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Lindy Hartig
December 29, 2024
Steve is my oldest sibling, and brother. There were five of us kids altogether. Our age span ranged 10 years. Steve seemed so much older than the rest of us back then and by default he was `the boss´ and we respectfully followed his lead.
I was 7 years junior and recall the admiration I held of him as I observed his independence and his interests. He used to hike down to Mission Valley and catch crawdad in the San Diego River returning home to share with the rest of us. I was amazed he could do that and he always shrugged it off saying it was easy all he needed was some raw liver for bait because they could not resist it. I never really knew where he learned that skill but I would venture to guess the knowledge came from his boy scouting activities.
Steve´s biological father was stationed in foreign lands. While I was still in elementary school Steve departed to live with his father in the Philippines. It was very hard for me to comprehend that circumstance. He was my brother, period. Adults tried to explain he was my half-brother, but that was nonsense to me, he either is or is not my brother and he definitely was. We missed him during his absence. When he returned he brought gifts. For me he brought two purses, which I adored and still hold dear to this day.
He was high school age when he returned. He joined the ROTC and was even more impressionable while donning the full dress uniform. He was a serious student but also loved to laugh and play mind games on those of us who were gullible. That was never ending as he and his best friend, Wayne Beresford (Bear) had plenty of subjects just in siblings alone. But that teasing was all in good fun, they were never mean or hurtful with their antics.
Steve had his own car, which was another thing I admired back then. You have to realize those were the days of black and white tv´s, it was a simpler time, not everyone could own a car and certainly not many high school age students. One night I was delighted to be up real late when Steve and Wayne arrived home. We sat around the kitchen table visiting when they decided to go get some Jack In The Box. I could not go with them so they decided to bring it home and share with me. That was a moment in time I really enjoyed. Sometimes it is just the little things that leave the biggest impressions.
In seemingly short order Steve joined the military and was off again. He told me he was going to be drafted in to the US Army and sent off to fight the war in Vietnam. By volunteering to join the Air force he would likely avoid the ground infantry. I worried for his well being but thought his approach seemed of good logic.
During his years of service our family took a road trip to the town he was stationed in which was Opheim Montana, I think it was less than 15 miles south of the Canadian border, and boy was it cold up there! I do not recall how large the town was back then but according to the 2020 US Census the population was 75. Hmm... we encountered a grasshopper invasion when we traveled there. No kidding, there were billions of grasshoppers. They lined the roadway with such density that their appearance was carpet like. As we drove they would react and jump up in front of our vehicle. Upon arriving we had the same experience while walking. It was nightmarish to be candid.
He sojourned on to Germany and eventually returned again to the U.S.A. where he met his wife Viki at the church they mutually attended. They built a lovely family and a thriving business and climbed from modest beginnings to a comfortable lifestyle.
While I became extended family I still always admired Steve´s dedication in pursuing his dreams and building piece by piece all he was capable of doing to create the life he dreamt of.
As his life progressed, time passing would find him in retirement and with two of three children off and living on their own. Steve became even more involved with his parents and siblings during that phase. We got to spend more time with him and his wife and learned more about the organizations he dedicated his time towards.
His illness was first discovered around July of 2023 and he valiantly and bravely faced the draconian treatments with courage and even enthusiasm as he was certain he would overcome his maladies. He set priorities to host or encourage other family members to host get togethers, this became increasingly important to him as I´m sure he was forced by circumstance to face the probability of his own mortality.
We are thankful for those times we were together and are equally heartbroken to have lost Steve just one year in to his battle for his life. They say, "only the good die young", and that phrase certainly fits in the case of Steve Deal. Rest in peace, my brother, you are missed and will forever live on in our hearts and souls.
Rebecca Piffard
September 17, 2024
My deepest condolences to Viki and the family! My prayers have been with you.
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