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John Stager

Wells, VT - John Stager, Wells, Vermont died on August, 24, 2015. He was born September 26, 1943 in Chicago, Illinois and was adopted by his mother, Edna May Stager. They lived in South Windsor, CT and later in North Haven.

In1961 John graduated from North Haven High School. He graduated from Western Maryland College in 1965 with a Bachelor of Arts, majoring in organ. Deciding not to enter the music field professionally, he worked first at the Perkins School for the Blind in Watertown, MA and then for the New Jersey Commission for the Blind with students in public schools.

In April 1968 he married Susan Jean Bale; and in 1969 they returned to Massachusetts, where they lived until 2006 in Westborough, raising a daughter and a son.

John worked for the Massachusetts Department of Education, eventually becoming the director of Program Quality Assurance Services. In May 1978 he received his Master's degree in Educational Administration from Worcester State College.

He also worked as a church organist and choir director for several years, in Littleton and then Northborough. Later he was involved in the music program of the Grafton Congregational Church, where the family were members for many years. He was a lifelong church choir member.

Retiring in 2006, he and Susan moved to Wells, Vermont. They became active members of Grace Congregational Church in Rutland Vermont; and John served on the Nominating Committee and in other roles, as well as occasionally playing for services. He also served on the board of Rutland Dismas House for seven years.

He is survived by his wife Susan; his daughter Lisa Stager Velasquez, and grandchildren Kevin and Ruth Velasquez of Wells; and his son David Stager and wife Deana Muro of Pittsburgh, PA.as well as other extended family and innumerable friends.

A memorial service will be conducted at Grace Church in Rutland on Saturday, September 19, 2015, at 12 noon.

Those who wish to make a donation in his memory are encouraged to consider the Rutland Dismas House, 103 Park Avenue, Rutland, VT 05701, or the fund for a new sound system at Grace Congregational United Church of Christ, 8 Court Street, Rutland, VT 05701. Tossing Funeral Home is assisting the family with arrangements.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Worcester Telegram & Gazette from Sep. 3 to Sep. 4, 2015.

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Judy Draper

September 19, 2015

John was a fabulous addition to Trinity Church in Northboro while our children were very young! I remember that I started directing the Junior Choir because he could not. That was a great experience for me. Remember the young couples club, how you were so instrumental in forming that, Susan. I can remember the children, Lisa and David, and how bright and talented they were even then.
I'm sorry for your loss, Susan, Lisa and David. He was an extraodinary man.

September 15, 2015

Prayers to the family for God's peace.
Love, Aunt Lisa

MARYANN MASTRORIO

September 10, 2015

Dear Susan and Family,
I had the wonderful opportunity to work for John at the Massachusetts Department of Education Library for the Blind in West Boylston, MA. He was a gifted, kind educator and leader. I am so sorry for your loss.
MaryAnn Mastrorio, Middletown, RI

Ann Sadowsky

September 10, 2015

Susan--
Bev emailed to tell me of John's death. I know that it was a long and constant fight against the cancer. I'm sorry that he lost, but glad that you had that time together. I'd love to see you. Do think of visiting Woodstock again.

Charlene Poulin Laferrera

September 9, 2015

Dear Susan and family,

John made such an impression. I was just out of BC and I loved working with you Susan with AMESVI and meeting John. You both are legends in the field her in MA.

Beth Caruso

September 9, 2015

Dear Susan & family- my heart goes out to you. John was a good man, a true gentleman who had positive impact - directly and indirectly- on so many of our lives In the oneness community. I am grateful for knowing him. Peace, Beth

Debbie Gleason

September 8, 2015

Dear Susan,
I am so sorry to hear of John's loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I have fond memories of John's wise counsel and guidance as we worked together on a Department of Education publication (and fond memories of working together with you during our itinerant days!)
I wish you peace and comfort in the days ahead.
Sincerely,
Debbie Gleason

September 5, 2015

I worked with John at the Department of Education. He was widely respected there and in the wider education community.

I'm also a longtime member of the Littleton church where he was organist. That was before I joined, but I will lift him up in concerns and celebrations. Wish I'd known; we could have talked about music.

Roger Hatch
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Maria Tessier

September 4, 2015

I remember many fond memories of John... How he loved my crab dip recipe so much...His gentle manner....times he helped me at the vision resources library in West Biylston ....his graciously welcoming the Central Mass TVIs into your home for a potluck supper gathering...and so many other wonderful memories. May he dance with the angels and play the organ and lead the choir on the other side! He will not be forgotten!
Hugs and love to you Susan.

Mary McDonough

September 4, 2015

Dear Sue,
I am so sorry to hear of John's death. What a loss it must be for you. However, while the two of us worked so closely together, I always had the sense that your family was one strong supportive unit. I am sure all of you will continue to be there for each other. Please accept my sympathy and know that prayers are being said for the Stagers down here in Grafton.
As ever,
Mary

Cheryl Dougherty

September 4, 2015

I remember a very kind man helping me as a new, nervous teacher over 40 years ago! Rest in Peace, John

Claire Paquette

September 4, 2015

Dear Susan and Family,
My thoughts and prayers are with you all at this difficult time. May God give you strength.
Claire Paquette

Marie Lindahl

September 3, 2015

My heartfelt condolences to you, Susan, and your family. I worked with John on countless audits and task forces at the Department of Ed. He was the consummate master of turning a difficult concept into a an easily understood idea. He was extraordinarily even-tempered and had a wonderful wry sense of humor. It was a privilege to work with him.

John Gorman

August 28, 2015

Susan, I just heard that John had died. I have good memories of his humor and wonderful humanity. His strength against the ravages of cancer have left me with an indelible memory of his courage while continuing to think of others. I am proud to have worked with him at Dismas.
John

John Abramson

August 28, 2015

I had the pleasure of working with John for many years at the Massachusetts Department of Education. He was eminently fair,honest and equitable in his relationships.Besides being the 'go to guy' with questions, he had a wickedly wry and dry sense of humor. He was respected by all. I send my condolences to his family and friends. He will be missed.

Pamela Kaufmann

August 28, 2015

Please accept my sincerely condolences. John and I worked together for many years at the Department of Education. He was an extraordinary leader and colleague.

Pamela Kaufmann

August 28, 2015

So sorry to hear of John's passing. He will be greatly missed. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. Lynda

Marsha Fonteyn

August 28, 2015

I have had the pleasure of working with John on the Rutland Dismas Board, and over time I came to see him as a special friend for whom I felt respect and affection. I will miss his wise counsel and his caring manner. But he will remain with us in spirit.

August 28, 2015

John - My professional and personal mentor...so much wisdom in how to live and how to die. Susan-No more courageous partner than you.May you find peace and healing. Karen Weller

Kevin Matthews

August 27, 2015

August 27, 2015

Dear Sue & Lisa & David and Kevin & Ruth,

So saddened to hear about John's passing. Felt VERY fortunate to have worked with your husband/father/grandfather for so many years in West Boylston and Malden.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you at this very difficult time!

Kevin (Matthews)

August 27, 2015

In our thoughts and prayers. John will certainly be missed.
Love, Wayne, William Henry and Brenda

August 26, 2015

John, Thank you for your wonderful leadership on our Dismas Board. You were a pleasure to work with and your sense of humor kept all in perspective. We will miss you and send our prayers and thougths to Susan and your family. Marlene

Kris & Steve Charles

August 26, 2015

Our thoughts and prayers are with you all

August 26, 2015

I am so very sorry for your loss.

Judy Allan

Sally and robert Sorbello

August 26, 2015

We loved you John

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