business. A great source of professional pride for L.Jay was hiring and training some of the firm's most distinguished future leaders. Throughout his life he enjoyed mentoring many professionals in finance as well as other industries. The second half of L.Jay's life began in 1976 when he chose to become a Limited Partner of Goldman and moved with his bride to the San Francisco Bay Area. L.Jay enjoyed a new life devoted to family, community involvement and travel. For many years, L.Jay served on the Board of the San Francisco Ballet and in 1980 chaired the committee to raise funds to build the ballet's new home on Gough Street. He also enjoyed service and friendships as a board member of the Commonwealth Club of California, Youth Tennis Advantage, KQED and Stern Grove Association in addition to serving as a Deputy Chief of Protocol of San Francisco under Mayor Frank Jordan. L.Jay is survived by his wife of 36 years, Gretchen, his three sons and their wives, Harry (Rafaella), Bruce (Julie), Kurt (Kristina), his granddaughter Layne and his sister Joy Dunkelman (Mel) of St. Louis, Missouri. The family wishes to thank the many people who have cared for L.Jay during his long illness. We are appreciative of the extraordinary attention and compassion received from his caregivers at home as well as the Stanford Hospital community. A celebration of L.Jay's long and well-lived life will be held at 1:00pm on Saturday, January 22 at the Menlo Circus Club in Atherton, California. Donations in L.Jay's memory may be directed to the San Francisco Ballet, the Commonwealth Club or a charity of choice.

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Published by San Francisco Chronicle on Jan. 20, 2011.

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Loretta Conway

January 24, 2011

Everyone at Youth Tennis Advantage sends the Tenebaum family our best wishes. The celebration of L.Jay's life was very special. YTA was blessed to have L.Jay in our family and we miss him deeply.

Richard Thalheimer

January 24, 2011

I appreciate you L. Jay! Not only are we both from Little Rock, but also you got me involved with the SF Ballet. That has been a great experience, and you added so much to it! Love you and miss you!
Richard Thalheimer

Joe Hanon

January 24, 2011

My condolences are with his son, Bruce, and the entire family.

john debs

January 21, 2011

Gretchen I was fortunate to have known L. Jay for more than 30 years. What a terrific individual and a great friend. My condolences to you and your family. I hope to see you at the Circus Club. John Debs

Rodger Cooper

January 21, 2011

Dear Gretchen:

Jane and I would like to express our sincere condolences on the recent passing of your husband, L.J. Our side of the family sends their thoughts and prayers to you and your three sons: Harry, Bruce, Kurt; granddaughter, Layne, and sister-in-law Joy (Mel) Dunkelman at this difficult time.
Although I didn't know your husband that well; I do know that he was very highly respected throughout his community and profession, and his good works changed the lives of many. My cousin L. J. lived a very, full and productive life, and was a war hero as well. I was so proud to be related to him.
You were truly fortunate to have such a man as a model in your life! I followed his lead by studying at Vanderbilt University.
I just wish that I had known him better.
Very sincerely,

Jane and Rodger (Buddy) Cooper
Ellisville, Missouri

Robert Bushnell

January 20, 2011

I am so fortunate to have known you. Always the gentleman, always giving of your knowledge and time. You will be deeply missed but always remembered.

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